Shy for first time swingers

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Why shy?????

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  FeistyFatty

  5 years ago

  Ummmm, why not be shy HornyCouple?? Its a perfectly natural and acceptable feeling. This lifestyle can be rather overwhleming for first timers. Im sure you haven't forgotten when you yourselves were first dipping your toes. You at least had each other as bolsters. OP is stepping out solo. OP, I've been in an Open Marriage gor many many years now and I am still shy and nervous on first meets. I actually feel exhilarated when I get over them and let my true self shine and Enjoy the company pf some fabulous people. Your nerves and shyness will dissipate rather quickly when you're comfortable in the company you're meeting. Welcome and enjoy and just take steps at your own pace x

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I've only been once by myself and I ended up leaving about an hour later. I am very shy at first and am not great at going over to people and striking a conversation. Any other time when I'm out and about , I have no problems talking about random stuff to strangers.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I was shy at first, had old men rubbing up on me thinking that their payment owed them the right... But. Also met equally amount of great people. Swingers more couples than anything all looking for the elusive non existent unicorn to save their relationship. If you can get past that and exude confidence you'll do fine.

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  badboyhere

  5 years ago

  I have been to clubs as both a couple and on my own. I have to say that in the three experiences attending on my own the treatment I got as a single guy was a little poor to say the least, and I wasn't creepy or pushy in any of the single visits to chat to couples or ladies. Your treated a bit like a leper when attending events that include single guys. It is also really difficult to gauge if a single lady or couple is looking for a guy or not. My experiences have found most are not even though the attend the event knowing that it included single guys. On the fourth time, the wife wanted to come along and we went as a couple to hopefully meet another couple or if the missus took an interest in a guy we would have headed in that direction too. We also witnessed a bit of this "leper" issue happen to a few other single guys when we attended together. On that night most guys were shunned or told to "bugger off". We were a little shocked at some of the reactions. This was all from couples. However whilst at this same event we did have a few nice guys come over to chat, and the missus got a few phone numbers and I have to say that they were really nice guys. She never took the next step with any of these guys though. There was also a bad experience we had too. One guy tried to convince my missus to go with him to one of the rooms and leave me at the table which she flatly refused and I had to ask the guy to move on. She got turned off by the experience. I have not returned back to a club either as a single or with my wife and we will not be going again. Too much crap goes on.

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  FredAndGinger2

  5 years ago

  Why let bad experiences end your exploring for fun and connection? Why let a few bad apples decide your choices for you? We have met fantastic couples, ladies and gents and it's almost always by attending social meet and greet events rather than sex clubs. The social meets take the pressure off and people interact their best behaviour (mostly)

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