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Sensuality & sexiness - are you just born with it?
December 29 2012
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wingman2014
12 years ago
I often have arguments with mates about who is hot or not. Beauty has nothing to do with sexiness.There are women who are classed as the "sexiest in the world" but they dont get me pointing North . It is just so subjective. I like big breasted women (who would have thought) but I saw a photo the other day of a woman who most people would probably regard as mildly attractive no hot body small boobs etc but there was something about her that rang my bell , I wanted her . Maybe its in our genes or maybe its a reminder in our memory of a past experience in our life that was special
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RHP User
12 years ago
A sexy woman is a size 8-10 has curves and breasts ,walks in a sensual manner ,carry's herself with class ,dosent swear ,is hot blooded ,has high heels ,lingerie and a few costumes and wants to do bad things to me Miranda Kerr is to skinny ,has the fake Hollywood look <<
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great topic to get me going lol It's certainly hard to find sexiness on here lol. The women that know me know the brain is what i find sexy. Can't comment on Miranda because i have no idea what she is like as a person, her traits, temprement or personality. Her life isn't realistic....she has personal trainers, make up artists, lighting gurus following her everyday she wakes up. Without sounding or being offensive, she produces nothing, does nothing for anyone, has people around her making her look the best she can while she pulls silly faces looking into a camera lense. That does nothing for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good question Well I guess it comes down to the old saying..eye of the beholder..what is sexy for one, is not sexy for another I do not think Im sexy at all..quirky yes, sexy no. When I was a kid my mom enrolled me in every dance class imaginable cause I was so unco- ordinated and clumsy..as I grew older dancing became a passion and not a chore..it was there that I discovered sexiness..gorgeous costumes, great dance moves, beautiful people, glamour looks etc...after a few years I took up pole dancing...and sexiness took on a whole new meaning...very out there..dirty dancing.... As I grew too old to pole dance...I took up burlesque...now there is sexy and it was there that I really learnt that sexiness is all about attitude...anyone can dance, anyone can take their clothes off, but to do it in a teasingly seductive way, and to keep a audience cheering, clapping and enthralled while doing it.....well that was a whole new ball game....and I love it....it was seductive - all the attention I learnt some much about the art of seduction and tease, that I must admit Ive used my moves in RL ...and even though I no longer dance...I still feel sexy when Im around all of that sexiness and glamour ( Im teaching at present) I run around most days in scrubs , or at home, a sarong...so I dont do glam much off stage...and of late no real reason to glam it up to go out..life is a bit cas at present. ....but I must admit, when I step into a pari mile high stilettos, (yep own many) wearing a long string of pearls. my fav perfume, and Etta James is playing in the background...well I like to think I rock sexy....:) (ok in my own mind) I think people are born with a sexy gene, for some like myself though, you have to work at it to get it out there
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inspirit
12 years ago
Hour glass figure, cum fuk me eyes, long hair, good cleavage, fantastic smile and confidence is sexy to me. Noooooo... I do not find Miranda sexy. Rachel Welsh....sexy
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RHP User
12 years ago
A sexy woman is a size 8-10 Too sad
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RHP User
12 years ago
I believe it's how one carries themselves..self-pride/ confidence, dresses well (those bitches that can pull any outfit together), their charm and wit, smell, intelligence, body, sexuality, the way they walk, tone of voice pitch etc etc - anything really that EXCITES and AROUSES another - it's what draws you to that person.It's the small things that draw people in...All senses need to be enlightened tho...sight, smell, hear, touch, taste....For me it's got to be ALL NATURAL...NO Fake hair, boobs etc. (men excluded)Everyone is OOZES SEXY in their own special way...What appeals to another may not appeal to person standing next to them.How one uses their sex appeal is an advantage over others who don't know they've got it or found it.Not sounding cocking or stuck up but I myself think I ooze some sort of sex appeal... :)Men especially OOZE sex appeal...OH LA LA :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry for voicing my sad opinion ,wont happen again..
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RHP User
12 years ago
and she oozes less sexuality than a house brick.I like women with intellect, women with funny quips and their own opinions, I am not referring to hostile types who misconstrue aggression and intelligence, but the type of woman who bounces back and forth during conversation, who picks up on mistakes and takes the piss. Now that's hot.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I was younger, in high school, I asked the friend of my crush, " what would you do of you knew a girl had lost weight to be with you?" My crush, who was sitting next to him on the bus, promptly answered, "anything". Thus began my mental head fuck... Men only wanted thin chicks. This has stayed with me for years. Ever since I've always pushed men away thinking they cannot want me, I'm too fat and I do t want to be an object of a fetishist. I want to be wanted for me. I've recently lost nearly 40kgs. I have never considered myself classically beautiful. But since the weight has reduced, so has my inability to see myself as a sex kitten. I can see it now. It was hiding under all the excess weight I'd piled on to protect myself from being hurt. Now the question I was going to ask in my new topic was " have you ever been attracted to someone who physically wasn't your type, they made big changes and then you made your move?" My fear, as I've been losing weight has been that men who did see me as relationship material while I was fat, all of a sudden would come sniffing around me., like I wasn't good enough before but now I am, when essentially I'm the same person. I've come to realise, I'm not the same person. I'm more confident in my body's physicality, stronger, healthier, happier. That's sexy. I laugh more, I don't care what others think of me because this is all about how I feel about me. Some people are naturally confident. Turn on when they are lovely people. Some people gain confidence. Turn on when that new found confidence sees them gaining all the things they want. Some people have too much and become arrogant... Turn off... No excuses. I'll never be a model. I'll never have long hair and flawless skin and huge boobs that stand to attention constantly because I'm not fake. I'm naturally awesome and happy, I love sex, I enjoy the act but I won't be used by a guy for his own gratification without a little bit of something for myself. I make mistakes, I wear shorts and I'm a sci fi nerd geek. I'm naturally sexy in my own way and what turns me on is personal. Sexy in a man is just like me, doesn't have to include the sci fi in there but hey, it's a bonus. He's happy, confident and loving, as well as a complete nutbar.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's definitely something that comes from within, I think.... when I'm at home, or when going out I always have a little sometihng for me to think and smile to myself about. It could be something as little as wearing no underwear or something as stimulating as a wireless egg with someone else in control of the vibrations. A confident person, who is happy with who and what they are, male or female is a very sexy person. Miss ish
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' A sexy woman is a size 8-10 Too sad He wants her with curves and breasts! But Kizza, if you want a size 8-10, how can you find Miranda Kerr too skinny? As far as I can tell she's a perefect 8.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wouldn't she be smaller than an 8? It's probably been more than 10 years since I was an size 10. :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting point. Someone recently said on the forum that women don't view him as sexual... He is always labeled the friend. Why is that some people are seen as sexual and others not. I know I can turn it on and off a bit. Most of my friends that know about my sex life tell me that most people would say that butter wouldn't melt in my mouth, they would be utterly shocked to know that I was on a site like this for instance. Still don't really understand what the phrase means? That I appear meek and innocent!?! Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
You like what you like, that's true. Shinasbabe point though is valid and that is you have a really limited view. Have you closed yourself off from most women?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexy for me is loving my mind and body, flaws and all. It is seeing myself as a fully sexual being and being completely comfortable with that. It is being relaxed, and not sweating the small stuff. (And remembering it's all small stuff). When I feel like this my smile gets a bit wider, my voice lowers, and my movements and touches get more deliberate. When I see this in others I find it incredibly hot. Sex appeal is not about looks for me at all. It's about attitude and behaviour. My 2 cts
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RHP User
12 years ago
Miranda Kerr is a size 2 US/ 6 UK /34 EU. I thought we are going off US size?I like Average with bits!In the words of sir mixalot .... "i like big butts and i cannot lie"So let me re state i like a SIZE 10 US/ 14 UK / 42 FRENCH or a 46 Italian .Geesh you women give a bloke a head ache.
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RHP User
12 years ago
is not always the obvious,sometimes it takes awhile for a person to reveal their sexiness.Physical beauty is just that,doesn't mean the person is sexy.I can appreciate a beautiful marble statue,doesn't make it sexy.Witty is sexy,inteligence without arrogance is sexy,smell,touch,taste,all components of sexy.Confidence is sexy sometimes but then so is shyness.Voices can be very sexy,male or female,the tone,the words,sends me a tingling.How you move is sexy ..just not like Jagger . Sad but true though, if you don't think that you are sexy then how can you expect others to find you so. Get ya sexy on now I say.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Most of my friends that know about my sex life tell me that most people would say that butter wouldn't melt in my mouth, they would be utterly shocked to know that I was on a site like this for instance. Still don't really understand what the phrase means? That I appear meek and innocent!?! LolMeeka Sweetyheart,PMSL..If only people I work with too knew that I was on this site as well...HOLY CRAP! Now they would F*CKING CRAP!! hehehehe Some people can just naturally draw people in just with their personalities alone with others draw people in on attraction, charisma, etc etc the WHOLE package...like an Aura - and that OOZES SEX APPEAL!I really can't put to words what specificity as it really is as everyone is different..Everyone does have it..Frack_Me put it rather nicely..and so did we_r_devilishHope that helps. :)PS- LOL No-on is born with a sex-gene.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's all in the attitude, the bearing, the twinkle in the eye. It actually has very little to do with how a person looks, but more about how they feel about themselves. Frack_me, you hit it on the head when you said that my losing weight you gained sexiness, not because of the weight, but because of the confidence that arose with your new body.I have been attracted to people of all ages, both sexes, all sizes. And actually, intelligence is one of the sexiest traits i can think of :)Go you sexy people!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kizza1973'Sorry for voicing my sad opinion ,wont happen again.. Never apologise for having a opinion and posting it accordingly....of course you are entitiled to have it and naturally write it....people have died for that rite My comment was not an attack on you personally but yes I am so disappointed that people, including yourself still think that sensuality and sexiness is based/connected to a persons physical fashion size Australia is currently in the midst of an obesity crisis (and do not think for a moment that Im condoning being overweight Im not) and in Africa millions are still dying of starvation despite all our efforts, the irony of it all A size 8-10 lady - is of course sexy - in my opinion, we are all sexy........ but most of the time ( I stress most) a size 8-10 lady is genetically blessed...and yes quite a few work at keeping themselves that shape, some will never have to work at it and some will put on weight..therefore what happens when your perfect 8-10 sexy lady goes thru say pregnancy, or a medical treatment and then becomes a 12-14 ? but still carries herself with class, doesnt swear, is still hot blooded, wears high heels, lingerie, some constumes and still caopable of doing very very bad things ?....is she consigned to the scrap heap ? It does frustrate me and disappoint me that after all the re education of the fashion houses, the media, the advertisers and the general population who have now embraced larger people as sexy , that some still believe that a ideal woman - who defines sexy and sensual, is a size 8-10.....I ask what about attitutude ????? The above posts all state the sames ..attitude and then there are those who are blessed with charisma ...yep some even get brains as well..that seems fair.....but I digress And if you want to see sex on legs with sensuality oozing out of their pores, you should see my buddy TR at the pub, all dressed up when we all go out.......guys fawn all over her..yep shes tall, blonde, dresses beautifully, great cleavage, but trust me, she has it and no shes not a size 8-10 either and yes shes also 60....and hon, you look good !! - age and weight are all irrelevant. In parting...to back up the whole attitude debate, I will direct all to a profile of a lady here who I am pleased to say has already posted. I do not know her even though we both live in Perth - although we do have mutual friends....she has the hottest profile, gorgeous sexy words, yum pics and to me rocks the words sexiness and sensuality.....( and if I may please add...all the people who have posted so far....are all sexy and sensual in their own way..ALL) ....this lady states on her profile that she is body type: Large ....but boy is she one sexy dame... Inspirit - you just got tagged...:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kizza1973'Sorry for voicing my sad opinion ,wont happen again.. You voice away Kizza...its great to see a male base it on the physical for a change on here lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I stand corrected, didn't know you meant US sizes. US 8-10 = AU 12-14 Curves and boobs indeed!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why would you go off the US sizing when you live in Australia ?? Im American and left all of that behind when I moved here
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shame on you for not realising he meant US sizes!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ms D ..I so need to polish up on my psychic abilities..will work on that this arvo....therefore should be able to land the numbers in time for the 30 mill tonite Oh yeah and buy the ticket
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RHP User
12 years ago
What if, someone was seen to be to sexy by others, but didn't recognise that others thought that??
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RHP User
12 years ago
You guys need to read my profile ,i base more on personality,sensuality and compassion than i do looks.As for US sizes how many inches are the men here ? Dont hear them saying im x Cm noo its im a nine inch nail.I feel like a 4 x 2 will all you Masterminds.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sure, I guess if you like me and millions of other thought Norma Jeane Mortenson was sexy, who could argue...certainly not presidents, congressman and kings. The true beauty of any of us lies in our sensuality, a characteristic or trait than can't be bought off the rack, applied with a brush or even a willingness to offer up sexual deviations that the 'boys in the hood' call hot in this generation. Sexy...you can beg. borrow, steal or buy. Sensuality you just have to feel.
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RHP User
12 years ago
PMSL.......Its because "US"CLEVER DICKS ooze sex appeal.... :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
As she seems to spend most of her time over there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Norma
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ghostbusters'What if, someone was seen to be to sexy by others, but didn't recognise that others thought that?? Sounds like me throughout my entire twenties. What a waste that was...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DontLookDown'Sure, I guess if you like me and millions of other thought Norma Jeane Mortenson was sexy, who could argue...certainly not presidents, congressman and kings. I agree that she looked fantastic at a size US10/AU14. But I never found her sexy, as she always came across as child-like and lonely to me (in footage and articles).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I highly doubt there is a sexy gene. I think it's the subtle things that define sexy. The twinkle in the eye, the swing in the hips, the confidence that just oozes from a "sexy" woman. Sexy definately isn't a dress size in my book. There are so many factors its impossible to put into words
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexy is what is naked, in front of you, right now... When we are naked we are equal and that is sexy as hell!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm on my 2nd cosmopolitan waiting for my date ... apologies for my misplaced philosophy ...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kizza1973'Miranda Kerr is a size 2 US/ 6 UK /34 EU. I thought we are going off US size? I like Average with bits!In the words of sir mixalot .... "i like big butts and i cannot lie" So let me re state i like a SIZE 10 US/ 14 UK / 42 FRENCH or a 46 Italian . Geesh you women give a bloke a head ache. Kizza - I'm confused ...What is the Australian size equivalent to what you find sexy with curves? SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
KIzz... your comment about a size 8 - 10 being perfect ..well... i get it... although i rooted this very overweight chick once in a sand bunker... she wanted to root on the beach... meh.. my point.. the world is all about compromise..we all do it
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RHP User
12 years ago
- has a glint in their eyes - a cheekiness that makes you smile - a warmth that draws you near - an intelligence that provokes your curiosity - has the moves that make your heart race - and a confidence that radiates and captures your gaze. Its a total attitude that comes with a sexy mind. Some people are naturally sexy and others have learnt to be. Dancing is a great way of learning to express ourselves and some dance styles are art forms, eg. belly dancing (done properly it is an art of seduction). Happy, positive attitude is a good starting point. SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
@ Sensory_ Fun a Size 12 Australian I shall comment no more
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'PAPA_K_NANA' KIzz... your comment about a size 8 - 10 being perfect ..well... i get it... although i rooted this very overweight chick once in a sand bunker... she wanted to root on the beach... meh.. my point.. the world is all about compromise..we all do it you remember nawwwwww snickems...... remember i use to call you that
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexiness, to me anyway, is a very personal trait. What one person might think of sexy, another is put off by the same trait. And I don't think you can judge someone from a photo (or a profile), yes they might look sexy but when you get to meet them you find they are superficial, dumb, boring, vain, or just plain rude! A good example: there is a woman at work, and yes she is very attractive, always immaculatly dressed and some of the males drool over her. But because I have known her for many years, I wouldn't touch her with someone else's dangly bit, her personality, her naraccism, and well her bitchines is such a turn off for me. Yet there is another woman at work who rarely gets a mention simply because she dresses in functional clothes (see is an engineer and crawls around aircraft all day). But I personally think she is one of the sexiness women I have met, due to her attitude, her personality and just they way she acts. So yeah, to me sexiness is a totaly package, the physical, the emotional, the intelligence of the woman.
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RHP User
12 years ago
a natural state of being. Some think they can turn it on, but that looks silly - like an orange fake tan job. I think everyone CAN be sexy, but it comes from further within. Your mood at the time, the people you are with and how they make you feel. . That's why you can pull off both 'butter wouldn't melt' AND 'smothered in chocolate sauce' Meeks ;).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im a size 14/16, not small but more athletic and love my sports etc..boobs are medium-nothing to rave about, but ive yet to find a man who i cant seduce if i wanted to. Ive never had trouble finding a sexual partner or long term one, and have been told im beautiful. I think its my eyes(my best asset i think) and long dark hair, a sexy smile and yes being able to talk "with the boys" so to speak, have a joke, a clever but flirtatious chat is always appreciated too, and dressing nicely with just the right amount of soft skin showing to peak their curiosity without looking trashy. I firmly believe ive become more sexy the older im getting and most of my men are younger than me , i guess confidence and knowing comes with experience and age, which is why younger guys are scrambling to be with us older women :)
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jensta
12 years ago
Confidence & Attitude is Sexy ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexy for me is a woman who is confidant ,has a good sense of humor , can converse on all levels ,takes pride in her appearance, fun , sensual but also adventurous ...You don't have to be a model and have the perfect body , for me your personality will be what really attracts me to you !Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ,we all have different tastes ,we are all beautiful in our own way !I am not the "perfect " woman, but I am proud of who I am !!
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensta' Confidence & Attitude is Sexy ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kizza1973'Sorry for voicing my sad opinion ,wont happen again.. Good idea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's like beauty being in the eye of the beholder. For example, I don't find Elizabeth Hurley sexy while, physically, she's my favorite 'type'. I love long, dark hair. Hurley just comes across as a 'cold fish'. I don't like her, she's unattractive. Sandra Bullock is another one. Long, dark hair and pretty but I don't find her sexy. Don't get me wrong, I like her. She seems very nice but she's not sensual. I'm sorry, I can't define sensuality and sexiness for you in my own words, Meeka but you've got them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I'm a US size 14 stick that in your pipe and choke on it. Actually this begs the question, what size are you because I'm not interested in a man who has his 6 inches internal and creates insecurities in women who may have blown your tiny mind off your shoulders. Frack Me you would be sexy at any size and any age because it is something that comes from within and outshines anything to do with physical appearance. Mooka you are the kind of man I adore...because you have seen beyond the superficial. I have often been told by my colleagues that I am sexy because of the way I am not because of how I look. Give me a woman/man with a few sexy curves anyday. Kizza you are robbing yourself of some truly wonderful opportunities, I apologise if I was harsh but come on, how many of these size 8-10's have actually wanted you? And just in passing I would also like to acknowledge Gravity, you are a cruel and heartless bitch....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you Jensman. I think being err... Voluptuous as I am at the moment it's hard not to be I reckon. Mind you sex is never far from my mind which probably has something to do with it. :)
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
That it's the thoughts behind the look in the eye that contributes towards the sexiness someone projects. And surely pheromone production is another factor.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To be honest , i am a Victim of size charts here.Yes i like a curvy/voluptuous woman one who has a great smile ,good attitude towards life ,compassionate and respectful.@ On_Safari your a 14 Aussie ? You have some Killer curves Miss.Very attractive i peeked at your profile.@ Sensory_Fun After Googling for an online woman's conversion chart i like a 8-10 USA and that's a 12-14 Australian.I use to peek at Meeka's but i had to stop.No means NO ya know.....hahaIn my defence id like to say ,im single and now you all know why
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RHP User
12 years ago
Awww Kizza, come here for a big hug. I know you are a good guy. Big hugs. °\(ッ)/°
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RHP User
12 years ago
awww group RHP hug ,but no groping You break it you buy it,no refunds...
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