Hottie1

Hottie1

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Saying 'no thanks'

January 15 2015

At a recent swingers party, the fucking was in full swing. Playing next to me was a good looking couple and she was blowing him, all the guys in the room couldn't keep their eyes of this girl. One of her hands was on his cock, her other hand was on my thigh. She looked at me, winked, and I saw this as my chance to partake. I started whispering in the guys ear, I ask 'do you share?' and he says 'yes', I ask 'can I help your girl suck your cock?' and he says 'NO'. His girl looked at me and mouthed, 'I'm sorry'. Now before anyone says he wasn't attracted to me, he didn't have to say yes etc, I know that and I understand that. My question is (and consider this a community service coz we can all use these ideas) what is a nicer way to say ' thanks but no thanks' when it's obvious you're into the party scene? Even if you're not a swinger, how can you say no thanks politely? Mary xx

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    simply say "I much prefer the mouth I've got but thanks for asking". 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    ;-) Is that the right answer ? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "could we just be good friends?" Seriously, in the heat of the moment "No" is brief concise and most importantly unambiguous. I'm sure if it was guy asks girl...... "NO" would be perfectly adequate.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is not a BAD word, no is a GOOD word. People get all bent out of shape because THEY associate the word no with rejection. No is good because it is feedback that allows you to change. However you can say no firmly and politely, or rudely and aggressively... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    The answer is the same regardless of the efficiency of how it was delivered. We I going down on a lovely lady, to disengage to have to explain, in long form, why there is no sharing at that table.... would just piss me off. DG

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    10 years ago

    I agree No is good enough, full stop. I at times am not always confident to be assertive with a 'No' hence I'm looking for other ways to say it. Stir, I have a new one to add to my list, gender inclusive too 😉 Mary xx

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Learn to just say...... cool. Smile.... and you go back to watching the show as it was.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "I think she she's doing just fine down there, but thanks for the offer!" "No" is a full sentence, but personally I like to follow it up with something that shows I'm rejecting the offer and not the person. Hope that makes sense.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    She has her hand on your thigh,he says yes he shares,you make an assumption based on positive feedback but in the throes of whateve's he succinctly says a resounding NO..I doubt that he would have been in any state to compose something less succinct...but an ouch moment for you Mary xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thats just confusing communication for you mary.You got a yes, yes, no.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Boils down to manners..some people are rude in other walks of life (especially on here, in their messages) so being at a party shouldn't be much different [Mr. here] - I am a bit particular with who I let go down on me at a party since I have a very sensitive glans (and there are some ROUGH women!!) ..but i will always ensure that I convey it in a polite way and add some explanation to it. The last thing you want to do is unintentionally upset someone else at a party and kill/change the mood

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    He was probably focusing on other things at the time and a monosyllabic response was the best he could do with his brain otherwise occupied. I would have been interesting seeing her mouth "I'm sorry" given what she was doing at the time. She should have known that it is not polite to speak with your mouth full.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No I'm not that kind of girlNo, it's not going to fit in thereNo way, I'm not a porn starNo, I don't think that's even possibleNo, I already had oneNo, I have a boyfriendNo, my dog is watchingNo, eww, what have you been eating?No, no, not in my eyes!No, my room mate will hearNo, I have to get upNo, please untie meNo, nobody likes thatNo, I have a headacheNo, I have to do my hairNo, I just did my hairNo, I have a .... thing All quite effective, but a simple no thanks will generally suffice.

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    10 years ago

    There is no issue, he said no, I asked for his permission, it wasn't granted, all good. Yes mixed signals from both but hey I'm a big girl, I'll deal. I'm asking for other ways to say no, even if the play hasn't necessarily started, I'm trying to build my own repertoire as well. I agree Simple Needs and Mischievous Lad, his girl was doing a might fine job on him, if the drool and hard on of the other guys in the room was any indication, I have no doubt he didn't want her to stop and he wasn't thinking with his big head 😛 Thanks for the input Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No thank you...Thank you ,no ...Tempting as that offer is,I must decline.......How very kind,but no....Oh ,gosh.I am flattered,but no..... Really, I am tempted but ,no.....and then there are the other language responses........Nyet,Non,Nada, xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You forgot "No, I have to clean the toilet" :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    He could at least have added a thank you!

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    No means no - men or women.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You got the yes and no answers from two different people though, and I think they were both clear. They just didn't agree with each other. ;-) Simon, one I like is "I would totally say yes, except I don't want to."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    She stuck her finger up his bum as you asked the question? But to answer the question I don't think I'd be trying to formulate a more polite response in that situation. Maybe 'Fuck no' but that might be more rude.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No, is no. You can say "No thank you, awfully kind for you to offer!" to some and they take it as an insult, or you can say. "Fucken touch me and ill scream!" to others and all they think is, twat! but don't really give a fuck. What you say has little to do with how its taken, it changes from person to person. It helps to be polite but polite sometimes is not well understood. Social skills vary from person to person, don't read too much into how people say things, the what is all that matters in the end.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Hi Mary, thanks for the post. Well me thinks the obvious retort could have been "I suppose a fuck's out of the question" Cheers Markxo£