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Sex vs intimacy
September 25 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Comes with getting to know someone. I have done the oil massage thing with lovers, as in I give them a massage. For me... That is RHP sometimes and other times its pure debauchery. Not sure why you think it isn't?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I prefer a lover. I love to do those things, i love to indulge my sensual nature. With a lover, the guard drops and you take the time to explore all those other intimate and erotic pastimes. A FWB's or a FB just doesn't have the required intimacy level. RHP is great for the debauchery side of things....not so great for the intimacy side of things. (not saying impossible because i have met one or two men here who are happy to be intimate for short time spans )
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't do one offs so fb's and fwb's have been around a while and we know what we like.I think intimacy leads to better debauchery personally.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We finish the dinner I prepared for us, a lightly marinated lamb steak thinly sliced over a green leaf salad served with olives and rustic herb bread. You offer to help clear but I decline insisting you go relax as the job won’t take long. Quickly I clear the table and collect the chocolate coated strawberry’s that have been chilling in the fridge for desert, picking up the bottle of Cabernet Merlot we started with dinner I join you in the lounge room. The room is oh so typical of your style, sparse yet classy and elegant. The room has a curved wall with floor to ceiling glass sliding doors giving a spectacular view of the harbor, tinted to keep the bright day sun down. Tonight the view is made even more spectacular by your silhouette as you watch a flotilla of boats on the water bobbing like fairy lights in the distance. Taking a seat on the circular couch I turn up the fire pit to keep the cool from outside at bay. Turning down the lights the flicker of the fire reflects off the windows and potted plants dotted around the room, casting shadows like dancers around a gypsy’s fire. Turning your dark hair flows with your soft velvet dress, a twinkle in your eye says you approve and you slowly circle the fire and take up your glass. Sitting relaxedly next to me you smile. I feel warmth spread through me at this and smile back. Your smile always does that, the small quirk at the corner of the mouth, the little crinkles at the edge of the eyes as they glisten in the flickering light. Slowly we start talking, conversing of times gone by. Friends new and old and friends who have passed. We turn to work and social events, jokes ensue and soon you are crying with laughter. As the laughter slowly fades you stare into the fire, the coals glow draws you in and you begin to relax. Having watched your every move since arriving I notice a tightness in your shoulders which I offer to help ease. You graciously accept and sidle over to give me better access to your back. Outlining your shoulders with my hands I gently begin ministrations, working from the base of your head down across your shoulders and back. Working from the neck down the spine you sigh as the tension slowly leaves you. As I work lower I admire your tone and the way your dress slides delicately over your soft yet firm skin. On reaching your lower back I massage in small circles applying pressure above the hips and bottom, a moan escapes your lips. Before I know it you turn and tell me I should stop before you get all flustered and make a fool of yourself. I tell you this is not such a bad thing and you wouldn't make that much of a fool, or at least a cute fool if you did. You giggle and sit back in the couch. Refilling our glasses we both return to staring into the depths of the fire sharing a comfortable silence.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Intimacy? Yes please... Sex? if you're up for it... no pressure... Is probably why I'm still on that diet of bread and water....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sex is no more then a personal release of pressure! Intamacy is however a passion of desire between two or more people where each want to give as much pleasure as they take...
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
BUT..... only because the women I choose to meet these days since my enlightenment and liberation..... have been both intimate and fiendish nymphomaniacle deviates.... depending on the occasion, mood and let's face it.... her hormones... and my own DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG,really?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a beautiful spa bath,the scented oils....wanna come over NOW.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Does DG have his period? 😄 Sounds like he is meeting normal women. Wunderbar!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sex is amazing with intimacy. The only issue is receiving a massage or having champagne and bubbly is so nice, it's hard not to get turned in and want sex. I think we all crave intimacy x- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love it !
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had great sex but intimacy on a very very deep Passionate emotional level where our souls are connected...nope, Can't say I have or that I can remember.To be honest, Intimacy is what I want.If had to choose, I would have intimacy over a a good bonk anyday.Awwwwwwwwwwwww Amicus75, that was very very touching and beautiful. Thank you.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
One time watching Shaun of the Dead at a point my RHP friend said "that's me, that's me" or something along those lines....I had to rewind....the phrase was "cockacidal maniac"One piece of intimacy I love with the right person is just lying and watching tv and stroking hair and shoulders.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Didn't mean to post it here... is a story I've been baking for a friend and was pasting it into an email to send to her... got my copy/pastes mixed up.Is what happens when trying to do too many things at once.At least I didn't paste it in an email to my boss... that would've been funny... don't think he likes that kind of spam.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being close to some one scares me beyond description. It just puts me in a space that I don't want to be in. Ive hurt a person that I really care about because I couldn't express it properly. I still cant. To me being sexual is what Im about. I love my sex and love what we share. But I just want my freedom to find my limits. When I find those limits, well youll find me baby. Im soo sorry I hurt you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't the op confusing intimacy with romance? Romance is massages, roses, chocolate, scented oils, spas,etc. Intimacy and sex can be done at the same time. Soft sensual kisses, lightly touching her face and body, whispering how sexy she looks, asking if touching her in a certain spot turns her on, nibbling her ear, talking and laughing whilst fooling around, kissing her all over. (You get the picture). To me, that is sex with intimacy. You can still climax and have that release, but it is about how you got there, slow and sensual. Not a quick thrust and all over. Ok, I've spent my 2 cents.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey folks, thanks for your posts. @acdc463, no confusion here. For the purpose of the thread, I am trying to separate a relaxed nurturing experience from one which is sexually charged, and wondering if both men and women might have more inclination to meet if there was no expectation of sex during an encounter, but just the enjoyment of human touch. Depending on my mood, sometimes I crave edgy sex fueled by burning desire, at other times, would be very happy just swapping massages and cuddles. I would certainly be able to guarantee no pressure for sex. Are there many people like this on RHP, who would meet for sharing intimacy without sex?
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RHP User
11 years ago
@MissLissa, its hard not to agree with you there. At the risk of contadicting myself, there have not been too many intimate scenarios that haven't led to intimate sex, but that possibility probably arises from not being sexually driven in the first place LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
@amicus75. Beautiful writing! What if you were to be the recipient of a woman's attentions. What would make you feel warm, nurtured & nourished?
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RHP User
11 years ago
@europeanbliss, you are probably not alone there. I think many men are like this too. I won't assume I know any reasoning behind your situation, but I would like to ask what limits there would be if you were to break it down. Is it personal intimacy that you find confrontational, for example, being relaxed & open with someone you know vs a stranger who you feel comfortable with who will not impact your world apart from your isolated encounter. What would be a safe situation for you to let your hair down? I have worked in massage and bodywork for almost 20 years with the goal of taking people to deep states of relaxation. Sometimes their body armouring is impenetrable, but I will look for a window where the body is receptive. One lady that comes to mind was unresponsive until I got to her hands at which point her body seemed to depressurise, so I spent my time working on her hands alone with good response. It turned out that she had been hospitalized when she was very young relying on medical equipment that was attached to her, and the way she was comforted during that time was by touching & massaging her hands by her parents. It was a very deeply held pattern of shielding & guarding herself, it just took time to figure out. Feel free to decline commenting, I just wanted to gauge where you might be at. xox
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its been so long since I have done anything just intimate...I vaguely remember being given a massage probably about 20 years ago.The most intimate moment I did have was about two months ago as I lay wrapped in someones arms dozing off to sleep.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' BUT..... only because the women I choose to meet these days since my enlightenment and liberation..... have been both intimate and fiendish nymphomaniacle deviates.... depending on the occasion, mood and let's face it.... her hormones... and my own DG- Posted from rhpmobile I think you are so in love with your own hand, you must snap a wrist
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RHP User
11 years ago
but that would make the wrist,well limp
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RHP User
11 years ago
Too funny Feya!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' Being close to some one scares me beyond description. It just puts me in a space that I don't want to be in. Ive hurt a person that I really care about because I couldn't express it properly. I still cant. To me being sexual is what Im about. I love my sex and love what we share. But I just want my freedom to find my limits. When I find those limits, well youll find me baby. Im soo sorry I hurt you. I definitely have problems with intimacy; have for awhile now. It scares me (the intimacy that is). Hopefully there will come a time again in my life when it doesn't...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi!Hun :) Thanks for this Interesting Topic:) I checked out your Profile all I can say is Oh! Yes Plz !!more ha!ha! However I doubt you're Into Mature Women, or live close enough for me to benefit from your attentions Haaaaaa! such is Life he! he! I absolutely adore Intimate Encounters and Sexual Encounters with Guys I have a strong Connection with on all Levels Mind, Body, Emotions, Soul as many have seen me state many a time.. For My Intimate Encounters it begins Online just the little innuendoes very subtle . When it's time to meet touching, Caressing, Bantering with that Special Guy in a Place with ambiance, soft music in the Back ground and left to ourselves to Connect more. Focusing on eachothers eyes as we slowly sliding fingers over each others arms, fingers, softly kissing them, caressing their face and slowly moving in for a soft gentle subtle kiss or two.. Returning Home sitting together a glass of wine, soft music and just slowly running fingers where they wish to go but avoiding the gentials just a little tease or two too heighten the anticipation .. Then sharing Intimate Times in a softly lit room with a subtle scented candles.. oils, food even. My Lover blind folds me begins licking, kissing, sucking the cream from My Body. I giggle as his lips tickle, the feel of his fingers sliding over me makes my whole body tingle...mmmm YUM!! My senses are being teased and I Love It!!.. We share a Warm shower he removes the remaining cream from my body, we kiss touch some more.. Dry each other very slowly and return to the bedroom.. It's my turn to tease His senses .. I want him to see me feel me on every Level of our Connection so I begin to share one of My Massages beginning at his head.. neck shoulders arms hand fingers running the warm scented oil over every part .removing Neg. energies and replacing with Pos. as I do.. Turning over I do the same look into His eyes Connect more Intensely, moan deeply as I do, Charging the air even more ,so every Lick, suck, touch, kiss is enjoyed on every part of his being he moans, at the exquisite pleasure but I only touching the outer regions of his groin .. He then wraps his Body around me gathering his energies and appreciate the moment. Also thinking how he's going to Pleasure me once more with his attentive Massage skilled Hands .. I feel this in his vibes and thinking mmmmmmmmmmmmmm YUM in my mind I can't wait to experience him once more .. Depending on how Intense our Connection is, this may finish holding and just being in each others arms . Or if Intense it becomes erotic and goes into Intimate Foreplay leading to release or into Sexual Intimacy, For me Sex is the way of expressing and the Celebration of our Connection of Mind, Body, Emotions, Soul.. It's a very Precious Gift we share and I seem to attract the Lovers who understand My ways and feel the same about Sex with me.. Enjoy Lu :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lou, I couldnt help but visualize an erotic version of the film lip to Bob Marley's "Iron, Lion, Zion" to your writing. Transformational energy, transcendental states of utopian bliss. That's, um, pretty hot. What tricks DO you have up your sleeve?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1' @amicus75. Beautiful writing! What if you were to be the recipient of a woman's attentions. What would make you feel warm, nurtured & nourished? I don't honestly know... it has been so long I can't quite remember what it was like, I only remember that I liked it and want it again.I think there was something to do with The Look, The Touch and The Unspoken Word (but that may just be the lack of sleep).
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RHP User
11 years ago
.... "friendship is the greatest intimacy" Emile Durkheim.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi!Hun :) I'm glad you experienced what I wrote in My reply.. That I'll explain at a later Date. As to your Question .That's the Beauty of My Connections on all 4 Levels there is no Tricks. Just the enlightened awareness of ones Inner self and the People I'm involved with to Trust Me and accept and open themselves to the Amazing Spiritual/ Energy Gift I send within and around them. It has a Purity about it The more Open and Trusting the More Intense our Connection Becomes and transfers to Our Sensual/Sexual Intimacies.. I realize some may think this is a Load of Crap.I have no issue with that . They're fully entitled to share with Others in ways that work for them. However I would never want to share these Interactions any other way . Hence the Reason I'm very Selective in My Choice of Friends /Lovers.. Enjoy All Cheers Lu :)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Ahhhh lady T....... I don't expect everyone to get it. :-) And my wrists are fine, thanks...... but a lamp was broken recently lol DG :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
is no sex for me...for this type of sex I use my vibrator.I rather wait for sex with a new male then rush in and just satisfy my sex organ.Call me slow, thats what I am. To enjoy for me mean letting myself go.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Awww ain't that sweet DG has just found out what sex is about. Congratulations. 😀 Sounds to me like you have a big crush on girl Friday. 😛
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's nice seeing someone excited about something actually. Friday night DG... Better lock up all your breakable furniture. 😊
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think I could get all that turned on without intimacy as a natural part of sex. For me the two are mutually entwined. Just because you can experience intimacy with a lover, doesn't mean you necessarily need to take things any further than FWB/FB. You just need to ensure that each party knows the boundaries and has a clear head about the nature of the relationship.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Intimacy is something with deep emotions to fuel it's wonders, something Tara and I have been exploring for twenty years.Still we have not found the depth of intensity, intimacy offers.Admittedly it is the intimacy, that has us experimenting with sex, to share with others. However love and intimacy is something that develops with trust and care, lots of it. It is confronting when someone does not understand the values with such and wishes to experience the difference, hence trust and care becomes a bond that cannot possibly be expressed, in a short moment during sex with others.So I guess it comes down to a level of intimacy leading up and during sex with others, to make it a thing worthwhile for all.On the other hand, sitting amongst a bunch of people or one or two, just being comfortable to have open conversation, naughty, sexy, dirty and some humerus wit and banter (sex with each others minds to feelings) Is some of the greatest intimate sexual experiences we have ever shared with others, and a kiss and hug or handshake at the end of the time is about the limits as for the physical moments to be had.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
give me intimacy any day, so much better than just sex, so much harder to achieve...
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