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Security Measures - what is reasonable?
August 23 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
There are wonderful guys on here that are honest and sincere and happy to give you what you are looking for, just some sexy hot fun with no strings. But when it gets to being interogated and asked for I.D and last names, I think you will find that you will scare them away. Also, it might be better to do the meeting in a public place first? For your own peace of mind. Just a quite beverage to chat first,with the choice to then take them home with you if you both hit it off. And I reccomend having a friend that you can let know where you are and text/call them when you arrive and when you leave. Same as if a guy you havent met before comes to your house. I used to let my new meets know that I would be telling a friend where I was,(and be giving my friend their mobile number)and all guys respected that I was being cautious for my safety and didnt mind at all that I called a friend when I first arrived to meet for the first time.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do not give out your address and phone number!!!! Get KIK so you can chat safely, also meet out somewhere coffee, bar somewhere there are people around. You don't have to do anything you don't want to, but yes maybe you are wanting too much info straight up. I don't tell anyone who I am until I have met them and have a feel for them, I definately wouldn't tell them you are doing a background check. All they need to know is that a friend of yours knows you are meeting and where do that you are safe. I personally wouldn't go for much younger men when I was first starting out, to some of them you are a notch and is that what you want to be? My first experiences were lovely, but I need a connection to have sex, hook ups don't do it for me at all. Really think about what it is you want first. Good luck xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
great minds think alike love - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just curious, if a guy asked you for your copy of your drivers licence, would you willingly give it to him?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Asking for a drivers licence is a bit over the top
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RHP User
9 years ago
I run on instinct and have an impeccably impenetrable screening process in conjunction with a highly developed sense of intuition. There's no rule that says it has to be in your home - there's always the option to get a room in a reputable hotel instead.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm wondering the same as Willow. I have never ffelt the need to do a check on anyone, my instinct has always been correct. But I'm aware that some people don't have good instinct. I too have seen the low points in society. In my job, however, they have to be treated the same. It sounds like your worried about your safety, and that's good. So meet away from home until you feel comfortable. RHP doesn't have to be about 1 night stands. It can be about regular sex with the same person, with no relationship(as boyfriend /partner) and That's your choice. I think you need to feel safe first. Hen remember not all men are like your ex. So don't treat them that way. Respect works both ways. Have fun, stay safe and meet new people by going to meet and greets.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You must feel very hurt,your world has just fallen apart.Sometimes having sex with strangers ,can be a way to numb the pain,but is that really going to help?...Why not take some time ,at least six months to at least start the healing process..Just my thoughts xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Freya, that's what all my friends are saying to me, to give it a while. Willowtree and jennifer102, I would show my licence but would blank out everything but the name and birthdate as I told both of the guys to do. I think meeting up for a coffee would be the best way to go from now on. Still not sure if I want to go this way. I am looking for a friends with benefits scenario. With someone young I know that it would never lead to anything else. Would hate to go out with someone and be asked if I am his mum lol! My intuition is very strong and I did have a good feeling about both of these guys. But my logical mind took over and freaked them out. Live and learn! Thanks for all of your help.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
have some trust. Even a little. If you dont, it aint gonna work. Remember, its a 2 way street. He has to trust you as well. Have a little faith in humanity. Annie xx
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
We have just had a topic covering similar lines by someone else, who also did a background check beforehand (differing circumstances), and that, generally, also did not go down too well with the majority. Willow and Sugar have already pretty much covered the basics, so I won't add to that. But do think how you would react yourself to a similar request - would you really feel comfortable if a bloke asked for your particulars first ? As mentioned, go for a drink or other casual meet first if you're not entirely sure and sus it out. Make up your mind after that as to what direction you want to go afterwards. Tall
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inspirit
9 years ago
Just doesn't work. DL check is way over the top and I know I would never hand over my DL to anyone. I don't want people snooping into my PRIVATE life just for a bit of fun. NEXT. Chill out OP, get out there and fuck the pain away for a bit. It does help, however if your going to be sus on everyone then why not pay for a Gigolo.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Give yourself a break! You've just been through hell, there's no need to put yourself through more. When you feel readymeet publicly and take it from there. Most people are trustworthy, they aren't all like your ex. Good luck x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
In my (limited) experience I've never expected to meet anywhere but a neutral space - bar, coffee shop, etc. I have no problem giving my name and some details but i have privacy that demands respect too. Don't make it a or nothing, and I'm putting in a good word for the older gents here too, who have learnt some manners! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
There'll be one not far from you soon enough, a good way to get around.
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NawtyNNice777
9 years ago
I always meet on neutral territory for the first time, a bar, cafe, park... Got Kik so I don't have to hand out my number. And a trusted friend will always know when I meet someone for the first time and I always text that friend to let them know I'm safe either during or after the meet. What you've described would send me running! No way is anyone getting a photo of my drivers license, nor would I meet anyone at my place for the very first time. Or their place for that matter. Unfortunately there are too many freaks in between the decent guys. You've mentioned kids. Another good reason to NEVER invite anyone to your place for a first meet. You say you're not looking for a relationship, just fun. Nothing wrong with that, but don't leave your brain at the door. Be safe for your own sake and your kids'. There are plenty of ways to have fun without exposing yourself or your kids to any unnecessary risk. Have fun xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
But from your OP and profile, you sound a touch bitter. Its fine to 'play'...but is that what you are genuinely doing? Or are you trying to 'even the score'? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
and they say men don't handle rejection well sheesh 👎👎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Did you actually read the post?...if you did your comment is very harsh xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
yup.... Her husband left her for a new lady....yep that's harsh too... But harsh could also be calling the new partner a toad faced whore.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
it was a "toad faced bogan whore" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Take time off and fill your life with what you have always wanted to do. Spend time getting reacquainted with yourself. AND always meet people, male and female, in a social environment initially. Preferably doing things both parties are already interested in. You must be extremely hurt. Find joy not revenge. Build yourself up. Too much potential on the net to meet people who are players. You need healing. These sites do have lots of fantastic people but also lots of users. Best of luck xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
She has much reason to be angry... Perhaps it would be better directed towards the ex though....he is the one who cheated and ran. Not the TFBW... I agree... Bad form. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Jack_Denials' There'll be one not far from you soon enough, a good way to get around. Maybe there may not be a RHP function near you soon, and from what I can gather from your post, you want to get 'into it' now... Nothing impedes the healing process more than making it more complex and difficult by opening up (literally) for Tom, Dick or Harry... (No offense at all, intended). I'm with the 'give it a little time' crew, before you go and have your fun and (maybe payback) and also possibly a need to reassure yourself that you're still attractive and worthwhile... Ladies have a great need to do (and know this) after such an awful experience and state of affairs. It hurts terribly and I feel so much for you... Please don't go and get yourself into a situation that will be difficult to extract yourself from just because your husband did what millions have done... There ARE decent men around, but you won't find them by going for someone who is 15 or 20 years younger. Most will fuck anything that walks just for the pleasure and the 'notch' in the bedpost. And PLEASE don't make the venue your own home. There are numeroues alternatives. Please look after yourself, physically, emotionally and don't forget your kids... By the way... You want younger men because you want to have fun??? (This isn't a suggestion or a criticism or anyhting but a question born out of curiosity). What is so 'unfun' about someone your own age or a bit older... there's experience there and there's also understanding and empathy that you'll never find in someone who's 20... Good luck my friend... You certainly need to have a think and sort a few things out first, before you have ANYONE in your own home (whether you 'investigate' them or not...). I hope happiness is around the corner for you...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its hard enough when you split and there is a third party. Having a vent to strangers to let a bit of steam off isnt a crime. Peace out.
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Slow down a bit, how long are you chatting to these guys (hours or days) before you're wanting all their details, Meet for coffee, see how that goes, if you like them and it feels ok, then take them home and fuck then senseless, if that's what you want to do....But yes if I was in their shoes, I'd be running a mile too and I wouldn't be giving you a photo of my drivers license (full name, address, DOB), God I don't even give most people my surname.....💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
Couple of things i'd add, if you have any doubt they are legal age DO ask for proof of age aka driver's license, i have before, i gave one guy the option, proof of age or let it go, he happily showed me and it was all good, saw him a number of times after that but i certainly wouldn't ask every guy. And never feel like you have to go ahead with intimacy if you have any doubts, that doubt can surface at the 11th hour, you are in control, don't ever forget that. The other advice about meeting in public is good advice, by the time you've talked, and met, you'll know whether it's right or not and good luck. Get to know yourself and enjoy your own company first though or during this period in your life but have fun, enjoy your new freedom too, good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Kik only. First meet public place. Then play. Never invite someone directly to your home. Too many personal questions makes me uneasy, you only need their first name. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
How about taking a great big deep breath and then relaxing. Having a relationship end because your husband has left you for someone else is incredibly painful, and I'm sure that like anyone else you're feeling a combination of hurt, anger and grief. The process is actually no different to dealing with the death of a loved one. Frankly, what you're going through is worse. Because death is at least final, eventually you move on and are left with just happy memories. This isn't. It's ongoing and that voice in your head is in over drive, with "If only...." At this point, I suspect your trust bank for anything except receiving the right change when getting leaving the supermarket is probably at around zero, or in the minus range. (Which is acceptable considering what you are probably going through emotionally.) In the case of meeting and dating via here or any other site, my only criteria is that I know enough about you to know that you aren't some nefarious character. I can usually glean enough information from chatting to someone to make a decision about whether they are appropriate to meet, and I think KIK is a great option for a bit of ongoing banter that gives you some degree of protection. As a women though, I always insist on meeting in a public place, & receiving a text message via mobile phone with a number that I can see is legitimate. I usually tell a girlfriend where I'm going, how long I expect to be, send her a text message when I return home & leave the number of the person I'm going out on a date with, with her. At least that way if something does go amiss, someone has a starting point. And I would never, ever give my DL or anything else that identifies me to a complete stranger. Once someone has that, they literally have your identify. Story over. If you're feeling vulnerable, take a break from dating full stop until you feel ready to enter that fray. Your own company should be the best company, so take the opportunity of enjoying you, just by being with yourself for a while, before you jump in and allow someone else to be part of your life, that expects you to share a bit of you with them. (Does that make sense?) Just don't let what's happened make you bitter about life. And quietly chant, as my mother has always said to me, "Things happen for a reason. Out of bad things, good things happen. Something amazing and wonderful is around the corner. You just can't see it yet."
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TallBaldSexy
9 years ago
You definitely need to be careful sweetie there are some serious nutters out there. In fact think it best if we go out for dinner and chat about this younger guy issue...happy to disprove the myth😜😜😜😜👉👉👉👉😎😎😎😎😇😇😇😘😘😘😘😘.......SAxx
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TallBaldSexy
9 years ago
Live in WA...oooopsies shall have to wait until the Peth M&G hope to be there😎😎
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rupamohan
9 years ago
You could have asked these questions without revealing a lot about your situation...but anyway it is your choice. Use kik or similar IM app that doesn't reveal your phone number. You can also try a separate sim card & cheap $20 phone just for play contacts. Skype paid membership will allow you to call and sms a mobile number without revealing your phone number but skype can't receive SMS replies. However bi-directional txt can be exchanged in IM mode. There are few methods to get instant virtual temporary phone number with various options like blocked inward calling. If you need more info from me inbox me. Not all security strategies can be shared in public forum.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Except for Stirry lol. She does look like a toad. Bulging eyes and a wide mouth. Why on earth wouldn't I rubbish the woman who has contributed to tearing apart my family and her own family as well? I just had an experience with a young guy tonight. Next time, it will be someone older. Lesson learnt! He was a lovely guy though. Yes, I am going to meet in a public place first off. But where do you guys go to play if he isn't coming back to yours and you aren't going back to his? Going through a divorce, I can't afford hotels.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Rely on your friends,for when the pain is too much,ask them if over the next couple of months if they can be a calling circle...just to provide an ear ,not advice..This was advice I got from an amazing therapist when I was in a similar situation .There is no guarantee that a much younger man won't become emotionally attached to you,sex can be carthatic but it is also complicated xx hugs Freya
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Hottie1
9 years ago
The responses you will get on here will depend on the individual's previous experience and they will read into your post based on these experiences. From where I'm coming from, I haven't been cheated on and I sense your hurt. You want guarantees and sorry RHP doesn't offer guarantees. You have trust issues and these need to be addressed outside of RHP. Very few people know my real name or what I do and I wouldn't come near you if you asked for my private details. You also want some control over your life, you feel that knowing details gives you some control, again, RHP won't give you that. I'm an advocate of counselling, you need to deal with your feelings about 'the toad faced bogan whore' (Slut shaming not ok for me, sorry) and address the issues of the demise of your relationship, get closure and move on. I think meaningless sex can leave you more hurt and vulnerable than you are feeling right now. Whatever you decide though, take the time to look after you. All the very best, Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
..... before you graduate to the wham bam 6 pack brigade ... who's after heat rejections may be just as damaging to your bruised condition. Why not try some people your own age ... male and female from here ... just socially. A coffee ... get your patter right ... blow off the the pressure cooker that you have got going ... before you takeout a suburb. ... and I dont get the your place for a first meet ? .... hotel ... club ... I wouldn't even do his place first up ?? U42
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RHP User
9 years ago
JUst a heads up on the 'age' thing. I'm not sure about now, but it used to be that the age of consent for males was 18... not 16 as it is with females. So have a Google on an Australian site to make sure... Glad to hear you did the 'younf man thing and am working your way up... Good choice. You're going thrugh something that they couldn;t possibly understand, nor would they want to. To a young bloke, you are a fuck and that's it. (apologies to any late teens (or early 20's blokes on here, although I doubt there's many... But I was a young bloke once and I remember very well. Soemone you won age or a little older is someone you can also get some solace and maybe advice (as they've probably been through it themselves) and they'll be a good 'sounding board for the things you want to get off your chest and just some comfort from someone who knows what you're goung through. Who knows, they may become a great friend... That happens often on this site... Sex and then a great friendship (that no longer involves sex), just respect and friendship for someone you care for and know very well.
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RHP User
9 years ago
All the states have different legislation. WA says this: It is an offence in Western Australia to sexually penetrate a person under the age of 16.It is also an offence for a person in a position of authority over a person under the age of 18 to have sex with that person.
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Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
About a year back I met a lady at a local coffee shop. Within five minutes she was bashing my ear about her ex, THEN I was accused of not using my real name (which I was), and THEN was accused of not being 44 (which I was at the time). THEN she demanded to see my DL. I said, 'Have a good day', got up and walked out. Wrong attitude and far too much too soon. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Neither with RHP nor the Vanilla site, have I ever had any issues concerning the lady wanting to know the ins and outs of the cats bum. Believe it or not, men are also a little wary of giving out too much info in the onset. It can lead to 'the horror woman', who won't leave you alone, or doesn't understand the word 'No'... As far as RHP is concerned, meeting someone for the express purpose of possibly having sex soon after meeting (I imagine that's the general idea..) is something that requires a good amount of trust on both sides. The bloke could be 'lying' and is in a relationship and is just 'playing up' on his Mrs. So could the woman! So you have to just trust and believe people are what they claim to be. Asking for ID on this type of site is taking it a little too far. For the lady, at least, meeting in public, during the day and maybe making sure a friend is nearby are sufficient precautions to for the first meeting, if you feel they're necessary. Over and above that, you just have to trust and during the meeting, look for the signs that may ring alarm bells or maybe cause you to question. If you find that to be the case, trust your feelings and decline. As for the Vanilla sites... it's a different ball game, with different rules and aims, so the security issue is taken more seriously, especially by ladies. It's a much longer process in which two people get to know each other over a couple of months before sex enters into it... Most of the time, anyway. I have found myself being 'hurried along' sometimes, but never less than a couple of weeks after a number of emails, a few phone calls and at least two meetings.
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robchris
9 years ago
A comfortable chastity belt. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Bottom line is, you can fuck who you want,when you want and how you want and for what ever reason you want to justify it to yourself. Youre old enough to make your choices. May be exactly what you need. Keep it all positive for both sides and get what ever you need from the experience.If they change their mind before meeting you, thats fine,they have a choice too. For the ones you choose to meet, play safe, and give them a bit of trust and respect even if its just a one night fling.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A group of Perth girls including myself regularly meet up for drinks/lunch/dinner, sometimes out or at sometimes home. Most of us have been in your situation. Feel free to message me xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Service2love'But where do you guys go to play if he isn't coming back to yours and you aren't going back to his? Going through a divorce, I can't afford hotels. My profile might have the same postcode as yours, even though I do live up the road a bit...I can't get RHP to recognise my postcode
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Minx99
9 years ago
I absolutely think asking to see a DL is acceptable. For a single woman who could be easily overpowered, and just for general safety reasons, I always ask. I have very rarely had a gent decline. I too like them young (ish!) and have no intention of having a relationship so the DL is a safety measure only. I don't Google them or chase at all, I don't need to know where they live and I don't swap telephone numbers (using Kik instead). I do however know how it feels to be hurt in a relationship and the damage that can do to your ability to trust, and/or to reasonably assess a situation. So, maybe give yourself a little breathing room and buy a Hitachi for now :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Naughty_nature
9 years ago
Everryone here is giving you good advice on safety so I'll just give you my 2 cents worth on the fact relationships do happen on here when your heads in the right space. - Posted from rhpmobile
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mint_couple
9 years ago
We've found younger guys to be unreliable, especially if you're an older woman. They get cold feet easily.There are plenty of nice guys 45-55 on here who are fit, attractive, well hung and can go all night :)
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Dimeshreds
9 years ago
From a guys side I prefer to meet up for a casual drink at a bar that may lead to sex that night, coffee is for relationships and we are not here for that. I feel safer that way and then either one of us can leave if it gets awkward. You are 42 and still have plenty of life in between those legs so I understand the want of a younger guy, you must now understand that what you order is what you get, in the 20's it is 10 mins of awkward chat followed by 10 mins of awkward sex and a sticky mess to clean up...lol I have a 10 year rule either side of my age bracket and it seems to work out fine, the sessions last longer if you can have a break and chat for 5 if you need to. My advice is to get the body in good shape, eat well and choose wisely. You will be loving casual sex in no time.
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Hottie1
9 years ago
Nanna's really? There are some pretty hot nannas on this site, not much older than the OP, but you use that term perjoratively and that's not ok. The only sage advice you give is to chose wisely. How does getting her body into good shape and eating well either increase or decrease her chances of enjoying casual sex? Last time I had casual sex all that was needed was a hot and hard cock and my wet pussy! 😕 Mary
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Dimeshreds' coffee is for relationships All those casual bonks I've had which started out with coffee....who knew I was doing it totally wrong...
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Really digging the comment You are 42 and still have plenty of life in between those legs So for you, having a pulse at 42 makes them fuckable? Oh actually if I read further, only if they get the body in good shape as well. That's why I tend to stay away from you young folk.... you haven't quite cottoned on to great sex having a little to do with physicality, but everything to do with the mind.
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RHP User
9 years ago
No matter who you are meeting... meet in a public place, in daylight... choose a comfortable place where you can sit in comfort... 20 minutes either side of the appointed time is reasonable. Remember most people are decent and honest. Ask plenty of questions and talk about life. If you connect then arrange a more private rendezvous. I have never stood up a woman and have only ever been stood up once in 10 years. I would suggest that one in 10 people I have met I have progressed to a closed door meet. One persons experience... Faith, trust and respect!
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RHP User
9 years ago
OP, lots of comment I agree with have been made questioning if you are emotionally ready to do this, so I'll just answer your question. "Is it wrong to want a first and last name so I can do a background check? " No, I don't think it's wrong but it will definitely drastically reduce your chances of meeting anyone. I never (ever) give anyone my last name here and the majority of people won't know my first name until after we've met. We're both old enough to have seen Fatal Attraction and those kinds of demands will scream "bunny boiler" to many guys, I think. The last thing I'd want is anyone Googling me and tracking me down via Facebook, LinkedIn or some news articles I've been named in that mention my location. Other things I do to keep myself safe: - I read a guy's messages carefully, also between the lines. Men only wanting to meet during the day, are only contactable at certain times or put a lot of emphasis on discretion I will assume are married. Any sign of a man being demanding, impolite or angry? I'm out. - When asked where I live in a first message, I usually give a suburb right next to my own. My name is uncommon and my suburb tiny, so safety first. - I don't give out my phone number anymore, and use KIK messenger, which uses usernames instead of phone numbers so people cannot trace you. If you don't have a smartphone, buy a cheap pre-paid phone from Coles and use it for RHP only. - I've created a special Gmail account for emailing with RHP members. (I made it for setting up this account actually, so any hackers doing the same thing here as with Ashley Madison: good luck.) The same goes for a separate Skype account. - I will always meet in a public place and never sleep with anyone on a first date. I want to get a feel for the person before having sex with them. Less quantity, but more quality that way in my experience. I will always meet my date at the venue, and never let them pick me up from my place. I will also make sure I have cab fare on me if I'm drinking, so there will be no reason for him to drive me. - When on a date I will look for little things like a mark left by a man's wedding band, how he speaks to the bartender, if he bags others, etc, never leave my drink unattended (spiking) or have too many, and basically just trust my gut. If a guy's an aresehole, in my experience he will usually show some signs early on.Of course I will again clarify there won't be sex at the end of the date and that no condom will mean no play at all. - I will tell a friend where I am, and (casually) mention this to my date. - If all went well on a date and I feel the guy is genuine, I'm usually happy to meet at my place next time. (I do prefer going to a guy's house the first time we do have sex though. That way I can confirm he is actually single, though with younger guys I get that can be tricky as some live with flatmates.) - On a second I will again mention a friend knows I'm with him (and they've seen his profile and pic), but probably not mention my ex lives around the corner and is ready and waiting to beat him up... ;-) - I will always have condoms at my house, in case he "forgets". Any sign of a man preferring not to put one one, he's out the door. No ifs, and or buts. Seems like a hell of a list (and I'm sure I've forgotten heaps) but for me personally most these things go without saying and all have become second nature. I've never felt unsafe yet.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Dimeshreds' From a guys side I prefer to meet up for a casual drink at a bar that may lead to sex that night, coffee is for relationships and we are not here for that. I feel safer that way and then either one of us can leave if it gets awkward. Wait, I'm learning here. Drink = sex that night, Coffee = relationship? So if I order a coffee Martini, would that be considered me wanting both, like a sexual relationship even? That's it LD, we can't go wrong now! (Maybe even order a Patron Café you're feeling especially confident.) I think you're absolutely wrong about people not being here for relationships though, something many posters have refuted over time. However, I also prefer a drink over dinner. Not great having to make it through an hour or more if after five minutes you realise you really don't have anything more to say to each other. Speaking of which, good luck Dimeshreds.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Guess we all fucked if we dont drink then. Sentenced to a life of relationships. Lol. Plenty of life left between my cheeks too......
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Lickrishfairy
9 years ago
I think the same as yourself. Im wary, still am after being in here quite some time ,on and off. I dont ask for last names ,i never give out my address . I habe a separate phone for this sort of thing just so i dont answer friends with the seductive hey huni lol and so no one thats going to be in my life at this point has my phone number. Always chat here till you feel comfortable and a banter comes naturally. Then you can arrange to meet in a public place for coffee,lunch or,drink. Always have that one gf who will be there for you just incase. After a few meets at a hotel and u feel,you trust them only then do,i let a select couple in my house. I habe a few stories of weirdos and some funny ones, always look out for yourself. Ive often wondered about background checks myself lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
So I dont drink grog any more. So no sex for me.Doomed I tell ya!! Do I get a root if I have a lemonade in a wine glass???
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RHP User
9 years ago
The best of which is to follow your instincts. The "list" she provided is a good start for most people, however your own experiences will dictate a few variables that will in time become second nature. As someone from a high risk sector of the security industry, I will also say that in this day and age, anyone asking a potential date for ID for "personal" reasons is either going to be put into the scammer or the bunny boiler category. Hell I don't even give potential employers too much information until I'm comfortable that their offer/business is 100% legit. Let your experiences and common sense guide you and you shouldn't have too many issues.
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RHP User
9 years ago
From someone with life left between her 52 year old legs, age has nothing to do with good sex. But I will say, OP, younger guys do tend to get cold feet, I agree with mint_couple. Im talking guys in their twenties. NOT all I may add, but dont get taken in by endless messages telling you how hot you are.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Op, you asked in your reply post where can you play if you dont use yours or their home,apart from a motel. Previously,a friend and I would go to a swingers venue. Go in as a couple, for $70 and play in a private room. Share the cost and its not very expensive at all.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Let's hope the door hit him on his way out. People do find love here OP, open heart, open mind but that doesn't by any mean say people should let their guard down here either. I' gained a female stalker at one time as others here have and make or female they aren't any fun. I personally like the people I meet to understand sex IS NOT ON OFFER simply the opportunity to meet socially, have a coffee/drink and suss each other out in a public setting surrounded by lots of people. Yes someone will know where we are and the profile I'm meeting if not his first name and mobile number if I have it. These are trusted people so that person need not be concerned their privacy will be handed over to a Nigerian phone scammer. I broke my own rules only once.......I was given the choice "You can enjoy it or not, your choice." I chose self preservation, he was very tall, very strong and no one would've come had I screamed for help or fire. 2yrs online prior, not a stupid woman, had been chatting with this man off and on for nearly 9mths, in a way I was cocky and over confident about my own safety. Dimeshreds with your attitude I would find you as appealing as this encounter and headsup women aren't here for your entertainment. That goes both ways, respect in everything. I usually don't have sex on the second date either, maybe the third......I need to know mutual attraction exists and the person I'm with values me as a tginking, feeling human being not just a hole or a cum dump. Blunt and crass but in my experience men like to be treated like the men they believe themselves to be, my men; honourable, intelligent, trustworthy, respectful, discrete but honest......and entirely delicious!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks so much all of you for wonderful advice. I have a friend who is on here too and she warned me about young guys who get cold feet. I. Am guessing my bunny boiler ways didn't help ha ha! Kokoflamingo, would love to get together with you and the other ladies. I can't message you as I can't afford the upgrade at the moment. My prick of an ex has been withholding his wages so I have been stuck with the mortgage and all the rest on my own. Could you message me? Freya, I was messaged by a few people who told me that you give great advice, and you do :) I am meeting a guy from here tomorrow for - gasp - coffee! Does that mean I will be in a relationship lol?! You will be happy to here that he is 38. I am going to see the 25 year old again too. He is very sweet and I think i could teach him a thing or two ;) he lives walking distance from me so it is super convenient. Even better, it enrages my ex when I tell him how good it is to be with someone with hair that I can pull on when screaming their name! There is no going back with the ex, I just like to ruin his day. I am feeling stronger every day. I am loving the taste of freedom. I have met some lovely people on here. It's true, it is not all about sex. Some very kind and genuine people.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Older guys are the best.by far. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Great advice from all the ladies here, i alway meet first for coffe or drinks then if we are both happy take it to the next stage....i alway tell a good friend who i am meeting and when and ask if i can give her their mobile number...no one has said no yet. You have to understand that people want discretion on this site as do you i would think, so the 20 questions up front is probably a little over the top. I have met some great guys and couplecin this site, so if you are only after so nsa sexy fun...here's where you will get it. Good luck with your search :-) and have fun x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting Service2love... ...Even better, it enrages my ex when I tell him how good it is to be with someone with hair that I can pull on when screaming their name! There is no going back with the ex, I just like to ruin his day. I am feeling stronger every day. I am loving the taste of freedom... Glad you see the value in the advice you've been given by those who've 'been down the road'... The cirmustances (almost wrote 'circumcision'... LOL... that post should be deleted... Hehehe) are different for everyone, one way or another, but as far as the 'cheating and seapration' and the 'EX' are concerned I think you'll find, from an 'inner peace' aspect, that letting go of the 'anger' and 'payback' attitude will get you to a better place more quickly and make for an easier recovery from the betrayal and the 'hurt'. I've been through my 1st wife cheating numerous times, including with my 'best friend', then leaving me and the kids... I know it's more often the other way round, but I was on the receiving end... Not that he doesn't deserve it... It does make you feel better if you can rub his face in it, but in the end, 'anger' and 'nastiness' do tend to tear you up inside more than it's worth... I found I didn't want to be the cause of anyone's hurt (even her's)... But of course, I understand completely how much you want to 'SHOW HIM' what he's given up... I hope it works our for you... and make sure you get what's coming to you... I lost far too much because I trusted she'd do the right thing... Huh!!! (This was nearly 30 years ago and laws have changed), but make sure you have GOOD representation... A real 'SHARK'... That's where you really can get the payback. In the hip pocket... LOL
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Lifes_great
9 years ago
Take it easy on the Stalkers baby! It's a profession just like any other...years of study (surveillance), smart uniform (normally overalls), company vehicle (van). I know we have something special Quoting 'On_Safari' Let's hope the door hit him on his way out. People do find love here OP, open heart, open mind but that doesn't by any mean say people should let their guard down here either. I' gained a female stalker at one time as others here have and make or female they aren't any fun. I personally like the people I meet to understand sex IS NOT ON OFFER simply the opportunity to meet socially, have a coffee/drink and suss each other out in a public setting surrounded by lots of people. Yes someone will know where we are and the profile I'm meeting if not his first name and mobile number if I have it. These are trusted people so that person need not be concerned their privacy will be handed over to a Nigerian phone scammer. I broke my own rules only once.......I was given the choice "You can enjoy it or not, your choice." I chose self preservation, he was very tall, very strong and no one would've come had I screamed for help or fire. 2yrs online prior, not a stupid woman, had been chatting with this man off and on for nearly 9mths, in a way I was cocky and over confident about my own safety. Dimeshreds with your attitude I would find you as appealing as this encounter and headsup women aren't here for your entertainment. That goes both ways, respect in everything. I usually don't have sex on the second date either, maybe the third......I need to know mutual attraction exists and the person I'm with values me as a tginking, feeling human being not just a hole or a cum dump. Blunt and crass but in my experience men like to be treated like the men they believe themselves to be, my men; honourable, intelligent, trustworthy, respectful, discrete but honest......and entirely delicious!
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On_Safari
9 years ago
I miss you steaming up my windows (from the outside!!) and yes WE DO have something special. I found a supply of glow in the dark zippy ties.....wanna play? Let's talk xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
You forgot 'bogan'. She is a toad faced bogan whore. A very apt description for all home wreckers. 🏡
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