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Singles v Couples at swingers parties-approach or wait to be selected?

April 09 2017

Firstly, this topic may have been brought up before but hopefully this is a new spin on it. I attended my first swingers party recently as a single guy. It was pretty nerve wracking but I got to witness some pretty hot stuff. Though I did leave feeling disappointed in both myself and the event. I admit I don't have a lot of "game" I did try to introduce myself to as many couples as I could find who weren't already deep in conversation with each other or a group. He action started to happen, which took quite a while- I think the colder weather put people off getting naked till they were drunk enough. I guess I was expecting that if a couple was interested in being joined they would approach me or make eye contact. Most couples seemed content with one another and just went to the party to have sex in a public setting without unwanted intrusions. One girl did seem to be looking but I didnt approach because she was so young and increadibly gorgeous I assumed she just liked to be watched. I did chat with her briefly after and she asked why I wasn't playing. So here is the question for couples; If you want a single to join you would you prefer to select someone standing in the wings or do single guys walk around waving their cocks at everyone in desperation of finding somewhere to put it😄?

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RHP User

8 years ago

I'd go for the in the wings guy

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WeMelT

8 years ago

Hey Mate. You came over and introduced yourself to us. You were polite and non pushy which is good. For my wife and I it's an attraction thing and it just wasn't there. I also have to say this was not n great event and we left the night not very happy with the couples to singles ratio. There were many older pervy single guys (You were not one of them and was respectfull all night). We got the feel that they were battling to make up numbers and quality of patronage went out the door. I would not base your understanding of the scene on what you saw that night. Cheers, T - Posted from rhpmobile

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WeMelT

8 years ago

Sorry. I didn't answer your question. I think your current approach is all good. You just caught the wrong party/night. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Although it was good to have experienced an event and met some nice people.I did wonder if that event was a bit quiet but going as a single guy is too awkward and I guess just not my scene. It would be fun as a couple though im sure.

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RHP User

8 years ago

If you are going to approach someone and ask if they'd like to play, or you want to ask a couple if you can join them, don't ever do it once they've started playing and never do it in a playroom. Have the conversation first, before things heat up. Any man who does around waving his coco about, looking for somewhere to stick it, will be ignored by me and the majority of other women (and men!). - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

That answers a follow up question I had, whether arrangements are made prior or if waving some random in in the heat of passion was a turn on. Personally I would prefer to chat first to get to know their likes and what they are looking for and feel accepted. After all most of the fun would be helping someone get that bit extra in their sex lives, not just to get my rocks off. And yes, I wouldn't be doing the wave it around thing. It's just not me and you've got to be who you are☺

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DynamicCouple36

8 years ago

At swingers clubs / parties, we refuse to engage with the pushy, predatory types,who follow one around, waving their little "brains" and expecting to get laid . It's like those who have a penis as a profile photo. Instead, we choose to engage with those who are more polite, subtle & tactful and can actually engage in a decent, respectful conversation with us. A matter of choice, really. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Thanks DynamicCouple36, Im glad to hear it wasn't just me not being proactive enough though I may have fallen victim to the "she's out of my league" mentality a couple of times😣doh! In regards to initiating a conversation, if you are talking with your partner or in a group, would you welcome a random walking up and introducing themselves? - Posted from rhpmobile

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noeleena

8 years ago

Hi , I have been to two meetups and 3 rd will be 22 nd this month kiwi land south isl , Ch Ch , okay I,m over 69 and have a few friends with in our groups so I,m not an outsider I have spent time talking with 7 others and that was lovely and hope to meet with them again. the hosts are lovely and I get on well with them. as for asking or doing any thing , I,m very shy and very reserved maybe not the place to attend I don't know , I,m sure not push,e and quite quiet , I dress nicely as my photo shows and maybe too elegant , im not sexy enough or to inclined to as I,m finding out be more .... whats the word....sexy looking. or provocitive So I think it,ll take quite a while before I can enter in, I,m a single female no boy or girl friends as in a relastionship = friendship, I have a lot to learn as well, and about men and what its like to please them. yes coming up 70 year old woman who knows little about sexual detail , Photos I have one up though not showing here in the postings . I,ll need help with that . ...noeleena...

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Singles v Couples at swingers parties-approach or wait to be selected?

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