M50 F45
Same Partner Same Room Sex
August 28 2017
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
That there are plenty (in our experience the majority) on here, who don't bother to fully read through ones profile wording. Then there those that do, but then don't respect ones wishes and try their luck regardless. We have had many instances where people turn hostile and or become aggressive towards us, when it becomes clear to them that we will not compromise. We have faced verbal abuse and vitriol for not opening our PG on demand, for example. And have them been blocked before we could reply. We see such behaviour as a blessing in disguise as it quickly shows their true colours ,intentions and character . A good test is to hold back on something that someone wants . If they become inpatient and throw their toys out of the cot when you don't open your PG fast enough, then you can only imagine how they will behave in real life and or in the bedroom. Then you get those who get all aggro and use the "this is a sex site and you are here to have sex and therefore must have sex with me " excuse.... and then others that can't handle rejection and go on and on about you not knowing what you are missing and that it's your loss etc etc. Sexual frustration & entitlement makes people do some strange and unacceptable things. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Rusty020802
7 years ago
Hi We have learnt people don't read profiles only look at pics, We put on our Please read profile. Lol but still they don't read Best of luck
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think you'll find it's common for everyone here to be approached by others who clearly haven't bothered to read the words under the pretty pictures :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
My partner and I had a profile on here for a while. We were the same as you as we were new to the couples thing. But we had people questioning our profile and even boasting that " if you meet us we will change your minds". So now we are just happy with the way things are and if anything happens in future it will be whatever we are comfortable with. Stick to your guns xx
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
When there's a perfectly good and fully serviceable block option? - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
For prolly 6 months when we were same room same partner swap for foreplay only ,not once did we get hassled In person or at a party ,we had nothing but understanding responses to our circumstances and what we were ok with ,saying that we always made it very clear from the start,mostly we got thanks anyway ,sort of messages saying we aren't for you at the moment but maybe later if you get into full swapping contact us back sort of messages ,maybe we are just lucky and my bad typing spelling and gramma kills off the nasties ,including the obnoxious single guys everyone talks about 😂 maybe they talked about it behind our backs ,so in that case hear no evil feel no evil ,we are ok with that 😊 Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
Mr HNP and I are very comfortable to do full swap or same partner same room play which is why we state both on our profile. We much prefer play where the connection with the other couple is comfortable and flows well. So in saying that, we prefer couples who are ok with either scenario. That's not to say fun cannot be had with same partner same room play. But for us, we find it allows for lots more variety when everyone shares each other and enjoys mixing things up. Each to their own. Everyone is different 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
Not really sure how you get that from wanting opinions from couples that have been on this site alot longer than us, but we will take on the block option alot sooner from now on. DynamicCouple36 "We see such behaviour as a blessing in disguise as it quickly shows their true colours ,intentions and character" Great positive take on it, we will use it as weeding tool from now on. Mr b Maybe I'll type just like I would talk with my work mates at the truck yard that should scare them off. Oh dam I've let it out that 1 part of us is not a professional couple 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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TheClitWhisperer
7 years ago
May I suggest you to put a line at the end of ur profile who says " if you send us a message start it by " insert a magic word" , like that we will be sure you Ve read it " I Ve seen that often ( cause I read profiles 😜) and I think it s a smart way to be sure they are not only here to perv at pics - Posted from rhpmobile
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2hotbodies
7 years ago
That sounds so boring. Much better wach porn and do what you want .. lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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usnow
7 years ago
Just our opinion .Same partner , same room , we can stay home and do that .Is this the line that couples use when they are really there for female bi play .If it is ( and we have often found this to be their real focus ) just come straight out and say so . Usnow .
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
Quoting '2hotbodies' That sounds so boring. Much better wach porn and do what you want .. lol - Posted from rhpmobile Hmmm 3 to 4 hrs of pleasuring another couple and your partner, heighten seances of being watched and watching falling asleep all together for a few hrs then doing it again the next morning all without having to have intercourse with the other couple is boring ?? sounds like a bloody good night/day to me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
You are the type of couple who put us off the swinging scene. We had our own limits and people didnt respect them. And we are anything but boring...lol
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
Quoting 'usnow' Just our opinion .Same partner , same room , we can stay home and do that .Is this the line that couples use when they are really there for female bi play .If it is ( and we have often found this to be their real focus ) just come straight out and say so . Usnow . Its ok for you to think its boring, We can see clearly on your profile what your after and what your not and because we don`t match we would never contact you for a meet up or be so rude as to try and change your rules. That was the main reason behind our post, but oh wait that would require reading the whole post/profile wouldn't it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
What were your limits?
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RHP User
7 years ago
The pleasure is all fours his and yours - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Why on earth would that interest you, seeing as how we were looking to meet up with other couples. But when you have the guy of a couple telling you exactly how he wants the night played out, sounding like a porn film director, lets just say we decided we'd be better off finding like minded people off the site.
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usnow
7 years ago
Are you implying we contacted you ? Usnow
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have read profile when I have read messages from people....from their profile, what they ask for is not even remotely what their profile indicates. Given that, it is not unreasonable that people may want more than their profile indicates the would... so therefore, if you don't ask you don't get. If you say simply, "no thanks, I not into that", then all is cook.... if you attack and say "if you bothered to read.......", then you may receive an aggressive response. Yes, they probably should have read.... or maybe they though that you might die a little more a than you profile indicates..... and if they don't ask, they don get. I know that my profile has always lagged behind my sexual development. As I have tried new things and found I enjoy them, I have not necessarily updated my profile immediately. I also have expanded my sexual experiences often because someone has suggested something and I've thought (right at that time) why not? The day before or the day after, I probably would have said no. My advice.... politely say no and block if you feel you need to. That said, I have blocked people in the past in this way, but later have gone back and unblocked them when my sexual development has got to the point of their suggestion.
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
No we are not implying that you contacted us. We tried to make a point that after reading your profile we could see that we did not match so there was no point in contacting you. And it would be rude and arrogant to contact you and try and talk you into playing our way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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couplakiwis
7 years ago
I like the way you stick to your guns. We swap but also do same partner same room sex and love it. Having amazing sex with your partner whilst another good looking couple are doing the same heightens our senses and make for a very pleasurable night. I suppose some people dont get it or a maybe way to desensitized to the pleasures of watching others having sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sounding like a porn film? Sounds horrific 😉 😇 You had said you were monogamous and also have previously shared concern about partners straying, falling in love with other casual partners, saying it wasn't for you, you and your man were happy in a monogamous relationship, hence my question. No need to get defensive, fair question to clarify your experience or interest in the subject also. So you're now saying you left the site to find like minded people? What do you mean? Like minded in what way and where do you intend to meet these people? And isn't this in contrast to what you said before?
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RHP User
7 years ago
A general question which the op or others can answer. What does same room, same partner mean? Am I right in assuming it's having sex with your own partner, and the other couple doing the same, but no interaction between the couples? If so, what is the point, aside from being watched which I agree is a turn on, but surely you'd find yourself wanting to merge mid play?
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
I guess its different for every couple, but for us it includes interaction with the other couple, foreplay with them and watching our partner with the other couple and seeing in each others face and eyes the arousal that brings. If both couples are upfront with what they want to happen and both agree and both couples get enjoyment and pleasure from how ever they agree to play that is the point of it. What are we all here for if its not for some extra fun and pleasure. Well thats our take on it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your constant scrutiny of my sex life is bemusing....but to answer this new set of questions, yes, unfortunately a lot of porn is acted out by people with boredom in their eyes and seemingly on automatic pilot and that does nothing for me. ( I actually prefer to watch gay porn as its the most convincing genre in my opinion. ) I was quite happy meeting guys on RHP in FWB situations. Not looking for anything serious. I met a guy quite by chance and we clicked straight away. He knew I was on RHP, didnt bother him, and we discussed meeting others, although both of us were new to swinging and wanted to start off by "soft" swinging, the scenario being that which squeaky-vixen has just explained. However, as we know a lot of people in Perth, go to the swinging club and also, going by some posts on the forums, it became apparent that sometimes swinging isnt the answer. We talked it over and decided to take our profile off and concentrate on enjoying US. Decided that what we had together was not worth jeopardising for the sake of some quick thrills. We are very social and still go to the swinging club and Meet and Greets because our friends go there, so one day we might meet others we get on really well with and it might lead to something. But at the moment we are quite happy with our relationship. And yes, I could 100% be monogamous with this man, he treats me like a Queen, we love being together, he knows all my friends, is going to meet my family and most importantly, him and my son have a great connection. Ive loved being on RHP, have made many friends on here, but Ive been lucky and have met someone off the site who took me completely by surprise. Swinging isnt for us right now, we realise that, but down the line, who knows. At the end of the day its our choice. At this old age Im having the best sex of my life, and anyone who thinks only having one partner is boring must be having boring sex with their own partner. Sorry, OP, a bit of a storyThe End
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks, and do couples normally include kissing? I have read on here some share oral play, but no penetration outside of each couple, but wondered if most still start out with the intimacy of kissing. Sorry for the 20 questions but I've never played as a couple and find it interesting 😄
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
For us it would be on a couple by couple basis and how attracted we are to them.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks, I didn't need your whole life story, but thanks anyway 😃
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RHP User
7 years ago
remotely interested in your sex life, just the truth surrounding that, seems to be lots of innuendo and inconsistencies. But trust me on this, your sex life lol isn't in my mind 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
Coming from the Queen of Inconsistencies. Different stories from one day to the next. Im unemployed, Im very busy with work. I have no inboxes, I have loads of offers. Dry spell, a string of FBs.... Happy as, not in a good place. I really cant take you seriously so whatever you think doesnt put me up nor down, hopefully the personal questions will stop now, then. Thanks.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Queen of Inconsistencies - lol a very good description - we have noticed too
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RHP User
7 years ago
Firstly koko, yes I am incredibly busy, and no I am not currently employed. The extended detail I cannot share on this public forum, but there is no lie in either statement. I'm busy 24 hours a day, people I'm close to know why, you're not one of them, hence you would have to find out through your grapevine. Re the string of fb's omg get a life, I clearly said I HAD a string of them, not once did I say I have now? I've posted tons of comments saying how great it used to be, but how hard they are to replace. I routinely post comments being 100% honest about my current status but if you're claiming I'm inconsistent because my status 2 years ago us different to now? Why am I even wasting my breath. Busy, you have no idea, you seem to think unemployed people sit around on their ass all day. Well yes you would wouldn't you, assume that I mean Seriously, try directing those lame accusations with actual fact instead of more made up drivel
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry for going off track. Great post, it hit home. Its good to know there are other people who have encountered the same thing online. This site is about how you want it to work for you xx
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry koko got defensive about my question and made it personal. Your topic has been disrupted, shame. I'll toddle off now and leave these happy people to it 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's a male thing. They always think they can change your mind, they just need one foot in the door. So they don't care what your "boundaries" are. For them, that is just a challenge.
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squirty_vixen
7 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' It's a male thing. They always think they can change your mind, they just need one foot in the door. So they don't care what your "boundaries" are. For them, that is just a challenge. Yes funny how it has never been any of the ladies from the couples that have reacted this way, stone age men and the internet just don`t mix. But on the plus side the number of respectful couples that we are having contact with is out numbering the neanderthals and we thank everyone for there input and tips.
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Dex1473
7 years ago
Yes we are the same as we don't full swap for sex Male to female for sex as that is our thing. We do everything else up to oral swap and have had great fun with many couples in the lifestyle. Everyone has different things that they don't do. We have played with couples who don't like kissing between male to female but they will full swap for sex so everyone has different wants and needs in the lifestyle. We have found that most couples are happy to play to the other couples levels and not to push the boundaries.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We are also same room same partner (SRSP) and have had quite a few fun nights. Even with couples that normally want to swap. I think the main difference between "Hard Core" swingers and us "Soft Swappers" is that SRSP couples are generally looking for friendship first, then with the added bonus of adult fun that one cannot do with "Normal friends". A majority of the full swap couples are more interested in the sex side of the play time. Good on em. We make it perfectly clear when we exchange messages that we don't swap and most responses have been excepting of the fact. Some have messaged further, others a thanks but no thanks. Haven't met an abusive one yet. A few wankers yes. Some couples like to play the game "Convert a Vanilla" and see us as a challenge,,,,lol. Maybe we should start a new post as to who has converted one and who has been converted,,,:) In the end its up to the individuals and respecting boundaries.
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gccouple1709
7 years ago
Yes, We completely understand where you are coming from. We are also a same room / same partner deal, but so many don't bother to respect that and get surprised when we say we don't swap! People are too lazy to read is our opinion.
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JustBK
7 years ago
Nothing wrong with the same room / non swapping sex. Thats the reason we joined seeking people into the same thing. Swapping isnt something we seek - not saying it would never happen with the right people but its not what we are looking for. And whilst we are new here (and havent met anyone to complain about) having had lots of experience (solo and as a couple) on many forms of social media and other sites - we feel your pain! Keep seeking (like us) there's a lot of fun to be had in a sexually charged or sensuous atmosphere with out swapping - not to mention that whole getting out into nature thing!!
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