STD Testing - How to approach the topic

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  We adopt the above, and that is to assume that someone is carring a STI/STD until such time as they have proven to us that they are not, as opposed to the other way round. As such, should we "play" with others, we practise safe sex for all activities. Bringing up the subject of when last they were tested can be quite tricky. One should however not feel bad or guilty about asking such a question as one has the right to protect oneself from possible infection. That said, there is no 100% safe and as such one has to weigh up the risks versus the rewards and then make an informed decision about ones own personal health & well being. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  Carring should read "carrying" - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I generally dont bring it up I simply use protection for everything so its a 'non issue' (yes i'm aware there is a very small chance of still getting something ) I only bring up testing if i'm going to start a relationship and ditching protection. if you want to ask simply ask.. there's no real other way to say it other than to just blurt it out , anyone who wants to take offence to such a question i wouldn't want to play with anyway.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Anyone who is non-monogamous should get tested regularly. It's the responsible and sensible thing to do. It annoys me how many people (especially in my age range or older) don't bother with it and assume that a lack of symptoms indicates a lack of infection. I generally don't bring it up with others as I play safe. I would broach the subject if there was an accident though.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  A dental dam, who's used one? That would have to be a passion killer.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  would be my average. I only play unprotected with one partner, so safe consensual sex is the rule all other times.I don't generally bring it up in conversation, but am happy to talk about it.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I get tested about every 3 months. I don't ask others when they last had tests, because a) why would I trust their answer, and b) I always use condoms anyway.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  We as a couple would never do unprotected sex regardless of time of last check up as anything can happen within a week of that test believe it or not even by oral sex you can get infections as we all know that chlamydia is held in the throat/vagina and anus as well as men hold it in their throat and anus as well ( bi men or straight). We wouldnt have oral sex on the males without condoms or allow the males to give oral sex to opposite partner as can be transmitted. Yes its sux and a downer on the mood but why the fuck should we risk our own health if you dont give a fuck about your own.. Not to mention the fact of going home and being around your own family knowing of it.. its gross.. If people are legit and clean they would agree to peoples request of safe sex regardles wether its intercourse or oral..

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  8 years ago

  I have been tested 3 times this year, but I'm now in a monogamous relationship so there is no need to be tested so regularly, I will get tested again in January when I have my 3rd hepatitis B shot and that will be it for another 12 months. 💋

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  rupamohan

  8 years ago

  Ask it direct!!! Anyway the risk can't be fully eliminated but it shocks us when we hear I have been playing unsafe for years nothing happened so far. I am not sure about here but in sub-continent culture asking something like this can be mis constructed as asking for solution to your STD problem.

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  rupamohan

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'rupamohan' Anyway the risk can't be fully eliminated but it shocks us when we hear I have been playing unsafe for years nothing happened so far. Shocked but we respect safety needs, circumstances and risk ability are different for all. We don't judge others based on different needs. chlamydia is funny..can be difficult to test, may not have any symptoms, many gets cured over time with or without antibiotics taken for other infections ??

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Doesnt matter how safe "you" play. There will be "other" ppl that still play and carry and dont give a fuck about giving the other person/couple the option to know. So yes, get bloody tested regularly.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Well it is a dodgy subject, I have found that ladies are more worried about getting pregnant than STDs I would rather do without sexual penetration than have to wear a condom as its like getting showered with a raincoat on.Usually oral can be performed and is more satisfying than sex anyway if done mutually correct.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  So have you ever had an STI screen? Since you dislike condoms and I assume practice oral without a barrier? Oh and please don't lump all 'ladies' in the same basket. Pregnancy is the least of my worries.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  So have you ever had an STI screen? Since you dislike condoms and I assume practice oral without a barrier? Oh and please don't lump all 'ladies' in the same basket. Pregnancy is the least of my worries.

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  massage69fun

  8 years ago

  Thanks everyone for their responses. I am glad to see that most of you guys are playing it safe and get like myself regularly tested. I personally used some dental dam as well as glad wrap for oral. It was fun incorporating it into the play. I would like to hear from some what their experience was when they approached prospective play partners re testing!!! thanks in advance

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