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Sexuality complexity and contradictions....

July 15 2010

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I was at the health clinic the other day and the nurse asked if I was a sex worker.. hehe. I wish.. lolz.. I've been watching "Hung". Other funny things they ask for are for your sexuality... or rather, she put it this way... "How you identity in terms of sexuality". My answer was that I don't... I just accept that I would like to root anyone that turns me on... so she said I was "Polysexual". I dont often identify as a polysexual, but there you go. I don't think I need a label for it, except when filling in forms at a sex clinic. I see myself as a bohemian man and therefore not identifying my sexual preference works for me. I think this raises interesting questions. We are all apprently quick to label other people based, I guess, on our perception of who they have sex with. I think we are too quick to label other people, dont you? How you identify yourself in terms of sexual orientation is to some extent a choice, isn't it? For example you might make a choice base on your feelings towards the available genders, I suppose. This choice might exclude our "unwanted sexual attractions" or those attractions that do not fit in with your self image. Im not suggesting that you have a choice over who you are attracted to... but a choice regarding sexuality identity. Is that wrong? Statistically, I've heard that ony 15% of the men who do have same sex attraction identify as either gay or bisexual. Put another way, 85 men in 100 who are sexually attracted to some other dudes identify as straight rather than as either bisexual or gay. Of the 85, few of them act on those attractions for their own reasons. I think it is important to be comfortable with your own sexuality but it is more important to be comfortable with how you identify your own sexuality. If you are not, then you will get anxt, and we all know that anxiety causes erectile dysfunction, which makes being a sex worker really quite difficult. :p Hugs Stalky

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I would have to agree with you in that I am attracted to whoever Im attracted to...gender means little to me.Hmm....polysexual hey?I quite like it....provided someone doesnt assume that meansi love to fuck parrots.Hahahahaha!!Im with you....who needs a label?Just get out there and start lovin'!JMO...BJxxx

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  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    I have always believed you are attracted to a person not a gender. Whether you act on those attractions are your own choice (hopefully). This was made very clear to me when my cousin (female) says to me she thinks she is going mad. She identified herself as straight but was increasingly becoming attracted to a lovely woman she had met. They are now a couple and both very happy. Why do we put labels on ourselves? I guess we al just need to fit into some kind of role that supposedly society has made for us. I dont let a gender limit who I like to play with, just cuts down on the number of choices available to me. Kisses Focus

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Well I am a poly addict I am addicted to · Great Coffee · Warm Summer evenings · Sport · Commenting on the less boring Forum post But who needs labels

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Stalky what a great show !! I believe you are what you want .No labels just attractions, desires and wants..

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    as humans we are generally uncomfortable with the unknown, and things that we do not understand. to spare ourselves from this little mind fuck we put everything into groups and give those groups names (labels), in the belief that we are creating a pool of knowledge that can be called upon whenever we need to deal with the various aspects life and the world. all for the purpose of bolstering our confidence and sense of security in a world of unknowns. we fear what we dont understand, and make efforts to alay those fears by grouping and labelling things within the limits of our human mental capacity. we do the best we can. consider this... if there is a species more intellegent than humans, they, with their greater mental capacity, would create more groups, more labels, giving them a superior aptitude in dealing with the world and eachother, but still run into the problem of 'generalising', albeit less frequently than humans do, because its just not feasible to identify everything in the universe on an individual basis. its a habit that, as a species, we will probably never break, and lets face it, this system of labelling is probably responsible for our progress and prosperity up to this point. not to ignore that it is definitely responsible for many of our prejudices. now i think i'll have another beer.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    A gay man once told me it pissed him off that he had to tell his parents /friends/society that he was gay. His brother wasnt gay and he didnt have to tell anybody !!!!!!!!!!!! and no body asked him to clarify/identify I like the hippy way of thinking....free love... or the christian...love thy neighbour ( oh how convenient ! lol ) and the musical.......love the one your with......and...hmmmm maybe im just feeling the need for some lovin lol .......poly who ???

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    oh fuck man, i just crackers.Missin her Sheep has the right idea.love the one yer with.........ahahahahahahahahhaahhahaaEarl

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Theone1983, Science surely can't continue to disregard all the minor anomalies. How many happy accidents does it take for scientists to realise that chaos is the earthly order of things? Surely we can embrace the natural tendancy for everything to be ruled by a natural tendancy towards entropy.... I know it's less lofty... and dare I say it... less godlike to think that knowing isn't everything... but I happen to prefer a more earthy world view.... one with a bit of myth and mystery... people need myth and mystery. There's room for it in our lives so throw caution to the wind, get a bit of entropy in your world... let that grape vine find its own trellis... try out a few Tibetan Oommms and spin a prayer wheel from time to time just for fun; Embrace some meditated happiness.... forget to ask "why" once in a while and let shit happen to bring some life back into those stifled hamstrung ideas.... :p HUgs Stalky

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  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    i also believe that chaos is the natural order, as do many scientists, i was just trying to say that due to our own human nature ( and i know i generalise here) its a lamentable fact that we put tags on everything as part of the process of securing our comfort and control over our environment. i also agree that people need a measure of the mystical in their lives, and that its probably been part of our evolutionary developement, no less than the labelling 'habit'. for example, shamans and witch doctors have been part of human society since before recorded history. this means that way back when it was a struggle to survive in an untamed world, and we today might think that there would have been scarce resources in the 'tribe' to support the seemingly unproductive lifestyles of these mystical practitioners , still there was a place for them in the social unit. i think it just goes to show that we must need these things like we need food and water. would have been fun to have a friendly debate with u stalky, but i agree with what ur saying, so maybe next time we can argue till we're blue in the face.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Judgement values, all of them. If you're talking sexual favors, then yes, I've been guilty of engaging with someone I have not been 'compatible' with from time to time. And the reverse too as I look back. It's not the ideal but it felt comfortable at the time(or ceased shortly thereafter). Maybe we are all changing and evolving sexually as we grow older, allowing shades of grey instead of the rigid constructs of black or white that feed the stereotyping of personalities. I've been a lot of things for a lot of people, but always me in the equation. Call whoever you want whatever you want based on your collective reasoning and judgement. To some I am a 'deviant' and I will take that one coz I like it. Congratulations on your new polymer title, you may advance to polyvinylchloride with that nurse(in time)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I'm pretty sure our sexual desires do change over time... or maybe they develop... or maybe we become more comfortable with our naughty thoughts and don't dismiss them straight away based on some earlier held world view... for example, some people find religion.. and then get really radical about it... and then mellow again... environmental factors must have a role in how we think... A deviant. Yep. That's perfect. polyvinylchloride? Is that like having a mould made of my cock? hehe. The same nurse took a photo of a penis belonging to a friend of mine.. for academic purposes. I suppose a plaster casting would give me bragging rights over him for once. Yay! Hugs Stalky

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  • Letsgetcrazy09

    Letsgetcrazy09

    14 years ago

    Now I know where my parrot has gone Lets

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    As humans.. especially those scientists, we attempt to find order in the chaos...hence chaos theory....seeking to find some rythmn and order in the most random of events. Labelling allows us to compare something new with our accumulated personal knowledge and make a decision about acceptability (and maybe potentially our own safety or integrity). The more familiar we become with the previously unfamiliar the more acceptable it becomes. This may limit our opportunities initially, unless we have the ability to hone our intuitive instincts and then learn to trust them. Ca sa ra ...whatever will be..... will be Our sexuality surely is defined/refined/evloved by the amount of exposure to "different" opportunities. As the incidence of acceptable exposure that is non threatening to our emotional and psychological safety to the homosexual lifestyle increases, homophobia surely decreases. Becoming aware that others have similar interests as our own allows us to feel more normal and thus what we may have been previously supressing begins to see light of day. Its acceptability has grown in our perception. Conversly bad experiences have the opposite effect. so........ what was so academic about your mates appendage then ???

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    like that show too. maybe stalky, taipan and myself need to start a new business/career change. RHP guys for hire. Any takers for female pimp to organise our schedules. (miss bowpeek or miss saturn seem to have the skills to organise stuff) how is 10% commission sounding to you girls

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    how about I see yours and raise you ???

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    will you be able to raise me if you see mine? maybe a raise if i see yours.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    a polly eh? that explains why i all ways had the hots for polly from the bill for me i a hetro male.. non practicing but the year aint over yet :)

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