Safety first, come meet my friends

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  JessicaRabbit

  11 years ago

  If I didn't have a good feeling about someone and was worried about meeting them one-on-one, I simply wouldn't meet them at all. I wouldn't feel like I could be myself and get to know someone as well in a group situation where they're all strangers to me. It's easy enough to be smart in one-on-ones and ensure that you're safe i.e. letting a friend know where you'll be until when and with whom, meeting in a public place during the day somewhere you are familiar with. Jess xx

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  cougar4fun

  11 years ago

  Is perfectly acceptable to another. To her, your behaviour may have sent up red flags, she may have felt like if you wanted to meet her, you would be happy to do whatever made her feel comfortable. I don't agree personally, I too, would have felt very uncomfortable meeting with a group of friends and don't think declining is a "weird" thing to do, it just tells me you are uncomfortable meeting in that context under those circumstances. Which is your decision and I would have done the same thing in your shoes....

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  Mischeviouslad

  11 years ago

  A persons preference often meets another persons head on. How you negotiate, compromise or adapt plans is usually going to reflect how well you are perceived. I can more than hold my own in a group of strangers.... I find it rather entertaining to meet people.... and then extract the person I want to gain less distracted company by taking them on a "mini date" with full cooperation and often encouragement of her friends. DG

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I can more than hold my own in a group of strangers.... I find it rather entertaining to meet people.... What's your answer to the question: do you agree with her, or not? )

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I had no problem mingling with her friends on a first meet. If that's her thing then that's her thing. She has her reasons, and while I thought it a bit unorthodox, I have no idea what her experiences had been up until she met me.... Would I do it again?? Fuck yes in a heart beat as I enjoy meeting people. I enjoy cruising through a date and I enjoy the fun(not just the sex) that can be had instead of steaming toward the destination. After all it's about two people not just one. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Are you gathering votes for a petulant outburst at this woman??? I know nothing of you, or this situation, but it seems you're keeping score. If you are, then I'd suggest a personality transplant or something, cos dude, that's just plain creepy. And IF.....this thread is anything to go by as a glimmer of insight into the way you have treated the lady in your example(if this is even true for that matter) than I quite frankly don't blame her at all for not wanting to meet your seemingly crazy arse. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  For you, K_G, it would feel strange and yes, you were probably thinking about your own safety as well. You don't know her and, for all you know, her friends could be thugs. (This is me putting myself in K_G's place.) Perhaps instead of blatantly turning her down, you could explain the issue you have with meeting her with her friends. And if I was the female, instead of calling it weird behaviour, I would reassure you that the friends were there as a safety precaution because I have had bad experiences with meeting up with strangers in the past. This was for my own safety and my friends would be at a distance away and not within earshot of us or at the same table. Perhaps there was more to this story than we are lead to believe? Don't know and don't care, but we should live and learn and try to view things from another's perspective. Show more empathy. Life's good :) Sorry, I'll wipe up my dribble now ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'tulips4u' Perhaps there was more to this story than we are lead to believe? there was also the week's worth of exchanging messages leading to her finally agreeing to meet in real life ... well, sort of

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