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Reportable? Really?

September 07 2014

In another thread about rude messages, the OP posted that a man responded to her polite rejection with something like: "how dare I reject them when I don't even know them nor have I tried to get to know them." I was shocked to read some of the responses saying the OP should report the man to the moderators, and that he might be booted off the site. Report him? For real? This seems to me to be a MASSIVE over-reaction. Sure, the man's message wasn't necessary, it was petty, it was rude and a childish pout etc, but really, what harm did it do? Based only on what the OP shared, it didn't threaten, invade or put anyone at risk. It was just a human being expressing himself, if somewhat poorly. This man's behaviour is not going to lead to much success with women on the site. As a paid member, he'll be wasting his money if he continues with those kinds of messages. Surely that's lesson enough for him? Something to consider - if you go through this world meeting hostility with hostility, you'll simply get more hostility. If you meet pettiness with pettiness, you'll just get more pettiness. You get the drift :) My suggestion: 1 - Try meeting hostility with peace and understanding - it makes for a better world for everyone (timely reminder to self!) If you can't manage that, try simply ignoring it.2 - And try to maintain some perspective for goodness' sake - a rude or unpleasant message from a stranger is truly inconsequential in this world, compared to atrocities all over the place. Unless of course you decide to make a big deal out of something so small. *rant over*

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RHP User

10 years ago

Except for this bit: "This man's behaviour is not going to lead to much success with women on the site. As a paid member, he'll be wasting his money if he continues with those kinds of messages. Surely that's lesson enough for him?" I think men that behave in such a childish way are also the ones that will end up saying this site is a nothing but a money making scam full of fake profiles. But that's his problem. Live and let live.

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RHP User

10 years ago

it would depend on the content. The garden variety ' oh you think you're too good for me / you're superficial and only care about looks / blah blah blah' type responses I'm happy to ignore, but if I got something 'really' abusive or containing any hints of / overt threats etc. then you bet your arse I'd be reporting them (haven't had anything report-worthy yet, or many rude replies in general, most that do respond when I say I'm not interested are quite polite). Yes, I understand that it is difficult for most men on here and some of them get frustrated and vent, but I will only tolerate them doing that my way to an extent. I'm not here to be anyone's mental punching bag.

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madotara69

10 years ago

Why some seem to spend so much time on pointing out the negative, distasteful, shitty shit, when they could rather find the more pleasing thingies. It gets a bit boring after a while, be much better if people posted the nicer things in life. Cop a shitty message fuck it, look for the better of them post about that, this place is meant to be a party, not a pity. Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'madotara69' Why some seem to spend so much time on pointing out the negative, distasteful, shitty shit, when they could rather find the more pleasing thingies. It gets a bit boring after a while, be much better if people posted the nicer things in life. Talk the talk, walk the walk. Go for it!

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On_Safari

10 years ago

I don't believe the Mods have the time nor the inclination to play "Policeman" on what would be an astoundingly large proportion of incidences onhere. It all boils down to each of us being adult and sensible about each and every contact we give or get. Although common sense isn't that common we asindividuals can choose to continue browbeating a ride idiot and having them beat you with experience OR just laugh, smile andgo NEXT CONTESTANT PLEASE!! Lol much love and right on OP. ~ Indy

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6exxy

10 years ago

Yes there is a fair bit of that here because RHP can only mirror life. I also think that you need to let this sort of behaviour travel it's own distance and not help it. Returning with hostility normally will only create more. I think most people here are looking for their own form of love or sex here so let's be positive to as many people as possible 💐💐

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Missb4u

10 years ago

I get sick of hearing about all the negativity and bad messages and bad manners and yes I've been guilty if it myself. Mostly I just stay out of it now but sometimes I can't bite my tongue. I have been on the receiving end as well on multiple occasions I just utilize the delete button, I rarely even block them. I would and have reported profiles were threats of violence were made but this was after "the profile" had some personal details of mine, I also have kept the emails and reported it to the police as the threats were severe ... Yes live and learn hey.

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RHP User

10 years ago

The knobs out there make the rest of horny men look fairly good.

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RHP User

10 years ago

That's why rhp is supposed to be adults only.

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madotara69

10 years ago

Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' Go for it!

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RHP User

10 years ago

Everyone has a choice.....but too few understand that there are consequences of that choice... That goes for both genders. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Bleating about it on forums..?? The majority of mm messages are funny, tasteful, kind or sexy. I f I get an abuse or rude one - meh..! Am not bothered - I shoot back an even nastier message, scare the fuck outta him... I feel better, have a laugh,... Big deal... Move on.. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Seachange

10 years ago

Quoting 'Luckdragon23' it would depend on the content. The garden variety ' oh you think you're too good for me / you're superficial and only care about looks / blah blah blah' type responses I'm happy to ignore, but if I got something 'really' abusive or containing any hints of / overt threats etc. then you bet your arse I'd be reporting them (haven't had anything report-worthy yet, or many rude replies in general, most that do respond when I say I'm not interested are quite polite). Yes, I understand that it is difficult for most men on here and some of them get frustrated and vent, but I will only tolerate them doing that my way to an extent. I'm not here to be anyone's mental punching bag. I only had one occasion where I had to report the member as he got really abusive. this was when I was new here. I thought what were my recourse for something like this. His stalking behaviour was really uncalled for and he created a new profile to stalk and abuse me after I blocked him. so blocking was not enough. I reported him. Why stress out and put up with this bad behaviour. No way. The mods actually recommend, read encourage, that all these bad behaviour should be reported and should not engage in responding to these type of guys. (those excessively crazy ones). He will be warned, not necessarily kicked out. You let the system work for you for those who do not know their limits. I do not see anything wrong with that. Why do I have to let one crazy man spoil my experience in RHP and also spoil it for everyone else. Like an overly deliquent child, he needs to be told to 'play nice' with the other kids in the playground or he does not get to play with the them at all.

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