RHP

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Sex is boring...

May 12 2014

Hi all, and yes, you read right, "sex is boring...except with the one you love"! Could this be true? If it is, then must we love the people we swing with to really enjoy sex? If we must, then does that not mean that we have entered into a relationship with them?...which defeats the idea of swinging. If not, then are we really enjoying sex? What does everyone else think?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And i dont need him to be the one i love but more like the one who is goin to make me come, and varities is great no doubt but then again i was talking about me.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Not true. In fact, diametrically opposite to boring :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    with people I do not have any connection with. Chemistry is amazing but it is not love and I have had love with mediocre chemistry. By far the best sex I have had is with those I share that chemistry with, not necessarily with the one I loved. Although I did love sex with the one I loved also but chemistry just seems to take it to another level. I hope that made sense!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Without strong chemistry it is just a routine....i need emotional connection, at least at some level. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Early this year I meet a girl who worked at the resort I was staying.. Every day we exchanged hello's and niceties to the point I looked forward to catching up everyday.. The chemistry was there in buckets loads.. One day I was sitting by the pool and she joined me carrying a few beers.. Cut along story short.. We went back to my room to get my phone . Before I knew it we looked at each other then without a word ' a kiss etc etc.. For that time I think we were lovers ' the type of feeling you wish would be there for ever.. but then I had to go home.. But there were times with a similar scenario. I didn't think anything except.. That was nice.. So yes, with the right person you can be in love for that time only...

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    So we feel a little lucky that we get to share our love while having sex with others and we hope they feel that love to increase the lust during the throws of the moments. Lucky again that sex never gets boring for us, so maybe that is why sex never gets boring. he he. Mado Tara xx

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    If it's boring you're doing it wrong - Posted from rhpmobile

  • cougar4fun

    cougar4fun

    11 years ago

    That sex is boring with someone you have no chemistry with...but you don't need love for it to be fun! I have a FB that I like as a person, but could never fall in love with, he is sooooo not my type (life partner wise), but man, he is dynamite in the sack and boring is def not a word I would use!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Not true. But it is definitely different.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good old woody a simplistic philosopher - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'ralf74' with people I do not have any connection with. Chemistry is amazing but it is not love and I have had love with mediocre chemistry. By far the best sex I have had is with those I share that chemistry with, not necessarily with the one I loved. Although I did love sex with the one I loved also but chemistry just seems to take it to another level. I hope that made sense! Makes perfect sense to me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've had bad sex with people I really liked, and good sex with people I've disliked.And a few shades of grey in between. Love, sex, relationship, are all different things, but they exist in a matrix. It's important to identify which is what. If you love someone, are in some sort of a relationship, and the sex is great, you've hit the Big Time.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sex if definitely better if there is attraction and a connection between partners. Otherwise it may still be enjoyable but lacking in a spark to ignite it, and you might feel like you are going through the motions. The above does not mean that you need to reach relationship status to have great sex. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I remember that quote from a film called Threesome. I know woody Allen said something about sex death and pizza. Don't mean to derail the thread just curious if that film was quoting Woody Allen? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You think to much . - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    What can I say........ I can't help, it if I am well loved and it's said to me...."Honey, my life and Sex is sooooooooooooo boring, without you" Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'ralf74' with people I do not have any connection with. Chemistry is amazing but it is not love and I have had love with mediocre chemistry. By far the best sex I have had is with those I share that chemistry with, not necessarily with the one I loved. Although I did love sex with the one I loved also but chemistry just seems to take it to another level. I hope that made sense! I know what you mean.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When I was a single guy I didn't need chemistry to enjoy sex but now as a married guy I do need chemistry to enjoy sex in swinging, maybe its because when sex is always available at home the value and need for it decline, for a single guy I think sex has an extremely high value The problem is how often do you meet a couple where everyone wants to swing and even one of you actually feel chemistry ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    EuroChinese. :)