M37
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July 04 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
And Oedipus have a lot to answer for OP....some women will never entertain the thought of a younger lover for that very reason... You are too close in age to their children....how do you go about seducing an older woman?....engage her mind with your maturity and interest in her as an individual, not just as an item on your fuckit list...btw why did you think that playful banter meant that she would leap into bed with you then and there....?...a definite misstep I think xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' And Oedipus have a lot to answer for OP....some women will never entertain the thought of a younger lover for that very reason... You are too close in age to their children....how do you go about seducing an older woman?....engage her mind with your maturity and interest in her as an individual, not just as an item on your fuckit list...btw why did you think that playful banter meant that she would leap into bed with you then and there....?...a definite misstep I think xQ listen to this wise woman. I wouldn't entertain a young man closer to the age of my children than he is to mine. I am not really into younger guys anyway, no idea why - I am just weird like that :)
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Ok so you say you're 25 but the age on your profile says 26 and that you are " well spoken, take alot of pride in my appearance and I have a penchant for older woman, always have". Can I ask you something? How well do you know women? I mean women of ALL ages?? If a woman is sitting by herself it does not mean she wants to go home with anyone. If you both seemed to hit it off, lots of joking and playful touching, does not mean one has to offer or leave together. If one is going to use a promise of a sexual intimacy as a carrot on a string, you are going to have to deliver that. I mean if you string sexual intimacy in her face, in desperation - it will backfire on you...use it wisely and don't paint yourself into a sexual corner. Age does not worry me, it's how I am treated and when I am ready to go further, I will do so on my own terms. Not on someones else's term. Do you ask for her number to follow up to get to know her? Maybe she just wasn't in the mood?? Who knows... Foxy
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Tom_Marsh
10 years ago
Wise words indeed, Qefenta. I have always tried to approach women like that, probably more often than not it works. I'm wasn't disheartened by this encounter just a little confused. I thought it was a sure thing, so to answer your question foxxxy, I dont know women very well haha. I know it was naive of me to think all I have to do is ask her back. However this was in a notorious cougar bar and she started the conversation with me but again I shouldn't have assumed anything. She didn't want to give me her number. As for my age, the month of birth on my profile isn't accurate. I will be 26 later this year.
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RHP User
10 years ago
its gross.
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RHP User
10 years ago
....If older women don't have any children, what then? If the rationale is always going to relate to 'being too close to my son/daughter's age', then in actual fact it has nothing to do with the age of the person, but more so the mental stigma of having children around that age. So hot4u, maybe try finding out early if they have kids or not...and if she doesn't, well, go for it and see what the outcome is?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe just asking for her number would have been enough as a first step. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
You did hit it off. She is just older and wiser and knows that hitting it off doesn't mean it is going to go any further. There is nothing wrong with enjoying each other's company, flirting and touching and a little bit of mutual teasing. Its called ego maintenance and we all need it. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' ....If older women don't have any children, what then? If the rationale is always going to relate to 'being too close to my son/daughter's age', then in actual fact it has nothing to do with the age of the person, but more so the mental stigma of having children around that age. So hot4u, maybe try finding out early if they have kids or not...and if she doesn't, well, go for it and see what the outcome is? Nope sorry Tigeroo. I don't have children but I have used that line myself a couple of times. "I am old enough to be your mother" I often see people in their early 20's as kids. And I don't mean that in a derogatory way, it's just that I just don't view them in a sexual way at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So hot4u12, when you chat to women your own age at the bar and you are having a bit of a flirt, etc. Do they always go home with you after a bit of a chat?
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Tom_Marsh
10 years ago
If I'm talking to a chick my own age at a bar it's because she has approached me and is quite interested in me. Obviously not every time this happens we go home together but if it's someone my own age it often goes that way. Although this doesn't happen alot, I pick up more older women than I do girls in my 'age bracket'
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MWK2014' Maybe just asking for her number would have been enough as a first step. - Posted from rhpmobile I agree with MWK, Test the water. If she wanted more I'm sure she would have let you know after you offered her your number. Be bold but not too bold
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
So, you want some tips to stop that confusion - Please don't be disheartened by her comment. Well you had a conversation, and the woman spoke with you, that's a good start. Here's my suggestion - from a single women's view. The trick is we (meaning older women) know straight away what we want and that any man that approaches has some sort of agenda, in a bar or not. If for example, if we/I are in a bar we/I will know if we're/I am being watched and we/I will use that as our/my advantage. Meaning if we/I present ourselves/myself as friendly easy-to-talk-to, men will swoop on us/I like flies. Men will swoop because they have been watching and observing from a distance. Making comment (like the example you gave) is a little trick women use to weed out weak men, boys and creeps. It's like a tool/tactic to ward out men from boys. I guess what I am saying..use your personality to your best advantage. Maybe next time come back with a funny witty line or something - you will know if she wants you or not. She will ask for your number. Women love a challenge, are attracted to someone who can make us laugh and a little cheeky. It's all starts with the important organ - the Brain. However, It's all up to the women if they want a man or a boy at that time. Most of the time older women want a good man, not a creep. Maybe next time you're out and about, watch how some men/boys swoop on women...observe what they do. Just watch and you will learn something. example: body language, that type of thing. Hope this helps with your confusion. :) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
The woman used that as a tatic to scare you away OP. I know I have used that line before, many times cause I have picked up something with the conversation and it's helped me weed out. Like Meeka said it helps her to weed out because she's not interested. Listening to a woman, and what she says is something else to use. When I say listen - I mean listen to what she is saying and use that as a reference. I have learnt over time, that listening to what a man does helps me to weed them out as well. *Good God, I'm sounding like a Pussy Whisper, where is the Pussy whisperer?? I'm sure he will be along shortly* :) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Had a lady said that to me... I'd have deflected that with :- Well I'm sure we'll get along great then eh? ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with all the comment's put up here, wise ladies. Hope OP has taken it all in.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Mr Hot4... you made several assumptions, and put the cart before the horse... so to speak, and it was your attitude and method that brought you undone.. To consider anything a "sure thing", and to think that simply she fitted the stereotype you hoped for simply because she was in a so called notorious cougar bar means me that much. You may have established some engaging banter, and she may have seemed into you, but because the end result was that your proposal was rejected in the way it was, tells me you didn't engage her sufficiently to create attraction, then arousal... and you certainly didn't instil comfort within her to consider you might be worth bedding long before you proposed it. Now, she still may not have gone with you, but she wouldn't have said what she did if you created attraction, arousal and comfort. There is a phrase which says.... you can't cook a turkey in a cold oven. You didn't turn the oven on, you didn't dial up the temperature, and you didn't treat the "bird" in a way which made it think if you were to eat it, that it would be in the birds best interests to do so. If you had have done that, her response would have been different. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perhaps DG,he just thought she was an old chook on the lay:-) mutters to self....turkeys wtf...you are still recommending that pick up artist crap...manipulative much, sheesh Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Her comment was designed to test you ;) But you failed....sorry.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perhaps OP,she was flirting with you and teasing you,just to see if she could... Ego stroking me thinks,then home to hubby all a tingle.:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Chicks vs Turkeys, I don't like either term. OP, it sounds to me you stroked her ego and she was just enjoying herself. I love to flirt, but rarely take anyone home. The flirting itself is often the goal for me, rather than it leading to other things. I'm by no means a cougar and don't go looking for younger guys. Like Meeka said: I'm not a mum, I just don't see 20-somethings as sexual beings, but more as kids.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was being ironic:-) xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' I was being ironic:-) xQ The OP was referring to young women as chicks, I can't stand that term.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Come on chicks. Lighten up. Well OP, maybe she was a little shy like me. So the first "no" is not meant to be the final no if she continues to flirt and banter. Sometimes, a lady needs more time to make up her mind about you. Just because someone says you are old enough to their son shouldn't mean you just walk out the door.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Come on DG, menopausal cougars always have a hot oven.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The first no might turn into a yes... Yes, let's teach men to keep going after a woman says "no". I know you didn't mean it like that, but still: I can't even begin to disagree.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I knew I would get slammed for that. Obviously it depends how a woman says it. But someone saying "you are old enough to be my son' is not saying Fuck off I don't want anything to do with you is it? What I am saying is .......... from the little information that he has given us is that she didn't actually say no. Well, I think that if a woman is flirting and laughing with you, and touching you she is doing for what? To get a free drink? Take the bloke for a ride or because she is interested or trying to figure our if she is interested.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or is it okay for a woman to flirt and laugh, and playful touch a bloke, most likely accept a few drinks as well and then expect him to run away quickly when she has had enough. That is lame.
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RHP User
10 years ago
She laughed and said "you're younger than my son"............... this still could have been part of the flirting.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Come on ladies... don't get narky in your advancing years :p..... it's obvious miss Meeka wasn't advocating rape.... merely suggesting that if you cave in at the first sign of a hurdle, it doesn't say much for your resolve or interest level.? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of course I know she wasn't advocating rape, sheesh. I'm just saying some men use that line as an excuse to push further when they shouldn't. And you call that slamming, Meeks? You're such a sensitive flower. :-P
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thought you meant my chooks remark Mea....I have had an offline discussion about this with a man,he at first refused to believe that the women was just there for the flirt....I doubt there was anything the OP could have said or done.....she wasn't there for a root :-) xxQ
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