Single Males at Swingers Clubs

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  KinkMinded

  4 years ago

  I have never been but as a female I was wondering the same thing. I have recently been considering attending and I’m not sure if this scene suits females looking for men only ( rather than couples or other women).

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  don't waste your money unless you are exceptional ....

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 years ago

  Consenses is regarding single guys that go are thirsty. People that go expect you to know the rules and action them. Remember, just because you pay an entry fee does not mean women are on their backs with their pussies laid out to you. A women chooses you. You need to earn that privilege. Also NO means No! It does not mean you harp like a thirsty dog to her, follow her around or make smug comments to her. Be respectful, act like a man and take your manners with you. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  My humble suggestion would be to research online the clubs in Qld. Read their rules properly. Not just once, but a number of times and thoroughly take them on board. Contact the venue. They usually have an email address or phone number and be polite and respectful in your communication with them. Fill your profile out and then have a look at the people who show interest in attending on certain nights. Maybe even try and engage in conversation beforehand so you aren’t just walking in blind. I went to a club with another female about twelve months ago and a young bloke (younger than you) got drunk and kicked out because he expected the ladies there to line up and have sex with him because he paid the entrance fee. Then fought the bouncer. It wasn’t cool to watch such an immature sense of sheer entitlement on his part. A lot of people go for the social element of interacting with people who share common interests in a friendly environment. You may as well try it to see if it’s something you’re interested in pursuing. Just don’t be like the young kid who treated the place like a brothel.

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  LittleGiant

  4 years ago

  In all honesty my experiences with clubs is that they are pretty bleak for single guys...Unfortunately, due to those 'thirsty' ones that treat clubs like brothels as already mentioned, single guys all tend to get tarred with the same brush. I've seen so many single guys standing around awkwardly alone, or - worse - acting seedy and shady, which probably happens because they get drunk whilst standing around alone feeling awkward. If you DO decide to go alone, you'll need to be really friendly and super outgoing. If you don't approach people on your own they won't come to you. I think on a regular night you'll find that the majority of people there are not interested in single males. You'd be best checking out the 'greedy girl' style nights or the singles only nights. That's not to say I haven't seen single males have success as regular events, but just giving you an overall description of what I've seen usually happens. Good luck! Miss Little xx

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  RuralBiCple

  4 years ago

  When I was single, I went to almost all of the swingers clubs in Perth and for the most part enjoyed myself even when I didn't have sex. My advice is dress nice, make sure your finger nails are trimmed, have a couple of drinks but don't get drunk and engage in appropriate conversation to the situation you are in. My first time was a bit of a fizzer as there was not many people in attendance and the few that were there all knew each other and weren't interested in conversing with me, so I bailed and went back a couple of weeks later and had a much better experience. To reduce it down for you, read the room and react accordingly.

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  I’m not a single guy but we both found the first time very daunting .Not knowing what to expect and perhaps moving out of your comfort zone can be a big step. All events and parties vary . They can also vary depending on the crowd THAT particular night . Like anything , some people ( like us ) prefer single guys being there . It comes down to personal preference. Sadly , I agree some single guys have caused single guys to get a bad reputation. Do your homework and find the right party for you . With some events you can speak to the organisers prior and ask about the crowd , expectations, rules etc Advice -the seagull on a chip approach isn’t going to get you far . -Be friendly , not pushy. ⁃ Have no expectations, take no for an answer. ⁃ Always be respectful . ⁃ Anyone that speaks to you or glances your way is not necessarily a ‘sure thing.’Lastly it can be awkward for single guys at an event or anyone . We’ve found that to be the case especially if there is a big crowd of regulars . ⁃ Good luck in all your endeavours. Ax ◦

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  Dallas1975

  4 years ago

  Hey Mossy, just jump in and give it a go! But as TeamAJ said stick by some rules and you'll come out better than you arrived in one way or another, even if it's just a new experience. Go in with ZERO expectations...don't get annoyed if nothing happens, there's nothing worse than guys whingeing they "paid good money and didn't get laid". You might chat to someone on the night but nothing happens, maybe just exchange numbers/contact details if they seem a little interested, they might get in touch later. Don't drink too much, it's frowned upon to be drunk at a swingers club. I usually take a few beers and some red bulls...the nights can be long and I'm usually in bed by 10! Mingle mingle mingle! Make small talk with people, and just look at making connections...they might work out on the night or down the track. Don't expect people to come to you, they have lots of options. The "greedy girls" style nights can be a good start as there are more guys allowed, and more women looking for guys. Regular parties are still good, but harder to get into and there's generally less interest in the single guys there. Just be yourself....unless normal you is a douchbag ;-) But seeing as you've posted a well written topic you seem alright :-)

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  ExhibitionistEve

  4 years ago

  I think all genders have a better time when they approach as many people as possible with the intention of making new social connections and having a good chat, and consider the rest a bonus. Lots of people have a bias against single men due to consistent bad experiences which you will have to contend with, but they're usually happy to be proven wrong. I've learned I have to be VERY clear if I'm not interested, and although I am usually happy for a platonic chat even if it's not going to go further, I've learned to give a wide berth of anyone who seems desperate so I don't have to spend the rest of the night shaking them (E.g. people who are hovering, pushy, not reading body language, or overly tipsy) - don't take someone's presence at the club to mean they're a sure thing, as everyone is looking for something different out of their night. Try not to take people's bluntness personally, it's about their own experiences. You need to be prepared for possible rejection and know how to cope with it, as you may not get very far with the first or even 5th person you approach. But there are certainly people out there who are open to single men if you know how to make a good impression and approach with the right mindset. Remember it's a small scene and your reputation will follow you, good or bad. If you want some tips directed at single men in swingers clubs, try YouTube channels like Oasis Aqualounge, OpenLove101, TomandBunny.

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  melbbeachboy87

  4 years ago

  I’ve been to a lot of swingers parties as a single guy. Open to meeting girls, couples, guys and group. Majority of the time I end up meeting good people. Have had a heap of great sex with interesting fun people.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Super foxy if I’m ever in Brisbane would you take me to a swingers party

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