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Single Men at Events
May 10 2014
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ChateauVino
11 years ago
We are constantly surprised by the numbers of couples seeking out good quality single guys to play with. As long as the ratios are not too high for singles, most parties work.
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dananddre
11 years ago
we are about to attend our first event as a couple, so although we may not be qualified to answer on past experiences, we may have some insight to offer on current thoughts/fears/fantasies regarding the subject... I think the biggest reason the single guys are on the back foot from the get-go is primarily, as you say o.p.- they are there to meet other likeminded couples. our personal 'fucket list' does include a variety of scenarios with other men- with that said we don't openly say that so we don't get bombarded by thousands of single guys looking for a quick fix. I think the best thing the single blokes in these situations can do is to 'disarm' the males in the couples- start an approach by chatting to them, and then if and when the guys is comfortable he'll probably introduce you to the female partner. this will also give the single bloke an opportunity to see if the female partner has much interest in him- because if she isn't otherwise occupied I'm pretty sure she'll attempt to join the conversation at her soonest convenience if she thinks he is hot!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry but that sounds like you're telling everyone what they should be answering. This elusive unicorn loves both her couples and single men.
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
But parties are somewhere we go to meet couples, always hoping that we're going to make some great long-time friends (rarely happens but we're very grateful for the handful of cool laidback and fun friends we have met). So while I adore the company of some awesome single guys, and MrParadise is always friendly and open, they're not the people we wish to connect with at a party. We never say never, but right now, it's a no thanks...but if they're my type... here's my #, let's stay in touch...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well the main swingers club in Sydney has two out of four nights which is open to single guys attending, so I would disagree that all couples are looking to play with other women, whether they be single or part of a couple. In fact there are lots of women who enjoy group sex but have no interest in playing with other women and therefore are only interesting in meeting men. Personally I find as a single person at an event where it is mainly couples a little boring. Not my thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a typical male response. Now let me to tell you from a female point of view. The times I have gone to clubs with a lover and a man speaks to him and then asks the inevitable question "Do you mind if I root your wife/girlfriend " I have been utterly unimpressed. I am a person in my own right and if someone is interested in me I expected them to speak to me directly. I am not a possession to be passed around. Now I am sure you wouldn't be so crass, but my advice to you from a woman's perspective and from someone who has attended many events. Speak to the person you are interested in directly. Always! If you feel that you have some chemistry then you ask the person what they are into or why they have come. They can then tell you what the rules between her and the partner are and whether you need to approach him. If a couple have a rule that everyone has to go through the male half them she will probably tell you straight up to go talk to hubby. In my experience of swingers clubs it is the women that do most of the talking and approaching while the men take a back seat. Not always obviously, but just seems like the women are the ones in control a lot of the time. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a single guy who is interested in attending these types of events I find it hard to find ones that actually do allow single guys to attend them. Most of the events that I am interested in attending are for couples or single females but not single guys. I do agree with Meeka's last comment that lady's are not a possession for the guys to choose who and when they get to sleep with them. And although I have not attended one of these events as of yet I have found through other experiences over time that the female half of the relationship is usually the one that will make the initial decision as to who they will play with.
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
I think some of the guys talking part of things isn't around the female as a possession - more that it's really important both halves of the couple feel comfortable. This is not so much the dynamic of NSA couples, more those with emotions and love intertwining their connection. When meeting couples there has been more than one occasion where the guys head to the bar for a chat - or whatever. I would see some single guys doing this as an extension of what 2 couples would do - check everyone's ok...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not sure I agree that this is how it is in a swingers club or a party. Sure when you are meeting a couple for a private meet then the blokes want to make sure they get on. Certainly a man doesn't go and speak to the other man first to "disarm" him. My experience is that it is the women doing most of the deciding and flirting and approaching of other people. Well in for the experienced couples that is. And I was not referring to a NSA agreement either. I was still annoyed that a man would go Speak to my lover first even though they were interested in me. If the male half of a couple feels this is necessary I would go as far as suggesting that they are not really ready for swinging.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a couple can't decide with just a look between them then they are either newbies or a swingers party might not be something that would work for them. That is my take on it and how it seems to work at parties.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I say this because it would seem that some men feel they have to ask the male half's permission first before approaching the wife.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We prefer as a couple when we attend parties to have the option of playing with single men.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a event is advertised as a couples swingers event that means no singles ...male or female We will be expecting to play as a couple with other couples. If singles and couples are invited please do not refer to it as a couples swingers party because its not. Let us know and we will decide to attend or not based on the mix that will be there. A better description would be a orgy, if both couples and singles are invited. Or a swingers party Couples and singles will be attending. Then we know not to attend.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why aren't cuckold parties more predominant, if there are truly any. There seems to be a huge market of single guys to attend them and some couples that like a single male. For us a couples swingers party is to meet couples, and that means couples that are committed to each other and would share the same values as we do, not FWB or NSA people that live separate lives.There are some party hosts that hold a Friday for singles and Saturday for couples only and Saturday is usually the much more attended party. The, arguably, biggest and longest running party is couples only, and remains huge as it has for years, actually decades.
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dananddre
11 years ago
Meeka you are neither male nor part of a couple, and your opinions on my comments are coming from so far out of left field you need a reality check. It's exhausting having to read some of the nonsense you deem worthy to post in areas that do not warrant your opinion- this thread is titled "single men at events" and starts out asking "for the couples in the audience..." you want to tell me from a female point of view? great... p.m. me, don't troll publicly to try and warrant some self-value or esteem by chiding others who have done nothing more than give their opinion. seriously- please go and find somewhere else to be so opinionated and self righteous. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all? Paradise Pair- thank you- as your comment is pretty much the way things are. I cannot wait to see my wife enjoying the pleasures of multiple men- but I can guarantee that none of them will be going near her until WE (not ME Meeka) have decided we want things to progress. even though I may be doing nothing more than watching, I still need to be excited by the though of watching my wife with him- and yes, she does need to be attracted to him, but what is the purpose of that if I as the male half of a couple, feel untoward of anything happening between them, when we have agreed that BOTH of us should always be comfortable in any situation we are playing in? I'm sure this may change as we gain more experience, and I'm not saying that all the single males would need to form an orderly queue in front of me to 'apply' to screw my wife.... I'm simply saying that I will enjoy watching the action a lot more if I have at least chatted to the guy before anything is happening between him and my wife. Lastly Meeka- I don't care about your opinion or take on it- the only person's take on it that I ever need worry about comes from my wife, whom I love, adore and RESPECT more than anything. Love is very much a part of what binds my wife and I, and everything we do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of the few events i have been to, it has always been the woman who decides who shall join them or her. He just has to wear it ! Just wondering why cant two single unattached male & female meet up and make a couple ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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DTE_couple
11 years ago
We hold events so I guess for us its about, which type of event you choose to go too.There are lots of clubs and parties that do mention whether they are Couples only or if single males are invited too.Our suggestion is just pic your events that you attend a little more carefully and you won't feel as uncomfortable.When we were new, we did the same thing, we just wanted to attend couples events only. But you tend to relax more on that idea the more fun you have in the lifestyle. At the end of the day we are all here to have as much sexual fun as you can !!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I totally understand that some couples only want to play with other couples. In saying that even if they go to a mixed party it does not mean they have to play with singles. We prefer to have a small number of singles at our parties. We have been to parties where the ratio of men are all wrong and also to some where the men seem to hunt in packs! But in the end it is about have enough firm men to satisfy the group - all night ! Vetting to get the right single guys is very important, then you just have to make sure they show up! Quite often they chicken out or just don't show.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'dananddre' Meeka you are neither male nor part of a couple, and your opinions on my comments are coming from so far out of left field you need a reality check. It's exhausting having to read some of the nonsense you deem worthy to post in areas that do not warrant your opinion- this thread is titled "single men at events" and starts out asking "for the couples in the audience..." you want to tell me from a female point of view? great... p.m. me, don't troll publicly to try and warrant some self-value or esteem by chiding others who have done nothing more than give their opinion. seriously- please go and find somewhere else to be so opinionated and self righteous. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all? Lastly Meeka- I don't care about your opinion or take on it- the only person's take on it that I ever need worry about comes from my wife, whom I love, adore and RESPECT more than anything. Love is very much a part of what binds my wife and I, and everything we do. Such a rude and arrogant dismissal of Meeka's comments was not warranted. She has a lot of experience in the swinging scene both as a single and as part of a couple, and she was giving you some advice. Whether you wish to heed that advice or not is up to you of course, but your response was inappropriate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Luckdragon I do not think Dananddre comments out of order, I have not even bothered about Meeks comments she is single and its a couples section. We will seek permission from each other before either of us will play with anyone else. Parties a bit of advice: Danger with extra guys say 4-6 couples 2-3 extra guys. There will be bi girls there and they may play with each other in a group of 2 - 4 and only be there for the girlie play. Now you have at some stage thru the night 2 ladies available and 8 guys running around with hard ons loaded up with Viagra. Not for us sorry. What seems OK on the surface can be quite different in reality. For us the group party scene we have given away and like playing one couple with another couple and if we want a extra guy we will invite to our very private playing with others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks LD, I am sure he will figure it out. Good luck with you swinging Dan. Hahaha ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, sorry to pick this up but why have you mentioned only single guys and not single womenif you are suggesting couples are there to meet other couples?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' What a typical male response. Now let me to tell you from a female point of view. The times I have gone to clubs with a lover and a man speaks to him and then asks the inevitable question "Do you mind if I root your wife/girlfriend " I have been utterly unimpressed. I am a person in my own right and if someone is interested in me I expected them to speak to me directly. I am not a possession to be passed around. Now I am sure you wouldn't be so crass, but my advice to you from a woman's perspective and from someone who has attended many events. Speak to the person you are interested in directly. Always! If you feel that you have some chemistry then you ask the person what they are into or why they have come. They can then tell you what the rules between her and the partner are and whether you need to approach him. If a couple have a rule that everyone has to go through the male half them she will probably tell you straight up to go talk to hubby. In my experience of swingers clubs it is the women that do most of the talking and approaching while the men take a back seat. Not always obviously, but just seems like the women are the ones in control a lot of the time. ;-) Agree... always talk to the person directly. I have been to a few parties where I have played with couples and have been completely refused by others. What really pisses me off is the men who jump in and answer on behalf of women when I am trying to talk to them. Also, don't women have the control everywhere :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
We are very new, we are mainly looking for the rare unicorn but have opened up to couples only at events/parties. So far been to two events and found on both occassions the single men were total mood killers. We had one jerk who knew we were 1st timers try and explain to us what the place was and asked us what we thought was going to happen, my man told captain obvious to fuck off. Had another doing rounds of the rooms trying to sleeze his way onto the beds. Saw one sleeze his way onto a bed where 2 girls were enjoying each other, his hands started wondering then the wanker put a rubber on and tried to get behind one of them until they told him to fuck off, there are a few more also I could go on and this was only from the 2 times we have been. So for us they are total mood killers, unless they are invited to join they have no right to even sit on the bed as far as I'm concerned. If someone is looking for a guy that's fine but they shouldn't take any part unless specifically asked to. The clubs need to police this more, though not sure how. Have found the ratio to be ok but the quality sucks as from what we have seen the majority are just weasels trying to take advantage of a hot situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why not have a certain colour of armband if you wish to play with single men. Single men are informed of this and are not to attempt to join unless asked .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'dananddre' Meeka (...)It's exhausting having to read some of the nonsense you deem worthy to post in areas that do not warrant your opinion I'm sick of being forced to read Meeka's opinions as well. If only there was some way I could skip her past her posts without readi... Oh, wait. You should try it Dan, it's liberating. Lubs ya, Meeks x
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RHP User
11 years ago
That "most of" the clubs we've attended over the years were single guys attend, the guys seem to be a bit sleazy, hover around a lot even touch when not wanted. This is why we have given the clubs a miss, and selected the private house parties. We are definitely in no way against play with a decent guy, but it's when we desire it, not when he does.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree that some single guys don't act appropriately and believe that they are entitled to a root just because they are at party or believe that all women will root everybody there so they don't have to ask before touching. But I would like to add that some married guys also act this way... They aren't always single.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I remember being dragged to a meetup event by a friend and meeting a lovely lady. She turned out to be married and insisted on getting her husband to join us at the pub to meet me. It was slightly strange chatting with the husband, he was like "this is all rather civilized"...I wasn't sure if they were swingers and I'd just been interviewed. I simultaneously felt turned on but I wasn't sure enough to say - come back to my place. As a single male, it's nice to be able to meet not only a couple but also single ladies that you are sure may also be interested in attending as a couple at some point. Every couple who attends was at some point single and some of those couples had 1 single male. I'm not sure why there is some stigma about attending as a male? There needs to be a place where a single male can go and enjoy a relaxed atmosphere and potentially meet single ladies that might be looking for something or a couple... Is there anywhere in Sydney where this is the case?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wait to be asked..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Part of the swinging 101 safety net is to only play with other married couples. This safe guards your relationship as a couple and also physically with any STI etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We avoid parties functions etc with single guys. Sadly we have never been to one where one single guy did not act inappropriately. To the point where Sarah is tired to a large extent, going to events. As an observation it seems many people running parties and events often, despite saying it wont happen, invite "Select single men" (ie friends of the hosts). . Now I will agree as part of a couple who are very comfortable separating at times at parties and events, I can vouch for the fact men do wander about by themselves. While I have rules about not touching unless requested and not loitering unless again invited I can assure you other males as part of couples don't. I tend to find its us blokes who ruin it for all. I have watched on a number of occasions where a female of a couple will find her man "roaming and foraging" and will get "nasty" on him! LMAO - that always as an aside makes my night - "I like to watch" .Much like society a couple of bad eggs ruin it for all and sadly its left a bad taste in our mouths. .The whole dynamic of guys chatting to guys first, or girls doing flirting and meeting. Is this not normal society again? Meet who you want to meet, attend the parties events you want to and arrange your sex the way you feel it works for you and feels comfortable. NO ONE has the answer for all because we are all individuals, and I kinda like that. . Yes it leaves a bad taste in our mouths .Brae ....wandering around the forums by myself again! No really Sarah is just upstairs chatting up a brunette in a corset!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Brae, Welcome back, reading your post above you are in the right direction giving the receiving away and couples only....much safer.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OK so I qualify under the term single man at an event. I tend to hold back quite a bit at events,(well I've been to 3 so we are talking MAJOR expert here) (NOT) maybe a bit shy or unsure of what to say or how to get the ball rolling. I do think that if there are too many single guys I get quite daunted and stay back in the shadows. maybe I need a tattoo on my forehead saying Hold my hand, lead me. To date I have never been to an event where there was too many single women. I hope we don't ruin anyones evening by being there, I wouldn't want that for anyone. Happy eventing all
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are much safer..... LOL.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hate couples parties, but being honoured to play with a couple in our own intimate environment is truly exquisite. To feel the trust they have placed on you, that they know I won't sabotage what they have, that I am a truly close and unique friend, to be allowed a glimpse into their private world. It's awesome. You can't establish that from meeting someone at a play party. The introductions can be made, get a feel for each other, see if we all click. Then make contact again on another day. If I'm approached by one half of the party, if it's the man, I always make sure I watch him head back towards the missus, to ensure she knows we are off for a play, and that she knows she is welcome to join in or watch at any time. She'll glance my way I'll nod and smile, and then he comes back. It's my way of showing respect to the couple, that I know although he is capable of speaking for himself, I acknowledge that she is ultimately a part of our play whether she is actually present or not. A guy being approached by another guy regarding his wife, is not about discussing a possession, it is the guy showing respect to the other part of the couple who isn't going to be participating, the husband. That the single guy acknowledges they are a couple and the party is not a free for all fuck fest. For a single to know how to show this respect, is the key to eventually holding an ongoing kinky friendship for all three. I have a guy friend who plays with couples and he too understands and shows this respect. He has also attended parties. When a guy or a chick know the rules, and the rules about no touching unless invited (couples and single ladies are guilty of this too I might add) then this is the type of PERSON you want at a party. Singles at a party can be fun, or they can be a disaster and wreck the night for others. Couples at a party can be fun or they can wreck the night for others. Surely the trick is in the selection of the people going. No strangers, have someone vouch for them etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It doesn't matter Single Guys, Girls or Couples ! No One and we mean No One will play with us, anytime, anyplace ! That brings us to the question. What is wrong with us ? We are just plain "UGLY" and have to realize that ! Plain and Simple !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for your kind message. We haven't changed - we are still as kinky as before - hate to disappoint anyone but nothing has change bar the frequency of my posting. Still risking it by playing with single gals ........ And couples ............. And naughty Sarah is still picking up cheeky chicks cruising around by herself. . It takes all types and that's ok with us! . Stay sexy all . Brae dirty and dangerous :-)
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Quoting 'dananddre' Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all? JUST IGNORE - To be honest if RHP is not actively interested in limiting some regulars..it is a loosing battle....but don't join the 90% of members who find forum completely useless and never visit. I still manage to find something useful with some efforts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yea you do pick up on the "repetitive pattern" of some .....& it can be quite off-putting but who cares/ignore it because their is a lot of good bits to be found in here. Mrs_AJ - Posted from rhpmobile
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FunnWunn
11 years ago
A seasoned solo male at events here. I used to be a regular at a number of group events and enjoyed quite a lot of company and a variety of experiences. I've found that couples are regularly seeking an additional male(s). Approaches to me have more often come through the male on behalf of his partner, interesting when he is only watching. I've had a lot of positive conversations over the different experiences that couples and singles seek. One interesting deviation that comes to mind was where two couples looked to be into each other only but approached me to join as an additional male and the action was focussed on my participation with the two ladies and the other guys joining with them as things progressed. Gangbangs have been OK but the more intimate threesomes and moresomes have provided much more stimulating and memorable times. The point is not to typecast others wants and desires to your own preferences. I recall a lady who was regularly dropped off by her husband and picked up later when she was ready to go home. Of course we had some fun in the meantime. Again, this shows another variation in what people (including couples) are seeking. I do take the point about the existence of the more creepy solo males that do find their way in. In my experience, they are sorted out by the realities of the events. If they can't speak, can only leer, slide like crocodiles into a spa when a female appears, can't even try a game of pool - well, let them disappear into the night somewhere and get it on with who fit the bill for your preference, taste, exploration and fun. Bear in mind that single ladies aren't necessarily looking for a couples experience (not necessarily a male experience either), There are straights and bi's and all can have a great time when each other's boundaries are respected. Unfortunately I rarely go these days but I do readily recall a lot of good fun. When I do go, I still find fun but maybe that's because I can converse, am respectful, keep myself in reasonable and tidy shape and don't creep others out. (Well, maybe I creep some out - lol.) Again, my take is that others (couples, couples with friends, single/solo females/males) can't be stereotyped. If you want to filter out a particular group, fine. Just be prepared to offer fewer options to attendees.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are there any answers a male can give on these forum's without being dismissed as a "typical male comment" ??? For every "typical male comment" on here, it seems to be met with the "typical female response"...........................
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norti_bi_cpl
11 years ago
We have been to a few clubs and prefer a club where they have a night where its single ladies and cpls only, as the single guys tend to try to hard...drives us nuts. Only one club I know what has a nite where cpls and single ladies only attend.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wish this site had a like Button Some awesome quotes lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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mikesplace01
11 years ago
That's why we have two distinct events each weekend....there are always differences of opinions, needs and desires.Our Friday parties are for Couples , ladies and single guys. However , we limit the number of guys that come......we only allow 8-10 depending on numbers of couples and ladies........for 2 main reasons...1./ the guys have a better chance of meeting couples or ladies if it is a night for that....couples aren't going to come if they don't want single guys.....2./ we don't want 30-40 guys (even though we could make a heap more money) where the ladies are so intimidated they don't want to play and the men don't want to leave their girls side for fear of them being gropped.The win , win is every body that comes here know and wants the other. Saturday nights are for Couples and Ladies Only.....and that caters for the couples that only want to play with other couples and ladies.......its not hard......the guys don't have to go through , what can be humiliating experience , of being rejected point blank and the couples don't have to feel they are being harrassed. It has worked for us for over 10 years of running a club and draws from our experience of being in the scene for over 20 years.Hope that helps
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RHP User
11 years ago
Men are so sensitive aren't they! A typical male response means that you are looking at it from a male point of view. Not sure why that is such an upsetting thing. I obviously look at things from a typical female point of view. So what? Couples are more trouble then they are worth, without question. :-(
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't believe I said "just another typical male response" just that it was a typical male response or view. Thanks for putting words into my mouth buddy and twisting my meaning. 😖😞
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RHP User
11 years ago
Funny thing We agree with all the couples responses in this thread...if we want a single we will initiate they are easy prey.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am sure they are Futurenomads, especially when you shave off 10 years from your real age. Amazing how some people keep getting younger isn't it. LMAO.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am sure they are Futurenomads, especially when you shave off 10 years from your real age. Amazing how some people keep getting younger isn't it. LMAO. I thought that was just me. Mrs Nomads has become my age... Hot! Or did the Mr remarry?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The Benjamin Button team. Growing younger disgracefully. Lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She is ours, stay away from her you two. Qefenta. 99 yrs .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
How did you come to the conclusion that i am bitter. I know you like to throw your 2 cents into every thread you can, but since when does having a different opinion to you make me bitter ? Don't complain to me about twisting your words when you have then clearly taken my words out of context. If you are going to be so over-opinionated and throw in your 2 cents all the time, then maybe you should develop some thicker skin in future ?You're welcome to give your opinion on as many forums and threads as you want, but may i suggest looking into the meaning of 'less is more' before responding ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Men are so sensitive aren't they! A typical male response means that you are looking at it from a male point of view. Not sure why that is such an upsetting thing. I obviously look at things from a typical female point of view. So what? Couples are more trouble then they are worth, without question. :-( "Men are so sensitive aren't they"..................seriously, have a listen to yourself ? See what i mean. We disagree with your opinion and we are "sensitive". We respond to your comment, we are "bitter". But all the while, Meeka is always right.........without question !
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RHP User
11 years ago
No. You still sound bitter and angry. That is how you come across to me. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
But okay. So when I really disagree with something someone has said I should make my comments more ... Polite?... Just in case they get offended and abuse me. I know I can be in your face a bit. I do resent the comment that I respond to every forum topic though or that my views are nonsense ... At least I am talking from my personal experience not basing things on what people think will happen. I still am not sure, if you are attracted to someone why you shouldn't go and speak to them first. I mean what if you have buttered up the husband and he gives you the green light, then you speak to the woman in question and realize that you don't want to root her at all? Do you have to go through with it anyway or risk offending the wife and the husband. To me it is a strange way to think. Or do blokes just look at a woman and think, yep I will do her and not care of there isn't any chemistry when they speak to each other ?
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gazpacho
11 years ago
I think the question is totally heterosexual in the way it is being put. As a person who often attends events as part of a regular couple, we invariably seek out, with gay abandon, all the available single guys with uncut cocks and we explore their wildest ideas. Hetero couples can be fun, but ffs why are so many as boring as bats hit with their ridiculous lovey dovey men sit and watch while the women play bullshit. HugsGazpacho
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I still am not sure, if you are attracted to someone why you shouldn't go and speak to them first. I mean what if you have buttered up the husband and he gives you the green light, then you speak to the woman in question and realize that you don't want to root her at all? Do you have to go through with it anyway or risk offending the wife and the husband. To me it is a strange way to think. Or do blokes just look at a woman and think, yep I will do her and not care of there isn't any chemistry when they speak to each other ? This also baffles me. I mean, lets say I've done all this work rubbing the husband up the right way, only to find the chick is a disastrous starfish? What a waste of time. I mean, I would like to think that I'm reasonably capable of talking to two people at once, ffs. lmfao. Hugs'Gazpacho
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gazpacho
11 years ago
And what's with all the planning and strategy? Sex has always been a letting go type of thing to me. I didn't realise it involved so much manoeuvring and strategy? At least, it never has for me and I hope it never has to. We're talking about "wooof".... bring on the wooof! Let the guys in, and if they're useful for some and not for others, then where's the issue? HugsGazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
How ironic this is. Singles in a Couples thread that have the problem how couples wish to interact with each other. The Married couples have not got the problem the singles have. Thats why we have given the private house parties and events a miss. Much more fun meeting up with a compatible couple, a fun evening no pressures no complications, with partner swapping the highlight and if we want a single between the two couples they are real easy to get....prearranged and agreed upon with everyone. Rather than a single random at a event you had never seen before, know nothing about. That would require army issue double condoms fitted and no oral.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We say each to their own in terms of who or what type of play they are after. But everyone has a right to do or want as they please so to speak and shouldn't be thrown/thrust upon them. Single M's don't do it for us pretty simple really and we tend to not attend those type of events where we know there will be more so in attendance and at events where a M & F " friend attend as a couple for the night/event its not hard to work out this and in most instances unless we hit it off with both (hard to always do isn't it) we tend not to get involved.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' No. You still sound bitter and angry. That is how you come across to me. :-) And your assessment is wrong. And I have no idea how you ever cam to that opinion. But it is a common internet mistake to assume what mood people are in based on some words, so I won't hold it against you. If I did hold it against you, I would be accused of being bitter or angry, so no point doing that :)
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