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Sensitive subject...
November 05 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Anyone on this site who has has unprotected sex with say 10-20 others in their lifetime, multiply this by their partners and all the others throws up million to one odds. They are all probably carriers and dont know it. Medication I would think for anything that can hit one nowadays
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RHP User
12 years ago
it wasnt me that caught the STD however as I had been playing with this lovely lady around the time she contracted it she was kind enough to tell me. I promptly told anyone I had also played with as a precaution. The 3 people I had to tell were very understanding about it. We all got tested (2 of us opted for testing and treatment while awaiting the test results - over kill maybe but we didnt think so at the time). Luckily I (and my 3 partners) came back clean. Since that incident the initial female involved and I have become rather finicky about condoms being used during oral (particularly in a group environment) as well as penetration. In these same situations unless I know the women really well Im less inclined to perform oral on them as well (unless I have some dental dams). Kisses Focus
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RHP User
12 years ago
I waited outside the women's clinic to pick her up after wards. She came out in tears saying they'd found some genital warts. The woman who did the examination was most un-sympathetic. She did not call her a dirty little bitch, but it was strongly implied.We'd been seeing each other about 6 months and I knew full well she liked to get about before that. So I popped that in the "comes with the territory" basket. I gave her a big hug and went off to see my doctor, who was a cool dude, to sort the shit out.For some reason I do not understand I did not come up positive. Just lucky I guess. I'm sure it was explained to me, but that was ages ago.I did discover UV light makes your willy shrink. ~giggles~
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RHP User
12 years ago
Come on peeps.... STD's are on the rise so some of us must of had an STD at some point. I admit it.... My doctor rang me once to tell me I had been a naughty girl. I had the clap. Boo Hoo. Was fun telling my playmates though. Truly, they all laughed at me & thought it was hilarious. the doctor suggested i tell everyone I had had sexual contact with in the past 12 months. I even had to tell the biggest slut I know he might have the clap. I tell you some people have to be immune. He was amused no end. Interestingly enough no one else tested positive. Mmm maybe some people lie heh? LMFAO. Yes I always use condoms and no I don't use protection for oral sex. I only have one regular friend but yes on occasion I do go to a sex club, few times a year. So I guess I was unlucky. I also don't get why people freak out at this. It's there and there is a good chances you will get something at some stage. Just get regularly tested and all's good.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Meeka and Focus.. thank you so much for responding. I think it's really important for people to hear these kind of stories. To hear in a frank way, that it does happen and that people deal with it and move on with their sexual life. Also Meeka, your attitude, is brilliant, open, honest and brave - very down to earth. I think the regular testing thing is a must too.. just for peace of mind.
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Its attutudes such as yours Crackup that make people feel uncomfortable talking about this.This should be a very easy and open discussion!a couple of years ago, one of my friends rang me to say that a regular partner of his had chlamydia and he was getting tested just incase he had picked it up too.We always took precautions so I wasnt too worried, saw my GP and clean results, all good.I am very happy he took the two minutes it took to call me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why thank you very much. :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes but no but... Ruby alot of people on the forums want to be seen as driven as pure snow! Bollocks I say!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of course it's a sensitive subject Ruby. There is most definitely a stigma associated with STDs/STIs. It is not exactly something I would find easy to divulge to anyone should I be so unfortunate to contract one. It probably shouldn't be uncomfortable when you have to let someone know that they need to be tested as you have tested positive for something, but I don't think it will ever reach the point where you should just let any old friend over coffee know. I suppose it's one of those 'on a need to know basis' sort of things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Or even as pure as the driven snow.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Another bashing.. sigh. Ruby.. I wish your sentiment was true.. I agree .. it should not be a 'sensitive' subject but alas.. the reality is.. it is.. for many people. What 'should' be and what 'is' is often poles apart and that.. is just life. Great though.. to see there are those who are happy to share their stories...and thereby.. take away some of the 'stigma'.. that often surrounds such discussions.
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RHP User
12 years ago
a couple of years ago i had a bf who had it but didnt tell me, we were together for just under a year and he knew my sexual lifestyle before and after the relationship. a long while later after we broke up i was tested and it came back that i had chlamydia. i had to call everyone i had sex with and felt horrible and sick about it, but i did it because i thought they outta know and desserve the respect of being aware of it; whereas i didnt, even though my ex knew it he didnt have the balls to tell me. during the relationship he also refused to ever wear a condom and always came inside me- easy to say now that he was an asshole and that i should have known better to stand my ground but hay i was pretty young and foolish. nowadays im pretty paranoid about contracting something and do my best to put a condom on my conquests, and get tested regularly... better to be safe than sorry!
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
That there is a strain of incurable gonnerhea on the rise in Australia. Now because I can't spell it I am sure to be immune but it is a very scary concept.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can honestly say that I've never had and std or sti. But I'm yet to meet someone for sex off this site too for that matter. To address the other point, I also don't believe it should be considered a sensitive topic of discussion. One thing I love about this site is the level openness to discuss such topics.
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RHP User
12 years ago
See Ruby........... I let people know over coffee. I was amused by it. Quoting 'Saskia72' Of course it's a sensitive subject Ruby. There is most definitely a stigma associated with STDs/STIs. It is not exactly something I would find easy to divulge to anyone should I be so unfortunate to contract one. It probably shouldn't be uncomfortable when you have to let someone know that they need to be tested as you have tested positive for something, but I don't think it will ever reach the point where you should just let any old friend over coffee know. I suppose it's one of those 'on a need to know basis' sort of things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' I can honestly say that I've never had and std or sti. But I'm yet to meet someone for sex off this site too for that matter. To address the other point, I also don't believe it should be considered a sensitive topic of discussion. One thing I love about this site is the level openness to discuss such topics. Darl... there are loads and loads of lovely single vanilla people that wouldn't dream about going on a sex site who are riddled with STD's. Moral of the story always wear condoms and if you do have more than one partner you need to be tested regularly. As a sensible responsible adult. Okay maybe I am exaggerating about the riddled bit... but you know. LOL Hardtruckin I am just going to have to educate you aren't I!
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are a number of STDs you can have without any symptoms and it's common to get a false negative or false positive test. I will guarantee there are many people on this site who have STDs and don't divulge it to partners, and even more who simply don't know they have the STD. Anyone who says they're 'clean' - you know those people, we've all heard them say it on here - needs a little wake-up slap. Having an STD doesn't make you dirty. Having a test that comes back negative doesn't mean you don't have an STD.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Am I the only one that is petrified about catching one and am an advocate for the whole 'if its not on, its not on'
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry I can't shut up lately but ... it does annoy me that people on a sex site are considered easy, or people that go to sex clubs are considered easy or slutty or likely to get an STD. It is bullshit. There are single people all over Australia picking up every weekend and as one lovely young person told me... condoms are going out of style don'tcha know, who have STD's and they don't even know it. Never even consider getting tested. Okay, so I didn't tell all my friends about it but I am not ashamed of it either.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hardtruckin and others.... when was the last time you had an STD check? As mentioned above. I think some people say that but they haven't actually been tested. _Agree Brave_Heart.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'rissl1980' Am I the only one that is petrified about catching one and am an advocate for the whole 'if its not on, its not on' Do you have oral sex with a condom on and use dental dams for cunnilingus. Wow good on you. If you are just talking using a condom only for penetration you may need to read up about STD's because you are misinformed. You can easily get STD's from oral sex and just skin on skin contact.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
That's waaaay scary to hear about the Gonorrhea without a cure. Fortunately though, that is one that can be dealt with by condoms.. oral though, if you like it au naturale presents a problem. I agree Meeks, it is very annoying to be judged so.. it's a bit like sex workers.. they are probably the best to have sex with, they are savvy, educated and because their living depends on it.. they take no chances. I think those involved with a more 'alternative' lifestyle (I use that term to differentiate between a vanilla lifestyle.. including picking up every weekend and those who are swingers, attendees at sex clubs, members of sex sites, etc, etc), are more 'aware', and more motivated to take care of their sexual health. .. because of their involvement in the scene and the understanding of the dangers and risks.
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ontheflipside
12 years ago
My last STD check was last Friday, even passed out from the blood test haha All keen, so surprise really.
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RHP User
12 years ago
ugh who actually likes performing oral ex with a condom? ...anyone??
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RHP User
12 years ago
....I had Gonhorrea once...quick jab in the butt and ten days abstenence and it was all good. Nothing since then. I have been regularly tested although now in a committed monogomous relationship where we have both been cleared, no longer bother with precautions. I did have a former playfriend ring me about seven months ago to tell me he had genital warts...fortunately I do not...did not, but also appreciated his call.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I get tested every 6 months, for the works. Funny story, I know a married guy who got chlamydia from his mistress, he offered to cook one night(first time in their 10 year marriage), crushed the tablet in her food and away he went, he took his and she was none the wiser. I disagree with cheating but I think the level of sneakiness in that instance was funny
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RHP User
12 years ago
Man no wonder some people are so casual about STIs..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Yes I always use condoms and no I don't use protection for oral sex. I only have one regular friend but yes on occasion I do go to a sex club, few times a year. So I guess I was unlucky. I've got a question, but cannot message you. Coulp you drop me a line?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' Quoting 'Meeka100'Yes I always use condoms and no I don't use protection for oral sex. I only have one regular friend but yes on occasion I do go to a sex club, few times a year. So I guess I was unlucky. I've got a question, but cannot message you. Coulp you drop me a line? You're a guest, oops, was not paying attention. Tried to message you, but your inbox does not like me... Just wanted to say I'm keen to try a club and was wondering if you'd take me with you sometime. I may be seeing you at a certain someone's meet and greet in Sydney in two weeks?
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
is the way many people here come from the negative side when posting their questions.If you begin your first sentance with "this is such a sensitive subject..."you have many thinking that it must be!And it is not....or at least it shouldnt be.Its just headlines on newspapers and magazines, never let the facts ruin a good story as long at it sells at the news stand..ppfft.
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Splicey
12 years ago
Quoting 'rissl1980' Am I the only one that is petrified about catching one and am an advocate for the whole 'if its not on, its not on' Nope. We're apart of that crew MrsSplicey
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Hey Ruby... NEWSFLASH....If you don't like it....then don't read and comment on my posts hun. Its just my opinion...same is yours is just yours.. no need to get knickers in a knot.
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
*Newsflash*....I am not your hun.Its not just your posts, seems there is a lot of Headlining going on around here lately.At least you have in the past admitted to posting topics just to stir the pot.Aint no knots in my knickers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got bitten on the arse by an Alsatian pup (Thank fck he was only a pup too) whilst I was having sex with his owner.. I had a mad women get savage and slashed my belly with a knife once.. or twice.. and I got fleas.. I got hit in the head with a double adaptor from a woman who caught me in bed with her cousin. And got king hit from a fella who caught me in bed with HIS woman. I am also sure IF i thought hard enough, I could find some more shit.. *shrugs*
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Ruby, I don't apologise for asking things which are topical, controversial or.. deemed to be 'stirring the pot'. I think discussion of things.. anything, is good. I do though respect the fact that others may not find it 'suitable material' and again, I re-iterate, if my posts offend, then .. don't read them. I will not 'buy into' threads which are of no interest to me..or where I find the OP's outlook offensive. I do, appreciate you commenting, I think what you had to say had very good merit.. such matters should not be treated as 'precious' and kept behind closed doors. We are sexual beings and part of being such is acknowledging that things like std's exist and need to be dealt with in a mature and open fashion.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' I got bitten on the arse by an Alsatian pup (Thank fck he was only a pup too) whilst I was having sex with his owner.. I had a mad women get savage and slashed my belly with a knife once.. or twice.. and I got fleas.. I got hit in the head with a double adaptor from a woman who caught me in bed with her cousin. And got king hit from a fella who caught me in bed with HIS woman. I am also sure IF i thought hard enough, I could find some more shit.. *shrugs* So the dog didn't give you fleas, but the mad woman did? My life is so ordinary!
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
I will always comment on any forum if I have anything to say.Meeka....You~ Me ...Coffee. bwahahahahaha
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RHP User
12 years ago
And told the guys , they all freaked out. This was back in the day when condoms were not really used much. I also was told by one of my play partners that he may have an STD, and I am married so you can imagine how that felt. I was so glad he did, what a man and I respect and admire him a lot for speaking up. He did not have to do that. We both tested clear. My Doc says that most and I mean most Australians now do carry an STD of some sort and have no clue they have it at all, especially warts and herpes. Its just the way it is these days and at least they can be managed. I had a friend, who told people she had herpes, yep she found out and rang around and every single guy was a total arshole all but one. She might as well have had leprosy , all the big boys got hostile as shit all the players who think they are immune or something. Only one guy stuck around and is still seeing her, and no he does not have herpes he just has a clue and is mature enough to know what its all about. I think if you say you have it on this site or even in the normal date scene people will run like hell. My daughter read an add in the paper, it said "Herpes guy looking for meeting with women with same" I said to her, that is the most brave and honest man on the planet, good for him.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' I will always comment on any forum if I have anything to say.Meeka....You~ Me ...Coffee. bwahahahahaha And that's as it should be Ruby.. There is an awful lot to learn from others.. even if it is just that we may 'agree to disagree'. It would be very quiet in here if we didn't 'contribute'.. .. ... .. Coffee sounds nice ladies.. enjoy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 years who just happened to have herpes. Now when I first met him he didn't tell me about it, he kept up a pretense that he was STD free and clean. It wasn't until maybe a couple of mths before we split up that I discovered his hidden medication and after doing a google search discovered what it was for. I had myself checked at the doctors where tests came back clear then confronted him about it. He admitted to having herpes for the past 7-8 yrs and knowing full well that he had it. Luckily for me I didn't contract it. I left that relationship feeling like a fool because not only did he know about his STD status, but so did his brother and 2 cousins and not one of them cared to warn me either of the dangers.In regards though to people actually knowing about such things. Do people really care? My ex was cheating on me and when I tried to warn the girl of his status and that it can be caught even if you use protection, she didn't believe me. I know of several women on here who have slept with him and may have caught it and not know. Do people really want to know or do they just want to bury their heads in the sand. I wish I had been told.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Man no wonder some people are so casual about STIs.. Think of it like getting the flu. It only takes contact with one person you know. This stigma thing is just old fashioned. Yep usually a tablet or a shot in the ass or a dose of antibiotics for a lot of the STI's. It ain't scary people.... only if you leave it and don't get it treated. Then it may become a problem.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know what you are saying Ruby and I agree but as you can see from people's posts that people are terrified of it and some seem a little misinformed. Not that I am any doctor....but my understanding is that most STDs are curable with simple medication. HIV on the other hand is very scary indeed so yes keep the condom on. Quoting 'ruby_blossum' I will always comment on any forum if I have anything to say.Meeka....You~ Me ...Coffee. bwahahahahaha See you there! I will have the frothy latte... seems appropriate.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey HEART-N-SOUL there are few different strains of herpes and there are all lot of people that have it too. ALOT! Every person that gets cold sores has a strain of herpes. To my knowledge, limited as it is, that people with herpes are usually infectious only when they have one of the sores or it is coming up Or something like that. TUSCANRED, that is true lots of people have an STD and don't know it which was my point earlier. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' Quoting 'DeviousMissM' I've got a question, but cannot message you. Coulp you drop me a line? You're a guest, oops, was not paying attention. Tried to message you, but your inbox does not like me... Just wanted to say I'm keen to try a club and was wondering if you'd take me with you sometime. I may be seeing you at a certain someone's meet and greet in Sydney in two weeks? Sorry, I have turned my inbox back on so that you can message me now. Unfortunately as a guest I can't message other women. And of course! Let's go out and explore the naughty side of Sydney. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can't wait!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had crabs once.♋ ♋ ♋ ♋
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Brazilian_girl'ugh who actually likes performing oral ex with a condom? ...anyone?? Hate the taste of rubber, and never use one in oral sex ever.. But in saying that nether myself or my wife have ever cought any std's of any kind (Touch wood) But back in the 70's in Marble Bar of all places I did catch "Buster The Body Crab" that was fucken itchy.... Hopefuly we will not have to ring people to say: go get checked out you mit have something you dont want....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Hey HEART-N-SOUL there are few different strains of herpes and there are all lot of people that have it too. ALOT! Every person that gets cold sores has a strain of herpes. To my knowledge, limited as it is, that people with herpes are usually infectious only when they have one of the sores or it is coming up Or something like that. TUSCANRED, that is true lots of people have an STD and don't know it which was my point earlier. :) Can be caught any time with our without an outbreak, people can have it for ever and never know Each time you have skin on skin, cells shed so if you have been with anyone , just one contact you do not have to play around, just like you said Mekka Its like a cold All you need is ONE person , it could be your first time to have sex And like the woman before hand, your partner had herpes and never told you Look what happened when he did. So fear of loss plays a big part in STDs, telling another person, is a very hard thing to do and most people , like my friend got made to feel like she was dirt. Lucky her female GP is a gem and well and truly up to date with all this stuff. She advised my friend to stop going on dates for at least six months, not because of the herpes but because of the way others crushed her self worth when she told the truth. To all you people out there, herpes and warts is more common than not having an STD. Your tests are only conclusive when you get a outbreak and have that swabbed. You may never get an outbreak your whole life. Your tests if done just by blood alone can give a false reading. Life is full of risk,no matter how careful you are. But gloving up may help with other things like HIV etc. When your in a group fuck, swingers or even one on one, sometimes the guy slips it in bareback Before you get a chance to say hold up hon , put this on please. And yes it feels so fucking good , you are not as quick as you should be to stop the play and put one on. I am sure most of us have had a slip up or three at times of our lives. Even rubbing the cock over your lips before you enter has risk, sucking cock has risk In the grown up world that’s life, we can wrap ourselves in glad wrap or cotton wool but then do we live life? Nothing in life is full proof, but we can try to minimise the risk. Besides there are a lot worse things you can get than an std. Most like Mekka said can be treated or the symptoms are treatable.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Brazilian_girl' ugh who actually likes performing oral ex with a condom? ...anyone?? I don't like it with a condom onIsn't that the deal with those fruity flavor condoms - aren't they for that?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had the phone call from a previous telling me she had just had a positive blood test for herpes.Farrkk, I went into meltdown, me ? spreading herpes, oh shit ! I had a suspicion about someone I had been with so I braced myself to tell two other ladies the bad news.But ! ......in the meantime I went to my GP and thank god for that, as most of you would know the blood test for herpes is next to useless for diagnosis an out break must be tested and no outbreak = no herpes.So, calls to family health etc get the previous to speak with them, all good !Turns out her GP was an Evangelical Christian pushing an agenda, the previous tore strips off her and put in an official complaint.Fifty three and never an std and I plan to keep it that way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
1. Type 1 - cold sores but can be found on genitals and other places. 2. Type 2- genital but can be found other places 3. Chicken pox/shingles 4. Galandular fever and 4 others I don't know what the frig they are! Very common over 50 percent of yanks have type 1 or2. I get shingles which is the chicken pox virus every few years - very careful not to infect anyone!
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CrackUp
12 years ago
Just had mine done... an std screen, so.. fingers crossed all is good. I hate the 'waiting' part..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Meeka I did quite a lot of research on herpes and as Tuscanred states Herpes can be contracted at anytime with or without an outbreak, From memory it is called Asymptomatic Shedding. In the case where someone doesn't know they have it you can be a bit forgiving. In the case though where you know you have an STD or STI you should inform any sexual partner. Most infections can be fixed by a tablet or injection. Herpes you are stuck with for life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'I had the phone call from a previous telling me she had just had a positive blood test for herpes. Farrkk, I went into meltdown, me ? spreading herpes, oh shit ! I had a suspicion about someone I had been with so I braced myself to tell two other ladies the bad news. But ! ......in the meantime I went to my GP and thank god for that, as most of you would know the blood test for herpes is next to useless for diagnosis an out break must be tested and no outbreak = no herpes. So, calls to family health etc get the previous to speak with them, all good ! Turns out her GP was an Evangelical Christian pushing an agenda, the previous tore strips off her and put in an official complaint. Fifty three and never an std and I plan to keep it that way.do some research on asymptomatic herpes :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'I had the phone call from a previous telling me she had just had a positive blood test for herpes. Farrkk, I went into meltdown, me ? spreading herpes, oh shit ! I had a suspicion about someone I had been with so I braced myself to tell two other ladies the bad news. But ! ......in the meantime I went to my GP and thank god for that, as most of you would know the blood test for herpes is next to useless for diagnosis an out break must be tested and no outbreak = no herpes. So, calls to family health etc get the previous to speak with them, all good ! Turns out her GP was an Evangelical Christian pushing an agenda, the previous tore strips off her and put in an official complaint. Fifty three and never an std and I plan to keep it that way. when your in the west the blood tests can only give you a clear reading if they are sent to Sydney no idea why that is and you can have herpes with no outbreak your entire life. I must be reading the wrong info , as it was my understanding that you did not have to have an outbreak to have herpes, where are the doctors when you need em? I am sure there are a few on here lurking , I know cause I fucked one from RHP
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RHP User
12 years ago
Funny story to relate about me fishing one time.Back a few years and living in Surfers whilst fishing off the beach one arvo when a young Texan tourist I was chatting to asked me what I had caught off the beach.I told her I had caught crabs one time and she exclaimed in an excited Texan drawl "Realllyyyyyy today? Crabs off this beach?!"To which I replied, "No up in the sand dunes on New years eve" hhaha Took her a while to get it but she did have a bit of a giggle in the end. ☯
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is so so so important to get tested regularly!!!! I can't believe how many people do actually not ever bother about getting tested... Luckily I have never had an std, so I was never in the position of having to tell someone but I can imagine the reactions could be rather variable... And yea...does anyone actually do oral with condom and dams....I barely think so.
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