RHP

RHP User

F62

Same old, same old

June 15 2014

Why do people go to all the trouble of chatting, arranging a first meet and not show up? It takes me a considerable amount of time, effort and down right skulduggery to arrange even a brief amount of time away from those in my care. It takes months of planning for one single night off! For a man to then just not show is just down right rude! No message, no text, just not show and then have the hide to be on line half an hour later. If you got cold feet a simple sorry can't make it message would have been fine. Its not as if you had far to go either being in the same town as I. If you don't want to meet people then don't join a site like this. - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    To have to arrange around work, family, children and commitments, it's pretty big trying to meet new people, I would prefer the 'I'm sorry I can't' message to sitting there twiddling my thumbs, then your in a mood the rest of the day/evening and at a loss sometimes............ I do understand that some just can't take that step, shy, nervous etc, however I believe it's common courtesy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    looser for sure!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It sadly goes both ways! The number of times that people here (and other sites) screw you over is rediculous. A simple polite message would be more than sufficient!

  • rootratandlady

    rootratandlady

    11 years ago

    We've had a couple of occasions where that has happened. Sat at a pub, waiting, with no message, no nothing. Honestly, how hard can it be. The other thing that drives us crazy is the guy all keen to meet, so you organise something, and they stop all contact. Oh well, guess it filters out the ones you don't want to be involved with......

  • RapidFyr

    RapidFyr

    11 years ago

    Sorry to hear Handmaiden. People being straight up is a rare thing it seems ... X - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Jesus total understatement, It beggars belief, ignorance really is my pet hate, I hate it with a passion, manners and courtesy really are at the forefront of any arranged meet. I really cant go with the nerves theory - your on this site to meet, socialise and whatever else floats your boat, a no show is just a total pure show of ignorance , I feel for you maiden , not all are like that. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    Time is precious when organizing life around kids, work and other commitments not to mention all the effort that goes into preparing for a meet. Then they expect a second or even third chance (yes stupid me!) Argh does my head in! 😡 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I haven't had the pleasure of meeting anyone as yet, but hope to soon... I know that Ladies take a lot of time to prepare for any outing, but I also go to all the trouble I can to give the very best impression... If someone stood me up without so much as a text or phone call to explain what was happening, Id feel like a right 'arse'. Not to mention the blow to the ego that might take weeks to get over... Because of someone who just doesn't care who they hurt or what effect it might have on someone, possibly for a good deal of time... It just isn't necessary and there's nowhere in this country you can be, where you can't get access to a phone... They'd never get another opportunity to hurt me...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Totally agree. If you are not going to meet up in the end then why bother asking in the first place. I really can not understand why people do this. And of course if you do organise a meet whats so bad about sending a msg if something has come up and you cant make it. Shits me to tears

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just like others have said here on this topic, it is just out right rude and disrespectfull. I send them this one little statement. IS MY LIFE LESS IMPORTANT THAN YOURS. Then have nothing to do with them, no second chances because too them its a game.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    What about the ones that show up, complete the night, apparently lie about having a great time and wanting to do it again and then come up with wild excuses why they cant? That annoys me just as much, and can be so frustrating and even offensive. Why not just be honest??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A comment I see a lot about those perceived to be lying, time-wasting, cancelling etc. (Who do all these things because they are just easier than engaging in any kind of confrontation, by the way.*) Unfortunately I also see a lot of people who have become jaded, and sport profiles screaming "No time wasters!!!", "Where are the doers?!", "Is there anybody who actually wants to meet???", "SICK OF LIARS!!!", and so on. Those profiles achieve one thing in my eyes: To immediately weed out the decent, honest and reliable people. They will run a mile at such negativity. *This does not mean these people are all arseholes. I'm sure there are a lot of people who genuinely have issues with saying "No", or "I'm just not feeling it", so for whom it's much easier to just disappear.Their issue? Yes, and personally I think it's not a nice thing to do. But is it always malicious? Absolutely not.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    10 years ago

    To say ....If you don't want to meet people then don't join a site like this. What do you mean by a site like this is what exactly?? It's has different meanings to different people. Social, non social, a quick shag, long -term the list is endless. Lets face it, yes it's rude not to inform someone if they can't make it or no show however silence does say a lot. To me when they do that behavour it simply means, the person was just not that into you...maybe at the beginning yes then something happened that changed their mind. How I see it is, they just don't want to put themselves in any uncomfortable situations/conversations, have some sort of fears not to..it's their problem - their choice. And yes they can be on line when ever one wants to be and when they want. Is the world going to explode because they were on line 1/2hr later? Maybe they have RHP mobile APP - it does show people are on line when they are not. Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I agree - a simple something has come up can't make (if true), Heaven forbid could be truthful and say 'you know what changed my mind don't want to meet). Have experienced the let down before :-(

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I do not sport the notimewasterspls tag because I'm jaded ...it is far more tongue in cheek. After returning from 9 months of bliss with a man I met here (he left with work overseas) I am more than aware of this site and have found all but two approaches genuine..I was simply inferring that stating you don't feel it or ceasing contact would be far more pleasant than lying and misleading or game playing..people are entitled to feel what they feel as is everyone else. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I agree with a few here, it is very annoying when you get all dressed up stocking suspenders and hot pink bits getting very wet with the excitement and then the other party is a no show or they send a message when you are already at the venue or almost there, it leaves a very horny couple feeling frustrated, but we usually have a good time ourselves and it's fun to see a few vanilla people get excited just watching her.