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Sharing your girl in mfm
October 23 2013
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Well it's about trust n being comfortable! We usually either know the other guy going to be involved really well or we like to meet the guy being involved before hand!! But if it's a spare of the moment pick up on a night night then they still play by our rules.... It is fun - but it's a trust thing for us x
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usnow
11 years ago
If your having those thoughts its probably telling you something , your not ready for it . Swingnew .
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not that we don't feel strong just want to here how it went for others there first time and ways u guys worked it. We r both keen just don't want to wreck what we have. So would love all feed back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Then afterwards you can answer your own question
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GunnaBHot
11 years ago
You must be very strong and comfortable in your relationship and trust each other. Also you have to be able to detach sex and love. Once you are good with the notion sex can be about pleasure, especially her pleasure. and not about forming a relationship then its good. Remember its him that will have to watch another guy pleasure her so its most likely him who will have issues with it. It can be alittle confronting at first but if you're ready its great but only when you're ready in your relationship.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Try it first with a couple. If you like it after that, then look for a single guy that suits your desire...
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S_W_A_G_G_E_R
11 years ago
I only tried it once with a girl that i was in a serious relationship with. We had a night arainged with a good mate of mine, who new her as well. There was a lot of emotions came up when it came to the crunch time. The night never went ahead, with a lot of soul searching done afterwards. Both of us had discused it and were very keen with the idea. The same mate and i have, over the last fifteen years or so, had a few threesomes with a girl where there was no emotional attatchment. All have been great nights. I'd suggest starting slowly, may be a swingers party, where you don't have to get involved unless you feel completly comfortable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Hot42 since no one seems to want to give you any advice here is some from a single gal who has been in threesomes with loved ones. So, these are things I have learned and which you may find useful. Hope I don't sound like your mother and I am assuming that you both are not experienced in group sex. Apologies if you are. So here goes.......1. You can fantasize about things your whole life but sometimes the reality doesn't live up to the hype, or maybe its just completely different to what you are expecting. For me you usually have to try something a few times to see if you really like things or not. Or, sometimes you may realise in the middle of your threesome, "hell no this isn't for me" so........2. It is good to discuss all your rules first. About kissing, oral sex, penetration, bum love.... what is it you want to experience and be upfront with the guy and chat to him about his expectations too. Make sure you tell him if you do have any rules in place. Just so everyone is on the same page. 3. You should both have a safe word or signal in case one of you decides during the threesome that you don't want to take things further, the other one must stop and respect that decision.4. Always respect each others wishes, and take things slow. It sometimes takes awhile to find the right guy or the right mix. So if you do have a disappointing experience... that's just one of those things, doesn't mean it will be like that the next time. 5. Do discuss jealousy issues. What will you do if you feel jealous seeing her with another guy for instance. Something I definitely know is that you NEVER know how you will react or feel until the event, I don't care how often you have fantasized about it or talked about or planned it, sometimes the reality is something completely different and unexpected feelings creep up on you . And it's okay to feel weird or jealous you just need a plan of how you will handle it if it does come up. I think maybe if you are both mindful and talk to each other during the threesome, maybe ask frequently are you okay or something. Make sure that you are always both comfortable with everything that is happening. 6. Don't have the threesome with a friend or someone you know. Someone new to you both is better, just in case you do have problems it isn't your next door neighbour that you have to look at everyday. Hmmm that's all I got at the moment. Do you have any specific questions you would like to ask or something that you are concerned about. Just ask and I we will try and answer it for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hi Hot42 since no one seems to want to give you any advice here is some from a single gal who has been in threesomes with loved ones. So, these are things I have learned and which you may find useful. Hope I don't sound like your mother and I am assuming that you both are not experienced in group sex. Apologies if you are. So here goes.......1. You can fantasize about things your whole life but sometimes the reality doesn't live up to the hype, or maybe its just completely different to what you are expecting. For me you usually have to try something a few times to see if you really like things or not. Or, sometimes you may realise in the middle of your threesome, "hell no this isn't for me" so........2. It is good to discuss all your rules first. About kissing, oral sex, penetration, bum love.... what is it you want to experience and be upfront with the guy and chat to him about his expectations too. Make sure you tell him if you do have any rules in place. Just so everyone is on the same page. 3. You should both have a safe word or signal in case one of you decides during the threesome that you don't want to take things further, the other one must stop and respect that decision.4. Always respect each others wishes, and take things slow. It sometimes takes awhile to find the right guy or the right mix. So if you do have a disappointing experience... that's just one of those things, doesn't mean it will be like that the next time. 5. Do discuss jealousy issues. What will you do if you feel jealous seeing her with another guy for instance. Something I definitely know is that you NEVER know how you will react or feel until the event, I don't care how often you have fantasized about it or talked about or planned it, sometimes the reality is something completely different and unexpected feelings creep up on you . And it's okay to feel weird or jealous you just need a plan of how you will handle it if it does come up. I think maybe if you are both mindful and talk to each other during the threesome, maybe ask frequently are you okay or something. Make sure that you are always both comfortable with everything that is happening. 6. Don't have the threesome with a friend or someone you know. Someone new to you both is better, just in case you do have problems it isn't your next door neighbour that you have to look at everyday. Hmmm that's all I got at the moment. Do you have any specific questions you would like to ask or something that you are concerned about. Just ask and I we will try and answer it for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry don't mean to scare you or put you off. I am not saying that you won't like it........... you may fucken love it and think why did we wait so long! All I am saying is be prepared for all the eventualities. That's all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have tried many guys - we always talk about our boundaries with him (together) and our rules first and if all happy we play. We have never had a bad experience and we always talk about it after and any insecurities or curiosities :) We have only tried one couple - it was a bad experience and have not gone back. We say give the MFM a go - it can be a lot of fun to see your girl being the center of two guys attention :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with swingnew :)) test your waters out at a club simply let her dance with other man n see how u both feel as they start to grab her ass n so on?? Do not fuk them but use this as a strong guid n talk about the evening when u r both home ? If all goes well move to that next stage of kissing n maybe oral but most of all go slow as rushing any idea can turn out bad thoughts in ones head :) Best of luck either way
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RHP User
11 years ago
Talk, talk, talk, not just fantasy type talk, but real talk, with clothes on! Make your boundries and realise that they may change but keep each other in the know, what may feel right with one guy may not be right with another and fantasy is different to reality.Take your time choosing someone and get to know them a little before you play and let them know of your boundries and discuss any of theirs, remember they are not a toy but an active participant with their own wants, needs and boundries.Play safe and have fun
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Hi Hot42 since no one seems to want to give you any advice here is some from a single gal who has been in threesomes with loved ones. So, these are things I have learned and which you may find useful. Hope I don't sound like your mother and I am assuming that you both are not experienced in group sex. Apologies if you are. So here goes.......1. You can fantasize about things your whole life but sometimes the reality doesn't live up to the hype, or maybe its just completely different to what you are expecting. For me you usually have to try something a few times to see if you really like things or not. Or, sometimes you may realise in the middle of your threesome, "hell no this isn't for me" so........2. It is good to discuss all your rules first. About kissing, oral sex, penetration, bum love.... what is it you want to experience and be upfront with the guy and chat to him about his expectations too. Make sure you tell him if you do have any rules in place. Just so everyone is on the same page. 3. You should both have a safe word or signal in case one of you decides during the threesome that you don't want to take things further, the other one must stop and respect that decision.4. Always respect each others wishes, and take things slow. It sometimes takes awhile to find the right guy or the right mix. So if you do have a disappointing experience... that's just one of those things, doesn't mean it will be like that the next time. 5. Do discuss jealousy issues. What will you do if you feel jealous seeing her with another guy for instance. Something I definitely know is that you NEVER know how you will react or feel until the event, I don't care how often you have fantasized about it or talked about or planned it, sometimes the reality is something completely different and unexpected feelings creep up on you . And it's okay to feel weird or jealous you just need a plan of how you will handle it if it does come up. I think maybe if you are both mindful and talk to each other during the threesome, maybe ask frequently are you okay or something. Make sure that you are always both comfortable with everything that is happening. 6. Don't have the threesome with a friend or someone you know. Someone new to you both is better, just in case you do have problems it isn't your next door neighbour that you have to look at everyday. Hmmm that's all I got at the moment. Do you have any specific questions you would like to ask or something that you are concerned about. Just ask and I we will try and answer it for you. I don't think they could have hoped for a better response...2 thumbs up for you
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Meeks, yeah that has been what we r worries about u know u talk about it heaps and like u said its so different to actually having to confront it. I am the female part of the couple talking to and I am keen but I don't want someone to make my man feel inadequate because he is not and we r not doing it to find a huge cock that's not it at all more the fun and excitement of three people sharring some good horny fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hi Hot42 since no one seems to want to give you any advice here is some from a single gal who has been in threesomes with loved ones. So, these are things I have learned and which you may find useful. Hope I don't sound like your mother and I am assuming that you both are not experienced in group sex. Apologies if you are. So here goes.......1. You can fantasize about things your whole life but sometimes the reality doesn't live up to the hype, or maybe its just completely different to what you are expecting. For me you usually have to try something a few times to see if you really like things or not. Or, sometimes you may realise in the middle of your threesome, "hell no this isn't for me" so........2. It is good to discuss all your rules first. About kissing, oral sex, penetration, bum love.... what is it you want to experience and be upfront with the guy and chat to him about his expectations too. Make sure you tell him if you do have any rules in place. Just so everyone is on the same page. 3. You should both have a safe word or signal in case one of you decides during the threesome that you don't want to take things further, the other one must stop and respect that decision.4. Always respect each others wishes, and take things slow. It sometimes takes awhile to find the right guy or the right mix. So if you do have a disappointing experience... that's just one of those things, doesn't mean it will be like that the next time. 5. Do discuss jealousy issues. What will you do if you feel jealous seeing her with another guy for instance. Something I definitely know is that you NEVER know how you will react or feel until the event, I don't care how often you have fantasized about it or talked about or planned it, sometimes the reality is something completely different and unexpected feelings creep up on you . And it's okay to feel weird or jealous you just need a plan of how you will handle it if it does come up. I think maybe if you are both mindful and talk to each other during the threesome, maybe ask frequently are you okay or something. Make sure that you are always both comfortable with everything that is happening. 6. Don't have the threesome with a friend or someone you know. Someone new to you both is better, just in case you do have problems it isn't your next door neighbour that you have to look at everyday. Hmmm that's all I got at the moment. Do you have any specific questions you would like to ask or something that you are concerned about. Just ask and I we will try and answer it for you. Sorry to get off track but just had to say we had almost lost faith in the forum process and the validity and helpfulness of the comments but we were pleasantly surprised when we read this response. Hopefully the OP will get some more members inputing their experiences and trying to answer the questions, sorry we can't contribute we have still got L plates.
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
It is hard and daunting the first time, but if you sit down and discuss everything you do and don't want to do you will hae a great time. After you have finished and the 3rd party has left, strip the bed, take a shower and then climb back into bed and MAKE LOVE to each other. Connect together as a couple again. Good luck Mrs Fantasyx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks everyone for your feedback and not just saying childish crap we really appreciate any ideas and thoughts on this so we get it right. Does anyone no of a swingers club in Darwin??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have a look at the events and club section on this site to get an idea of places you can go to locally. In the newbie forum section there are a number of topics discussing sex clubs and parties, what you can expect to see and how things are. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just wanted to add for the mister, as I assume you are not bi and will not be playing with the other guy yourself? With my first threesomes I was a bit unsure of myself so there were a few times where I felt a little left out of the action... I felt excluded, not because they were excluding me but because I didn't have the confidence to speak up or just join in. Three years has passed and now I just yell "Geronimo, here I come ready or not" and I just dive into the mosh pit of bodies! But it has taken a few experiences for me to get there. So don't worry if you feel a bit like that, your confidence will grow an you will feel more comfortable with it all as time goes on. Mrs, don't get so carried away that you forget Mister.... Always make sure he feels part of the action, even if that is watching for awhile. Lots of saucy looks and winks. And for me I like the continual communication during threesomes between me and my lover... We verbally communicate all the time and lots of teasing looks too.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Comments like.... Do you like watching me suck this cock? Want to watch me deep throat it, etc etc. Two things. Maybe I should write a book, and two. OMG I am horny now! 😛
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mekka you are amazing... as always. DT x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DeepThought' Mekka you are amazing... as always. DT x Sorry "Meeka".
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madotara69
11 years ago
If you can find a guy that is a team player. If you can find the right guy, then you will not need to worry about anything hurting anyone's feelings. What we look for with playing as a couple together with another man, is that he is comfortable to speak with both of us first. That way it is much easier for us both to feel that the sex is going to be more of a three way plan as it happens.If you are all playing together and all keeping focus to each others feelings, it is not likely that things will be bad.Maybe, if and when you find a man to join you, just all first talk about being comfortable to pause during the moments, if anyone is feeling unsure. If a guy wants to play with you as a couple, he needs to be treated as a part with three.Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Finding the right guy is difficult because you don't know who's right until you have actually played with them. From my experience of meeting many couples. I find it easier when the couple tell me before hand of what they are expecting, what they like or do not like.I have had a situation where the female wanted to play with me while forcing the husband to watch. They started arguing, and I felt very awkward that I had to leave. For first timers I suggest meeting someone with experience first, and once you become very comfortable about MFM then you can explore the other ones. Be smart, pick a safe choice (with many validations)- then move one once you have become experienced yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But we are very trusting and loyal in our approach. If yr the jealous type then don't do it. 1st Do it with a stranger not a friend, so you don't have to see him again if there's an issue for one if you. We are comfortable enough to party with selected friends now and there's nothing better than watching mrs take two guys. She's a star to me- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
dieselnoi, We had a great time with a guy who had some experience with couples, Though it made it much easier to invite him to join us, once we had that communication, as you suggested. It very much came down to how he responded to what we were looking for with him to be a part with it all.His manner made all the difference, he was respectful and answered our questions simply and straight to them. Not once did he praise himself, not once did he not address both of us. And when we did meet he did not in anyway rush for anything, we all talked for quite a while before anything sexual began.And while we played, we all took the time to chit chat, laugh and joke, listen to some music, share some stories. It gave Tara good time to relax into things, all of us for that matter. Though guys do not seem to dash off so often to the powder room, Think it is just a lady thing. She looked beautiful the whole time none the less.should have said the right type of guy.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
The real question of how things will go is how you answer that question, is it going to grate on you thinking back to her opening her legs for another guy and doing it eagerly?.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Talk about it first and make sure you are both 100% on the same page.I (the male married to the female) have no issues sharing my wife as I find it a turn on seeing her explore and enjoy herself. However, we pick our potential partners VERY carefully! Honesty creates trust, trust allows you to explore fantasies.
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
Quoting 'hot24uandsome' Thanks everyone for your feedback and not just saying childish crap we really appreciate any ideas and thoughts on this so we get it right. Does anyone no of a swingers club in Darwin?? Sorry guys, we have searched and searched and nothing! There is a couple that organises parties about twice a year, but we have yet to go to one or seen one advertised.Send us a PM if you want to catch up :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'GunnaBHot' You must be very strong and comfortable in your relationship and trust each other. Also you have to be able to detach sex and love. Once you are good with the notion sex can be about pleasure, especially her pleasure. and not about forming a relationship then its good. Remember its him that will have to watch another guy pleasure her so its most likely him who will have issues with it. It can be alittle confronting at first but if you're ready its great but only when you're ready in your relationship. Well said! For us this is what it is all about. There is no emotion except for the pleasure of the moment. If we ever felt we were getting too connected with someone we would just move on. Sex and love ARE 2 very different things and so long as you are not confusing the 2 there should be no issues right?You both need to be ok with it. Communicate and talk about everything, even if it is uncomfortable. If you can communicate and trust each other you should be ok.We have had mmf and ffm and like both equally. We both like watching each other and pleasuring each other and 3somes are the best way for us. Mr. fun_flirty had difficulty with our first mmf, right up until we were heavily involved. He said he wasn't cool with it untill he saw me enjoying myself freely and this is when he realised it is just sex. For ffm we had already been with guys and couples before our first ffm so I was cool with it. I think it was hardest for him because we did mmf as our first time out.Hope this helps you. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah everything so far has been real helpful and we r going to sit down and talk this out, one question we have is when U picked the guys was it on endowment and thickness that u pick and is both male and female or is it more male or female that picks. Bummer about the nt scene we think maybe a bit of play or even going to a swingers might be cool fantasyplus
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is that mister asking that question? Sorry don't know how to answer that as the size of a guys cock is not something I even consider. But if you girlfriend is a size queen well... It's up to her since she is going to fuck it. You know you can use all sorts of toys as part of play without having to get a live cock in. You could try that first. And you both have to be comfortable with the guy, therefore you decide together otherwise it will cause you problems later. No offense but are you sure you are both mature enough to handle it?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey guys, miss cns and I have both been in the swinging scene for over 10 years. I'm not going to give 10 pages of do's and don'ts advice, easy and simple...... You both need to sit down with each other and discuss what you feel comfy doing and don't feel comfy doing in the threesome. And then you go from there. It's really that simple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A man is more than a cock! There needs to be an attraction, chemistry, lust, desire, something on all sides, that brings you all together. It's up to the both of you to decide how and who you are going to invite to play. I have always done the picking and choosing, keeping Hubby up to date on my flirtations. He is a Cuck though and this is part of how we work, others do it differently with the guy choosing, getting the ladies o.k and others do it together. A big part of your rules and boundries should be about how you set things up.You need to decide together what you want out of this experience and use that to narrow your choices and form your rules and boundries. Are you looking for a straight threesome or a cuckolding situation? The larger cock thing is quite often a Cuck thing!
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cremecaramel
11 years ago
Of sharing your guy (or girl) in fmf!- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
It is pretty well known in the forums that I (the man) as a couple post and speak for us both. In saying that there is nothing that I have said that I would choose Tara not to read. She knows me well and knows that I portray our selves in a positive and loving part to all.So to your question about what we look for with playmates (men and their penis) is that there is a fair range of size, lenght and thickness around the average, and it is far more common that average is going to be part with the men that tickle our fancy.It is not so common that men are outside the range of average, and for us both we are not interested in meeting men that are too large or too small, it just does not suit the reasons why we enjoy the company, nor does it suit what we enjoy for the company.What we choose to look for is the average guy that wants to have some good sex with some average people like ourselves.But that is just us among many. Just talk to each other about what you are looking for and don't worry too much with what you aren't. The rest you can learn along the way.Best of luck.MadoMado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'hot24uandsome' Yeah everything so far has been real helpful and we r going to sit down and talk this out, one question we have is when U picked the guys was it on endowment and thickness that u pick and is both male and female or is it more male or female that picks. Bummer about the nt scene we think maybe a bit of play or even going to a swingers might be cool fantasyplus This completely depends on your preference. If you want a big dick then you look for guys with big dick, if you want someone who's muscular then you choose muscular guys, or skinny, blonde, tall, short, and so on.It's like picking a car for hire, there are fast cars, big cars, small cars- it depends whether what you like to experience when you play. With regarding to male or female are the one doing the picking also really depends. I have met a couple that let the male did all the picking (Mrs did see my picture until we were kissing and blindfolded were removed!- that's their fantasy), or a couple where female did all the contact, etc. and there are couples that always have to discuss with their partners.Keep in mind that IT IS YOUR FANTASY, THERE IS NO GUIDELINE- YOU CHOOSE WHOEVER YOU FEELS COMFORTABLE WITH!
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Talk about it between yourselves, know what your both expecting. After all, it's only sex, and it's only for fun. If it's not fun for everyone, don't do it.
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Break_away
11 years ago
Some of us just want to watch a couple as introduction to swinging, I would be more than accommodating if you guys just wanted to sit down with someone else and discus it openly without the pressure of interaction.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I could never share my wife with a other man, just the thought of another guy fucking my wife gets to me, my wife reassures me she isn't interested in being with another man and is happy just to do FFM threesomes, but if your both keen and curious, start slow chat about it, maybe watch some MFM porn, go to a club or pub and let her dance with another man and see how that makes you both feel
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RHP User
11 years ago
best sex ever....
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RHP User
11 years ago
As long as u both are in to it it's fun I love seen my wife in a mfm - Posted from rhpmobile
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WhispersAndMoans
11 years ago
We have had some successes and some not so successful encounters but our end point was always that it was just extra fun and shouldn't come between us at any point. It is important to Recognise that you can encounter difficulties because there are always situations and scenes you hadn't considered. These shouldn't mess with your relationship but they do need to be discussed so you can decide how to deal with them next time or if it is not something that you can deal with. It's very healthy that you are considering the potential negatives. We probably over thought some stuff and sometimes you just have to give it a go and accept that it won't be everything you hoped for but if it is 80 per cent you will still have had one if the nights of your life. We now have a great set of experiences, learnt some things about ourselves along the way and a great photo collection :-P Bring on the next success we say and hope you find it too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
threesomes are no different than 2somes.. if the third person is playing mind games, is a dud fuck, is busy acting so doesnt have time to actual get on with the fucking, its just another bad experience. I do not believe the first time is the best in any fuck. Chances are the first time you fucked your partner it wasnt the best sex you have had between you.If the person has a passion, demonstrates some lust and is a nice person (not trying to play one partner off against the other), then NEXT time you can improve on it. If they are a dud, just tell them to get their pants on and piss off, dont waste time. If they try and play one off against the other, tell them to get their pants on and piss off: they are sport for the pair of you to 'team up' against the outsider.Most of all, make sure you BOTH speak about what you want out of the other person, so you do work as a team and you both understand the 'safe word' if one of you cannot handle them.And, again, if it is o.k. and you can see there is a future in it, go with it, improve their performance for the next time - when you can get more if what you wanted.. but if they are a dud or headcase - get rid of them
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RHP User
11 years ago
My first MMFF and MFF was with a friend. Even though there was no relationship between us I still felt jealous and worried that she turned on my guy better than I did. However, my guy I am with know I trust like I have never trusted anyone before and I fully believe I am the only one for him so I am fine when in a threesome with either a male or female. I do however, ask that he not kiss her or do anything overtly sensual with her that he might do to me. He said he is in the MFF just to watch me and her and he isn't that fussed about doing 'everything' to her! Once those jealous feelings are out there it is hard to take them back. You want to be really careful before you do a 3some. I know people that it has wrecked their relationships.
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WhispersAndMoans
11 years ago
Lots of good advice - particularly from Meeks. Diesel has it right too though, in threesomes experience can matter. It means the guy knows what he is in for and the dreaded droop is less likely and he (hopefully) understands the dynamics and can therefore play the game to your rules without too much hassle. Our last MFM worked very well because of the skills of the M involved.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wierdly it brought us closer. Can't explain it. Found it quite intimate . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have been lucky to have 2 successful mfm experiences. The first was a guy at the couples club (single guy night) and before he did anything to me he would look at hubby and get the nod or shake beforehand so made him feel really a part of it, this guy whenever we meet just socially (lol has happened a few times) he always goes out of his way to talk to Hubby. But as Mentioned, we talked and talked and talked afterwards, going through everything and questioning each other about our comfort levels. Our second experience was inviting someone over, have to say it was seriously hot having my man and another laying on the bed. We had set it up so that hubby always was 'occupied', we had massage oils and toys that the guys could incorporate when my attention was more on one than the other. Have fun and ENJOY.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didnt know how hot it was playing and sharing my wife --with another male - in a couple situation , getting a blow job whilst he is fucking her ... What was realy surprising was having her give a double blow job -- one in each hand...
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting '3SUM4US82' I could never share my wife with a other man, just the thought of another guy fucking my wife gets to me, my wife reassures me she isn't interested in being with another man and is happy just to do FFM threesomes, The dynamic of relationships always interests me. Who drives the addition of another female into your sex.... and how is she about you being with another woman? DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are going to do it. It becomes all about her. We do it occasionally as seeing my wife that turned on is a turn on in it's self for me. i doI agree with the trust thing allready mentioned. If you have any hesitations I suggest you hold off and talk about it between yourselves a bit more. The only other thing I can suggest is, stay away from the complete random option and invest some time in finding someone you are both comfortable with and both trust before jumping in. Most of all, just have fun - Posted from rhpmobile
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First_TimeCpl
11 years ago
We recently had a mmf and it was amazing :) We both talked about it for some time and new what we wanted. Communication with your partner is a must. Setting your boundaries and doing it with someone that you both feel comfortable with I would say was the key for us. ( but then again every one is different ) We cant wait for next time :)
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JohnAnn2227
11 years ago
We have shared many times. I love seeing Ann pleasured by a number of us as she really lets herself go. I am also so proud of her and enjoy seeing guys really want to be with her (a big boost to my ego as I am the one she has chosen to love and live with!). I have also shared her over the years in the fact that we have an open relationship. There have been times that she has had a boyfriend that she has gone out with on a semi regular basis for a few months eg. dinner, clubs etc Love has never come into it it is just fun and sex for her. It really is no different to sharing her with one of her girlfriends that hse has had over the years. Jealousy has not come into the equation because we love each other and everything is open and up front. Saying that it doesn't happen as much now the kids are getting older and it gets harder to explain why mummy or daddy aren't home for breakfast!
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
That's what happened, with my first experience with MFM, my boyfriend got very jealous and couldn't get over it.....was his idea to do it, I thought mmmm sounds like fun, but apparently I wasn't supposed to enjoy so much, go figure......good luck guy's, hope you have fun.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
The happiest couples I have met are those who are sexually open and have great sex lives. This includes MMF! However, I suggest not diving straight into it. Even after affirmation from both parties. Do your research, find the right guy - and make sure you two are completely comfortable with the idea!
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
without the approval of the hubby . To me ' it's about the couple first and me second. Easy to just fuck and leave , but I don't see it that way. A couple ' usually married and have commitments especially to each other and their children. If I sensed the slightest tinge of jealousy from the hubby it won't happen. I always make sure he is a participant and not a spectator unless that's the way he wants it. Both need to approach adding another person for what it is.. a adventure outside your circle of safety, that's the only way you'll ever walk away with a big smile on your face..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a similar bad experience to a few mentioned here from my first ever MFF threesome where I was the single playing with a couple. Despite clear and open communication beforehand and discussion of rules and what was going to happen, SHE experienced feelings she didn't anticipate when watching her man fuck me and was a in a ball with tears streaming down her face as soon as it was over. Despite us all experiencing lots of pleasure and everyone getting at least one orgasm, the experience was tainted for me by watching her crumble to pieces afterwards. Ruined the afterglow! That was more than a decade ago and I haven't done anything involving more than two people since. I don't like complications and I really don't like seeing people get hurt. Now the sad thing is, I can't trust anyone who says "yeah I'll be fine with that" because even if they believe it, they don't KNOW until it's happening. Emotions are like wild animals, we convince ourselves we've tamed them but they can rear up and bite us at a moments notice. x CT
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the info guys and girls very reluctant about the security factor can anyone give some tips plz - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bulldog_wench
10 years ago
we have done this a few times and she likes it a lot i dont mind sharing her with other males as long as the respect her wishes what we would really like thogh is a couple that would like to swap partners
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DonnaBrett
10 years ago
Sure...no problem with this. Have done it countless times over the years. It's just as much fun as FMF...well OK not that much fun LOL. If you are secure within your relationship you should have no dramas...if you're not secure (ie: jealousy issues) then you're playing in the wrong game right from the word go.
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Pandora_couple
10 years ago
Communication communication We talked openly and honestly about jealousy just as much as fantasy. MFM. We found a man she was interested in. I was not threatened by and he was experienced with couples/party scene. This was important as it gave us confidence. I also felt less concerned of trying to nudge his way into our relationship. When he first put his hand on her leg while we chatted I almost freaked out. I felt the wave of jealousy hit me. But I reminded myself to be confident in what we had talked about. Confident in her and us. He was very good. Progressively touched her more but watching for both our reactions. I went up and whispered in her ear checking she was okay several times. Eventually I whispered to her are you ready for more. She said yes. She asked me. I said yes. I stood and simply said lets move it to the bedroom. We got into the room. When they kissed it caused me to pause. But I started kissing her too. Soon the hands were going. We were undressing her. She said to him to finger her. I whispered to her to then suck him. The rest of the night was amazing. Absolutely amazing. That first experience went so well. Mrs P squealed and screamed for almost three hours. We talked before. We talked during. Then most important we talked and talked after. That was the most important part. What worked for us. started with just one based on who was most comfortable. used our own home. We were confident and comfortable there. picked someone very experienced and not threaterning to either of us in terms of the relationship. (Be honest if you are not buff and your girl wants a guy who is. Yes in time. But might be confronting.first time) Talk be honest. It is sex not love. Yet strangly that night seeing the pleasure on her face (and bed) I felt a great love for her. We were sharing a great gift in our marriage.
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RHP User
10 years ago
we have had a few guys now i am hubby i love to watch wife enjoy her self would never do it with some one we new all ways a stranger dont want to no then just want their help i am fine with her enjoying her self she not sure about me with another lady which i am fine with as well we started by going to a mixed swingers nite and hooked up with a single guy just need to no wat is ok from her side and wat is ok from yours and dont change on the nite unless u have spoken about it befor
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RHP User
10 years ago
It starts and ends with the both of you. Being the third party on several occasions ' I've witnessed the good and walked away from uncertainty . The bottom line is it's about the experience which will either blow your mind or leave you flat depending on your acceptance. If you get to the point where you feel your ready and prepared to roll with whatever happens, there's a good chance you'll be back for more.. if you do decide to proceed yet find it's not what you want... Don't be afraid , just back off and go and have a coffee somewhere..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well we tried this the hard way and it didn't work. my advice would be to take it slowly and not dive in unless you know the outcome. We went in to fast and got burnt mainly with my husband being jealous now we have had to scale back and reassess things but for us trust seems to be the issue and unless you trust your partner it won't work
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you are a little tentative about how this could affect your relationship, perhaps if you are adamant about pursuing your interest, connecting with another couple, preferably someone with a little experience and that you are both attracted to is the best first step.Don't rush it, perhaps some social get together type meetings first and let things just happen naturally.You will find that by taking the pressure off, and being able to talk and ask questions in a face to face with people who you can broach the subject with may help you find where you stand and if you wish to pursue it.I wish you the best and if you find that the lifestyle is for you, I am sure you will love the new possibilities that it offers.Lots of great people out there to meet and some fantastic new friends to make!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hiagree with most said on herediscuss all before get startedit is fun and with us it happened by accident ( another topic on here) double pussy penitrationwow its something else
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RHP User
10 years ago
The more you think about it and the more pressure. You put on yourselves the harder it will get. Just enjoy the moment for what it is, then move on. Detach the sex from love and have fun, that's what it's supposed to be about. But do discuss rules prior in case you want to place any sort of limits on certain things, though we've found the more open to situations you are the more enjoyment you'll have.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So that would mean it would have to be a very accepting couple we play with or be in a mmf situation that I'm not sure my man would like . He might think he is missing out - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We learned this from another couple. Get the guys you're interested in to right a hot story of how they see the night happening. This does a few things. It lets you know if they've understood your profile. It tells you where there head is at and what they're into. It gives you something to discuss she can ask you how you'll feel if the guys wants to fuck her arse or tie her down and you will know how she will feel. You'll also have some great sex after reading over the stories. Nothing gives me a hard on like when she says,"yeah this guys cute I'd love his cum all over my boobies!" - Posted from rhpmobile
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