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Sexual Confidence
April 05 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
My sexual confidence ebbs and flows - it’s currently ebbed significantly through loss of a friend who was very important to me. I feel sexual confidence does need to start with the individual. It has to otherwise it won’t truly shine. However I also feel that it can be heightened via a friend/partner whom encourages you and believes in you, compliments you and sees you as sexy. I used to love nothing more than putting on lingerie, a dress and heels and making the person who used to be in my life jaw drop.. I knew I was damn sexy but that moment walking out to him made me feel invincible. I’m trying to recapture that on my own now and it is incredibly hard and I don’t even know where to begin. Hats off to all the damn sexy men and women out there who’s confidence may not be sky rocketing at the moment, those in relationships tell your partner how sexy they are to you and those that aren’t tell yourself you are damn sexy and do your damndest to believe it.
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RHP User
6 years ago
So I can’t stop thinking about this topic EarthQueen and how influential people become on our confidence (in general) without us realising.. how much faith we put in what others think of us that then shapes what we think of ourselves. I’d describe my current confidence levels as similar to jelly can hold its shape whilst in the container but then when let loose is all wibbly wobbly and looks like it’ll collapse.. you’ve given me some food for thought ... off to ponder this with a teaspoon of cement
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RHP User
6 years ago
I also find it easier to see sexiness and confidence in others. Not myself... I don’t know how to accept compliments but readily and sincerely give them with the intent to boost the way that person is feeling about themselves and to encourage them to continue doing what they are doing,, Enough from me - sorry EQ - off to find my cement..
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The_Antichrist
6 years ago
Mine comes from my primal instincts....that is that if I can’t get it to work I just turn it off and then back on again...and if that fails, knock it firmly on the side like the 80’s TVs
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noeleena
6 years ago
Hi. I,m very confident in my self in many details and things I can do , in one having my crew working for me and cooking for 100,s of people next dinner is 130 to 150 people so yes I,m confident , Yet there are details and things I lack so much, so keep in the back ground , and when it comes to my sexuality almost total ...NO...confidence at all, i,m single so no partner to work with ,and no sex friends or partner,s really comes down to I,m rubbish, for 3 1/2 years I ...tried...to gain experance and at least learn , about 6 hours worth in that time , so I have not been able to fit in with other,s sexually. , at 71 youd think I would be experanced fact is I,m not, so pretty much I have given up. Guy,s wont expreanced women, so I,m ruled out. and not likely to be asked , life I quess. ...noeleena...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Noelenna - look I’m the queen of self sabotage and whilst I have said above that my confidence is quite low currently how you speak is very detrimental to yourself. Saying that you have no confidence due to lack of experiences is one thing however calling yourself rubbish is another. The way we present ourselves to others is the way they perceive us. Calling yourself rubbish is not a very optimistic way to promote yourself and won’t result in profile views let alone experiences. People will think hard work and clear the path away from you. (Again hard lessons I’ve learnt)
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Was born with the help of the many personalities of RHP. The most credit goes to an ex gf l met in here, whom nurtured me out and was my wingwoman for a couple of years. With her help l was confident to explore many parties and 3somes and moresomes, meeting so many of the sexy peeps from RHP around Australia. Of course the condidence/sexiness ebbs and flows but once developed, it's always there somewhere. Was always a wallflower and l could never explain fully the difference it's all made and the friends I've made because of it. Life changing. Maybe if you hang with sexy confident people it rubs off . It did with me.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Comes from myself accepting who I am and all my super perfect imperfections. I feel confident with a lover. Lights on, lights off, no shame here as I'm ok and am confident being naked and I also dont care what others think of me either. Ms Foxy
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
@vixen I don’t mind how many times you write. I appreciate your poignant honesty x
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nightingale8
6 years ago
Mine definitely came more from others, a large part from my partner who told me how much he adored my more muscular "thick" body type, something I'd been quite self conscious of. It just made me feel safe and with safety comes freedom to explore and let go. It rarely correlated with confidence in other areas of my life.
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noeleena
6 years ago
Hi, To Avixen. Thank You so much . and I really do mean that.I have been doing a lot of thinking about what you said,, your right = hard work = and as happened ignored and walk past with out acknowlaging I was even there, This is a WOW, to me. The way we present our selfs to other,s , heres a contrast, I have been in front of over 3 Million people TVNZ Cambell live and Close up, and given talks and was invited to , to large groups of people and talked to 1000,s more, and had many come up to me and talk to me. that I can do and have done. so how I present myself to people is not the issue , it is...….. when it comes to any thing sexual or at meetup,s like swinger,s , Theres Dynamics going on that I fail with, yes I know I,m at fault. how to change that is Oh Dear me. Thank You again. I,v taken on board what you have said,. ...noeleena...
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MzTracey
6 years ago
I really enjoy being confident with sex and meeting people Confident is sexy for me If a girl or guy knows exactly what they want that’s hot xxx
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RHP User
6 years ago
I would say that I am passionate not confident.
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
ok it’s friday night and have had some honesty serum ,sexual confidence ,fuck me ,never had it all my young years , then i met my awesome mrs b ,and realised one part of my game was good , and from there confidence grew ,then swinging ,and the confidence grew more cos i was king of my domain and my dick was hard ,,amazing how confident you can be as a guy when erections are hard and easy to come by ,fast foward to bent dick ,looks foreign ,and no idea of how it will go go cos christ knows i’m scared to death of snapping it again ,in short it’s been a tough six weeks so far ,it’s really affected many dimensions of my brain ,to the point of one message pointing out something from someone’s point of view that would normally just be water of a ducks back but no confidence is gonevand i feel like curling up into a ball and hiding from the world so confidence can be a fragile thing it comes and can go in a heat beat depending on the day and situation mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mr b I thought my life currently sucked - it dies but on a whole different level to yours.. My advise to you right now would be too look at Mrs b - see the way she looks at you, hear the way she talks to you and about you to others - that there is more confidence than anyone will ever need. That support is more encouragement than you’ll ever get from anyone else. Sometimes the tables turn and life does feel like it’s rail roading is down a corridor we do not want. When that happens look at the people around you - see who you surround yourself with and see the value in yourself that they see in you. You, unlike me, are not alone, you have Mrs b, hug her kiss her let her support you. And a cock doesn’t make a man, how he treats people does. At the risk of encouraging drinking have another drink and put some positive thoughts in your head - for kids b, for me, for the friends you have made. I’ll have a sip of Woodstock just for you 😉
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ok typo - Mrs b not kids b... I’ll call myself on the typo lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
EarthQueen - thank you
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
thankyou , i look at mrs b with two busted knees and think trade you ,she had surgery tuesday , and realise we will make it work , a dick doesn’t make the man ,but confidence using it does , ,surgeon says early days for me ,but six weeks of broken sleep cos of a broken dick does not help the brain in the confidence department , no more drinks ,that shit is bad for the guts ,lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mrb there’s nothing wrong with a drink every now and then - given what you’ve both been through a drink to relax and unwind is nothing anyone would hold against you so don’t you damn well hold it against yourself! Now go forth and give mrsb a kiss and stop being so bloody hard on yourself! Life is a battle for sure and certain and it’s not the falls that define us but how we get up fighting after the fall... so strap in and enjoy the roller coaster ride because the downs come with ups!
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Love The name change MrB. And weren't we up to 8 in the count?
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
The body can take a while to heal (especially at our age) don't give up on it just yet. Just try and relax. The anxiety and stress will make it worse, yeah? A sure fire way for a man to struggle with erections etc. is to constantly think about how he might not get one, it's not working etc. I can tell that it's been really hard for you. It's really shitty and I'm sorry xxIf you think it's really starting to affect your well being maybe talk to someone who can help you manage the anxiety?
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's actually ok to not feel sexually confident 24/7 ,365 days a year.IMO it can ebb and flow,depending on many different variables .We are far too hard on ourselves..especially women.Physical health,mental health hormonal changes,relationship issues ,family dynamics etc. But a little self love goes a long way,Remind yourself of all that you love ,like about yourself and don't focus on the lacks. Years ago I read that Michelle Pfiefer thought that she looked like a duck..go figure :) Hugs Q
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Feeling your pain and ebb of confidence. It's now about repairing that and taking that as just another personal challenge. Knowing you, you will accept the challenge and succeed and come out the other side. Your lovely lady will get you to the other side. Hugs to you both. X
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
fff one day before the month was up it got to 10 ,lol , i will be fine hopefully,once i start using it again ,it’s the waiting and the unknown now mrs b has had her knees done ,the wait is on again ,surgeon said 6 months for it to fully heal ,was like a born again virgin when we tried last week ,no confidence what so ever ,ive got different equipment,that’s a different length due to the bend and be damned if i’m snapping it a second time cos of bad attempted re entry,lol ,mr b
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
oh and there is a little anxiety ,but that’s ok ,we are all human ,eq,for the record getting erections aren’t the problem ,those buggers come often ,i never knew how many times during the night until i woke up in pain every time ,it’s what happens to mr bendy when it does go up that is screwing with my head apparently it the healing process and scarr tissue,lets say it’s not what i’m used to looking at ,lol ,could be good for g spot stimulation from behind ,lol i will make it work to my freaky advantage if i have to ,and rebuild that confidence ,don’t think i will ever be at that level of pick me pick me i’m awesome though ,lmao
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