Sexual attraction

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Because I had had a progesterone implant inserted for birth control. Worst idea ever, and aside from not wanting sex, I turned into an utter c**t! Took it out after 4 months...

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  When I was in my late teens early 20tys , I went though a faze if I liked a guy I would chase them once I knew they liked me at firstly it was by getting with them a few times after or it was sleeping with them , but once I got them I was over them it he chase was over! Now this was not enough frill for me so I slowly went down to just getting with them to know they like me and the chase would be no more but what I then I got to just flirting with guys once I knew I had them liking me , the frill of the chase was over so my desire dot them was no more . This wasn't to hurt no one !this just was a faze I went through hey I was good at being a ct back then!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi Freya... This is such a sad topic. I have had this happen a few times with people I still totally adore as people. I have no idea why it happened and I just wish things would have stayed how they were. Each time I just woke up one morning and the thought of touching them just made me cringe. I didn't know how to explain it and really didn't want to hurt their feelings or self esteem so made excuses. I wish I knew why- I'll read this thread with interest. Xxviolet

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Particularly whil I was pregnant and after I had the kids. But severe 24/7 sickness for the whole duration of both pregnancies will do that. And for the first six months after the kids were born I felt all touched out, especially breast feeding 20 times a day lol! I think sometimes a slight change of someone's attitude (not noticeable) or a new perspective can alter the dynamics just enough to kill the spark but not feel any other change. And it's horrible if the person is everything they previously were and you're just not into them anymore.

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  9 years ago

  The reason being is they weren't the right ones, so they annoyed me after 2 days together. My mind does silly things to me, I need my own space to get and keep my head in a space it needs to be. I once had a lover that lived in WA, when he would come over he'd spend between 3 and 7 days, not once did he annoy me, because he would just give me my space. Yet I had a local lover come stay for 2 days and he wouldn't leave my side, clingy, needy, annoying, I never seen him again after that. My lover now, we spend lots of time together maybe 3/4 days a week, but there is usually a day or 2 intween them and this works for me. So I come to the conclusion that I need my space, if I want to have any kind of relationship it's best not to spead too much time with one person or they tend to annoy the shit out of me.

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  Yep. Doors close in peoples minds for any number of reasons.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  AND THEY WERE BOTH RIGHT There is so much violence yet to be done.He falls into her bodyblind because desire makes him blinddeaf and limbless for the same reason. But what is love?And is this a question or a statement? He will beundone by it, she shudders in jubilation,and pulls him to her night - like a dressto be undone. Love will be made and unmade - naturally,unnaturally. It will be invokedlike a reason, like a form of life.It will be forgotten. What if love is no more thana tangle of musclesaching to be untiedby knowing fingers? What if love is made and nothing else -asked Narcissus, leaning over the green iris of water. Nothing else,cried Echo from the green cochlea of the woods. And they were both right.And they were both lonely. KAPKA KASSABOVA

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  it's like a dog chained up for me....and then the postman comes....the dog runs flat out toward him and then the chain pulls tight, choking the hell outta the dog..... For as long as I can remember, even when married, I've had this.....I've so far just written it off that I am quite the solitary being. I like people don't get me wrong, but I like people...but on my terms....that sounds selfish as fuck and it is....but I'm at a loss as to how to find the right balance.... I never used to be like this though. I used to be a very social person until I started driving interstate....now its the opposite....it doesn't feel like a fear thing, it feels like I'm struggling to breathe.... I'm incredibly thankful that my lover treats me as I treat her and I wouldn't expect anything less....she's a damn fine woman that I feel lucky to have, despite that I may not entirely tell her that or make her feel it.....there's just something about her :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  PurePeony

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Lovinit28' The reason being is they weren't the right ones, so they annoyed me after 2 days together. My mind does silly things to me, I need my own space to get and keep my head in a space it needs to be. I once had a lover that lived in WA, when he would come over he'd spend between 3 and 7 days, not once did he annoy me, because he would just give me my space. Yet I had a local lover come stay for 2 days and he wouldn't leave my side, clingy, needy, annoying, I never seen him again after that. My lover now, we spend lots of time together maybe 3/4 days a week, but there is usually a day or 2 intween them and this works for me. So I come to the conclusion that I need my space, if I want to have any kind of relationship it's best not to spead too much time with one person or they tend to annoy the shit out of me. I hear ya, Sista! And I wanna *high 5 you! Right from a tender age, I discovered a great need for personal space. More so than most people of my heritage so I am a bit of an anomaly. I cannot do the 24/7 clingy thing... it will drive me absolutely bonkers and I might go mental! LOL! That's why I adore the "Together Apart" style of relationship where a couple is committed and exclusive to each other, but they do not necessarily see each other seven days a week. Maybe due to work or a long commute, they live separately but come together on weekends, public holidays and vacations. They maintain separate identities and separate groups of friends most of the time, but they attend events together and they love and care for each other. Or, if they live under the same roof, then there has to be a man cave for him and a foxy den for me! :D I might not want to sleep on the same bed every night either because sometimes, work and studies demand a lot out of me and a good night's rest is only possible when one sleeps alone, especially since I am a light sleeper. I might sleep in my foxy den and then slip back into bed with him before he wakes up for cuddles and good morning sex! Hehehe! I thnk sexual attraction can disappear if those of us who need space force ourselves to get too close to someone because it's "conventional" for a couple in a relationship to behave in a certain way and do things a certain style. For me, sexual attraction has disappeared in two significant relationships because of unkindness and being constantly belittled plus threats to my personal safety with anger management issues in one. In the other relationship, it was due to being disregarded and being brushed off rudely too many times and him withholding sex for almost a year. I don't know how men can stay in a sexless relationship / marriage because it almost killed me staying faithful in a sex-less relationship and it was just for a year. Men who use the good ol' "Not tonight, dear... I've got a headache!" line do exist! Shockers! LOL!!! Sexual attraction can also disappear for me due to dodgy personal hygiene, a sloppy appearance and if I appear to have more "balls" and chutzpah than the man.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  .. on the once sexiest lady I ever knew. Once she thought she could orchestrate every aspect of our life it went downhill very fast. This killed off any remaining sexual feelings which eventually made me shut her out completely. As much as she tryed to claw back what we once had , it was too late. The feelings were gone and I knew it could never be repaired. These days I'm carefull of who I allow into my world but ATM I'm enjoying the attention of one of the sweetest girls to come along for a long time. When we chat and she gazes into my eyes and I get a genuine sexual reaction . I like it. It's nice

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  On both occasions, I was in a serious long term relationship with two individuals (separately I might add - not both at the same time.) Without going into details, I literally fell out of love with each man. As time passed, the more I knew them, I found that the less I liked either of them, and the less attractive they became. Each individuals values and moral compass came to the surface over a period of time. Their values and mine did not align in the slightest. I eventually decided that neither person was actually a very nice, loyal or caring person. I learned a rather valuable life lesson. Anyone can say they love you, words are rather easy to say. It's a persons actions, and the way they treat you that speaks volumes.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  And there is usually a reason: Let me count them: Ah too many to count, but needless to say something died or just wasn't happening as my soul desired. Maybe not enough of something or too much of something else. Just look and there will be a reason. Mmmmmm. Time to bow out.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  nope that's never happened to me, there's always a reason

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'StarJustice' When I was in my late teens early 20tys , I went though a faze if I liked a guy I would chase them once I knew they liked me at firstly it was by getting with them a few times after or it was sleeping with them , but once I got them I was over them it he chase was over! Now this was not enough frill for me so I slowly went down to just getting with them to know they like me and the chase would be no more but what I then I got to just flirting with guys once I knew I had them liking me , the frill of the chase was over so my desire dot them was no more . This wasn't to hurt no one !this just was a faze I went through hey I was good at being a ct back then! same with me when I was young, similar age, it was the chase and the initial connection, then gone. Very different now though, much of it to do with sexuality and where I'm at with that, and having the benefit of the internet to find what I need All those years ago too, for me, it was very different, a different time, a time of monogamy, the only path I thought I had, but was never comfortable with that. Loving life now though and no regrets

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