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Short documentary/story on BDSM

August 25 2014

Hey everyone! I've never posted on a forum before so this is exciting hehe I was searching through some videos on Upworthy today and came across this one about BDSM and its place in peoples lives, whether you're just starting or incorporate it into your lives 24/7. Worth a watch, its 45minutes long :-) http://www.upworthy.com/some-think-its-just-plain-kinky-but-the-amount-of-trust-this-lifestyle-takes-is-staggering?c=ufb1 It got me thinking about what I like and by all means, I'm Im only new to the scene. I take on the role of a sub fairly well and am looking at exploring the different options further, but what I wanted to highlight was the roles in our daily lives. While the sexual, "sub space" and being objectified is very kinky, outside of the bedroom it can come in all shapes and sizes. I personally love when a man orders for me or helps me decide/tells me what to wear. I enjoy the control and the confidence it shows. Also, this video really highlights the trust aspect to this way of life. Its not something you do with just anyone, its needs to be built up over time and several discussions. Even opening up to friends can be tough as they don't understand and you have to put your trust in them as well to not share and most importantly to not judge. Anyway, I just wanted to share the video around. Hope you enjoy it :-) Feel free to post your thoughts :-) H x

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    with finding what works for you. You seem very open minded and level headed about it all. Keep us posted with how it all goes.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thanks for the video link Rauncyminx. I've had several Dom/sub relationships of various intensities and boundaries inside and outside the bedroom. Always willing to refine the artform. I reckon it is like any relationship. They work best when all parties are in tune with the others needs and their own needs, strengths and psychological hang ups. I read a boom once called "the Language of Love". It showed me that to fulfil your partner, you had to communicate with them in the style that they like to receive, not necessarily what you like to receive. A perfect example of this is the Dom/sub relationship or sadist/masochist relationship where it is obvious from the start that each likes to be appreciated (pleasured/recognised/loved) in polar opposite ways. Same result though...each are satisfied if the mutual understanding and respect is there. Good luck with your journey. You put the topic so eloquently! Silva

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Thank you Ralf74, it's been very fun so far! Hehe :-) Silva - it definitely works best when both parties are on board and can have their views listened too, because like mentioned in the video, its not just physical, the mind is very fragile and receptive to the domination and if that's disrespected and taken advantage of, it could cause serious damage. I'll have to have a read of that book, it does sound quite interesting. Looking forward to learning a few things! Thank you for the comment! - Posted from rhpmobile