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Rules of engagment....

March 20 2012

I exceed the 1000 character limit so here is my comment to ... http://www.redhotpie.com.au/DateDoctors/Your-Profile-First-Impression-qq888Funny thing is, I was just thinking about this today. I'm the male half of a couple ... I'm sure a lot of you will click to have a look after what I have to say here so here goes. Our couple profile is targeting different things to what most single men are and my comments are targeted at you. I may cop some flack and some abuse and some will "know better", but hey, I'm only putting it out there and what I have to say will help to pimp your profile. My beautiful wife 100% agrees with this and guys, she is hot, check out her pics after and see for yourself. I am speaking from experience so what I am saying must be true... it worked for me :) 1. Choose a good name.Your name will be displayed in your personal profile. So, if you choose something like "hardcoreguywithabigyouhooo" or "babygirlcuteaspie", (these names are fictional and if thats your user name sorry) you are sure to mess up your chances. Make sure the name you choose suits you and IS NOT SLEAZY. Try and keep your name short (makes it easier for others to type in the Chat rooms). If the name you really want is taken try to rearrange it. Don’t add numbers e.g. if you tried "DJ-TOM" and it was taken don't do "DJ-TOM1" this makes it too easy for others to confuse you with the other Tom instead try "TOMDJ" or "DJTOMeffx". If you are unsure of a name try something humorous, getting your potential partner to laugh from word go is always good. If you use two words be sure to use CAPITALS to make it clear e.g. "JoeCool" and not "joecool". And lastly don’t use names that are Self-Degrading like "UglyFred" kind of defeats the purpose and no-one wants to be with someone who doesn’t appear to like themselves.2. Be Confident without Bragging.This is a fine line but will get you a long way.... Don’t write things like "I’m new to this" or "Just feeling the water" or for that fact anything that shows a lack of confidence. You will do far better if you portray yourself as an outgoing confident person, you know the saying “fake it till you make it”. Don't write "I’m a fun guy" everyone writes that, be as original as possible. Always be positive and cheerful in your Profile, rudeness, negativity and nastiness will not get you far. Play your strengths, everyone has a good trait or 2, if you don’t tell people what those traits are they will never know. Be upfront and as honest as you can (It isn’t fun when you meet and feel deceived, like meeting someone who is 55 and has claimed to be 25). 3. Hand select your words. Be Class not Ass, cheesy and sleazy will not get you far. Don't write a resume make it fun not formal use everyday English. Read others profiles to get a feel for it. Don't mention Religion (this will not boost your success, Google the research and you’ll find this to be true). If you are not good with words like me or can't spell then Google it, there are great sites filled with romantic and very articulate words and if you are at your PC or Mac then utilise this aspect.4. Window ShoppingEveryone does it... we browse through the profiles looking at the pictures not really reading the username or tagline. So be sure to place a good photo up as your main. To stop identity theft make sure it is not a clear full face shot as your main pic, others in your profile are fine and don’t use photos with more than one person in it to stop any confusion. Taking a picture of yourself from above is great just be sure the floor or background is clean.....If you need us to help you with your picture please ask us ;)5. What works for a woman does not work for a man.The title says it all, common guys, we all know you like to see naked women well most of us do but women are not like us and that is a good thing. They don't all want to see a hard pecker in your profile as a title pic. Or you whispering in the chat rooms "hey wanna watch me tug my boat". Its like all beer adds guys, two blokes in a bikini kissing will not sell beer like two women in a bikini kissing would, so put up classy pics and put the doodle in the PG so if they ask for it they can see it :)6. Last but not least. Don't be too shy to contact others, messages are better but at least send a "Flirt". Go into the chat rooms, take part in the forums and blogs be seen and heard, don't be a quiet mouse and expect everyone to read your mind and come to you because they won’t (unless of course you have a drop dead gorgeous picture up). Verify your profile.... be noticed.Stop or kick me if you haven't read this profile before..."I am a happy fun loving person who loves good times. I have a great sense of humor, I like long walks on the beach, a good conversation and dining out with a fine wine.""I am looking for someone who is fun and can make me laugh."The above is an example of 90% of all dating site profiles worldwide. Follow my tips and you will better your chances of success here or on any dating site. Try to be descriptive like....let’s see... instead of writing "I like walks on the beach" try "the beach is my second home and strolling on it at dusk is a favorite way to end the day and enter the night."If your profile is not getting hits read through this again and rewrite your column again if needed……. don't blame the site or the potential candidates for your love take a deep breath and read your own profile and ask yourself.... would you answer to it?Be very clear on what you are looking for.... it's like you are looking for a Sports car and come home with a rusty push bike, be careful to be clear as your profile is not just about getting hits and responses it’s about getting what you are looking for as that is why we are all here.Try to change your tag line regularly as well as your main photo as people like variety and seeing new things about you, this will keep your profile crisp and fresh and most of all it will keep you interesting to your potential ‘dates’.Don’t put too many filters in what you are looking for like age, hair colour, height, eye colour and so on..... try to keep it to a 3 or 4 filter limit like age bracket - personality - location as you will cut your chances in half by putting too many criteria in. When contacting someone, use (this is in particular for the guys) "What's up" not "Hi" or "hello" try "how's it doing" instead of "hey". As a male PLEASE do not be put off if a female does not answer as many women would surely get well over 20 Flirts / Messages a day so they will most likely never answer all of them....Even more reason to be original and have a good header.The next topic is..... once you have their attention what then ???? If you are interested in what I have to say let me know :) Then the first real date. What are the mistakes and how can you increase the chance of a second? Well thats enough for now or ill type all night.......Cheers

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RHP User

13 years ago

Writing War and Peace I have to read with my fingers on the lines, and with a touch screen god that was hard! and then a bloody moth went over it as well. Good advice though First date, fuck em silly, and you will never get a second, problem solved

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RHP User

13 years ago

Short name.. Check No bragging.. check Hand selected words.. (4 finger typing - wth an occasional thumb).. check Window shopped.. your girl is spectacular .. check No photos of me kissing men.. check Don't be shy to contact - you started this off for me.. so, thank you.. Now, May I send your girl a plane ticket and you send her to me for a long weekend - Please? *smiles* I am with Tuscan.. War and Peace!! BUT, I will have to take it from Her that it is all good advise.. Good Luck mate.. caveman :)

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RHP User

13 years ago

there are rules? omg where? ...our rule is...that there are none. and if it happens it happens, and if not...theres always something interesting to do anyway, so it dont matter..

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RHP User

13 years ago

fairly thorough advice there voodoo... but please don't give all the secrets away... hahaha just kidding

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RHP User

13 years ago

'Ivoodoo' you forgot number 7. own a cave. put that one in your case study! *smiles* ...... your a marketing genius caveman.... chicks dig itif you do get your wish cavey,, send smoke signals so she knows how to find you.... and be sure to tidy up the cave a little much love coodi

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RHP User

13 years ago

Well written, I think people forget on here that there is a real person behind the profile, such that they forget their manners and say things that would normally hold their tongue about.Your post emphasises that of those really interested in connecting, (at whatever level they choose) will do exactly that by being truthful, honest and real about themselves and their intentions. It was good to read.

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RHP User

13 years ago

someone want to tell me what that said i got Bored

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RHP User

13 years ago

Is the advice to say ...'whats up' instead of 'hi' or 'hello' and..'whats it doing'?????um er....whats up where and whats it doing there.....personally I would always prefer the minimalist approach of a polite 'hi'; or even boring ol 'hello'....I realize it may be the fashionable vernacular 1voodoo but for me it's a hooodo. I thought Dr Sam's advice covered it all.

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Ivoodoo

13 years ago

Well I saw the flack comming :) well its only meant as a help for those that actually have a real desire to meet someone on a dating site....... And as expected, we read most of the profiles that commented, some fun reading and some good lucks are called for......

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RHP User

13 years ago

Ce la vie. Why mess with a winning formula?

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RHP User

13 years ago

Coodie.. when she gets here.. you read my smoke and come visit :)

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RHP User

13 years ago

I'd reckon that most of that is good advice. Thnak you for taking the time and making the effort. In addition to doc Sam, it all makes good reading.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Excellent!

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RHP User

13 years ago

You make some interesting (and very valid) points there Ivoodoo however, I must in a way disagree with point 2 and specifically in reference to the "new to this" advice. I prefer to know when a couple is new, it's handy information as you know that they will most likely be nervous, unsure, have lots of rules etc. It gives you an idea of what to expect and to allow for.

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RHP User

13 years ago

You forgot : Don't use photos of well known male models and try to palm them off as your own. Really...

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xplicit_lyrics

13 years ago

TLDR. It was like a councelling session... I'm sure a very good one though. ;-)

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RHP User

13 years ago

*not* letting your mates introduce you by your nickname (10inchTripod, at your service!) and wearing clothes are usually good starts, yeah :D Being articulate, not wurring your slurds is good, too (spellcheck peeps!). Makes me wonder about the state of society today that these are actually serious pointers...?

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RHP User

13 years ago

Looking forward to your thoughts on the next topics:The next topic is..... once you have their attention what then ???? If you are interested in what I have to say let me know :) Then the first real date. What are the mistakes and how can you increase the chance of a second? Well thats enough for now or ill type all night.......

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