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Romance
May 20 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its nice when its spontaneous I don't like the contrived stuff like valentines day An act of kindness I find romantic , a guy that notices the small things and is not afraid to say I find a kiss on the for head and being enveloped in strong arms is romantic enough for me. LadyT starved for romance
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
And I find a lot of it feels forced and a bit fake. I don't mind little things that show they're thinking of you randomly - buying a little gift that reminded you of them, making personalised gifts, random text messages. Giving affection is enough for me, I don't massive romantic gestures and they'll probably just make me feel uncomfortable! Jess
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
When people do romantic things I feel uncomfortable so I tend to say or do something stupid... I like romantic movies though :) Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Violetincredible' When people do romantic things I feel uncomfortable so I tend to say or do something stupid... I like romantic movies though :) Xxviolet to feel a little taken aback when my ex bought me flowers and I would throw the 'what did you do' line at him, only as a joke, but I wasn't good at receiving compliments and gifts and he did crack it at me for saying it once and rightly so, it wasn't the nicest thing to say to someone who was being nice even if I didn't mean it. I am glad he did say something because it made me realise I was being rude. I think it was my own self esteem that made me think I wasn't worth it.
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BS_KS
11 years ago
I know it sounds basic but I wake up to a hot cappuccino from our local cafe every morning. It's not chocolate and flowers I know, but it does me. K xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The last woman I was seeing went to Colombia to visit her parents. She got a bit sick while she was over there so I sent her a bunch of flowers to cheer her up. She cried when she got them her ex never gave her flowers and to receive flowers from the other side of the world with a happy face balloon was the best thing she ever got. Got some really good brownie points from her parents. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
But have been known to do the od thing once in a Blue Moon I don't really like romance it feels cheesy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love hugs and kisses with the right female... but I only give compliments to those who deserve them. Not all women know how to handle a compliment and are always suspicious on your intentions.. Sad , must of been something really bad in their life to make them feel that way ...
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
is buying 5 handbags and taking along a bag biatch! Yep that's romance in my eyes. I don't think romance is dead, I think it's the little kind things and actions one does is romantic I believe things like that do get forgotten over time. Things Like remembering how one likes their coffee and listening to a persons likes and dislikes. That sort of stuff is sort of romantic in my eyes. However if someone does romantic stuff all the time, I find that overwhelming. As in I am more a giver than a taker..I find it hard to take kind gestures from a lover. To be honest too much makes me gag. I have had flowers etc but they were more guilt...if I want to receives flowers, cards etc I want to receive them as "a just because" kinda thing or not an obligation - more a kind thoughtfulness that they were thinking of me, an unexpected action. Also if someone can express their feelings about me, I think that is kinda romantic in a way as well. Romantic texts as in "Thinking of you" and that sort of thing, after a while bores me to tears. I believe also romance is associated with deep emtotional and physical love...but what the heck would I know, as I don't think I've ever been that in love.....it scares me actually. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Love hugs and kisses with the right female... but I only give compliments to those who deserve them. Not all women know how to handle a compliment and are always suspicious on your intentions.. Sad , must of been something really bad in their life to make them feel that way ... I do have to disagree a little with you last statement... Why is it sad and why do you think something really bad has happened to them to make them fell that way? I know you said NOT ALL WOMEN...I did read that bid. What happens if they have never felt that deep love or ever been in love? It may not mean something bad has happened...well I don't believe so. If one has not had it, how does one cope with it, if they have not had it? I've never been been in deep love with someone, because I have not met the right person who's an absolute fit with me or my soul mate...I've had soul mates but not as in a soul mate fallen in love with. So to me if it hit me in the face, I wouldn't know what to do with it. That's how I see it... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who me,nah ,I am just delusional:-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
My favourite pair, the ones I can go to a music festival in and still be walking by the end of it. He remembered my cry of angst at their demise and snuck them out of my closet to get them fixed. He may not be your traditional romantic, but when he is, he goes for thoughtful rather than extravagant gestures. Much more meaningful I had him kidnapped (taken for a cruise) by a biker riding a Harley and had him brought to me at a hotel when we were just dating. It was all very romantic, (ah, young love;) if I did it now, it would be a hell of a lot kinkier!
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passion8_l
11 years ago
I love romance but not the flowers and chocolates so much and I don't believe in Valentines day. It's the little things that get me like a man cooking for me, filling the glass I always keep by my bed with water. The most romantic thing a man ever did for me was when we went away for a weekend, he set the alarm and took me down the beach to watch the sunrise.
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passion8_l
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Love hugs and kisses with the right female... but I only give compliments to those who deserve them. Not all women know how to handle a compliment and are always suspicious on your intentions.. Sad , must of been something really bad in their life to make them feel that way ... due to something bad happening but if you've been played by enough men it's hard to trust what their intentions are, and yes that is kinda sad for both
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RHP User
11 years ago
not even sure if he qualifies as a boyfriend because it lasted all of a week, he was a smothering romantic. My Mum loved him, lol. Every time he would see me he brought flowers, wouldn't stop touching me like he had to be holding hands or arm around me at all times, he put me on a pedestal so much it was just sickening. I had to tell him it was over because he was just suffocating!
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RHP User
11 years ago
to go on a hot air balloon with someone special even though I loathe mornings, I think it would be something magical to share.
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Seachange
11 years ago
Am an unashamed romantic. I like doing little things for somebody I like and even better things for somebody I love. And I also love a romantic man. Affection cost nothing but means everything. Nothing wrong with that. I love to cooking dinners together,red wine by the fireplace, Nina Simone's music playing in the background,walking by the river or beach in silence hand in hand with someone that matters to me,a hug here and there,the gentle shoulder massage at the end of the day, and the stolen kiss here and there... Massages given in turn in a scented candlelit bedroom setting is always good to set the mood - Two consenting sensual adults attracted to each other, just flowing together in confluent streams of thought and desires culminating achieving the heights of passions one dreams of and hope to achieve.. Darn! I miss all that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like giving my partner a massage while the room is full of candles. It's a simple thing but has always been appreciated. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Twisted_Mister
11 years ago
But yes I think at heart I'm a romantic. Not the cheesy kind, although I did get down on one knee to propose after three months!!! I like intimacy, the little things. Giving a soft nuzzle on the back of a lady's neck, snuggling when you both wake up in the morning, even opening a car door for someone - that's intimate, and therefore IMO romantic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Superfoxxxy, you don't have to be in love to be Romantic. Romance is a thought, an Emotion rather than a physical desire. It is showing a thought. Romance can occur at the start of going out with somebody, could occur on the first date. True what Jay-Me says, some women struggle to accept a single act of kindness given with good intentions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't mind if you put flowers on my grave but the idea of giving someone flowers is a bit weird to me . Here , let me rip some flowers from a plant and then you can slowly watch them die ... I prefer the exchange of live plants . A plant that , if cared for , grows and blossoms . It's all about the Symbology . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Yes I suppose I am ....I really think it's nice to be romantic, and show you affection in that way, but like most things there is a time and a place for everything. like if you have done something wrong, wouldn't be the best timing in my view !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I blame my Irish genes for being a bit too romantic. It can be a fine line between a romantic gesture and a restraining order. (I kid, I kid) Usually it is little things but my favourite was meeting my then partner at the airport after she had been away on work for a week. It was a late night flight and she thought she would take a taxi home. Instead I was standing at the gate with a large bunch of flowers. Her smile was the best reward. Good times. Romance is good, but it loses its punch if it is too often or too OTT. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I set the table....two candles, a nice tablecloth, cleaned and polished silver, two champaign flutes, a rose off to the side along side the ice bucket. The string quartet playing in the background..... I dim the lights to nothing and light the candles, watching them flicker light throughout the room. Her eyes sparkling softly and her glowing smile just makes me want her.... The buzzer on the oven goes off and I excuse myself to gather the meal I've prepared for us.... I return with the platter covered with a silver hood. I smile and ask her to remove the hood....underneath, my raging mongrel with a note beside it saying "I may not be able to successfully cook, but I thought you'd love this!!!!" :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Self confessed romantic here.....comfortable enough to admit it. I was bought up to always try to be a gentleman and treat ladies well.. I even enjoy watching rom coms...... I balance that out with welding and grinding on cars for my masculine side. ....lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Invented the notion of romance or romantic love in the twelfth century because she was sick and tired of the brutish and churlish behaviour of her knights towards the ladies of of her court at Poitiers.....chivalry was born...... We are surrounded by images,songs,films,TV shows all devoted to romance,the finding of romantic love,the search for the "'one"' and yet when we think that the quest is over,just a few short years later,suddenly the "'one'' becomes the did,and we move on......Now true love on the other hand is a whole different thing:-) just ask the uxorious twosome,jman and Mado :-) xx Q
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madotara69
11 years ago
J man and myself are not the only men in here that adore the woman from where the sun shines into our lives. Mr luvsilver too.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' I blame my Irish genes for being a bit too romantic. It can be a fine line between a romantic gesture and a restraining order. (I kid, I kid) Usually it is little things but my favourite was meeting my then partner at the airport after she had been away on work for a week. It was a late night flight and she thought she would take a taxi home. Instead I was standing at the gate with a large bunch of flowers. Her smile was the best reward. Good times. Romance is good, but it loses its punch if it is too often or too OTT. - Posted from rhpmobile In the snapshots thread, I mentioned that the Irish developed the most romantic language in the world Mado Mado Tara xx
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madotara69
11 years ago
The Irish were living in poverty, had nothing but each other and the spirits were dropping depression and self worth sliding into a bad way for the family people common folk, no bright light in the distance so hope was turning into disrepair and there was no authority or charity no where down to go , rock bottom, and only a way for riding the time to heading back up for the hopeless folk. What they did was to modify the language and turn poetry into dialogue, raise their spirits with words of hope and beauty, courage and companionship, pride and joy love and lust all are one and one are all. Yeah the Irish developed a language spoken in story of poetry and become to this day the most beautiful language in the world.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Foxy' I went back and re read that statement you commented on and I still dont see anything wrong with it. ? My guess is as good as any to why ? I think the post Passion 8 made after yours was pretty much on the money.. being stung many times can ' I imagine' make a woman defensive and sadly it could work against them . ? Im sure theres many men out there that have been stung in the same fashion. ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
As for you foxie and i quote ... "I have had flowers etc but they were more guilt" I will have my dancing flower back thank you!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kizza1973' As for you foxie and i quote ... "I have had flowers etc but they were more guilt" I will have my dancing flower back thank you! Still waiting for my promised dancing flower
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On_Safari
11 years ago
What I love most about it is the kindness and generosity of spirit with which it was given. Selfless and without expectation. I'm a romantic.....there are so many ways to express love, appreciation and friendship bit none like the written word backed up by action. But you're also right Jay_Me it's not that I distrust the machinations behind the offering moreso I think to myself "but why me?" Something I am learning to be more open to, after all; I am pretty AWESOME 😊
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have your dancing flower Jay Jay you get a bigger one than Indy and foxie.That's because i gave the dancing elephant to RHP Rebecca.I didnt wanna give you the dancing elephant as you would have read something in to itLike... Kiz thinks im an elephant and gave me the dancing elephant... I have a dancing lady bug to ... who wants it So organise another drinks night and you will get it I asked the 2 dolla shop dude to get me another box of em... but he is holding out on me !Yep your awesomness is so awesome indy Jay Jays drinks night are the greatest
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RHP User
11 years ago
I suspect that I am far too cerebrally romantic. I'm not *overtly* romantic. Hard to explain, something like intellectually "over romanticising." I see it more as what you do day to day, how you interact, rather than giving flowers, etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Mado but I think Gaelic goes a bit further back than the Great Famine. The Irish are the champions of lost causes which is why they can be so romantic in an unnecessarily self defeating way. Always pursuing the futile with all their worth. To give and not to count the cost,To fight and not to heed the wound, To struggle though the cause is lost,To yearn for though the love is doomed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have our 'happily ever after' which is enough for me. I don't need anything more than spending time with Jennylee. She feels the same way but, where I feel uncomfortable having any special attention paid to me, Jennylee thrives on romance. She lights up when I bring home flowers for no reason and she loves those little sentimental cards or even just a text to remind her how much I love her. She loves her breakfast in bed on the weekend and I love to show off in the kitchen. I'll wake her up with custard and cinnamon crepes, banana pancakes or french toast. If I'm making french toast, it'll usually be sweet but if I make it savoury, I'll pile tomato, cheese, spanish onion and some shredded carrot on top.The romantic gestures I make cost very little but she loves the extra attention so it works for both of us ('cause I'm cheap).
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
There's a difference between REAL flowers and dancing flowers.... Dancing flowers never stops smiling and waving it's arms... I look at mine every day! I don't have to look at it's petals and say "he loves me, he loves me not" As our love will never die off! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Yes I believe in that.... I believe also romance means having "healthy relationships" with people not necessary being in so deeply in love. To me it's not necessary being in love as romantic love...romance could be just kind actions to anyone. I've done romantic thing with GF's that I would do with a committed partner like candle lit dinners under my outside patio area, cards, little things to let them know how appreciative I am of them. I mean Ii believe there is different types of romance. @ Jay Me I was talking about romantic love....my heart is open to it but it does not mean I am suspicious every time someone does kind things for me in a romantic love way.... I guess is what I was saying. I think as well, if someone has been damaged by romantic love, I guess it would close their hearts off over time to romantic love, but then if they met someone who was kind, patient, thoughtful and the right fit for them, it would open their hearts. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
INDIAN GIVER!!! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now I'm really feeling left out Seems everyone got a dancing flower except the one who organised the whole drinks night Lost for words.......runs to the corner crying
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' The Irish were living in poverty, had nothing but each other and the spirits were dropping depression and self worth sliding into a bad way for the family people common folk, no bright light in the distance so hope was turning into disrepair and there was no authority or charity no where down to go , rock bottom, and only a way for riding the time to heading back up for the hopeless folk. What they did was to modify the language and turn poetry into dialogue, raise their spirits with words of hope and beauty, courage and companionship, pride and joy love and lust all are one and one are all. Yeah the Irish developed a language spoken in story of poetry and become to this day the most beautiful language in the world. Plus some say there is also poetry in rebelling against the English, after and during a age of repression !
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Kizz told me they fell off the back of a truck. I got mine cos it was my b'day, Foxy because she's the wife and RHP Rebecca got the elephant with his trunk up because she's RHP Rebecca. We wuv you!!!
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' I don't mind if you put flowers on my grave but the idea of giving someone flowers is a bit weird to me . Here , let me rip some flowers from a plant and then you can slowly watch them die ... I prefer the exchange of live plants . A plant that , if cared for , grows and blossoms . It's all about the Symbology . Live plants definitely!........I'd happily send my ex a triffod........I wonder what that symbolises
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abcplus1
11 years ago
I have designed jewellery for Mrs abcplus1 a couple of times and then had it hand made. 1 diamond pendant ended up with a valuation of over $4k. A multi stone pendant ended up over $3k to make, haven't had it valued. She loves them and wears one of them almost every day. It isn't the value that she loves, but the fact that I made a design that symbolises something special to us, then had it made especially for her. By the way, I struggle drawing a straight line with a ruler :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's just a plastic flower!! I've never been romanced or had romance so if anyone ever made a romantic gesture I think I'd just feel awkward!! I did get flowers when I was 18 and maybe once in my 20's I've never even been taken out to dinner by a man .... Unless maccas counts ;p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
At the risk of sounding unforgiving and just an overall prick.... Is this a race to the bottom or something?? Never been romanced, no flowers, no chocolates.... 3 ex husbands/wives whatever the case maybe... Sounds depressing. Sounds to me so many fairytales have been shattered by a bar that no one could ever make it over anyway. :/ - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Really?!?!?!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its a dancing plastic flower
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' It's just a plastic flower!! I've never been romanced or had romance so if anyone ever made a romantic gesture I think I'd just feel awkward!! I did get flowers when I was 18 and maybe once in my 20's I've never even been taken out to dinner by a man .... Unless maccas counts ;p - Posted from rhpmobile I have never really had a lot of romance towards me, I have done romantic gestures like love letters, sexy notes, cooked romantic dinners, made up picnics but not much has been done for me. My ex used to give me flowers on the very odd occasion, maybe 3 times in 15 yrs, we had the odd dinner out together but since being single nobody has really made an effort. I have been bought a coffee on a meet, that is about it. I don't consider a meet a date and I have not been taken on a proper date with anyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but "romance" makes me uncomfortable, I am never sure how to take it or respond. Give me a good, secure hug over any of it any day.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' Thanks Mado but I think Gaelic goes a bit further back than the Great Famine. The Irish are the champions of lost causes which is why they can be so romantic in an unnecessarily self defeating way. Always pursuing the futile with all their worth. To give and not to count the cost,To fight and not to heed the wound, To struggle though the cause is lost,To yearn for though the love is doomed. I was listening to a professor of literature in an interview on the ABC radio, I wrote that a while ago because I found it interesting, I am only guessing now though it may well have of the origin of Gaelic she was referring too.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Last year.....after a disagreement.....when he asked to meet with me at a bar and admitted to not being very imaginative and slightly hurt that I, for all appearances; was over him...... (Deeper sigh) the kiss that followed underneath the streetlight was something altogether in a class of it's own. Much like the two of us together. (Shrugs) mind you I was given flowers last week completely unexpected.....and that was nice.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' I blame my Irish genes for being a bit too romantic. It can be a fine line between a romantic gesture and a restraining order. (I kid, I kid) Usually it is little things but my favourite was meeting my then partner at the airport after she had been away on work for a week. It was a late night flight and she thought she would take a taxi home. Instead I was standing at the gate with a large bunch of flowers. Her smile was the best reward. Good times. Romance is good, but it loses its punch if it is too often or too OTT. - Posted from rhpmobile I was walking off the plane , I could hear laughter as people came out of that shoot thing we all walk alongthere was my then 16 old daughter with a huge sign it said " Welcome home mum, I am pregnant" funny kid , it made me laugh
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
when one buys a potted plant and gives it to someone as a kind romantic gesture.... and it's taken out onto the lawn and it's pissed on infront of that person who brought it. How rude is that.......OOOPS Did I just say that? I meant errrrrrrrr romantic....how ROMANTIC is that! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
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Antzy
11 years ago
I've had quite a few romantic partners and I love it!!!!!!!! Hopefully romance is not dead! My ex husband of over ten years was the most romantic man I've ever met! Nothing has ever come close to him in the romantic factor! I could write a trilogy of romanticism on this man! I'll give you one of the 46 million in our nearly 7 year gestures... My birthday, he had just had a knee reconstruction. He told me before I went to work that morning that we would have take away and he'd organise for when I got home at about 7pm. Arrive home, walked through the door to a butler greeting me at the door, taking my laptop and cache... Look in our kitchen and there is a chef cooking us dinner, candle lit table... After dinner, a dessert, which I very rarely eat (except a citrus tart or Creme brûlée) of cream brûlée, was served the butler and the chef left! I thanked him so much for a lovely night and said I needed to shower... Opened our bedroom and the bedroom was completely surrounded by roses, pink, red, yellow and white, balloons everywhere, with a poster and 'will you marry me'. Very nice, extremely romantic! Now that's romance, nobody has every come close to him and I don't expect it, but being with a 'true' romantic was beautiful! As I said, I could have written a trilogy from my experiences based on his romancing skills - he was damn good and never insincere in his romance :).
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Antzy
11 years ago
My ex husband of over 10 years ago!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe that gifts can be the manifestation of feelings. As can be gestures. I like making things with my hands, and feel that the time I put into making something is time spent with the person, without them being there. When I am making something, it often takes on a bit of the recipients personality, and I give it as a token of the feelings I have for that person. Gestures are also underrated. I am tactile, and so will touch the back of an exposed neck, or brush my hand over the small of her back, or a hug and a gentle kiss.. Not sure if that is classed as romantic, but I hope so!!! Judge......
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thedevilsfantasy
11 years ago
I used to believe in romance... used to read all those romantic novels, watch romantic movies, dream of being swept off my feet by some gorgeous prince.. then I got a slap in the face... several times... and woke up... Now I read dark, sinister, murder mysteries and crime novels, watch only thrillers, meet gorgeous men for fun filled nights of kinky, dirty sex and live in reality... Who needs romance?? Yeah ok, me... now I'm just a closet romantic :)
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HappyCbrCouple
11 years ago
We are so lucky to have a little bit of romance every day. It could be something as simple as a txt message saying 'i miss you already' or the way we hold a lingering look at each other in public or something like breakfast in bed on our birthdays. It doesn't seem much like romance at the time, but looking back at it, you get the cherished feeling in your hart and it makes you smile :)
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Seachange
11 years ago
Ow Ladies.... That is insane! As somebody said earlier. 'It is criminal'. Hugs xxx I discussed the topic of romance with some of my previous male partners. The consensus I gathered was that some of the romantic gestures they have offered to other were met with disdain or suspicion. They are open for romance and the cheesy/awkward scenarios but they are scared that the women might not be receptive to them or be told off. Then they retreat to their caves. I believe we sometimes have to lure them out of their emotional caves, even with a good helping of beer and hot pies leading to our padded scented boudoir. Lol. It also depends on the man I suppose if he has any romantic bone in his body. I grew up in a culture that inspire romance. My father (being latino, a bit macho) was romantic and my brothers are very romantic and very caring hubbies. My sister-in-laws definitely appreciate all their gestures, small or big. And they do nice things in return. Beautiful to see. I suppose I would drop hints that romantic gestures and experiences are welcome and appreciated. I may kick off the romantic journey with simple gestures not OTT, so we both feel comfortable and relaxed in each other's presence and feel good to be together. Depending on the occasion, say for a formal affair or special dinner, I may give him a red rose to place on his tux/suit or straighten his crooked tie followed with a tender kiss on the cheeks and a nice appreciative comment on how good he looks and great he smells. Again HUGS to you ladies...xxx
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Then again ..... Ket's Talk i'm holding you to my potted orchid, no I won't piss on it!! Sheesh....
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm serious I think I deserve my potted orchid 😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
Romance is not dead and neither is chivalry. Contrived romance (Valentines day) is crap, my partner and i do romantic things out of desire for one another always random acts although sometimes a little thought goes in to these acts.It does not have to be gifts either just little things like finding a note on my lunch thats been made for me it's nice to know that someone thinks highly enough of you to be on their mind almost 24/7.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Pumpkin soup seems too work Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would I consider myself romantic? I would never know whether I'm romantic or not, simply because I don't think there is a dichotomic distinction between being romantic or not. Some people I know they consider themselves "romantic" because they take the partner once a month out for expensive dinner and flowers, which "per se" might be a romantic thing. But, if you put the fancy dinner into their life context, where the "romantic person" is ignoring the partner's needs for the other 29 days of the month, an expensive fancy dinner is just an arrogant and cheap attempt to buy the person. And when they split up, you can hear somethings like "I don't understand this, I have been so romantic". I think what is romantic can be told by the big picture: understanding what the other person's needs may be, and fulfill a superfluous need in a way that is unconventional and unexpected. And it's freaking difficult, because sometimes even me I know what a real need is, but I don't know what can be a superfluous need at that moment, how can expect someone else to understand and fulfill it at the same time? But sometimes it happens, and when it happens it's awesome, and do not involve expensive gifts or stupid social protocols. It's the idea behind a thing or an action behind a thing to be romantic, I guess it has to be "unique" in the sense that no-one else can replicate it, it has to be uniquely thoughtful, in the sense that nobody else know better that person to provide the same thought, and it has to be totally unexpected, and involves looking stupid and irrational to an external observer :-) I've done a few that were successful, but I couldn't tell without seeming idiot and irrational, so I'm not going to tell :-))
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happy0450
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' It's just a plastic flower!! I've never been romanced or had romance so if anyone ever made a romantic gesture I think I'd just feel awkward!! I did get flowers when I was 18 and maybe once in my 20's I've never even been taken out to dinner by a man .... Unless maccas counts ;p - Posted from rhpmobile I like your posts JayJay ........just dysfunctional enough to create Intrigue :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Romance is the way to ah women you give her romance she will give you all you want .That is the way I see it .
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HedonicGent
11 years ago
Can't say I have any problem admitting I'm a romantic at heart, what's not to love?! I enjoy lust, simplicity and being direct sometimes. No need for the complexity of romance all the time. But that's not my default, that's just where I've found myself from time to time, mostly immediately after a relationship has ended and I simply don't want romance, I just want to lose it for a while and forget about the feelings involved. But I find myself slipping into the role of a romantic very easily; can't help that I love to make the extra effort to make a girl smile big at every opportunity, to make sure the simple things in her life that could go wrong don't, to make her (that horribly cheesy but appropriate thought of being) my princess. Love the excitement at the end of one of those dates when you've just lost the night in each other and, whether you had sex or not, you're absolutely buzzing with the thought of seeing her again, just to be in her company, never mind anything else. On the flipside I really do appreciate and love when a girl does those subtle little things that make you just adore her (a la lilyorchid's comment), they make more of an impact to my sense of well-being, my self-image than a card or present is ever likely to. I agree with tirzan's sentiment but don't think it always has to be original, unique, superfluous to be thoughtful and romantic. It just needs to be something that is going to be intimately appreciated and remind the person of why they love being with you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'BriAndRab' We are so lucky to have a little bit of romance every day. It could be something as simple as a txt message saying 'i miss you already' or the way we hold a lingering look at each other in public or something like breakfast in bed on our birthdays. It doesn't seem much like romance at the time, but looking back at it, you get the cherished feeling in your hart and it makes you smile :) Quoting 'Tropicaldeelites' Romance is not dead and neither is chivalry. For us it's every day. Since we met there has never been a day without a planned or random act of interaction in some form or another. Couple this with separations of 19,000 kilometers when we began our journey together, 890 kilometers in our relationship infancy and now only within the CBD ,we've used what ever means was possible and applicable to simply say gday. SMS Random... "Hey babe, kiss your left nipple" Response "Hey babe, bite your right ball" SMS Planned... "Hey babe, coming home early, want me to pick any thing up?" Notes Random... Gone to split the atom, build a box girder bridge and solve world hunger. Be back soon!! Then arrive with a fresh cupper and some yummies:) Actually arriving home with an atomic bomb under your arm the Harbour Bridge over your left shoulder whilst munching on a never ending sushi roll is just plain silly guys, so I was not literal in my "Random note".....So no mean comments please... Notes planned... "Bla bla bla...insert mundane daily activites here" Random actions... Giving a massage, not because you desire a happy ending, but because you notice they have a sore neck or back or what ever. Ridiculous over sized smiley faces with a Homer Simpson hair doo crudely scribbled on an A4 size sheet of paper and stuck to the windscreen of the car dead centre of the drivers view... You know that's gonna get a smile:):) The point is, in our opinion, the knowledge that your chosen partner has you in his or her heart and mind, was able to convey it, was motivated to do so and chose to, is our romance. Gifts that we have received and bestowed upon each other, be they precious stones, precious metals, living and or animated objects. ( a pooch and some plants) or what ever else, was a by product of our romantic financial capacity. Gifts are romantic to us too (pooch and plant doing well) but it's tangible and material which you can have with or without a partner. To us it's all about the heart and romance is integral. Just have a smile on your dial, love the one your with and a play well with others is our motto...:) Thanks for reading this BLA BLA BLA... Geeze I'm bored!! Time for sleepies :) P.S Taking your partner out of their comfort zone and having a blast together anyway..... Could be anything and not necessarily extreme, although that really gets her hot.....cough cough Clayton's suicide (Sky diving) out of an airplane is still high on our bucket list. I just haven't worked out what to do with the plane after I leave the controls.. Mr Passion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'passion8_l' I love romance but not the flowers and chocolates so much and I don't believe in Valentines day. It's the little things that get me like a man cooking for me, filling the glass I always keep by my bed with water. The most romantic thing a man ever did for me was when we went away for a weekend, he set the alarm and took me down the beach to watch the sunrise. Its the small things that have the most significant impact. I would rather do 10 small things to romance a lady, as I feel its 10 times you have shown she is number 1. Every now and then, preparing a romantic dinner is very special ( ok by me , as I can cook ) . Over the top usually means trying too hard. Just my thoughts :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'medlock' I agree with tirzan's sentiment but don't think it always has to be original, unique, superfluous to be thoughtful and romantic. It just needs to be something that is going to be intimately appreciated and remind the person of why they love being with you. Kind of agree with you, I agree being romantic may not necessarily involve being original and superfluous. I might look a bit "mummy's boy", but the most romantic moment I ever had was when I was kid and my mum woke me up in the morning singing a song while sitting next to me on the bed. I wasn't seeing her for months, as I grew up mostly with my grandparents. The picture of it makes it one of the best moments of my life, and certainly romantic. Was it original &superfluous? Yes, she could've let me keep sleeping or waking me up in a conventional way ("wake up, dude!"), it would've been certainly appreciated, but not as much, I guess. All the other romantic things I can think of are superfluous, even a stupid bunch of flowers, isn't it superfluous? They are going to die in two days or so, so what's the point of cutting them from a plant (where they can survive for weeks)? I think being superfluous it's one of the major deal. A friend of mine gave a computer-desk for his ex gf for valentine's day, it was certainly useful (she needed it), and he was trying to be conventional (celebrating valentine's day) by being unconventional (giving something actually useful) and thougtful (she needed it), but they had kind of a fight after that, she was expecting something romantic (as he advertised), she was so excited when she saw the delivery people, and when she saw the desk she was like "WTF, seriously?" and all our common friends were on her side! Well, that was back in Southern Italy, so sligtly different social environment, but I guess it might apply here in AU too? I guess, it would've have different outcome if the desk was filled by unuseful things, i.e. flowers, baloons, or other superfluous things. So a first disappointment followed by a surprise can do, not the other way round: an advertised romantic surprise which turns to not be romantic at all. She said the desk was also ugly, and didn't fit right. He paid a lot of money for the purchase and the deliver too LOL :-)
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BrightBubbly
11 years ago
doesn't sit in with the huge big grand gestures. It's the little things that matter. Making them a cuppa just the way they like it, their favourite dinner after a tough day at work. Scratching their back to help them fall asleep at night. It's the things that show you are listening to me, that you appreciate me and that are willing to think of me first, that make all the difference.
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