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Single guys why do you bail out the last minute?
December 08 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am asked out, and then when I say yes theres total cyber silence. With me its one of two things. younger guys with a cougar fantasy who get cold feet, or married guys pretending to be single who are too scared they get caught out. ( I do say unattached on my profile) So maybe with some couples, its a couple fantasy and the guys are too nervous to go through with it?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would put my money on attached guys that are looking for a thrill then start panicking when they have to come through with the goods. Some singles would have a good reason and hopefully let you no sooner rather than later Just remember not all single guys act the same. Maybe give some a second chance to meet you if they stand you up on the first 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
10 years ago
A guy that had been sending a few messages to Mrs Luv told her he had to come our way for work and did she want to meet up for a coffee.She has been really busy but decided it was a good opportunity while he was so close to meet up and see if there was a connection that would maybe lead further for next time.A time had been agreed on with a confirmation on the morning of a suitable café to meet.He knew it was just going to be Mrs Luv and himself as I was at work so everything should have been sweet in his world.Mrs Luvsilver sent the confirmation text that morning as agreed on - NothingAnother around the time they were meant to meet - Still nothing - No reply.He did view our profile a few times the next day but still no response. He is now blocked Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'luvsilver' A guy that had been sending a few messages to Mrs Luv told her he had to come our way for work and did she want to meet up for a coffee.She has been really busy but decided it was a good opportunity while he was so close to meet up and see if there was a connection that would maybe lead further for next time.A time had been agreed on with a confirmation on the morning of a suitable café to meet.He knew it was just going to be Mrs Luv and himself as I was at work so everything should have been sweet in his world.Mrs Luvsilver sent the confirmation text that morning as agreed on - NothingAnother around the time they were meant to meet - Still nothing - No reply.He did view our profile a few times the next day but still no response. He is now blocked Mr Luvsilver And when we did actually meet a few chaps they went MIA after that - maybe its just they were not into us LOL....could have let us know either way..... were all for having fun but were not desperate :)
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Rockynumber1
10 years ago
Drove a couple of hours to meet the female of a very hot couple just to have an initial coffee. Could have easily bailed because it was a bit of a mission but was well worth the drive and well worth meeting. I'm really looking forward to fun times ahead. It's simple, just ring if you really can't make it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I thin it runs the gammut......couples, single women and single guys. I think a lot of it comes down to the fact many live in cyberworld and this is a fantasy for them, not real life. When it comes time to switch into real life mode, the insecurities kick in, the fear of rejection sets in...and they get cold feet. Also, some people are just assholes lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
we never get stood up by verified members....strange that.
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erotictouch4u
10 years ago
They are all talk and no action. ET xox
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would agree that a lot of the reason is because they are attached. Other reason could simply be nerves or maybe they are just complete wankers, in which case, it's probably for the best 😉
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'polys' Quoting 'luvsilver' A guy that had been sending a few messages to Mrs Luv told her he had to come our way for work and did she want to meet up for a coffee.She has been really busy but decided it was a good opportunity while he was so close to meet up and see if there was a connection that would maybe lead further for next time.A time had been agreed on with a confirmation on the morning of a suitable café to meet.He knew it was just going to be Mrs Luv and himself as I was at work so everything should have been sweet in his world.Mrs Luvsilver sent the confirmation text that morning as agreed on - NothingAnother around the time they were meant to meet - Still nothing - No reply.He did view our profile a few times the next day but still no response. He is now blocked Mr Luvsilver And when we did actually meet a few chaps they went MIA after that - maybe its just they were not into us LOL....could have let us know either way..... were all for having fun but were not desperate :) is that they could turn a corner one day and bump into you in the street.It's a very small world so it DOES happen.How awkward for them when they come face to face with someone THEY stood up or treated poorly.THEY are the ones that will be embarrassed.I've seen it happen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because online every one, is younger, slimmer, taller, have big thicker dicks, firmer bigger tits, more hair, or less hair, smell nice, make more money, can spell, drive nice cars, are expert at all sexual activities, can go all night, have no hang ups, always dress well, have all their pearly white teeth, are single, can hold a tune, carry no baggage, have relatively normal kinks, dont do drugs, have no scares, don't live with their mother, don't sound like a chipmunk on helium, donate their time to charity, are the gender of their choice, have perfect skin, are not hiding from the law, are fit, are always punctual, don't talk with their mouths full, dont spit while they talk, always recycle, never drink, or smoke, have a cute laugh, love animals, good at team sports, are funny, intelligent, never pick their nose, fart or burp. enjoy over priced coffee, can cook, have lots of friend,s don't stutter, never get angry, and are always charming and nice. Oh and forgot, online no one ever lies, there is no need as we are all perfect in every conceivable way.. While in reality, they are just average normal people and feel that the people that they are going to meet have every thing going for them, (see above) What madness took hold to ever think that A leagues could possibly want anything to do with average B league players like them. Best stay home and dream. Maybe when everyone stops pretending to be perfect more people will feel more comfortable in their own normal human skin.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a single chick, but this has happened to me as well. One guy stood me up 3 times!!, first time told me he got stuck at work, so fair enough. Second time he sent a text saying on his way and then nothing, I got a message a few days later saying he was in accident on the way to my place and had ran out of credit on phone, so I gave him a third chance. Got a message saying he was coming and nothing again. After the third time unfortunately it made me think the first two reasons were made up :/ and that he had no intentions of meeting. Guess we just have to take the bad with the good.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I like to get a feel for a oerson via a few messages maybe over a week or two (trust me if I'm messaging you back WITHOUT trying to cut the convo short I am interested in meeting you) then cut the incessant messages back and suggest a meet in a public place. Nothing too hard about that you'd think. Coffee, light meal maybe if the interest to stay longer is there.... BUT how often does it happen (my screening process aside)? I've had 9 dates this year 9!!!!!! 5 are valued and now firmly friend-basketed, 2 were throwaways, another was too much bloody work and the other could be handy for a networking project. I don't believe I'm difficult, am notorious for my hospitality and fun little adventures.....why oh why are there so many douches and so few interesting, intelligent, gregarious and spectacular men here? Yes I'm frustrated by the lack of quality. As for couples and single ladies though there's plenty of awesome people to be met here!! Most are verifiedtoo I think 😳 hint hint Mods
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I'm getting better at picking up the signs. Closer to the event, the daily messages taper off gradually. From messages that overflow with excitement gradually less so down to single liners.The day before the meet, no message. The morning of the event there is that message, sent in the dead of the night. " sorry, I'm so sick....I was up all night vomiting. Was so looking forward to it. Maybe next week?" No fucking chance.....
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
Bit of I'm available advertising.
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luvsilver
10 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' Bit of I'm available advertising. Really? Mr Luvsilver
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Bollocks!! It's a valid concern among many and not just gender or relationship status based.
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RHP User
10 years ago
*hands out Kleenex* Ok....group hug!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am attached but would never dream of just doing a no show! If you can't come or just get too nervous in my mind it is simple you just message, apologise and explain in sufficient time. A lady cancelled on me, with a very valid reason in plenty of time and its fine and the right thing to do. Is it mainly guys who do it?....Do they have willies as profile pictures I wonder!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been a noshow twice & been stood up once. First lady I was ready to leave home & googled the unit address but there was no units in that name & the lady was at a wedding prior so unreachable & it was over an hour's drive.Being self employed, I had to start a job the same day as I arranged to meet a lady at her house, I phoned her to apologise but got the cold shoulder.I think a lot of guys get judged by the bad ones on RHP.....L
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being single means I can show up on time every time (when kids let me) keen to meet up with playful couple but they seem to back out when a time is arranged :( o we'll we keep plugging away hey... Just my thoughts Couples cum at me
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itsourtimenow66
10 years ago
They don't realize that people talk in this community and word gets out that you are serial no show!! We have been stood up before and when i mentioned it in the chat room, this guy had done the same to quite a few others - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To Kokoflamingo If you & I had arranged a meet, barring an act of God, I'd be there!!!! Matt475
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perhaps... Consider me.. To Be.. Plan B Message me,,,, and See,, A Guarantee .........:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Be attached and curious of new experiences, I don't understand why people bail out. It is already a big step to introduce myself, to show private pics, to be honest in the seeking to unknown people. And it's even more difficult to match other people seeking. When I see the difference in numbers of men, women, and couples online, I can't imagine myself bailing out, it would be simply a waste of time for everyone.I would conclude that people got nothing to do. This website is not made to measure our own popularity or to pretend to be someone that we wish to be, but to help people to meet each others, and I feel more like a product on Ebay, than a real person who got things to share. Bail out? I don't get it. So get real, meeting new people would never be a waste if there is honesty and maturity. Pardon my grammar, english is not my native language,, I hope you get what I mean.
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RHP User
10 years ago
.. and still haven't. But for the first time and after some good communication with one hell of a sexy lady abruptly stopped ? Funny thing is, even though I suspected something wasn't quite right I decided to keep a open mind just to see what would happen . When it came time to commit to meet for a coffee or drink ( something I always insist on before anything else ) the communication ceased. My gut feeling was right which left me wondering who I was I really chatting to. Was the person, not really the person they say they were. ? Were they male pretending to be a female ? Whoever they were / are I guess I'll never ever know.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well I'm far from perfect. Who is? I am comfortable in my own skin. What people see is what the get. If I say I'll meet I'll meet. If I can't make it. I'll let you know. I have been stood up before. I hate it when people waste my time & I try not to waste anyone's time. Let's hope that more & more people can start to be honest & stop playing BS games. If they're married say their married. If they're scared say so. Don't say you'll meet & don't meet. Come on show some respect & you'll get it in return. xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
That sometimes they do show up, check you out anonymously and then leave. Still incredibly rude.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes it not only happens to girls and couple ,it also happens to us blokes, I`ve had many couples and ladies say, yes lets meet and have either had them drop right out of sight ,beat around the bush ,or when they have actually made a time ,date and place , do a no-show.If I make date I`ll do all I can in my power to keep it, and if not let people know I cant, although some times circumstances prevent that happening ,then courtesy dictates that you call and apologise, some thing that folk these days haven't heard of. To those who are not what they say they are , do all the rest of us here who are genuine a favour.Remove your profile and bugger off!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks, I know you would not have let me down, you're a sweetheart.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I don't show up to a meet & don't call or msg, there's usually a very,very good reason. The reason is usually I'm so sick I'm passed out in bed. I've broken down & not in a mobile area or I don't have you phone number & can't access the internet on my phone (due to issues with changing phone companies) or there's been a family crisis. So rather then jump to the conclusion I'm a cyber wanker. How about asking me why I never showed up?!!! Oh & if I say I didn't show because I was sick or any other reason, then that's the truth. Can't handle the truth then F.O!!! I wont stand for BS!!! How about everyone show some common courtesy, show up when you say you will. If someone's a no show, find out why. If they say it's because they're sick or had a family crisis etc, give them the benefit of the doubt & give them another chance. If they fuck up again the tell them to F.O. But don't go blocking them because you want to be a little kid. Come on people we're suppose to be adults here. Not kids. So let's do the right thing. Gripe over. lmao. Good night. ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi ya... Nice to see you post.. I better watch my p's and q's now.. Welcome to the mad house, oops I mean forums. LOL
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RHP User
10 years ago
after my first experience i could never imagine thinking of bailing out ever, i considered it many times on the way, it just the head space i was in back then, and the women was running late, but pushed through it and became one of the most significant experiences i've ever had. i pity those that just make "excuses" you dont know what you are missing out.
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doubles72
10 years ago
Have had a few do this... and it's weird because they are always so keen in the lead up but then fail to deliver. Happy to say have met a couple single guys off here and both do not disappoint , always on time, always there and always perform!! Tend not to meet many people from here usually meet people at the swingers clubs in our area (Mikes Place, Vino on the gold coast) however it is sometimes nice to meet people from here even if it doesn't turn into playing meeting chatting, dancing etc etc is also lots of fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Our potential fun person was due to meet us at a set time (note: our fun person set the time) .........an hour went by and we decided to leave .....but our first time fun person was not a no show, but apparently DID turn up......an hour and a half after the agreed time.......if that's not a no show, then that's just a lack of courtesy!!! Either which way, they're both just as bad. Rant over!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Happen only when timing and inclination coincide xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
If they were going to bottle out,the courteous thing to do would be to give decent notice...& seriously re-assess if they wanna be on a site like rhp. there is other sites to just get off to cams.....so I'm told! ..or have a good tug before replying to messages,so the correct brain is in control But it's always gunna happen so i guess ya gotta be prepared for some lemons, before getting to the lemonade
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