Sapiophile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  First and foremost attracted to intelligence? This is different IMO to finding a connection with someone.Yes the woman may be intelligent but I imagine that is only one aspect of attraction for you ...yes you can put sapiophile on your profile..some people do..just be ware of what it means.Q

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  As yet this isn't a term that has a true definition in the English language. However, as Q says, the meaning is that you are primarily attracted to intelligence - above ALL else. Make sure you understand this before you identify as such. For me intelligence is part of the attraction not the be all and end all. I have met highly intelligent men who were not my cup of tea - for a variety of reasons. Think about what is not attractive to you. Whether it is height, hair colour, body odour, age, education, emotional intelligence, body type, lifestyle, etc. Now include the fact that they are highly intelligent. Does that make them sexually attractive above all of the other traits they display? Over to you. KH

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Thanks Q and Kh for the info. Whilst I do prefer intelligent women, it's only one aspect I seek. A combination of both mental and physical attraction is what I enjoy. A great conversation with an attractive (to me) woman. So luckily I haven't put sapiophile on my profile as that would be misleading. Simon - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I'm not following your logic here (for a couple of reasons), and hope you might elaborate... I note Go Ogle returns some 166000 hits for the term "sapiophile" in 0.24 seconds flat. What constitutes a "true definition"? It is worthwhile to recognise the English language is somewhat fluid, and that vast numbers of words have slightly different definitions in almost as many versions of dictionary you might care to check (beyond those words with multiple, context dependent definitions). Would you consider that in qualifying or being classified as a 'Sapiophile', one may not find intelligence alone to be the sole, be-all-and-end-all personal quality/parameter/trait that determines attractiveness? Rather as you suggest, may concern for low intelligence simply stand as the first 'showstopper' in consideration of getting intimate? (Meaning that rather than finding intelligence attractive irrespective of all other qualities, instead you could meet the most smoking hot person who ticks every box - EXCEPT, you find they're like a "box of hammers", and that lack of intelligence douses all passion and sexual desire).

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  someone attempting to play cupid suggests a potential match for you... People (in this case, the matchmaker) often pigeon-hole others by criteria ranked in an order which I think says more of the values of the person attempting to play cupid. Matchmaker: [Pointing out another person]. I know someone who'd be just perfect for you. Would you like to be introduced? Matchmakee: I don't know. What is this person like? Interests*? Self esteem? (* Read intelligent). Matchmaker: Attractive looking don't you think? Matchmakee: Yeah, but what are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? (** Strike out as appropriate). Matchmaker: Obviously has good dress/fashion sense. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: Has a nice/friendly personality. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: Lives in a nice house. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: Drives a nice car. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: He/she has a good job; earns good money. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: Goes nice places on holidays. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: Has a large network of friends. Matchmakee: Yeah, but what else are his**/her** interests*? Self esteem? Matchmaker: I really don't know, but I believe he**/she** bathes and brushes his**/her** teeth everyday... Matchmakee: How many teeth? [Joking!] Many people place great emphasis on some things I don't much care about at all. I find I'm not at all interested to take matters beyond polite personal distance (or platonic friendship at best) if there is no spark on an intellectual level. I could gouge my own eyes and pierce my own eardrums with pencils if I were to be subjected to the kind of inane tripe that fuels the tabloid Press/"Reality TV"/Radio/Facebook Likes etc etc etc. The order applied to the selection criteria does not matter. The primary question remains the same.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  We can all find meanings of various words on Google (or Go Ogle - which may be more apt on RHP). I am a traditionalist. Blame my English teacher father if you like. Until the word enters the Cambridge or Oxford dictionary, I will call it slang. Both the Oxford and Cambridge online dictionaries (living dictionaries) include Sapiosexual not Sapiophile. Semantics? Perhaps. However, the sapiophile is currently not defined in either. It is mentioned in the Oxford but not defined. Oxford defines sapiosexual adjective /ˌsæp.i.əʊˈsek.ʃu.əl/ /ˌsæp.i.oʊˈsek.ʃu.əl/ ​sexually attracted to intelligent people: If what attracts you most about people is their intelligence, then you might be considered sapiosexual. Cambridge states Sapiosexual as a noun A person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing. Or adjective (of a person) finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing. The roots of the word come from heterosexual and homosexual - how many identify as to who/what they are mostly attracted. I find intelligence attractive but not above all else. It is part of the package. I have met highly intelligent people who are not sexually attractive to me for a variety of reasons. Sexual attraction for me relies on a variety and mixture of traits - physical, intellectual and emotional. I have a predilection for tall men. While that draws me to them in the first instance, there are other factors that come into play when deciding if they will be a sexual partner. If it was height alone, I could have a line out of my door. Mine is a predilection-not a sexual attraction above all other traits. If that had been true, I would not have married the man I did (he is 5'8" and a bit). Nor would I have had children with him. A Sapiosexual - if we choose to accept the official dictionaries- is attracted to intelligence in the main. Is that what attracts you? Does it matter if they are obnoxious? Or abusive? Or tall? Or short? Blonde? Brunette? Old? Young? Educated? Uneducated? Unkempt? Meticulously dressed? Is intelligence the most important thing to you for sexual attraction? If so, then by all means identify as a Sapiosexual. I won't as I don't find intelligence to be the most sexually attractive trait. Does that make me any less or more than those that do? No - just different. KH

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  If you masturbate to a video of a woman lying on a bed, staring seductively into the camera, and telling you softly and tenderly what you want to hear... which is recounting pi off by heart to at least 30 decimal places, you are a sapiosexual.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Lots of info there thanks. And some interesting points of view. I think that unless intelligence is the only criteria, you can't class yourself as sapiosexual. It would be like someone going out with anyone who goes to the gym regularly. Or doesn't smoke. There has to be more to it. So the question is.... Is there such a thing as a true sapiosexual? Simon - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Whilst the definitions you offer above do state an attraction to intelligence, neither presume intelligence is the sole, nor even the primary reason/source of attraction for the people so identified. It appears that may be your own interpretation of the OED and Cambridge Dictionary texts (? - I state this as an observation; not a criticism per se). Considering the definitions of the "sapio"prefix, and the "phile" suffix, I'm not sure there is any particular distinction to be made between the terms "sapiosexual" and "sapiophile". I guess it's likely necessary to consult the Psychology texts or professionals for more definitive terms. Not of any particular concern to me; just interesting etymology and anthropology.

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