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Seeking the unicorn
April 24 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very hard, but don't give up. Just relax and enjoy the journey more than getting to the destination. Expectations are a big killer in this place, as expectations lead to disappointment :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes, this is asked very often and the common replies are as follows:1. Take a look around the forums, there's great profile writing and other advice there for those seeking the elusive single woman.2. Get some public photos up! No single woman will look at a profile that doesn't have a pic.3. Your profile wording is too templatey, use your imagination and write something that actually describes you as people, and what a woman could probably expect out of meeting you. On a further note, you want to get to know people well before playing, yet only want play meets? Sounds like way too much message tennis to be interesting.And finally...4. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of couples out here looking for the Single lady (and there may only be about 3 genuine, unattached single ladies on here if you believe all the other posters), so unless you have something really super-duper outta-this-world-amazingly-special to offer, and can put this across in your profile enough for a woman to want to message you, you are going to have to put the leg work in yourselves and it's going to take a while. I'd suggest trying a club in the mean time... you might get luckier there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Firstly i suggest you check out the "Findiing Single Bi Woman" thread - there are a few of us unicorns who have offered feedback in that thread that may be useful. I'm outside your required age range but i will offer a few comments that are probably still relevant in any age range. I think you need to do some work on your profile before you can expect much success. No photos visible is a straight up no from me. Your profile is far too brief for me to make any assessment to be interested in you. Here's my post from that forum. Here's some ideas why couples might find it difficult to find that elusive unicorn. 1. Most Unicorns - or single Bi Ladies - don't want to be someone else's "experience" 2. We are spoilt for choice - i probably get on average, between 10/12 messages from couples a week, often that many in a day or two. 3. Many unicorns don't want to play with attached couples - they just see it as being fraught with problems, jealousy issues etc. We are quiet capable of getting a couple of friends together and organising our own fun 4. Unicorns may not want to play with first timers, if the female partner isn't Bi, then this can just be uncomfortable if she discovers she actually isn't getting turned on by it. Best of luck guys, hope you find what you are looking for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is really hard to find that unicorn, as you're finding out. It may be simpler, and easier, to simply hire an escort. But, as with all things in this, YMMV.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This seems to be a common theme that pops up regularly. I personally know of no less than 5 single, experimental (Bi?) ladies who are happy to play with couples, all of which are on this site and regular forum posters. (these are women I've actually met, there may be dozens more that i' don't know about, haven't met, or just aren't open about their oreintation due to the fear of being inundated) ) Have you ever thought that maybe you don't offer enough to interest we unicorns? That at some point there has to be something in it for us as well? We are out there, we really aren't that elusive, but we are spoilt for choice and we can pick and choose. The laws of attraction still apply, make what you have to offer compelling.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unfortunately your target area is narrow as there is no huge cache of single bi-females that we know of..Also narrow is the window of opportunity that she be single or between relationships and available..If only Noah hadn't been so pre-occupied with green alligators, hump backed camels and some chimpanzees...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' This seems to be a common theme that pops up regularly. I personally know of no less than 5 single, experimental (Bi?) ladies who are happy to play with couples, all of which are on this site and regular forum posters. As one of the five, I am also well out of your age bracket. It makes me wonder if twentysomething year-old unicorns are even more elusive than the more mature ones? I didn't start exploring this side of me until last year, because I was always in straight monogamous relationships.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'karynb' This seems to be a common theme that pops up regularly. I personally know of no less than 5 single, experimental (Bi?) ladies who are happy to play with couples, all of which are on this site and regular forum posters. As one of the five, I am also well out of your age bracket. It makes me wonder if twentysomething year-old unicorns are even more elusive than the more mature ones? I didn't start exploring this side of me until last year, because I was always in straight monogamous relationships. Me too. Until recently, I was only ever in monogamous relationships. My "kinks" or thoughts of sexual experimentation where always frowned on by my partners. I did what I thought was th enormal societal trend and got married young, and worked hard to provide for my wife and I. I did all the things that I thought was expected on me by my Parents generation. I know some 20 something year old couples that are willing to play with other couples their age, but never just the girl on her own. Having said that, I have noticed that there are more women my age and onward, who have had similar personal experiences to myself who are now enjoying things that they once never even thought of. Personally, if I was fortunate to be part of a couple in your circumstance, who are eager and willing, I'd be less conscience of the age of a person, and more interested in what they have to share. You'd be amazed at who you will meet.Any
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whilst i've always been a little experimental i didn't explore this side of myself til my 40's either. Perhaps it takes age and experience to be truly comfortable with who you are? To also be able to leave the ego at the door and be willing to participate as an equal in these kids of arrangements? Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'karynb' This seems to be a common theme that pops up regularly. I personally know of no less than 5 single, experimental (Bi?) ladies who are happy to play with couples, all of which are on this site and regular forum posters. As one of the five, I am also well out of your age bracket. It makes me wonder if twentysomething year-old unicorns are even more elusive than the more mature ones? I didn't start exploring this side of me until last year, because I was always in straight monogamous relationships.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Ive learned although sites like this infer meeting like-minded people is easier... and there is that potential........ the reality is that there is a far greater "pool" of people beyond the boundaries of this and other websites, living their lives and fantasies out in the 'real world'.DG there are only a small number of people who are members in websites such as this......compared to the majority who live their lives away from internet sites.And if I was to compare statistics on such things, the results would reflect the
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Sheeeeeesh.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hear they have a secret breeding program for unicorns here somewhere. Rumour has it that you have to sneak though the lion enclosure to get there. Enjoy your journey! X
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe easier to win the lotto ?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Even unicorns can't find unicorns hahaha they aren't called mythical creatures for nothing... Seriously though, they're a rare breed and highly coveted for that very reason. Just be patient, go to events and meet and greets etc - Posted from rhpmobile
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
But they are well worth the patience and effort when you find an amazing, gorgeous one! Xxviolet
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
I couldn't agree more :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You guys are looking for a partner for a three-way, unicorns are a little more and that is why they're hard to find ;)There is a bit of social opprobrium attached in some circles, but relax and they do turn up. I probably wouldn't look here, just be active and social and you will find the right woman in your age group.
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RHP User
11 years ago
'It makes me wonder if twentysomething year-old unicorns are even more elusive than the more mature ones? I didn't start exploring this side of me until last year, because I was always in straight monogamous relationships.' I'm in agreement here, I'd only recently even considered exploring my sexuality with a woman & now although I'm keen I still have nerves....& not fulfilled my first time....not far off though... :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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