F39

Single or Married

November 10 2014

New on this site and thought i would get the expert opinions of the forums... I signed up first, female guest clearly attached have had more than my share of messages... got the feel of the site Signed up Partner last week, paid membership as thought it was the right thing to do... profile clearly says attached. We are clearly here for enjoying other peoples company firstly with playing involved if the feeling is right, together and single. Questions... 1. There is alot of complaint about people being attached but pretending to be single, seems like there is also alot of females who dont like the attached part either .... open or closed, so how should a male profile themselves. 2. Is it wrong that if a male is attached it doesn't bother me? Personally it makes it easier as i then know i am not going to get hounded all evening and weekend. 3. Do people just not believe that there is such a thing as open relationship ? 4. I was loving this site as people seemed open and not fake , but are there honestly women who want to meet knowing that it most likely is going to lead to sex. Or am i just feeling that at the moment i am a rare that it is all i want to do. Sorry for all the questions, just trying to think are we being too honest ?

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RHP User

10 years ago

1. Honesty is the best policy if you ask me, eventually lies will be found out. 2. No, it's not wrong, we're all entitled to our own preferences. 3. I do believe, in fact I think it would be a good idea to have open relationship as a relationship status all on it's own. Notwithstanding, I don't get involved with attached men on their own (open relationship or not), just had too many bad experiences. 4. Yes, there are many. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

1. It is very hard for attached men to find women online if what people write on this forum is anything to go by. 2. If it doesn't bother you then that is all that matters. Are you bothered if the man is here cheating on his partner though? 3. People do believe some people have open relationships and women that are here just for sex will probably not mind. 4. The women that write on this forum are just a small proportion for RHP. I am sure there must be lots of women on RHP that are here to hook up with men for sex only. Particularly married or attached women I suppose. So no, you are not unique in that all. Lots of single women want more than just sex, they are after casual dating or friends with benefits scenario. Going out to dinner, movies, occasionally hanging out, just doing things that friends do. Going out of a Friday or Saturday night, going to the swingers clubs or sex parties too. They often want sleep overs as well. Can your man offer any of that ??

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RHP User

10 years ago

If a man contacts me with a single profile yet he's attached, I'm not interested. If he's chesting, then shame on him. If he says he's in an open relationship then why would/should I believe him. If he's in an open relationship then why is he in here as a single male profile and not a couple? I assume that's because he wantd to play without his partner included. Which is fine but just not for me. :)

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Lovinit28andKC72

10 years ago

If a profile is honest, I don't have a problem. I see nothing wrong playing with a man that is attracted if it's all out in the open and his partner knows. I actually see a man on the very rare occasion that is married, I've spoken to his wife, she knows when we meet, there is no sneaking around. It's not what I'm looking for, but he's a nice guy, we have a giggle, we chat, we enjoy each other and this works for us, as it's only very casual..... But it's a personal preference as to who and what you wanting, I don't think you can judge someone for not wanting to play with an attached person..... I also don't think there is anything wrong with an open relationship, what works for you, might not work for everyone but, that's just how it is......💋

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RHP User

10 years ago

Be honest with yourself and others and all will be fine. The forums can be a great source of information, friendship and encouragement they can also swamp you with moralising, hypocrisy and judgement. But you asked !

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RHP User

10 years ago

Don't make the mistake of thinking the forums represent the majority here, they don't ! They are their own separate microcosm.

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Fabolous69

10 years ago

thanks ladies, was starting to think i had it all backwards and was being too open and honest... no need to trip up on lies when you just tell the truth and personally i never judge peoples views just interested to how people think :) If you don't like when and where i can and cant meet then im not interested.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I believe that open relationships certainly do exist, but I'm still not interested in playing with guys in open relationships for a few reasons. And I know some other single women feel the same way. But there will be women who don't mind, particularly attached women. Definitely don't lie on your profile/s though...that's just looking for trouble.

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RHP User

10 years ago

OP, I am in the same position as you except that my husband does not intend on "playing" with Members of RHP. He just wants to be a voyeur in our "Red Hot Fantasy" and would like to take photos of me being sexually involved with another man. It turns him "on" knowing that I am desired by so many men of different ages and he gloats over the pics. It "fires" our own Sex life in the bedroom !!! I enjoy meeting people from RHP, especially the men. I enjoy each one's company and if we "click", I like to know that we could take it further in relation to having sex. Even though I'm married, I like the FWB Scenario because living within a family means I don't get much of that. My husband has his own "serious" other partner but I just want to have "fun" and be "naughty" with it too.I don't want a "serious relationship" with a male RHP Member as per se. It would only cause "problems". However, I don't know how to describe what I really want, so this is where I come "unstuck". Using the word "relationship" in my Profile, has frightened many a man away.I will have to now consider amending it !!! 1. I don't mind being sexually involved with an "attached" man as long as his own relationship with his wife/partner is "open" and "honest" and he has her approval. A man should always be honest and upfront; no hidden agendas either. 2. It isn't "wrong" if it doesn't bother you. But obviously it does "bother" you or you wouldn't be asking this question. 3. Yes, there are people who don't believe there is such a thing as an "open relationship". Through experience, I have found that being an "attached woman" in an "open" and "honest" relationship also scares the "promising" men away.This honestly baffles me; especially when the men are "Divorced". 4. Yes, I meet a man knowing that it could lead to sex later down the track but the latter only happens if the attraction is there !!! Most of the men that I have met so far, this has not been the case. I was a "Guest" too but I've just paid for Membership. Hopefully it should improve my chances of finding the "right" men !!! Thanks for asking these questions because I hope that this Forum Topic gives other male RHP Members something to think about. Amy

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Fabolous69

10 years ago

i guess as a new poster was trying to put thoughts to paper and appreciate your and everyone's answers. With the question 2 and the married part, i guess as i was seeing some of the response my partner was getting it appeared that women whilst they were all polite in response it was "no i don't go for attached" which he 100% has respected ... and as i was not bothered about this maybe there is a reason why ( apart from the obvious ) . Think that its a live and learn lesson :)

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RHP User

10 years ago

if you are a lady or a couple on this site and not verified.....we doubt you are for real. Just from experience ;)

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RHP User

10 years ago

...and then, situations change quicker than the weather here in Melbourne. I've been with my current girlfriend for 11 months. No mention of marriage. No kids. I have a big sex drive she struggles to keep up with. She's not interested in threesomes or anything, even though I think she'd enjoy them. She's a very sexy girl too, I'd love to see her with another girl or guy having fun. Talking about it lead nowhere, and I'm not interested in bullying or begging or manipulating someone into satisfying my whims. I'm not the type to get into and stay in a relationship just for the sake of it. And through many dramatic fights and breaks and ups and downs, she's begrudgingly agreed me some room to play. She doesn't know details, or that I'm here and it can't impede on our lives. But there's a quiet understanding of it. Maybe sometimes awkward, though I will say it has taken a lot of pressure off our relationship. Well, mostly the sex part.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Follow your heart and do whatever you feel is right for you.. Not all women get burnt with a attached or single man. I know a few happily married women who don't mind a bit on the side, so what's the difference when a man does the same.. ? If you go looking for problems ' obviously you will find them..

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