RHP

RHP User

M37 F37

Searching for single women aka unicorns

March 22 2020

Hey all, My partner and I have been in this scene for a few months now and starting to get super frustrated with some behaviour from people, especially the single women. We’ve had 3-4 single girls who we have found attractive, had some good and promising convo’s with. However, we try to arrange, and/or agree to meet but it then it seems like the convo’s die and they go down the ghosting path. Get given a bunch of different excuses or simply get totally ghosted. It’s become super frustrating and getting to the point where we might just stop trying all together. I understand that it could be daunting for single women to join a couple, however I’d prefer they not string us along. Any advice or thoughts are muchly appreciated, especially from the single ladies Thanks - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    This is common behaviour by many today. Age, sex, orientation, relationship status does not discriminate. I have no expectations of anything these days. Sad really but best way to be for me & how to navigate when it happens which is frequently. Try not to take it to heart or personally. Perhaps the reason for the unicorn label? All the best.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Its best not to chat too long. As conversations go from what do u like sexually to possibly a sex text situation. Then there is too much expectation or hope for something to happen. That is same for anyone. Best to just meet socially with no expectation. Just an hour for coffee or drink. Then everyone goes home and has a think about it. Just a small invesment of time in real life and not online. Can be the difference of making for a great 2nd meet. I can say as a bi single female id appreciate that. However from my experience that rarely happens. Also being aware that most will always consider there personal safety. So a invite to a home or hotel is not a great idea until some trust is felt. It takes consideration on both sides.

  • noeleena

    noeleena

    5 years ago

    Hi, This is some thing I have given thought to. from the single female point of view. I know I am at a disadvantage in distance and age, I,m a Kiwi and over the ditch and age at 72, of cause now the 3 rd detail is our border,s are closed so no flights to Melbourne and as I was planning on coming over in June / July that wont be happening . For myself the idear sounds good and even with my physical detail,s I would be interested in something like you have brought up, I have not talked to other,s concerning what would be expected as I have no clue, so that,s being honest , any way as things have changed I doubt I,ll be going any where,, still would be lovely to be able to discuse what you both think about your ?.s ...noeleena...

  • usnow

    usnow

    5 years ago

    And what would you suspect this could be ?The usual fake female profile perhaps !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Generally we bring up the idea of a meet up very early in the convo and get a positive response, but also get the generic, “I’m busy with this of that” etc. Then when we do find a time that suits, they begin to flake...slow responses/no response to messages and then just disappear all together.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    5 years ago

    Lets be honest Ill say this with s high degree of confidence..... You weren't talking to genuine women you're only messaging a “person” and that person is just words on a screen who may of may not be who the profile or photo displays until proven otherwise So theres no point getting frustrated with fakes Just learn to spot them

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    There’s so many maybes with this situation... But the only thing you can control in this instance is how you respond. Ms Phoenix and I have had conversations last less than 10 messages, we don’t try to figure it all out, it’s their shit...we’d rather know whilst at messaging stage they can’t handle us or we’re just incompatible as we are, than to find out in other ways, whatever they may turn out to be. Mr Dragon

  • CoastCouple2018

    CoastCouple2018

    5 years ago

    Every single couple searching for the same as you are in the same boat. Only difference we’ve been stood up and ghosted a lot longer than you

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Maybe, just maybe it is happening because you are not feeding the unicorns the right foods to entice them. Ms Foxy

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    5 years ago

    Maybe the ghost unicorns are in reality dreamer guys just sitting at home getting their jollies. Unless you actually talk to someone on the phone and then meet in person you can never be sure. On the flip side, we have been swinging for over 20 years and we can guarantee that Unicorns do indeed exist. We have met quite a few. Good Luck

  • atomicblonde

    atomicblonde

    5 years ago

    A while ago, when I was a new single female on here I was inundated with messages from couples. I spoke to quite a few whose profiles appealed and inevitably it would usually end up being mostly the “male half of the couple” (or single male perhaps in reality) then just trying to get me to meet with them separately or play on the side from their partner (if they actually had one). I would often be the person suggesting a meet and them finding excuses not to when I would insist on meeting both of them at the same time. I wouldn’t mind playing separately with an attached guy if there was an attraction there, but I wanted to ensure I wasn’t being a part of a cheating scenario. To be honest I really lost interest after many times of similar things happening, even though I was genuinely wanting to find an open non jealous couple to play with regularly together or separately with both. Unicorns do exist- but I bet many of them like myself have had their time wasted by similar experiences to the point where they don’t bother taking people seriously anymore. Believe it or not we get time wasters too, I’ve even had single guys that have been all hot air and just wanting material for their wank bank. There’s plenty of free porn go look that up instead!

  • sasssy95

    sasssy95

    5 years ago

    In my experience single women doesn't like couples interrogating them all the times or constantly asking to meet up in first few mins. The conversation needs to be stpped up slowly. My personal experiece i lose the interest in couples too fast when they get too pushy.

  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    5 years ago

    greed and naivety is bad combination. If getting an unicorn was that simple....sex industry will collapse.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Don’t you just love the way single guys are the go to scapegoat. Like single women can do no wrong, pure as the driven snow. It never fucking stops.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    People are busy. Most people aren’t creative. Many people have no idea how to communicate in a way that engages ongoing conversation either, which doesn't help. It’s boring. Their photos make them look like murderers. Would YOU be interested in you? BE INTERESTING! And no I don’t want a blow by blow description of what you cooked for dinner or when you’re headed to the office, I’m not your wife and I’m not your girlfriend. I want to know that you have some interest in me as a human being. Not just as a glory hole. Some thoughts.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I get it, I really do, I understand most messages are shit, but most messages are totally ignored so why bother, the demands are high and constant and the rewards are none or slim at best so it's a race to the bottom.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Finding the right couple is hard on the other side too. There has to be an attraction to both in the couple, often one does it for you but the other doesn’t. It has to be a 3 person chemistry not just 2. I’ve found it really off putting when it’s clear that it’s about meeting just the males fantasy. The awesome ones I’ve had are about pleasing all 3 involved equally. Love love love it when they are both into it. Try a group chat with all 3 of you on Kik and all 3 participate- love getting his and her messages even if they are together at the time. ...and don’t expect any meets until this Covid shit is over 😢😢

  • Brodie_jemimah

    Brodie_jemimah

    5 years ago

    A lot of the time a single person is only interested in one of you. Or the girls just do it cause their intentionally not meeting anyone and using this as some sort of “feel good” thing to make themselves feel better by shutting couples down. Or it’s a dude pretending to be a girl.

  • 2EssesExploring

    2EssesExploring

    5 years ago

    All the permutations seem to have been covered above. You just have to treat these sites very casually and try not to waste too much time as they can drain you. We find getting to meeting stage very hard on these sites. Trying to match up with people then find the right time, then when we have time available have to select a candidate to meet who may then stand you up...which one of the candidates was real and wouldn’t have stood you up is a mystery and they likely think you stood them up! We have actually met nearly all our real play partners through other avenues.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Do you really think the conversation is with females

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    We like to chat for a little wild firstly to see if the lady clicks with us and the same for her we always offer for the ladies to have lunch coffee ETC just the ladies so she comfortable and sometimes the ladies play the first time then we move forward with the 3 of us having a coffee if we are all happy we play

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    TBH we've just decided to go down the couples / groups only path. Not that we were looking for singles anyway, but the guys were too pushy and the girls were usually a fake anyway. What we have seen creeping in is couples who struggle to find a unicorn hooking up with a couple and leaving the visiting male out of the fun to a large degree. Happened to us once and we've chatted to others who have experienced it as well of late.