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Should bi men not list as bi?

October 08 2020

Hey there. I’m new to the site and am a bi guy who loves mmf play with couples. I’m listed as Bi but have read on here that couples avoid guys listed as that for group play. I’ve played bi and straight with couples before and it’s never been a problem when playing straight, but do couples avoid profiles where the guy is listed as bi? I want to leave it as it’s true to me, but don’t want to miss out on playing with cool people.

Comments

  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    4 years ago

    Be true to you! For every person who avoids your profile because it says you’re bi there’ll be another person who’s attracted to you for the same reason. I personally would go for bi over straight if/when I was looking to play with multiple men.

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    4 years ago

    We're with Phoenix on this, just be true to who you are and what you're looking for. What you've said probably rings true though, there's a subset on here that seem to have an opinion that being bi means that you won't be able to keep your hands off any straight male! Can't help but wonder if that attitude stems from the way that some guys negotiate consent, but that's another can of worms best left to another day. Preferences are preferences and you just need to accept that some people are like that and in all honesty you need to ask yourself if they're the people you want to be around? So list as straight if it really concernes you, but then you'll get couples with bi guys ignoring and blocking you too! We've all had stacks of straight guys trying in on just to get to the female half of a couple. It's painful and makes life impossible for the genuine bi guys in the community.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    4 years ago

    Strange world eh? Lots of bi men list as straight Lots of straight women list as bi. Both are presented because of the male attitudes in life/sex. Its a little bit fucked. Still a man's world unfortunately

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    4 years ago

    Lots of straight guys on here are bi curious but afraid to state it on their profile. Id put "experimental" , I think that covers a lot of different preferences and doesnt cause any miscommunication. Unfortunately although men will explode over the thought of 2 females getting naked together, the bi man stigma still exists......which is ridiculous

  • NtRemoteFun

    NtRemoteFun

    4 years ago

    I personally identify as Bi, not sure what people feel about this out there. Happy to play MMF and or MMF(bi). Do we not set boundaries when we meet or plan to meet. Life is about the experience, if you like it do it again if not you then know

  • kerningpairs

    kerningpairs

    4 years ago

    I'd like to encourage you to stay out :) Each bi guy has the potential to open doors for different men. The greater the number and diversity of in our population, the more new men are likely to find someone who has the secret sauce they need to explore. Whether it's sexual touch or not, I find most men grow under the gentle touch of another man. All humans are mirrors for each other. When we meet our own phenotype in intimate situations, especially if we're not used to it, the reflection of the same sex other can be confounding and transformative. I've been fortunate to have be chosen by several men to explore for their first time. These have been some of the most meaningful and beautiful sexual experiences I've had. I wish you well, whatever you decide :)

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    4 years ago

    GT From all my previous posts , it’s clear that I believe in being true to yourself . I also think if the profile states exactly what you seek you are more likely to meet the right people . There will always be ‘people ‘ out there , even on RHP , that disapprove or are turned off by certain sexual orientations or kinks . As we know , not everyone will be into everyone . That’s alright . We on here , are a big melting pot of different wants , needs and as was stated by NT , it’s important to discuss boundaries prior proceeding . Good luck GT Ax

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    4 years ago

    All you’ve said is that you want your profile to attract anyone and everyone.... Even if those with whom you attract aren’t like minded.... Where’s your head at dude??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Its better to be true to your self than fudge your profile so you attract more interest.

  • Freaky_Fun

    Freaky_Fun

    4 years ago

    If l had it my way every guy would be bi 🥰🙊😍🥰😍

  • bianca_dd

    bianca_dd

    4 years ago

    Sex is a bit little retail. Not everyone is going to want your product but those that do will be happy when they find it. If you want bi male sex with couples you list yourself as bi. Those folks looking for the same thing will be a match and those who do not want that will ignore you. It's not too difficult a concept to understand surely?

  • Serendipity69

    Serendipity69

    4 years ago

    We are a couple that go with a flow and enjoy playing with everyone but it would be nice if there was a category pansexual perhaps or hetroflexible. Considering the enormous amount of fake couples and flakes and other people who are not genuine that do floods these sites we find it's best to be honest and upfront and present ourselves as we are as it makes the most sense in finding the right people to connect with and play with.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I hear ya. You're happy to play it staright if required! Same here. But those couples who avoid a guy for listing as bi, or bi curious or heteroflexible are probably not aware that it's not compulsory that you get him to suck you 😅

  • Serendipity69

    Serendipity69

    4 years ago

    Be yourself, as a bi couple seeking other bi couples and some select singles, we look at profiles to see if the male is listed as bi. We enjoy when all can play with all.

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    4 years ago

    Im a straight male uninterested in bi males .. However ' and its only my opinion that this site has more bi males than straight ? Just a observation over many year's. Either that or bi guys are more active in the forums.. ? I could be wrong ?

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    4 years ago

    Should guys hide their bisexuality from their profile?? Seriously?? I’m sure we’re getting punked here or something... If you accept the reality that the majority of people are here to connect with like minded people, why would you not ?? It’s entirely counter productive to meeting the people most compatible with your own journey... Do you tell your friends that you like beer when you prefer spirits in case they don’t wanna hang out with you??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    If a male is Bi he should list as such, otherwise he is missing out and not being honest to his own desires. my man is Bi curious and that is only because we are yet to meet a willing couple to allow his desires to be tested. is that wrong no i think not, its much like my own desires as a cuckgirl some get it but most fear it. Lou xx. just stay true to you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    If genuinely bi, keep it. Be yourself hun, and find the fun that you seek.

  • pomidave

    pomidave

    4 years ago

    We’d choose a bi guy over a straight guy every time even if we were only looking for straight play it’s just easier and more relaxed, being bi is far better than straight your attitude is way better for group play

  • Dex1473

    Dex1473

    4 years ago

    We enjoy bi play with couples and singles but I dont list myself as Bi but I do enjoy playing with guys, we have found in the past that some guys in the couples freak out about the bi side of things for some reason

  • Roblin

    Roblin

    4 years ago

    We are a bi couple, though when a single guy contacts us all he wants is the girl. We understand but thats not our thing. I've changed it to experimental as we would genuinely like to venture all together. We both are in this together to explore everything. Mutual pleasures for all involved. Yet to explore. But will always be true to ourselves, that way your fulfilling what you both want, not just a bang and run.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Perhaps you should consider that there are lots of woman who are turned off by the thought of two men engaging? Equally there are lots of woman who do enjoy it but don’t assume that ALL woman (and men) enjoy male on male action. Put your details on your profile honest and true, there is less chance of things going South if you don’t!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Both Mrs V and I were listed as Bi-Curious when we joined, because we are. Over time I saw a lot of couples checking us out but few making contact. I thought we were a bit of a catch so I was confused by the lack of contact. As an experiment I changed the profile to read Straight instead of Bi Curious for myself. Well, well, well. Over the course of the next week we went from around 10% making contact to over 70%. I have since changed it back to experimental. The proof in the pudding was a couple who had said thanks but no thanks months earlier as the guy only played straight, came back after looking at our profile to make contact. Hmmmmm. Anyway, as we say, each to their own.

  • mrNmrsSTFU

    mrNmrsSTFU

    4 years ago

    Embrace it! If a couple avoids you because of your sexual orientation then that's their loss. From experience yes men who are listed as bi are skipped due to the male partner being worried that they will be touched or hit on.. it's rediculious really.

  • Casualbibloke

    Casualbibloke

    4 years ago

    As David says in Schitts Creek. I like the wine..... Not the label!

  • blix_and_queen

    blix_and_queen

    4 years ago

    Agree with most, just see it as dodging a bullet. Most bi guys are super respectful of boundaries in a straight couple situation. Everyone just needs to be clear on want they are ok with. Plenty of straight guys who like a touch up from both a guy and a girl, but they consider themselves straight. Be you, it is just easier.

  • kingy73

    kingy73

    4 years ago

    Do what I did and just put bi curious