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Safety lists
March 10 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
What are tens?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't answer till I've looked up half a dozen of the terms...... definitely following :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Super size that?
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Are they thin, regular, large, battered, spiced, wedges, crispy ?? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Turn that dial to 10 please. Unfortunately FL took a group off that I was hugely interested in. I can honestly say Im not sure what my limits are apart from anything to do with children.
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RHP User
11 years ago
now I know that I am definitely a Nana:-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
age play, does that mean us old biddys never get any?
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
I will get the meal deal please There are a couple of websites I have used which makes negotiation a lot easier. xox W.
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RHP User
11 years ago
(*runs away to hide behind a cushion...pussy). But quietly intrigued... Kisses, Mrs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' I will get the meal deal please There are a couple of websites I have used which makes negotiation a lot easier. xox W. Please, Big Dog & I implore you ..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cest_la_viebaby' What are tens? It stands for Transcutaneous electronic nerve stimulation. You have probes/sticky pads that send an electrical current into the skin with settings from low to high intensity. Physios often use them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cest_la_viebaby' What are tens? I've been promised that an electrical current will run from my nipples to my arse.... Google is your friend ... I will be taking pics.... A 9 for you Q, Lady T is a 14, this is out of 10.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Can I super size that? You sure can girl.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Watersports Violence Vibrators Verbal Humiliation and Degradation Touching swinging sweat sissy training sex in the cemetery sensualism Sensation Play Seduction Rope Bondage/Suspension Role Play Restraints queening Prostate Massage Pinching Piercings Old Guard Slavery Masturbation Masochism Makeup Maid Large objects lace Japanese Bondage Internal Enslavement human toilet Hentai Hanging Hands Foot Worship Foot Massage Food Play Fire Flogging Fetish Models Encasement Fetish Electrotorture Discipline Deep Throating decorative cutting Cunt Worship Covert Bondage Costumes/Dressing-up cosplay Corsets Consensual nonconsent cheerleading uniforms Chastity Devices Chakra energy play Chains Breast Bondage Bondage Tape Bondage Blood Play Biting big tits
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RHP User
11 years ago
If only there was some form of Medicalert bracelet, for hard limits? I have another category... the "I'm fine for you to be into that" category, where it doesn't do it for me as such, but it doesn't make me retch.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'InAdditionTo' (*runs away to hide behind a cushion...pussy). But quietly intrigued... Kisses, Mrs. - Posted from rhpmobile Scoot over, I'm with you! x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow the questions keep coming, this list is getting longer... Can you continually orgasm?Are you OK with forced orgasms?Will you call me Sir and ask permission to cum?Can I call you names?Have you ever been fisted?Are you bi and if so would you play with other girls?Can I tie your tits and beat them?Pegs & Clamps on your pussy? Surely we've covered everything now? Lightness aside, this level of communication is great, there has been previous posts were ladies here have said they had a few nasty surprises/unexpected acts so I think these thorough lines of questioning will hopefully prevent that happening. I think it was Bindman??? that said this type of listing is contrived, but I don't think so.
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cbdlivin
11 years ago
I always have a number of questions on meeting a sub for the first time, but it also depends on the experience of the sub when asking questions, as with lack of experience they sometimes, do not understand what there hard limits are or do not understand some of the various things that can be done and the impact they have whether physical or mental. But in saying that I always have a particular list that I run thru, as it is always a good starting point. Of course we all know what a person will do on first meeting changes with trust being built. B
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you say yes to a list then change your mind. Shouldn't it be fluid apart from hard limits. Everyone grows as a person, shouldn't that list also grow? your list is looking fantastic but how do we fit it all into one night? please oh please where is the eclipse?
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RHP User
11 years ago
cbdlivin - This is for a first time with this gent, and as I stated I'm pretty much a novice. That's why he is being so thorough, he has also called me and had a very long conversation about how I am to use the traffic light system with him. cuckinone - Agree the list should be fluid, this would come from after play discussions. I liked 'x', wasn't too keen on 'y'. etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh, what a night Late December, back in '63 What a very special time for me As I remember, what a night Oh, what a night You know, I didn't even know her name But I was never gonna be the same What a lady, what a night Oh, I I got a funny feeling when she walked in the room Hey, my As I recall, it ended much too soon Oh, what a night Hypnotizing, mesmerizing me She was everything I dreamed she'd be Sweet surrender, what a night And I felt a rush like a rolling bolt of thunder Spinning my head around and taking my body under Oh, what a night Oh, I Got a funny feeling when she walked in the room Hey, my As I recall, it ended much too soon Oh, what a night Why'd it take so long to see the light? Seemed so wrong, but now it seems so right What a lady, what a night Oh, I felt a rush like a rolling bolt of thunder Spinning my head around and taking my body under Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, what a night (Do do do do do, do do do do) Oh, my giddy Aunt, oh what a night, Thank you so much xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't realise there were so many things on the list that I want to try :). Definitely going to copy and send to my Sir.
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RHP User
10 years ago
These have been around for a long time and I for one would not consider doing a scene with a sub until she had completed and we had discussed her Checklist. Google has plenty. Emailable ones are the best. Furthermore, a sub girl is advised not to play until her prospective Dom has asked her to complete one and discussed it with her, identified her limits, provided her with safewords/actions and asked her if she has any health issues like asthma, dislocations, depression...to name a few. Ladies, if He doesnt do His homework about you, it's likely to fail at best, be a potential disaster at worst. Aftercare looks rather pathetic in the ER. If he doesent even know these terms like aftercare and isnt discussing them with you prior, seriously consider if this is a wise move. your submission may be a gift (arguably lol)..but don't just give it away. D.a
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RHP User
10 years ago
As someone going for my first bdsm experience I defiantly don't know enough, don't know over half the things on your list.
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cbdlivin
10 years ago
If you are unsure of a term, Google BDSM for Dummies, has a lot of the terms so you will at least know what someone is talking about....Also there are many kink sites that are worth reading especially when beginning to at least give you a bit of understanding. B
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Missb4u
10 years ago
When you dont know your limits what you will like and what you won't - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Reading that makes me realise I'm more vanilla than I thought I was.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You find an experienced Dom, who is willing to train you, or to try things on you...... Just do your research BEFORE accepting one.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree with @darkman666 There is a bdsm checklist available online that goes through nearly every fetish you can imagine and a whole lot more. Nothing scares me more than hearing a newbie say they have "no limits" and if they hook up with the wrong "Dom /Master" they won't be coming back for seconds! Google bdsm checklist to find the following information BDSM CHECKLIST Basic overview This checklist can be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different. For each item, you need to provide two answers: Experience • Have you had real time experience with the activity? • Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender. Willingness • Are you willing/open to try an activity? • For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below). • If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin* • If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?". Rating Scale 0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit) 1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you 2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you 3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis 4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis 5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity Activity Experience Respond YES/NO Willingness Rate according to scale described above Comments Abrasion Age Play Anal Sex Anal Hooks Anal Plugs (small) Anal Plugs (large) Anal Plug (public under clothes) Animal Roles Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Aromas Asphyxiation Auctioned for charity Ball Stretching Bathroom use control Beastiality Beating (soft) Beating (hard) Blindfolding Being Serviced (sexual) Being bitten Breast/chest bondage Breath control Branding Boot Worship Bondage (light) Bondage (heavy) Bondage (multi-day) Bondage (public under clothing) Breast whipping Brown showers (scat) Cages (locked inside) Caning Castration fantasy Catheterization Cattle prod (electrical toy) Cells/Closets (locked inside of) Chains Chamber pot use Chastity belts Chauffeuring Choking Chores (domestic service) Clothespins Cock rings/straps Cock worship Collars (worn in private) Collars (worn in public) Competitions (with other subs) Corsets (wearing casually) Corsets (trained waist reduction) Cuffs (leather) Cuffs (metal) Cutting Diapers (wearing) Diapers (wetting) Diapers (soiling) Dilation Dildos Double Penetration Electricity Enemas (for cleansing) Enemas ( retention/punishment) Enforced chastity Erotic Dance (for audience) Examinations (physical) Exercise (forced/required) Exhibitionism (friends) Exhibitionism (strangers) Eye contact restrictions Face Slapping Fantasy Abandonment Fantasy rape Fantasy gang rape Fear (being scared) Fisting (anal) Fisting (vaginal) Flame play Following orders Foot worship Forced bedwetting forced dressing Forced eating Forced homosexuality Forced heterosexuality Forced masturbation Forced nudity (private) Forced nudity (around others) Forced Servitude Forced smoking Full head hoods Gags (cloth) Gags (inflatable) Gags (phallic) Gags (rubber) Gags (tape) Gas masks Gates of Hell (male) Genital sex Given away to another Dom (temp) Given away to another Dom (perm) Golden Showers Gun play Hair brush spankings Hair pulling Hand Jobs (giving) Hand Jobs (receiving) Harems (serving w/other subs) Harnessing (leather) Harnessing (rope) Having food chosen for you Having clothing chosen for you (head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) High Heel Wearing High Heel Worship Homage with tongue (non-sexual) Hoods Hot oils (on genitals) Hot waxing Housework (doing) Human puppy dog Humiliation (private) Humiliation (public) Hypnotism Ice cubes Immobilization Infantilism Initiation rites Injections Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage Interrogations Kidnapping Kneeling Knife play Leather Clothing Leather restraints Lectures for misbehavior Licking (non-sexual) Lingerie (wearing) Manacles and Irons Manicures (giving) Massage (giving) Massage (receiving) Medical scenes Modeling for erotic photos Mouth bits Mummification Name change (for scene) Nipple clamps Nipple rings (piercing) Nipple weights Oral/anal play (rimming) Over the knee spanking Orgasm denial Orgasm control Outdoor scenes Pain (severe) Pain (mild) Persona training (in scene) Personal modification (rl) Phone sex (serving Dom) Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) Phone sex (commercial provider) Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) Piercing (permanent) Plastic surgery Prison scenes Prostitution (public pretense) Prostitution (actual) Pony slave Public exposure Punishment scene Pussy/cock whipping Pussy worship Riding crops Riding the "horse" (crotch tort) Rituals Religious scenes Restrictive rules on behavior Rubber/latex clothing Rope body harness Saran wrap Scarification Scratching - getting Scratching - giving Sensory deprivation Serving Serving as art Serving as ashtray Serving as furniture Serving as a maid Serving as a toilet (urine) Serving as a toilet (feces) Serving as waitress/waiter Serving orally (sexual) Serving other Doms (supervised) Serving other Doms (unsupervised) Sexual deprivation (short term) Sexual deprivation (long term) Shaving (body hair) Having (head hair) Skinny dipping Sleep deprivation Sleep sacks Slutty clothing (private) Slutty clothing (public) Spandex clothing Spanking Speech restrictions (when/what) Speculums (anal) Speculums (vaginal) Spitting Spreader bars Standing in corner Stocks Straight jackets Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) Strap-on-dildos (wearing) Strapping (full body beating) Suspension (upright) Suspension (inverted) Supplying new partners for Dom Swallowing feces Swallowing semen Swallowing urine Swapping (with one other couple) Swinging (multiple couples) Tampon training (in ass) Tattooing Teasing TENS unit (electrical toy) Thumb cuffs (metal) Tickling Triple Penetration Urethral Sounds (metal rods) Uniforms Including others Vaginal dildo Verbal humiliation Vibrator on genitals Violet wand (electrical toy) Voyeurism (watching others) Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) Video (watching others) Video (recordings of you) Water torture Waxing (hair removal) Wearing symbolic jewelry Weight gain (forced) Weight loss (forced) Whipping Wooden paddles Wrestling - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh dear my apologies for previous post.. I didn't mean for it to be spaced out like that :/ whoopsie! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just a turn on......... I am to curious by far......... Although, just got introduced to tens / electric play and plugs, all I can say is I want more, especially electrical, wow what a divine feeling.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That list is certainly comprehensive! But I did the same thing with the rating, it's great to have a thorough Dom who knows their responsibility and takes it seriously.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just read that list and saw bestiality, are some girls really into that? Not judging if they are, I just didn't think it was very common, but I might be wrong if it's on a safety list?
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Recently added B&D hard to my fetish list. Might have to take that off till I get a handle on all these things!Maybe I'm a pussy not a sub
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RHP User
10 years ago
@Coriander: Lists are always good when starting to get into Bdsm, but you have forgotten or not been told the most important list, questions about the other persons e.g. are they diabetic, or have they had a heart attack? These questions are necessary as you are using electrical equipment that can cause problems in susceptable people. There is one thing you should learn, no excessive alcohol and absolutely no drugs while playing. Someone dies, then you could be in for a stay in jail. I am a member of Fetlife and alt.com
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RHP User
10 years ago
You couldn't be more right Cyborg53. I've just revisited this post to copy and paste the list for a new play partner. I was Domming a lovely gent a year ago, I had no idea he had knee issues and I had him on his knees on hardwood floors servicing me. I exacerbated his injury and I feel horrible. But he should have told me. Ah the fickle Dom/sub bravery..... Not OK. He should have told me I was causing him undue pain. I could have easily tortured him safely. The safety list also needs to include current medical conditions for all players. Are you asthmatic, are you seeing a chiropractor, diabetic, everything. Transparency is key.
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