STI/STD Testing

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I've heard of people requesting test results before play - but it doesn't tell you anything about what happened since the time period that test result covers.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ...has recently started to take a drug that prevents AIDS. He is of the generation that first encountered AIDS; he was lucky and has religiously used condoms until the new wonder drug came on the market. He is thoroughly enjoying condom free sex, although on NYE he confided, "I've got Syphilis, again!' To him, that's a minor irritation compared to the fear AIDS once was...mind you, he is a regular at The Tubs (in all major cities). Guess all the married men men who are Bi-curious, or Bi, or basically gay, might need to re-think their strategies...and to return directly to the question, ANY STI/STD test is valid only for the second in time at which it was taken. As for condoms for oral, well, I've never requested a woman use DAMS and have only once had a girl request a condom on me for oral (she was an ex-hooker). Kisses to all

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  As for showing results to someone, the doctor/s I've used usually just tell you by phone etc that you are all clear. Some I believe may also sms. In my experience, I don't think they normally give you some sort of print out of results unless you specifically ask. Probably because most people are getting the checks as a precaution, and in most cases, there will never be any changes to negative results. You might be more likely to get more specific details if you are getting other bloodwork or other checks done at the same time. But for the right woman I do have the proof of the zero sperm count ;)

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  There are Sti's that take several weeks to show positive. Test sheets mean dick. So to speak. Everything involves risk. Find a happy medium of fun and risk. No penetration without a condom seems to be the best fit. So to speak Good luck with this thing called sex

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I had heard that the HIV prevention drugs didn't make you feel well plus its was expensive? Interesting tho. Does anyone know more about them?

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  VillainNVixen

  8 years ago

  Its true that a test is no guarantee. To me the fact that someone gets tested shows they are interested in their health and safety and likely that of their partners. It gives me some small comfort but as Annie said there is always a risk, its just finding the balance. No matter what you are told you are still relying on trust and that relies on reading people and understanding their standard sexual behaviour which is not failsafe, nowhere near. For those that practice safe sex, it seems that a common attitude is protection for penetration. What is peoples attitudes on oral? Do people consider oral without swallowing safe or are people happy to take what cums ;p

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  You are only as "safe" as the last person you "slept" with. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Laidback_Fun

  8 years ago

  We always ask straight out before we decide to play :) to us, it's not rude to ask, especially as the person legally has to disclose if they have something to their knowledge. . - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  You also might want to look up HPV, the most common STI it can cause some cancers. Most people don't even know they have it until you see signs like genital warts or a abnormal Pap smear test. You can also be a carrier and not show signs at all. Correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think there is a test for it other than a DNA test which is usually preformed after a abnormal Pap smear test. There is a vaccine for some of the strains which they are giving to students in high school now. It's estimated at least 80% of females and males will contract one type of HPV at some point. Anyway link below if you want to know more. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  johnisfun3

  8 years ago

  I would say should be all right to ask and people who prefer playing safe will not get offended. If someone does then there could be good reason for you to move on.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I get tested monthly and ask the doc for a print out and will show my results. To date I have never had an STI in my life. Sure one is only as safe as the last play. Life is a risk at all times.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  The regularity of testing may vary with the level of sexual activity. If you are going to a lot of parties in a short period of time, then I would say it is preferable to have more regular testing, than during periods when you have been completely or mainly exclusive to a partner and vice versa. There are some groups of swingers that are exclusive to only those in the group, an agreement everyone must agree and abide by. That is another level of safety, as you can have the variety of play situations without having to invite randoms.

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  rupamohan

  8 years ago

  1. Is it commonplace for people to regularly get tested?What is your definition of common & regular? even forum visitors are uncommon. Only small percent of RHP members visit forums. Only 50% say safe sex in profile. So my answer is NO to this question even if most replies say they do it. 2. It is considered rude or awkward to request that a couple get tested/show their results before playing?Depends on how you ask.Bit awkward & also too late to ask if asking at play meet. If this is important for you say it in your profile. 3. What advice would you give on how to discuss the subject with playmates?Ask nicely but direct. Be very specific with what you want to know otherwise you can be victim of word play. May be give others a chance to share their rules first to make them feel comfortable. Be prepared HSV has no symptoms and can pass even with kissing. Same applies to chlamydia though I guess it can get cured by itself in most people with in a year.

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  JohnAnn2227

  7 years ago

  Hi, We get tested every 3 months. We are part of a small group of friends who play together and we don't use condoms for intercourse (all the guys have had vasectomies) and we trust each other in that we are the only couples we play with without protection. At other parties or clubs we also use condoms for intercourse but not for oral. I won't swallow at parties or clubs but love to with our group of friends.You also need to use condoms on any toy you may be using in a group situation. We were at a party and I quickly had to stop a guy from putting a dildo he had just been using on his wife, straight into me. They thought I was being over cautious!Ann & John

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  technologic

  7 years ago

  Thanks for the post! As a HSV couple we believe in open disclosure right from the get go. I believe in creating a non-judgemental and friendly environment for educating and discussing STD/STIs. As mentioned above, the results can't prove anything 100% but bringing it up politely & respectfully is a good gauge on whether that person is genuinely interested in having 'safe' sex or not. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Great advice all. Thank you. I mist get my 0 count documented. I think I must have it somewhere. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  As someone who wouldn't engage in sex with anyone that won't use protection, I would also say that it is not rude to ask. Within my own relationship we don't use any contraception as he has had a vacectomy. Which does make it interesting when you start in this type of lifestyle. Because if I asked for a script my doctors would ask why... so that is a bit tricky.

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  DonnaBrett

  7 years ago

  We get tested every few months. As for asking for people to supply test results, it's not something we've never encountered and wouldn't really be practical in a party situation as people don't walk around with results in their pocket. On that subject though your doctor should give you a print out if you request it. All you can do is be as safe as you can, condoms washing/showering between partners if at a party for instance. Girls (unless totally trusting of each other) should really refrain from activities like rubbing pussies together and even guys & girls fingering girls in group situations is questionable . Guys should always change condoms between girls even if they accidentally attempt to put a condom on inside out...throw it away and get a new one cos their dick has already touched it so just turning it around defeats the purpose. Be safe have fun

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