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Sex ed

November 04 2022

I went to Christian schools in the 80s and 90s and the sex ed was.. functional? I guess, we learned enough about the mechanics to understand the cycle of life in broad, bland brushstrokes. But there's a tonne of stuff it didn't cover that I reckon is at least as important. We learned about sex as procreation, but not as recreation, which is like 99.9% of all sex. We didn't learn about different orientations, relationship dynamics or configurations, sexual practices.. tonnes of stuff, that I would want my kids to know, I imagine, by the time they turned 18 and started hitting the bars. So I'm curious about what other people's sex education was like. In different parts of the country, different types of schools, different decades etc, to get a sense of how much my experience represents the average.

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Ms_silk

2 years ago

Public Schools in NSW in the 80's. Well pretty much functional, what to expect in how your body changes during puberty. How a baby is made & then in year 10 you might get 1 class that covers the use of contraceptives. I certainly raised my two son's with a open dialogue. Answered anything they asked in a age appropriate response with correct terminology.

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Rising_Phoenix

2 years ago

Adults teaching kids about sex always creeped me out and still does, I skipped sex Ed classed and went and learned for myself and I’m aye ok with that.

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MsSuperFoxy

2 years ago

In the 80's, I went to a boarding school which was run by nuns. I mean full on nuns! I'm sure many masturbated then prayed to God for forgiveness. Sexual activities were not really talked about. It was Taboo. It wasn't until I read the book "The Ethical Slut" (years ago), which really opened my eyes. I also then became more open discussing such Taboo topics. I was very blessed, my parents were awesome and very understanding nothing is off topic. My daughter is the same. It's funny, because I'm sure the 60's were really wild. I'd would have loved to live in that eara, like my mum did. Ms Foxy

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Sawadee

2 years ago

In the 60s there was little to no sex education.. Coming from a single parent family with a mother who felt embarrassed talking sex , It was learn as you go or bad advice from your know all mates.. My first experience was so nerve racking ' l was only just out of school and felt like running away . The girl probally felt the same.. No rooting, just fooling around . But thats just the way it was back then.. No wonder there were so many shotgun marriages..

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Obi1kenietzsche

2 years ago

My sex education was typical of a lad growing up on the coast of far Northern NSW. This was pre internet and ore mobile phones days of course, and there was no such thing as Pornhub and other such “educational” sites. In the schoolyard I sat in quite and excited envy as my friends regaled saucy tales of Xmas holiday encounters, wondering when would it all happen to me. Then a mature aged girl enrolled in our school (she was 4 years older than the rest of us), took me by the hand (so to speak), and proceeded to rock my world. And THAT’s when I realised my mates and their tales of conquest were absolute bullshit! Xx Obi1

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EarthQueen

2 years ago

Sex ed in the 80's. The best sex ed I got was in year 11 when an educator from family planning came and did a chat to us. She was wonderful and funny and made the whole session less cringe than what it usually was. It helped that it was girls only in that lesson. We got the standard biology explanation in year 8 science. We also got terrified of the grim reaper ad for HIV and I was convinced I was going to get it if I every had sex. I read my parents forum magazines that I found hidden away. at about age 14. They were full of sex stories so that was an eye opener. The first porno I ever saw was on VHS when I was over 20. Neither of my parents ever talked to me about sex. I just got given these outdated books from the 60's that again was pretty much straight biology. When I got my first period my mum awkwardly gave me a pad that was a about 4cm thick and was incredibly uncomfortable. The message I got were that periods were embarrassing and shouldn't be talked about. In contrast my kids and I are totally open about sex and I went to their sex ed classes in year 6 and volunteered to be holding a sign that said vulva in front of the group.

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YouTarzanMeJane

2 years ago

I was in California in the 80's, public schooling. My experience was pretty much the same as yours, OP

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Sensualdan

2 years ago

I was in an English boarding school - luckily coed. The biology side well covered. I remember having 1 lecture on the safety side and contraception - hilarious and embarrassing putting a condom on a banana whilst sitting next to a girl I fancied😂. All while the school’s attitude was sex is banned, so much so that getting caught immediately resulting in expulsion. Definitely no guidance on the emotions, relationships and orientations

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MsSuperFoxy

2 years ago

When my daughter turned 16 as a present I gave her the book, The Ethical Slut. I believe she learnt more from that boom then at her school sex Ed. They never stated much about different types if relationships like open relationships or polygamous. Come to think of it, neither was it discussed during my sex Ed either. Curious if different types of relationships are now discussed in sex Ed classes or is it more just around "safe sex"?? Ms Foxy

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badboyhere

2 years ago

The only sex Ed I had was from mrs Palmer and her five daughters. It was the best education I ever had

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LadyLovesRed

2 years ago

Imagine an Italian at a Catholic all Girls school run by nuns. They instilled shame on us which had the opposite effect and made it all more exciting. I started masturbating before my teens and discovered the art of oral sex and now my lovers are great full loll. It ignited my love of taking risks in public places and my inability to commit. But thanks to their crazy views I rebelled to have the Best Sex Life

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Misscheeky

2 years ago

It was very basic sex ed in primary school in grade six in Melbourne. My ex partner gave me a used vibrator (not knowing at the time you don’t accept pre loved toys 😂🤦🏻‍♀️) All he said was ya gonna need help and he wasn’t wrong to figure out how to pleasure myself I was raised to be self reliant so I have figured out most of it on my own some from porn but I have learnt it’s also about chemistry and to speak my mind if it’s not pleasing enough

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BNElooking

2 years ago

Mine was very similar.. all boys catholic school.. Sex Ed non-existent other than the promise of eternal damnation if you partook in any way😅 even now.. many years (and so much amazing discovery) later I catch myself when the tendrils of post sex guilt reaches out..

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