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Single Female contacting a couple

April 22 2020

So what’s everyone’s thoughts on etiquette when a single female contacts a couple ?? Here’s my situation..... and this happens on a regular basis. Got a flirt and introduction message from a single female expressing her interest in us as a couple so sent her both our contact information and she has started chatting privately with my husband but I am yet to hear from her. Their conversations can go on for weeks sometimes and I still don’t hear from them. One txt mentions she has never been with another woman but is curious and would like me to be her first experience but all the rest have been about them 2 fucking, plus a few pics thrown in 🙄 I haven’t received a message from her yet, not to even just say hello, I’m whoever and have been chatting with your hubby...... I am in a debate with my hubby cause he thinks I should contact her, where I am of the opinion that she made first contact expressing her interest in “US” so she should be the one to contact me ???? Sexual orientation aside cause I am happy to play it straight if she has no interest there as long as she has a male friend to bring along, I am more than happy for my hubby to fuck her but be upfront and honest enough to contact me as well cause, to me that’s being respectful and decent and if the situation was reversed, I certainly would give her that respect. Thoughts ???? - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Considering she has taken the bold move to reach out to you both from the get go, I do think that she needs to be the one that contacts you. Having said that as well and if it really is her first time with another woman then maybe she doesn’t know how to initiate that first step too, but in reality it doesn’t take much to say hi with a basic introduction to you either. If she was able to do that to your hubby then the decent thing is to say hi to you to. Also, if she is only contacting your hubby then are all cards on the table on true intentions? Maybe your hubby needs to ask her to find out what she wants and if it’s not with you as well then so be it but if she wants to be with him, she also needs to bring a guy along for you. By the sounds there is no playing separately and that needs to be communicated from the start if that’s the case? Either way, communication needs to be had and everyone will know where they stand, which is what you want.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    So she can or she can't fuck your hubby? If she can and you're cool to step aside, just leave them to it and be happy your hubby has found a mutual match. You can go do the same, if you wish of course. Pretty obvious she never had any interest in the the wife and contacted only wanting hubby. Probably not the most respectful thing to do to be honest.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    As FFF stated, if you are cool with her and hubby, step aside. The person who needs to be upfront is hubby to you that's it. If she has no interest in you, she doesn't have to contact you. Maybe first meet all 3 met, but after that, back off. If you get too involved it's just going to make things more messy and complicated. Not only that she will get turned off. I have many friends who play with hubbies and they state when the wife steps in, it's all over red rover because she is the one making it hard work because of her own insecurities. Then hubby gets nothing at the end. Anyways I wish you all the best. Ms Foxy

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Perfectly said Foxxy. That's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. I too am one of those women who happily plays with hubby's but as soon their wives start involving themselves (directly or peripherally).... catchya, I'm outtie.

  • 86Jasindy

    86Jasindy

    5 years ago

    Hmmm something seems sus. As I understand, there are a sea of single males on this site. I have had some contact us (despite not looking for a single male) with some fantastic opening messages, some funny, some thoughtful, some interesting... what I am saying, is why would she be looking to one a part of a couple if she had no interest in you also? And if what excited her is the fact he is partnered and sneaking there are those also on here. I believe this is a conversation to have with your partner, if it isn't something you are both comfortable with, he needs to spell it out to her. If however you have an open swinging relationship where you can play alone, you just need to be open with this too

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    5 years ago

    with your point of view. She made contact for BOTH of you, so she should have the decency to do so.In your shoes, I would kick hubby up to make mention of that fact next time there is contact between the two of them. Also maybe a suitably subtle "reminder" on your part to let her know that you are also part of the couple. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    All communications should be a 3 way chat. Just out of respect for couples relationship. She might be inexperienced and you should set some boundaries. Your not being included in the process and u wouldnt want it to feel same once you all got into bed.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Exactly! It becomes on big Triangle drama. A cluster messy fuck. I guarantee (most of the time), it is the Mrs that causes the drama, not the Mr. She should be happy someone is interested in him. Most men from couples don't get that attention like the Mrs does. Especially if they play seperatly. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    this is about them playing seperatly. I agree to start of 3 way, then all met. Then if the Mrs is OK, she needs to back off and let the two sort it out. The Mr is the one who needs to communicate with his Mrs and give her the reassurance. No one wants to get involved in their personal dramas. If there is dramas, both of them need to back away together as a mutual shared agreement. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    We will only play as a couple.....so for us, we find a suitable App and start a Group Chat with ALL parties (no phone numbers given out), so there is full transparency for all parties. Anyone crosses the line, Boundaries are re-confirmed, cross again and GONE. Respect other people's boundaries and relationships that simple. Be confident enough to remind people of your boundaries. For most people I imagine the intelligent thing to do is contact you also, but we don't know her desire, motivation or intent, so what have you got to lose by being the one to say 'hello'?

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Foxxy..... Ken oath!!!! I've had a few wives out of the blue start contacting me and some even asking to MEET!!!! The poor Hubbys are always very apologetic. But that's when I always respectfully take my leave. Such a shame because the couple of times its happened, the guys were really great and I enjoyed them immensely. I never sign up to deal with people wives. I think I said it in my original comment but agree; she should be happy her hubby has made, what appears to be, a good connection. So often its the wives getting all the attention. Maybe that's making her unhappy/uncomfortable as well?

  • gypsyo

    gypsyo

    5 years ago

    So she can or she can't fuck your hubby? If she can and you're cool to step aside, just leave them to it and be happy your hubby has found a mutual match. I'd get off watching them fuck i love it knowing that hes having fun.if your happy with him getting some you never know it might spice it up even more for you

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    We don’t play alone and they are told that straight up so if they continue to leave me out of things that’s just disrespectful and not something that sits well with me. Maybe I was just bought up differently 🤷🏼‍♀️ I wouldn’t do that myself so I spose I don’t expect others to do it to me. We are not new to this and our relationship is solid. I am in no way insecure, I find it amusing actually and enjoy reading the messages they send and seeing how low they can go. I posted this to see if there were other couples out there having the same issue........ And surprise surprise there are. The only negative responses have come from single women. Go figure 😂 😂 😂

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Hornbags..... I'm not a single woman😱😱..... go figure lol. I also don't get all pissy when my husband has connections without me..... go figure🤣🤣

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Then perhaps you should update your profile to show that 🤷🏼‍♀️ and not make assumptions about other people’s relationships of which you know nothing about. Must be great up there on that high horse of yours. All high and mighty and self righteous 🙄

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I’m married also; my husband and I play separately too. I have been with my secondary for 2 years now and have a connection like polyamory...yes feelings and love have been expressed and it is no secret from my husband. I love him too and have done for 26 years. But it’s not about anyone else, it’s really about you and hubby telling her how it is and if she isn’t wanting both then it should be easy to say 👋 rather than continue with the communication.

  • mango69er

    mango69er

    5 years ago

    If you have stated that you only play together. Then what she is doing is very rude. And i dont think your partner is helping . Tell her to f off. Sounds like its just causing drama. Normally happens when the men will only want to chat with the lady of the couple.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    With so many single men on here why bother with a married one. They have usually let themselves go, riding on wife's coat tails so grab a single and avoid the catty behaviour that's been displayed in here. OP, you obviously don't like the situation so tell her to fuck off. Simples .

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    Every argument has two sides and the replies you received for the information you put out there in your original post gel. Not sure why you're having a go at the replies from the single women, they all made perfect sense to this guy. Assumptions are generally made when you don't have the full story to go on. Maybe reread the earlier posts and see if they were actually questions or assumptions 🤷‍♂️ Play nice, we're mostly good people on here! Oh... and communicate, communicate, communicate...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I thought it was pretty clear from the post and the OP's profile that they only play as a couple. Not sure there's any need for the pile-on.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Who is doing the posting here? Just the Mrs ? No Mr? I can understand your frustration now you have posted you play together. However I am courious, how did Mr end up talking privately to the lady in question? Why has it gone on for weeks at a time, them talking about just the two of them fucking and swapping pics? Ms Foxy

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Hornbags..... update MY profile???? Hmmmmm....... someone needs to learn to read then...... my profile not only states an open marriage but both our cpls and solo profiles........ I have a good view up here so i think I'll stay...... but cheers for that "suggestion"........ even when it's completely incorrect.

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    5 years ago

    Separate contact details. If you are a package deal, set up one kik account that you both access and chat with people. No individual contact methods..... I repeat NO individual contact details - which means hubby should never ever be tempted to pass on his own private contact points. Not particularly impressed your husband is continuing the chats for weeks. If he has your back, and is totally onboard with it being something you only do as a couple, then he should be making it clear he won't continue dialogue until the chick makes and maintains contact with you. He is allowing the contact to continue. I'm more concerned by that. He should shut it down.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    I agree. That's why I posted above, as I'm curious. IMO Why should the single woman be fully blamed or put down in this situation. Accountability is with the Mr as he is enabling to continue. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Most of us here are fully aware of your situation. I for one, love your input to the forums Ms Foxy

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    The one hassle with kik is one account per phone. You need a second account for a second phone, it's part of their security measures. I'd be nice if the pie had an instant messaging system 😊

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    Oh... and ditto foxy. The regulars know each other, even if they don't yet.... I think most of us respect the others opinions, even if we don't alway agree!

  • rock008

    rock008

    5 years ago

    All messages group messages shared between 3 people.. Anytime this hasn’t happened something isn’t right..

  • sw1ng3rz

    sw1ng3rz

    5 years ago

    spicykale we prefer to chat on kik as we can have a group chat, as we both play together. I will give out our primary kik account and then add hubby to the chat.

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    sw1ng3rz, you're 100% spot on, but it still leaves you in exactly the same predicament as the OP. With multiple contacts there's the ability to sidestep one party. What you're seeing as a positive, we see as a negative. If the pie had instant messaging you bypass that problem, other sites already do it. We love kik for ongoing friends, but won't use it anymore for people we haven't met. Too many people wanting to sext and an expectation of instantly replying to messages! Our work, life, family balance doesn't allow it.

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    5 years ago

    Sooo.... an alternative is to just stick with the messaging system here on rhp, until ready to meet in person. Can't see the point of the OP taking communication to a different platform if the same problem is happening on a regular basis. 🤷‍♀️

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    MsJonesy, kik's strength is also its weekness in some situations. As soon as a second device logs into the same account all messages are deleted. We're with you on staying here until you're 100% comfortable. It's where we've landed a few years in, it just works for us.... everyone will have their preference. Some friends have our kik addresses, others phone numbers, I chat to just the female half of some couples, Mrs to some singles, all of that comes after we're comfortable. Trust means everything when doing this as a couple or you have nothing 🤷‍♂️

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Thank you all for your input on the questions I posted and I appreciate most of what has been said. It has been basically what I have been thinking and saying as well bar a few uncalled for comments. Using KIK definitely has benefits and negative aspects and majority of the time there are no issues and everything is kept as a group chat. There are just a few people out there that want to see if they are the exception to our rules and it’s nothing we don’t handle solidly together. Everyone on these sites plays by different rules and whatever those rules are they should always be respected and abided by. Our profile is very clear on this as are most I have found and I spose I just find some people’s behaviour disappointing when they either don’t read our profile properly or somehow think it doesn’t apply to them. Peace out ✌️

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    I have noticed that too, using a second device with KIK. I gave up using it. IMO what you are stating does makes sense. Back on topic, and though more on this, it just doesn't make sense to me why OP (Mrs), you should contact the women first as Mr has suggested, especially if you know about the exchange of messages that's been going on. So what are you suspose to say without looking like a fool and having separate communication messages between you all? One between you and the women and another between Mr and the woman? IMO, that is kinda messy and defeats being the purpose of being a united front as a couple. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Your post wasn't there when I posted my post above due to instant posting. You did state above my post, "everything is kept as a group chat", which is a good thing. So how did Mr and the lady end up in private chat together? Ms Foxy * my post still stands above.

  • ocean_man

    ocean_man

    5 years ago

    I have played with a few couples ... ok ... more than a few Regardless of whether they or I made the initial contact, I would not expect them to give me both of their individual contact details. If they are playing as a pair, I expect to be talking to them as a pair. If I get the impression that there is something amiss when I am chatting with a couple, and this has happened a few times, I walk away. I can't remember a couple giving me their individual contact details until after I had physically met them.Respect for a couples relationship is paramount in group activities. Perhaps you created the opportunity for private chats and found someone who has different boundaries to you.You might have better luck in the future with one point of contact that you both have access to.

  • scandu4fun

    scandu4fun

    5 years ago

    We have given up on kik, mainly due to that seems to be a brush off, as does early phone numbers. We just read and compose messages together until we're meeting the others. If anyone starts trying to go off separately they either come back to us both or it stops. For us we enjoy our ventures with mutual others, if it's fun for all great, if not there's plenty of variety here for all. No problems and we hope they have fun.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Well mr funk has denied the numerous single female requests he receives daily ! I let him do as he pleases, but he’s just too busy to accommodate the sexual desires of so many beautiful ladies. Mrs funk

  • emmy128

    emmy128

    5 years ago

    I couldnt agreed more!! Ive been contacted by couples as much as I can appreciate the female bod im not curious enough to go past kissing her. Ive had to politely decline in fetish//bdsm club as well. Ive said in the past to couples id be more interested in play time with your hubby one on one then the three of us. Dont flirt with a couple to only focus on one party. Hubby should suggest (thats if you even want to go there any more) “well lets put this fantasy into action, have you reached out to my wife yet?” See her response, it prob wont be what you want to hear.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    If your profile is as a couple then she should treat you as such. If hubby has his own profile (with your approval) then that’s different. She contacted a couple stating they are a couple.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Never hear back from them anyway

  • Subswitch13

    Subswitch13

    5 years ago

    If you and hubby have a profile as a couple then she's pritty much contacted both of you as a couple?? . But what would be disrespectful on both your hubby and the single chic if they started private confersation without you. Then to me that is a form of cheating on his count coz he shouldn't had started private chat with her regardless. As harsh as it sounds but if he is talking to this one chic for months and she hasn't chatted with you at all then you have to wonder how many girls is he chatting with without your knowledge??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    There's no doubt that communication is key. If your profile states you play alone then you need to take this into consideration as to why they might be talking "alone" but if you state you only play together then the messages between her and him are in conflict with what you and your hubby agreed and it is time to have a meaningful chat with him again.Also worth keeping in mind that in this field of "adult fun" sometimes people are anxious, nervous or, for whatever reason, drop the common courtesies we grew up with. Being tolerant will help you communicate with your partner and also with her. That being said, dont let your boundaries get trampled; its a bit of a tricky balancing act and each situation has its own peculiar solution.You might try talking with hubby and asking how he would feel if you were constantly chatting with another man with a view to possibly being with him alone. Perhaps hubby now wants something different.Ultimately, you cant control other people but you can control how you act and respond.These issues are challenging and I wish you the best

  • minxx

    minxx

    5 years ago

    Just make sure she real and doesn't ghost you or doesn't even show...have had it happen a few times and we are over it.

  • COUPLE901

    COUPLE901

    5 years ago

    We do group chats for everything 👌 it depends on the situation you’re in and your rules etc... for our relationship that would be a no go, but my partner also wouldn’t have seperate convos because we have discussed it.. I understand some Convo to see if everyone gets along, but for us there is no need to be talking one on one for two weeks and leaving one of the three out. so maybe have a convo with your husband and go over what you’re ok and not okay with.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Wow. We are struggling to find a woman who wants to play!!!! As the female, i like to play, but my biggest turn on is to see my husband and a woman play! So, send her my way, i dont have a problem with her being one on one with MY husband!!! Lol. On a serious note, if anyone wants to message me and give me some tips on what we are doing wrong in finding a woman, please do!!!! Thanks xxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Best way is to all chat together on kik...then no one is hiding anything....as a couple this stuff only works if you are totally into one another...chat on an open platform...state from the start there's no.private messages one.on one...if u can't trust your.partner..get out of this game...it will never work

  • Sincoupleqld

    Sincoupleqld

    5 years ago

    We are fairly new to this but certainly think the discussion of boundaries and wants need to be open right from the start. We prefer to play together but he is welcome to play alone as long as she is aware of what is going on. If this life is going to work for everyone honesty needs to be at the forefront. If playing together only has been made clear and she is still only talking to your husband I would be shutting things down. If it has not been made clear then I would be wondering why or getting that part of the conversation started via hubby if you want to. Get him to suggest a group chat and see what happens?

  • SilverValentina

    SilverValentina

    5 years ago

    This situation has obviously made you very uncomfortable, & rightly so. I wouldn't be happy either. I know single men hit up married women up all the time. They get off on fucking another guy's wife, it makes feel powerful. But I would of thought women were different. I don't understand why any woman would want or bother with a married man. When there's hundreds of hot single guys on RHP. You can have you're pick ladies, & no one is going to be hurt.

  • MrandMrsFrisky

    MrandMrsFrisky

    5 years ago

    Single female contacting a couple? It's a trap!

  • BonnienClyde6969

    BonnienClyde6969

    5 years ago

    Absofuckinglutely she should’ve contacted you - first if anything.

  • click_lick

    click_lick

    5 years ago

    My humble opinion is that you should give it a go and contact that woman, say hi, how is your day, great you are getting along with hubby, what are you into, what are your experiences with women, what turns her on.... A milion things to open it up and no harm done. You pounding on an imaginary etiquette of who is to contact who on an online dating platform does not seem very constructive from my point of view. The longer the silence, the more awkward things get. After the first contact, you will have a clear indication of the lady's intentions merely by looking at her response to you. Either it is engaging and genuine or it is a token response or maybe there is no response at all. Whichever it is, you will know everything you need to know. Chill and then go for it!

  • cheekycple4fun

    cheekycple4fun

    5 years ago

    Women that are bi sexual are Most welcome to pm us and go from there..

  • mkycouple1978

    mkycouple1978

    5 years ago

    When we give out both our kik profiles at the same time and the “couple” that is seeking a couple only contacts one of us alarm bells ring. We are more than happy to chat separately but be upfront first

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Why blame the single female. If it’s not what you want then you and only you have the power to stop it from happening. Most males (including me) will talk to most people on her especially if it’s a female showing some interest. I say again why blame her or get upset by a situation which you can control the outcome. Plan and simple. YOU DON’T LIKE IT DON’T ALLOW IT TO HAPPEN. TAKE CONTROL

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    My thoughts are Couples are usually too much trouble and drama. Either both meet her and all play or just zip it.

  • towelsrequired

    towelsrequired

    5 years ago

    Tend to agree Omega. Nerve wracking enough as it is as a single woman to make sure you're impressing one person, then add another one to the mix particularly a female if you are not experienced with them and it can be pretty daunting. This is why I rarely play with couples, seems to get too complicated. And as a single female, I usually would expect both female and Male from the couple to reach out to me if they play together even if I made the initial connection. There are two of you and one of me. Saying that, if it's a couple who plan to play with me together, I would suggest a group chat from the start, I am more interested in connecting with the female.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Neve hear back from them on here anyway....lucky if you get any mesages on here

  • Starlight5

    Starlight5

    5 years ago

    I’m a single chick who plays with couples and I much prefer a 3 way group chat for everything That way the wife can consent to me playing with the hubby if she wants. Or vice versa, although I’m there for the couple experience, if I just want a guy I’d rather a single one. This is about enhancing a marriage not putting a rift in it. Just start all conversations as a group chat on Kik and problem solved. And if you’re uncomfortable about anything then move on, it’s meant to make you all feel good!

  • N4November

    N4November

    5 years ago

    Yes she took the initiative to contact you both but she's never had sex with a girl and that's cool, but I'd suggest you contact her, start a conversation and if she doesn't communicate back? Let it go. Your hubby will know what you're both looking for and what's cool between you. If this goes outside of that - he's chatting and pics - end it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I would cut ties with her and move onto someone more transparent. Speak with your partner and if you want to be there then make sure uts a three way chat and meet to begin with. Trust me single women (me) have no time for couple dramas

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Unfortunately there's a lot of this type of behaviour out there.Where the single contacts the couple initially and states that they're "interested in both" members of the couple. Then it comes to crunch and it's clear that they're only interested in one member of the couple.This is why we generally steer clear of singles unless we know them well. We also do group chats and if someone is contacting one of us only and it's weird we divert back to the group chat or we don't chat with them at all. It's a bit of a hard thing to navigate as it feels really harsh to not include singles but 9/10 of our encounters have not been 100% up front about things and it just makes for weird awkward situations so we tend to steer clear of them.

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    5 years ago

    My thoughts are that you should consider hooking up a study looking guy and drag him off to couples club etc and have your evil way with whoever is in attendance. You’re welcome

  • LongDick30

    LongDick30

    5 years ago

    Very interested : )

  • Cassabella

    Cassabella

    5 years ago

    As a single female into couples, I personally think it's disrespectful. I like to speak to both for familiarity and to make sure we are all in the same page. If I had to only speak with one I would make sure it was with the wife. Bottom line, if she has contacted stating she is interested in you both and actually isn't. She has lied about her intentions and that's bad news. If she is interested in you both, she's not great at communicating what she wants which could lead to a poor experience anyway. Of Couse tho this is only an outsider's personal opinion without actually knowing any of you or the dynamics of your relationships. xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Creat bought .one profile for you can see too.

  • bb7980

    bb7980

    5 years ago

    Ok any other couples on here getting messages from single females on a regular basis?? How do we get in on that action? 🙋‍♂️😄

  • DantheDestroyer

    DantheDestroyer

    5 years ago

    Think its disrespectful for her not to contact you while maintaing a conversation with your hub. It indicates she is only interested in the M and is using the bi-chat as a hook.

  • h20oo

    h20oo

    5 years ago

    100% agreee , why you would be feeling that way and to me, not that I’ve ever been on here as a couple. But I would honestly prefer to engage in chat with the female of the couple. I thought that was the “norm” but clearly not. From what I see I feel it’s more the males all online.......and chatting for weeks 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’d simply just be chatting to your partner. He’s the one that owes the explanation. Even though she should have a little more respect, ultimately it comes down to you and your partner and what you both deem appropriate behaviour. And as a single female if I wanted a man I’d simply pick one out myself. Not someone who’s already attached, it’s the females in these play sessions that excite me. Not anyone’s husband 😉

  • Beingjustme

    Beingjustme

    5 years ago

    She has contacted a "couple" she needs to speak with both of you! I'm new single female and interested in that scene also (not been there yet) but Id definately need to get to know my lady as well....after all.. it is a 3some, equal rights to explore and emotional/sexual satisfaction for all. She's obviously not emotionally ready and its not up to your partner to entice her further without your input.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Hi there my name is Zain single looking for someone chubby mom

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Never happends only guys contact us

  • MissKink

    MissKink

    5 years ago

    I only group chat with couples. Helps weed out the fakes too. Good luck x

  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    5 years ago

    Hornbags I’m 100% with you on this one, if you’re looking to play as a couple and she’s trying to get your husband alone that is not ok. I’d be pissed at him too, you should have been included and remained included, it looks like they want to hook up and leave you out and if that’s not your agreement then it’s not ok. It says a lot about people who think that you should go back on an agreement and step aside so that her and your husband can go for it. If that’s not the agreement you had then that’s not what should happen! Agreements and understandings are very important in this lifestyle.

  • Naughtyfortys73

    Naughtyfortys73

    5 years ago

    I’ll put it in simple terms. Myself as a single male if I’m in contact with a couple I speak more with the male even though i have no interest in males. It’s called respect of their relationship. You would think or expect the same for a woman to speak mainly with the female of the relationship. However does your profile say that you play solo or solo once all agree?

  • kissable_desire

    kissable_desire

    5 years ago

    Cut it off. Your hubby is a privilege not a right. Ulterior motive from my POV and experience. Happy wife happy life. Plenty of single men out there for her. No need to allow her to disrespect your relationship...

  • mystrysh1970

    mystrysh1970

    5 years ago

    If the profile says couple, & states only plays as a couple, communication should be in a three way chat with 'the couple'. As a female who joins couples, I will always try to communicate with both straight off. I think anyone approaching a couple who states they only play together, with the pre meditated plan of trying to play with just one of them, is perhaps after a conquest, & potentially needs to feel they have bettered someone else to feel good about themselves. Leave them be There are plenty of couples who openly state they play separately and plently of singles out there. Don't go out of your way manipulating people into situations they haven't signed up for with their partner.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I think there’s an underlying issue if this happens on several occasions and that is something you should work on with your partner before bringing another female into the bedroom. Why is he chatting and not creating a three way chat from the beginning? If you think you’re going to feel left out which you are from the conversations that are happening even before you meet the other woman then you need to work through that first.

  • Mosses1905

    Mosses1905

    5 years ago

    İ wanna see possy

  • LuvaGusha

    LuvaGusha

    5 years ago

    Hello there gorgeous girl..... Its been a while hope all is going well xx

  • ozmelbcpl4cpl2

    ozmelbcpl4cpl2

    5 years ago

    Put her into a 3 way group chat problem solved.. On the other Hand if the roles were reversed and you were doing an mfm would hubby be interested in getting to know the male..no right or wrong here just depends on the couple how they work as a team me (hubby) I dont actually need to have a 3 way convo if its a also encourage her to get the sexy ohn in a private conversation otherwise guys hold back in a 3 way chat

  • Lovinslomotion

    Lovinslomotion

    5 years ago

    Hey this happens every time we have a guy contact us so it’s refreshing to hear the other side of the story, and trust me I know how you feel but what can I say but one gender has it almost too good when it comes to threesomes. Maybe this girl finds it less intimidating to talk to the opposite sex as this is what we find with most guys and yes I’m the male of our profile.. I say you might need to be a little more proactive and take the reigns for a while and be assertive... hope everything pans out for you guys....

  • moyspeed

    moyspeed

    4 years ago

    Good

  • rooster0110

    rooster0110

    4 years ago

    I don’t think hubby is being respectful your his wife and you should be treated exactly the way he would expect to be ,,,,

  • TeasinPleasin

    TeasinPleasin

    4 years ago

    I'm with you 100% of the way.... You said your a couple looking for an extra as i also have but some don't even read profiles but others find it a challenge to see if they can split you both for one night..... not on at all.....i would only put 1 contact for them to chat with you both....not yours and his as gives them a choice of who they want 1st..... Respect is all you ask but over the last month or so while chatting to ONLY your man and not you... . They are bonding a relationship/friendship together... well that's great and your man wants to meet her.... but your name hasn't even been brought up in conversation while chatting.......I think it's time you blocked her & ask your man.... if it was a guy you wanted for threesome and he always chatting to you and NEVER mentioned your man's name.... WOULD YOU BE HAPPY FOR US TO MEET ? I believe if a couple want an extra to play... if extra is male he should be chatting to your man and ladies speak to you... Good luck

  • hrjjdkkr

    hrjjdkkr

    4 years ago

    Yes!

  • Unicorn123

    Unicorn123

    4 years ago

    Is she a sub? My thought... from a uni absolutely bi-sexual ladies perspectives point of view.... yes absolutely you SHOULD message her! When I meet a couple 1st thing I do is make it clear I am a) not interested in nicking your husband and b) I dont play with married men... I get bombarded with messages from woodbe men who claim to be couples but when I ask to meet or speak to the woman they are no where to be found? 😆 ... so is she real.. is it a game? Sort it out now I say

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Forming a personal, a n b,semi longtermish (weird) private intellectually, emotionally, aswell as the clear as cum physical/sexual thing and not including yourself or her lover...er...um...lol “ Mention that’s not what you were visualising when both dipped your toes back wen...but trust me kill him/them with kindness ...and send it back his way with interest gorgeous!!! Smiling, flirting, understated confidence, highlight your strengths and share them with others in plainsight ....flick your deadbeat selfish zero and laugh flirt feel shine tingle...gift yourself totallyto someone maybe a couple of someone’s ...but worthy of your company...fulfilling on transcending levels xo

  • Hasan_son

    Hasan_son

    4 years ago

    Hola

  • mememememeRHP

    mememememeRHP

    4 years ago

    Just fuck her dad. Ultimate dominance...

  • Cowboyinthecity

    Cowboyinthecity

    4 years ago

    We are waiting for that unicorn to contact us. A lot start conversation but seem to shy away from a commitment after weeks of texting two and fro

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I LOVE talking to the females of the couple (I'm bi) and couples contact me quite alot BUT unless the woman is hot and I'm attracted to her I won't even bother responding and if I do respond I always compliment the female half and say I want to play with her (I'll actually want to play with the female more in a couple) ...... In saying that not many females are as confident towards the ladies as myself and she may be thrilled if you reach out..... Say hi, what can it hurt and good luck 💋💋💋