Sex Teacher?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think many men would be attracted to this arrangement. Sometimes it's simply because they do want to or need to learn different things, but have no-one to teach or show them. Yes there is literature and instructional videos (this is how I initially "learnt" being a very late bloomer), but nothing replaces practice, which thankfully I have had now. It's the same reason that men might employ a sex surrogate, who is someone who acts as a guide/mentor/tutor/counsellor to teach them about sex and intimacy, and specifically to overcome any physiological barriers or issues. But in this case, it also involves actual sex. As for myself, it is satisfying to act as a mentor be able to teach someone something new, about any topic, including sexual activity (ironic considering my situation not long ago). To help someone who wants to learn; it makes me feel valued and appreciated, and to have someone who trusts me enough to try any activity for the first time. So in the case of the OP's friend, the role is simply reversed, with the woman being the mentor. It's certainly not for all women, most seem to require confidence and knowledge, and find it a turn off if a man is at all hesitant or unsure of his actions or abilities. But I'm sure there are many women who would be all for it. So a casual female "sex teacher" might also be attractive in other ways, for a man who wants to show his submissive side (without going as far as seeing a dominatrix/being dominated), or at least being relieved of the responsibility many women expect, that men be very experienced and always know what to do and how/when.

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  So......... your not available to him? Seems to me you're doing half the role already...... Ive never met a woman (older than say 30) who actively wants to teach a man. My experiences are that women want a man who shows strong masculine traits, who knows what he's doing socially and sexually, and will lead and take that responsibility off her shoulders through his masculinity....... and teach her. DG

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  He's developing a need for being sub to a mistress. "Teach me to please you Mistress..." Ya never know.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  he wants YOU to teach him.. to take him to all places he fantasizes you MIGHT be able to take him..Bi MMFBi FFMBondageDisciplineCuckoldhe wants YOU to take him there... Soo..... "Why don't you??"

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  In my experience men that have been with a lot of differnt women are far better at figuring out how I work compared to those who've spent a lot of time with far less women. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ...... I think that there is a real demand for this ! ..... and I think that there could be benefits if taught theoretically and practically, in a safe and emotionally neutral setting. Hell I know I had lots of sexual thoughts in some of the classes I attended ;) Uly

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Most mature women are at a point in their life where they don't want to be teaching, but think it's high time we got what's been owing to us for centuries lol i have had fleeting thoughts of doing live sex workshops. They do them in America and probably here too? I even had a professional writer offer to promote me when she heard my story. There are techniques that can be taught to both men and women and just about every time i hook up, i have to show guys correct fingering techniques as a minimum, problem is porn gets it all wrong, and that is the only classroom young guys and old guys have to learn from. So i have considered doing this but it's my age, i feel if i was younger, i woudn't hesitate. I also wanted to write a book, as opposed to bashing my point in here about women's sexuality, there have been some bizarre things that have happened with my body and my sexuality and i feel like that information needs to be shared properly. But in saying that, i want to have time to enjoy it, the second it changed to an enterprise, i feel i would lose the freedom and time to fully enjoy. I'm not ready to let go of that yet. Maybe further along but not at this stage. As far as your friend wanting a teacher, sex requires 2 people being attracted to each other. So long as he's realistic that this isn't a way to get an easy root lol we still continue to be discerning - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MrPlayful

  9 years ago

  I agree with Cavey to some degree. It's quite likely that he is interested in you OP. Whether or not he wants to learn all about all different things pertaining to sex is questionable, he may or he may not. But I reckon Cavey is on the money that he is fantasizing about being with you.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  it ain't gonna matter a fuck if he finds what he fantasises about.... He'll only learn what turns HER on.....not the masses.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  But in reality not a real option... There are ladies who would love to take a young guy and show him the ropes... they call them cougars... Theres nowhere you can go for this assistance without it being called a brothel...

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  HotMocca

  9 years ago

  This is where sex becomes educational :) What is wrong with that? it is amazing to teach people something that improves their skills and makes them better, I'd say treat him like a good student and let him know what a caring teacher you are ;) You remind me of my naughty English teacher by the way ;)

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  Katkat

  9 years ago

  I'm a cougar I have always like young men somehow haha! I do like to teach them in bed how to please a woman right but in saying that, everyone has their own preference. I don't just teach them physically but I also teach them the reality of life give them an insight. Well I can't speak for everyone right? At least I have given my part. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  langton11

  9 years ago

  There are tons of educational videos out there if wanted to get underway with learning; 'Two girls teach sex' would be a good one to start with. It sounds to me, and others, like he' may be looking for a cause to hook up with you. To be fair, older women are very alluring, I can't say I blame him if that's his motive lol. If you think he's hot and it's worth the gamble of losing the friendship, do it. P.S. the wife and I are looking for a hot unicorn to teach us about FFM'sP.S.S. the wife and I are looking for a supermodel couple to teach us about MMFF's

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Most mature women don't want to be teachers,we want to have sex with mature men but there are women who love being with much younger somewhat inexperienced men...xxFreya

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I actually thought you were talking about sex surrogates (well worth checking out). Saw an interesting and rather moving documentary on this some years back. In my experiences I have known several guys in their late teens early twenties who were seeking a mature age teacher either for the fantasy, their first time but mostly because they felt more comfortable exploring with an experienced woman (mature does not equal experienced). I too went that way but never developed the cougar* fixation as it wasn't the most enjoyable time. *Apologies for the use of one of those words that have caused waves in these forums

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A wanton lady all other times :) but I wouldn't want to teach a younger man the 'ropes' so to speak! Our profile states we are looking for someone who does know what they're doing but I'll give it to this guy, he wants his cake and wants to eat it too! Through his 'teacher' he'll no doubt get regular sex, with a knowledgeable, confident sexy older lady and possibly have a 'date' to attend other functions he may be limited to because he is a single guy! I'm sorry, but IN MY EXPERIENCE men under thirty have yet to move from the 'I' in sex and don't really understand the 'we' in it! To understand women, he'll have to experience a few women, truly be cognisant and be aware of what he does that pleases the woman he is with and build a very broad repertoire of skills that he can apply to different situations. One size does not fit all (pun not intended, sort of) Mary 💋 Xx

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  HotMocca

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'lolita108' I'm a cougar I have always like young men somehow haha! I do like to teach them in bed how to please a woman right but in saying that, everyone has their own preference. I don't just teach them physically but I also teach them the reality of life give them an insight. Well I can't speak for everyone right? At least I have given my part. - Posted from rhpmobile Make sure you put your glasses on when you are teaching a young boy what to do ;)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  As a man in his mid 20's, I really do count myself lucky when I'm in bed with a more experienced woman. However, the guy in his mid-20's needs to understand that most woman who are more mature have actually already had their fair share of mediocre sex. If you want to have a shot with a sexually enlightened experienced woman, you'd better have a few marketable skills of your own besides "willing to learn." Most women are completely fine with the fact that you might not have much experience in one particular area but you'd better make up for it in others. For example, I'd like to try more pegging. Yes, I'm eager to learn, but I also offer the fact that I have plenty of experience in other areas. With some luck and healthy discussion, I might end up being taught a couple of things before or after I make her scream with pleasure. Supply and demand ;) if you have nothing to offer but want others to be open handed with their time and experience, you're in for a dry spell. If you offer a lot and ask for a little in return you're more likely to get favourable responses - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A metaphor. From experience of getting my semi trailer license in 2008, I can tell you that most employers require you to have a minimum two years experience in it before giving you a job. Go figure :) So eventually someone is going to have to give the inexperienced person a go, otherwise how do they get experience? So if someone is looking for, or is providing a "fantasy", generally speaking a fantasy by definition is something one has NOT done before, therefor cannot be expected to have direct experience in. If they do have the appropriate experience with such situations, then it's not really a fantasy, if they've already done it a number of times. The best they can do is to employ what they know and are good at in somewhat similar situations (as CaptS alludes to). So still on topic, in my early thirties (yes you read correctly) I was in the market for either a surrogate or an escort (for lack of finding a "sex teacher" or someone who is ok with an inexperienced individual) and had done a lot of research about them. It was only budget concerns that were keeping me hesitant. Lucky for me the stars aligned and I found myself with a girl 9 years my junior to kick off such experiences with. Based on what I read here, a woman around my age or above would not have considered. Ironically, now I have involved myself in the swinging scene, I am more experienced than many in a few certain situations and can be in a position to "teach", while still being fairly inexperienced in others and in need of "teaching". Make sense? Didn't think so :)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Perfect sense! You said pretty much what I was thinking. I believe there's always something new to learn - & everyone has something to teach.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  All good points countrytouch. I should've concluded my point better.... That the guy should try and get his experience with all women (and men if he's that way inclined) instead of pigeon holing himself by focusing on one fantasy that's unlikely to happen due to his inexperience as a love-maker. History tells me more mature women crave passion above a lot of other things. Bumbling and fumbling isn't very attractive. The guy is in his mid-20's. A lot of women in the early to mid 20's haven't been sexually enlightened and you can grow together. The guy needs a girlfriend, not a sex teacher in my opinion. Some guys get hung up on a fantasy then come to resent women when they don't get what they want. We've all seen examples of this. I think a lot of guys need a clip around the ear and seriously sit themselves down and ask what they offer the opposite sex. First time I had sex? With my girlfriend. Both 16 at the time and both virgins. We talked about stuff we'd like to try, fantasies and curiosities. We communicated very well for 16 year olds and we had a lot of fantastic sex and ticked off a lot of things on the bucket list that most people don't try until their 30's. There were other girlfriends, around the same age, more sex and lots of great times. Oh and I wasn't nearly as well filled out back then. Not exactly a ladies man. Skinny, glasses, socially awkward. But get me in that bedroom and I knew exactly what I was doing at 18. Then it was just a case of honing my skills. I really don't like the saying, "You shouldn't take life too seriously." I think that if you like something and want to get better at it you MUST take it seriously. I find myself in demand because I've actually taken this part of my life seriously and was ready to take steps to make as many connections with people as possible. I've never read a pick up artist book and I loathe guys who need to put women down to pick them up. Countrytouch, you seem like you have your head firmly screwed on your shoulders which is great. But put yourself back in the mind of a typical 25 year old for a moment. They're usually not thinking about things like this in such detail. The guy just needs a girlfriend or a few FBs over a period of time while keeping a lookout for any ladies of the more mature variety. First time I had sex with a more mature woman was when I was 18 and she was 35. It was fantastic and I had a great time. There were others after that and I'll continue to look for more mature women for the foreseeable future. But I'm not limiting myself to just that though. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi everyone, Thank you for your input and answers. It is always great that we can rely on the forum and you lovely members to assist with all topics! Just to make a few things clear, he isn't interested in me! He has had this fantasy for years and has even resorted to placing an advertisement seeking what he wants. He has just felt that he can trust me to share this with me. To be honest, I do believe that a lack of sexual confidence is rife in our society. Porn doesn't help AT all if inexperienced or non confident men are drawing upon it for tips and "how to" I have given him my 10c worth, and totally agree that he needs experience with many women as a teacher will only show him how to please her (of course there are the standard foundation of things we all like) Thank you all SO very much for your input and advice.

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