Sliding doors

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I've misunderstood your post. Convincing someone to have/or not have an abortion is surely not in the best interests of the patient. Supporting an individual, referring them to further information or support groups, no matter what the decision, is good. Imposing our own opinions on others is not. I sure hope she doesn't regret her decision because she felt judged or coerced.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  subgal_gc

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'karynb' I've misunderstood your post. Convincing someone to have/or not have an abortion is surely not in the best interests of the patient. Supporting an individual, referring them to further information or support groups, no matter what the decision, is good. Imposing our own opinions on others is not. I sure hope she doesn't regret her decision because she felt judged or coerced.- Posted from rhpmobile I couldn't have said it better. Lets hope we both misinterpreted what the OP was trying to say.

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  sweetgem

  11 years ago

  If the situation is serious and may have negative impact on one's life later on down the track! I don't have the expertise and I am not the person who has to deal with the consequences! So, all I will do is to suggest the person to seek professional assistance and full stop.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Definitely leaving my ex, walking away from my career and moving my kids to the country. Best decisions of my life.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  that you supported her to do what SHE wanted to do and that you offered her help and support in that decision. But to answer your question Boomchic...many times have I had sliding door moments...and like your friend,choosing to have a child is one of them,even though at the time, her father was beyond angry with that decision. I am an opportunist,I rarely don't take the opportunities that come my way,...and I have never regretted any of them. x R

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I def didn't word that the right way - I was able to share my own story to a dear friend, and give her the confidence to go through with what she truly wanted and not what she thought society expected of her. I did not try to influence her decision, but did advise that her heart knew what was best for her. My story (her own words) gave her hope for a happy ending...- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Having unprotected sex with man 8 years ago - I was told I couldn't fall pregnant, and hadnt had a period in years - I knew it was silly, dangerous -the no condom bit, it was wrong,....9 months later I have birth the the little girl that changed my life, and her dad turned out to be the love of my life. I was privy to this girls sliding door moment, just holding her hand. Sometimes someone just needs someone....- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  That's lovely BomChick.

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  subgal_gc

  11 years ago

  That everything worked out so well for you in the end, and I sincerely hope that the decision your friend has made is the right one for her too. My sliding doors moment was when I packed up the car with all I could fit in it, put my pup on top of the cushions and blankets I had piled on the front seat and drove away from my ex fiancee! His best side was definitely what I saw in the rear view mirror of my car!! Was best decision I have ever made

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I travelled around Australia with a friend in 1999, then ended up living in NZ for a year with my boyfriend before moving back to Europe. He was from Ireland, and we planned on settling down in Galway, a place we both loved. The more concrete our plans became, the more I realised I wanted to live here. It was a though thing to have to tell him and it ended our relationship, but we are both where we need to be.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It's lovely that she felt supported and certainly what matters most.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I feel as though i've had any Sliding Door moments.     Certainly some massive challenges and huge changes......many of which were life changing.   Not sure that any one of them was THAT pivitol though.   I'm more of a cumulative total of my life experiences rather than having been massively changed by just one experience!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I was 18 - had the biggest fight ever with my bf at the time. I was supposed to go stay at his / he left in a huff, after our fight and ended up writing his car off - if I had been in the pasenger seat I would have died - sliding doors or just fate?- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I am a little hesitant about sharing the first, people often misunderstand my point of view as not being judgemental and just being thankful. I am adopted and so I may be here owing to a sliding door moment. For whatever reason and under whatever circumstances, I am here because a woman or perhaps a couple made the choice she or they did. Although I will never know the details, I am thankful. my second was when I ranked third in a selection board with the Army to get sent to pilot training on Blackhawks. Ironically the reason I ranked third (as it was explained to me) was because I already had a pilot's licence. Those ranked one and two from my selection board that day have both subsequently died tragically in helicopter crashes. As always when I think of someone dying in the job or in the military, the phrase "lest we forget" resonates strongly for me. Ave Atque Vale

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  11 years ago

  Thanks for the topic BC. I was initially thinking if I had enough time and perspective on life to know if I had my sliding door moment or not breaking up with with the ex. I am so much happier in a lot of aspects of my life and very occasionally wonder how unhappy I would have been if life didn't thankfully take its turn of events and so glad things panned out the way they have done (for a reason I think).

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I just got goosebumps, how incredible!Quoting 'BomChickaWahWah' Having unprotected sex with man 8 years ago - I was told I couldn't fall pregnant, and hadnt had a period in years - I knew it was silly, dangerous -the no condom bit, it was wrong,....9 months later I have birth the the little girl that changed my life, and her dad turned out to be the love of my life. I was privy to this girls sliding door moment, just holding her hand. Sometimes someone just needs someone....- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  My sliding door moment was last year.   I decided on a spur of the moment decision to go up to Brisbane and visit my Dad for a few days - 2 days after I returned home he died. I am so greatfull that I made that spontaneous decision and saw him.   Ms NC2147

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