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Slut Shaming
September 18 2018
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Someone that attains a high sexual activity count that try as hard as you can, cannot get close to, no matter what you try.
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curiouscpple
6 years ago
The definition for slut .... don’t really like the negative connotations. Much prefer sexually liberated and empowered woman. Much more realistic and damn hot. But unfortunately too many people are bound up in their own prejudices. They can’t attain that level of freedom or those numbers so they attack who they wish they could be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Usually..... someone gets labelled a slut by a brittle and bent out of shape ego, that the ‘slut’ rejected because the accuser didn’t match up to her standards IE * he propositions woman * woman declines * woman gets abused as a slut How’s that for irony. She was seen as fair game as a sexual entity, and may well love doing slutty things.... (don’t we all enjoy free sexual expression?!).... but she’ll never be HIS slut 😄 DG.... who is a slut when I wanna be - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
6 years ago
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you Pippy... My take on the term 'Slut' is that it is kinda an outdated term. Once upon a time, when the sexual freedom of a female was considered contrary to society norms of what a lady *should* be like, the term 'slut' would be used to a describe promiscuous women who chose to have regular sex, multiple partners, or dress suggestively etc etc... But as you mentioned, this is 2018 people!!! And with the rise and rise of female equality, whose to say that their sexuality shouldn't be held in equal regards to their male counterparts? For so long, women were *expected* to dress appropriately, act a certain way, resist their sexual urges, or limit their sexual partners. But these days, there really is nothing at all wrong with promiscuous women exploring their sexuality...I mean, let's be honest, websites like this one depend on it! Aren't we all supposed to be in the same boat in this place? I am shocked that anyone would be 'slut-shamed' in a place like this!! And if we are going to use the term *slut* - if I may - I personally don't consider it to be derogatory at all. Hell - I'm happy to scream it loud and proud : "I LOVE SLUTS!!!" Sluts have given me sex when I desperately needed it, temporary love to release sexual frustration, happiness when I've felt low and depressed. I say, the world needs MORE sluts....maybe if that were the case, there would be less wars, less violence on the streets, as there would be happy, sexed-up people all throughout society. I understand that some men are terrible, angry souls, aggressive and full of issues...but you know what? I've never seen a man angry after he copped a blowjob! So, be a slut, and be proud! Spread the love! And if you have an issues and feel the need to "slut-shame", go back to 1950 where you belong, and maybe off this website while you're at it
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RHP User
6 years ago
I was a slut in the time it meant something, I can't believe anyone would go to the details you describe in the search of an unicorn... That's just my opinion, 🍑
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HotNightsGC
6 years ago
It’s all relative as to who you see as slutty or what pertains as slut behaviour. One persons slut is another persons sexually liberated woman/man. OP sounds like that couple didn’t get the immediate response from you they were expecting, so decided to ‘slut shame’ you to regain control of the conversation. Oh yes, and as mature adults, they also blocked you. Sounds like they definitely did you a favour 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
slutslʌt/nounderogatory2.dateda woman with low standards of cleanliness.1.a woman who has many casual sexual partners.promiscuous woman; prostitute, whore; slattern; euphemisticmodel, escort, masseuse; poule; informalfloozie, bike, pro, ho; informalscrubber, slag, slapper;informaltramp, hooker, hustler, roundheel, chippy, skank, puta, hoochie; datedtart, scarlet woman, loose woman, hussy, woman of ill repute, streetwalker, trollop;archaicharlot, strumpet, wanton, drab, doxy, trull, slovensynonyms:...
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egr2please69
6 years ago
There is no such thing in my world. Either male or female people can sleep with as many or as few people as they wish. The word to me in this day and age is only used by those who have prejudgemental attitudes because someone doesn't conform to there moral judgements as to what is acceptable to them. And there inlays the problem. Its a derogatory word by someone who can't accept that someone else has a different point of view as to what level of partisipation is acceptable. An fwb of mine was concerned of being labelled a 'slut' for being verbal during the throws of passion. She is a beautiful woman who is highly educated but yet still threatened by the narrow mindedness of the moral minority. It took a little bit of time for me to show to her that just because she was enjoying herself and verbalising her enjoyment that that didn't label her a slut. Merely someone who could be comfortable with a caring partner who was accepting of her want to enjoy herself out loud. I think there are way too many people who are very quick to pull the trigger to label someone who doesn't comply to their way of thinking. My two cents worth, take or leave - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
Slut if you 'reject' them. Slut if you fuck them. Slut if you fuck them once, but decline to do so again at a later date. Slut if you have had multiple partners/relationships in your life. Sure they appreciate your skills when you are together, but once you leave you were a slut that they 'saved'. If you go out in a sexy outfit, you must be a slut. If you are happy to have sex on the first date (vanilla land) you must be a slut. Every woman at a swingers club must surely be a slut and gagging for it. You call them out on sexist behaviour such as wolf whistling in the street, in front of their mates, then you can bet they will label you a fuckin' slut to their mates. So pretty much anytime a woman does something which a man does not agree with, or they feel demeaned by, then you must be a slut. Get over yourselves, and come up with a new insult. The old one is so 20th century 😁
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RHP User
6 years ago
This forum isn’t about this Couples behaviour But to clarify They sent me a one line very nice message initially, just complimenting me on my pics and profile. One sentence. No proposition on their part and no rejection on my part. I said Thankyou and that was all. No offence to any couples but I do not encourage couples as I’m not interested hence my one word reply and if someone messages a nice message to me, I always say Thankyou And then this message today out of the blue. I can only assumed what prompted it but I don’t know for certain only they do Anyway Peachy I loved your opening line on your first post
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RHP User
6 years ago
YES Major girl fanning on you right now
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just press your delete button and dont give them any more of your time... They are entitled to an opinion, not sure about how they were trying to express it to you tho? Theyre living in the past still.........!!😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Slut, if used in a derogatory sense, is like any derogatory term or language, and so becomes simply that which someone with an inflated sense of self, or perhaps the opposite and an insecure sense of self, will use on another to belittle the other person, and try to make themselves feel superior. It says everything about them and almost nothing about yourself. So generally speaking, if you like the term slut and wish to apply it to your own circumstance, and be happy and proud of it, by all means do it. Whatever it actually means though, if it ever gets decided formally, is never going to have any bearing on those people using it in more negative circumstances. It is of course ironic that a presumedly swinging couple (either man or woman sending the message) would refer to another woman on the same site as a slut. Might be a fake couple and just a jaded man also.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
It's not the "slut" bit that gets to me, but the shaming. 👎 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
And my inner stoic can 100% see the point... Adding a personal connection does make a thread more personal and I don't see how we can have that and not comment on it. I did have to laugh at the idea of being a 'nice' girl! It seriously sounds like something you might hear from someone who is grooming. Peachy, BTDT, so I can say...
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RHP User
6 years ago
...than a prude ;) I think of the word ‘slut’ as a high school concept. As soon as I got to uni it stopped being derogatory. Ive had plenty of hungover conversations with friends that consisted of “you slutted that place up last night girl!” followed by a high five. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
is a two word answer that really doesn't say much though. Not a no or a yes, lol. I'm confused... Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
What if it wasn't the guy that called you a slut and instead was the female of the couple 🤔 I personally would find that more reprehensible as girls shaming girls seems worse to me than some random guy throwing out a bruised ego insult. Either way, sexually liberated women are to be celebrated! I much prefer 'harlot' to 'slut' though, seems classier 😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
My profile states I am not seeking the attention of couples, so I replied with a Thankyou which is exactly how I reply to most couples To me it’s saying exactly that, thanking them for the compliment as that’s how I was brought up If I wanted to engage, I would have but didn’t and neither did they, no other correspondence took place and this first message took place awhile ago Hope that clears it up for you
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cat_n_the_hatter
6 years ago
You work in an escort agency, and they call you a slut? I wonder if it is the same couple that told me the same thing because I am not submissive?
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RHP User
6 years ago
That a great point. I shared the message with some of my friends from here, took a photo and sent via a messenger platform and all agreed it was the woman who wrote it but I just don’t know I could say more on that but that would be outing them Harlot. I haven’t heard that word in ages :-)
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Wow, anyone on here that doesn’t think they themselves is a wee bit of a slut? As yet we are sluts by thought only as we haven’t had time to enact our desires! I find it hilarious that anyone on here would judge for their sexual promiscuity! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy'Slut if you 'reject' them. Slut if you fuck them. Slut if you fuck them once, but decline to do so again at a later date. Slut if you have had multiple partners/relationships in your life. Sure they appreciate your skills when you are together, but once you leave you were a slut that they 'saved'. If you go out in a sexy outfit, you must be a slut. If you are happy to have sex on the first date (vanilla land) you must be a slut. Every woman at a swingers club must surely be a slut and gagging for it. You call them out on sexist behaviour such as wolf whistling in the street, in front of their mates, then you can bet they will label you a fuckin' slut to their mates. So pretty much anytime a woman does something which a man does not agree with, or they feel demeaned by, then you must be a slut. Get over yourselves, and come up with a new insult. The old one is so 20th century 😁 Apparently, I was treated better in the century a slut actually meant something than is offered in these days of enlightenment. A little story I've shared on RHP before... I'd not long turned 15, recently 'deflowered' (on the grounds of the Catholic Home I'd been living in, in the fork of the drive in the early hours, in a single sleeping bag alongside another couple in their sleeping bag, lol). I was walking with a girlfriend and met two guys near where we were living. We both liked the blonde but she ended up with him. Not something I regretted the next day when she was being called a slut, and I was being called tight. I long thought it had to do with whether we had sex but it turned out she had sex with more than guy according to the stories I heard years later when I had the misfortune to run across that family for the 3rd time in my life. The dark haired guy already had a missus and a baby who lived in the house we visited. That toxic relationship was still active when I met them again through my ex. All up though was the turn around of how we were viewed the day after, and then my extra knowledge years later that my friend went further than me and was now a slut while I was tight. Lucky me
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RHP User
6 years ago
A slut is someone who fucks everyone. A bitch is someone who fucks everyone but me...
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Rlee552
6 years ago
Subject to a big caveat below, language depends so much on context and tone. What is one person’s term of affection is another person’s insult. Nice people, great people, magnificent people, powerful people can be stunningly divine sluts. A man turns to his partner, cups her face in his hands, looks intensely in her eyes and softly whispers ‘You are the perfect slut for me, your sexuality, your confidence, your power and intensity - it makes me weak’. A lady walks down the street, powerful and confident holding a sign saying ‘I am a proud slut’. However, a stranger spits out the words ‘you are a slut’. They could equally spit out ‘you are a f**king wet flower’. And it doesn’t matter if the word used is slut or flower, they are both intended to insult you but also hurt you -and perhaps in doing regain power. Because words hold power. People make conscious and unconscious decisions to use particular words for particular meanings. They can make mistakes, they can give of the wrong impression - but often there is a purpose to what words they use. Your understanding of what they mean then necessarily depends on what you think their intention is. It does not matter so much if slut is a good word or a bad word. I would not for one ever call anyone a slut. Because it is not a term I would use affectionally. Equally if I saw someone else use the word slut I would not jump to a conclusion as to what was meant. I would discern that from the context. The big qualifier in this is common understanding of what a word is. People in using a word will be influenced by what they understand that word to be. So there are certain words to do with ethnicity, to do with sexual preference, to do with other matters that the vast majority of people should never use those words, regardless of context. This is because those words carry a dark history of oppression, of reprehensible behaviour that they should not be used. I don’t consider slut to be one of those words. I do think it has a lot of historical context which will drive people to use it in a particular way and for a particular meaning, but I also feel it is a word that a person can describe themselves with pride.
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RHP User
6 years ago
"Friend" who has been an on and off sex partner for years.When she calls me, I answer the phone with..."Heeeeeeey!! my favourite little Slut" Another is/was greeted with "Oh yeah! My favourite Whore" And the third with "Babe - my all time favourite fuck!" The interesting issue is.. the three all know each other.. and know me well enough to know I was probably, or am probably still seeing the others..BUT, believe me.. IF I EVER referred to my whore, as my slut, or my slut as my fuck , they would KNOW I had fucked up, and I doubt she would ever let me go there again. I guess in all this it means "I AM(was) IN FACT THE SLUT" Could be so..BUT, When my oldest daughter got married, her mother was there as the "Mother of the bride"My youngest daughter was there as a Flower girl, so HER mother was there, and my youngest son came with me AND HIS Mother. (I am a little regretful that the other two Mothers were not there though) So, at one time, the three of them (The Mothers) were seated at a table chatting together, and my new "Son in Law" asks.. "Does THAT make you nervous Dad?" I replied "Nar Boy.. I reckon they have better things to talk about them me - but.. welcome to the "Family" in actual fact, he married into a FUCKING huge family "Extended" - Wear your Shit with Pride "Pipsqueak" - and fuck off anyone who tries to make you feel less then the person YOU believe you are. The day you go to clean your teeth, and you have to look away from the Woman in the mirror, is the day might want to "Rethink" your life choices - not before..
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’m assuming that one of my posts in the threads re: escorts brothels going around at present where I’ve said I work at the agency prompted the message, I’m assuming, but I don’t know for sure The irony is I’m not a escort but I think they think I am But imo it has to be as I’ve had no other interaction with them apart from what I wrote Could be the same couple, have to say it shocked me and then I just smiled Slut, really that’s the best they could do. Begs to ask why are they here ? But each to their own e
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
You must report it to the mods. If they get enough reports they might finally do something.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' You must report it to the mods. If they get enough reports they might finally do something. Do that, I'm a strong supporter of giving the site insight into issues so they can build a pattern because it is under the cloak of secrecy that evil festers. Ignoring it does not make it go away but only serves to become part of the evil. Peachy
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
If a profile is calling more than one person/profile here a slut for highly vague reasons, it could just be a teenage boy in mum's basement acting troll with a fake profile... :)
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0z_boy
6 years ago
but Im not soooo I'll just have to settle for dirty old man 👴
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RHP User
6 years ago
There's no such thing as a slut.People like to fuck, get over it.
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steveandhisgirl
6 years ago
Seriously who do they think they are Ive been called a fake as my pics arent real lol If a slut who is a woman whose full on in the bedroom and is a goer Then im definitely one i lov a full on session so yep im a slut and make no secret of it - Posted from rhpmobile
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FredAndGinger2
6 years ago
We've just started reading The Ethical Slut. Looks like a great read. This book has been around for a few decades and has been updated for modern times. It was highly recommended to us. Fred xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
To react unfavourably if they feel slighted. The easiest way to enact this slighting is to use words to vilify others. It can be a barrage of words or one well selected word to maximise potential impact on the receiver. It’s not fair or right and shouldn’t become the normal however we’ve seen recently on posts how people use words to relentlessly barrage posters for whatever reason. I have probably used words myself in the wrong manner in an attempt to react to how I’ve been treated however there is still a line where you just walk away and reacting in the same manner doesn’t make me a good person. A response to a message is more than a lot of people give (even when they’ve sent a flirt asking for a message then don’t reply?? What’s the go there?? Lol) I think it breaks down to acknowledging that at some point in time we will all be “rejected” for lack of a better word and how we choose to handle that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Part that makes it wrong. Who are we to shame what someone seeks or desires. Who are we to shame what has brought someone to this site. Who are we to shame experiences people have had. Sexual liberation and exploration is nothing to shame or be ashamed of. The o lot thing that makes us different from each other is what we seek - that aside we are all sexual people exploring ourselves and others in a manner we find arousing to us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
The way I (Lady) see it, slut can generally be used two ways. Negatively - as has been said above; used to shame. Or positively, like during sexy communication or play as a compliment - you like that don’t you my dirty little slut. It’s not a word either of us throw around with people we’ve never met though, as on messages could be comphrended the wrong way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
6 years ago
It's one thing for men calling a woman a slut - it is inevitably a term used to describe women that are having as much sex as the bloke would like to have, but isn't. Either that or it is used to describe women who have spurned said blokes' advances. When women call other people sluts though, that is whole 'nother kettle of fish. I have seen some genuinely nasty slut-shaming by women friends of mine, even for such simple things such as simply not liking the skimpy outfit another woman is wearing.
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MissRedFox
6 years ago
Slut is just one of a few insults they choose from. It's not about you - it's about their ego and being turned down - they be projected their insecurities onto you Move on - do what you do let them hate - Posted from rhpmobile
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lookin4lady
6 years ago
Weak people who can’t handle a no . As my hubby says people call women or men sluts because that person will fuck anybody but them as so to try and make themselves feel better . So my beautiful lady you go ahead and have sex with who ever you want when you like as much as you want its your body so enjoy yourself and have a good time life is to short.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don't think there is a real answer to your question. It would depend on who is calling you a slut. I sometimes call myself a slut when we have a playmate over. That's how I feel at the time but I don't think of myself s a slut in my everyday life. My work mate would most definitely think I'm. Slut amongst other things if they knew we invited others into our bedroom. My SIL has just found out her partner has been sleeping with another woman. She has branded her as a slut because she has slept with another person partner, not because of the number of men she has been with. She has called him a few words too but not a slut. Society have decided slut is a word for women Mrs B - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
My comments pulled from my own thread Now I wonder how that came about? Anyway Thankyou to all posters to date, addressing the actual forum questions which keeps it alive Love reading your thoughts
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's not really important what the meaning of the word is now, but rather the feeling of pleasure that some people will get from calling another a slut. Or a cunt, a fuckhead, a cocksucker, etc, etc, etc. I think, that when people are angry and emotional...fired up...it gives them a feeling of perverse pleasure to inflict this righteous retribution on someone who's wronged them. It probably gets the endorphins flowing. Think about it. When someone calls another a "harsh" name, they likely already know that person isn't the definition of the word. They're not asking for evidence to prove the contrary, they're probably doing it to make themselves feel better. Which is petty. Just like name-calling is. Rise above it.☺
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well I am a Slut! Often a slut for my very own husband. Sometimes an Ethical Slut, sometimes just dirty. More importantly, I'm a Slut for me...its fun its satisfying. Some people get on their soapbox...they judge...I rightly don't care about their opinion! I'm ok with my Slutty self! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
As per my opinion, the slut should not be based on sexuality or sexual habits of a person. A person becomes an escort because she likes it or to pay the bills. Nothing wrong in that. For me a slit would be someone who treats others bad. Someone who con people, who feel they are above others. For me an escort or a working girl in a brothel have the same respect as a priest of a temple or a church of a father. They are doing their jobs and no one has the rights to judge them based on anything. This is just my opinion. Charmer - Posted from rhpmobile
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LivingItUp81
6 years ago
We’re all ‘sluts’ in our way: be that with one partner of multiple partners. No shame in it. Own it if you feel you are one from time to time, or all of the time. In this case though where people play the ‘assume’ game then you just need to laugh at them and their stupid and overly judgmental approach. Remember; no one knows your life better than you do and also that no one knows yourselves better than you do. So laugh off all those idiots who think they can judge and know best. First-world problems. Hahaha. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
These are the two most common reasons that I think people use the term, "Slut," to try and offend women! The fact that women are more and more feeling comfortable and self assured enough to own and be proud of their sexuality should be celebrated and respected. Believe me we will all be happier and benefit from this if we all accept this fact. So long as both men and women are honest with themselves and potential partners there is no difference between men and women when it comes to how many or who or how often or even how they have sex! We are all different and all have different likes and dislikes! It's a term used for no other reason but to insult a person in an attempt to emotionally and/or socially damage a person self esteem and/or reputation, usually used by a person who is insecure, immature and unaccepting of others choices. P.S. I oplogise if I'm repeating what someone else has already said. I haven't taken the time to read everyone elses posts yet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
PipsqueakA samurai approaches a famous sensei and says please teach me the difference between heaven and hell, the sensei says "what? a dirty peasant bandit like you? the samurai, enraged, draws his sword and makes to strike...the sensei says calmly.."that is hell". The samurai..in a moment of insight, begs forgiveness and sheathing his sword quietly asks for further instruction and the sensei says "that is heaven". Who cares if you were the busiest escort in the Southern Hemisphere..the crudeness of the behaviour is offensive but one can only hope for their eventual enlightenment. Don't lose your manners, you were offended and it will pass, but they are fools and it seems are likely to remain so x
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes. Sign up to a website to find people who you think are promiscuous then slut shame them when they wont fuck you. I was once even called a tramp in a chat room with men wanking on camera. Its probably our fault for getting on the site in the first place. Call us a c word when they wont fuck you. Call us uptight when they dont want to waste their time with a wanking session. Etcetc. Then complain when they sign up to a site like this women are few and far between. Just like the guys who do meet want to play the field then sook when they realise you are also out there potentially having more success. They stuff you around expect you to put up with their rubbish like ghosting and snotty little boy meltdownsetc. Then they wonder why women are in such short supply. You see them whining on here about no responses.
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RHP User
6 years ago
and of course peachys point is always valid...go for the inner stoic if necessary...marcus aurelius' meditations...external events only affect you if ya let em etc etc
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RHP User
6 years ago
Fuck as many people as you like whether you’re a male or a female.. if that makes you a slut then wear the label with pride I say!! If it was the guy who threw the insult out he’s probably just butt hurt as has been mentioned.. If it was the woman I find it funny as they’re a couple looking to add extra to their relationship but that’s not as slutty as answering phones in an escort agency 🤔 Regardless most of, if not all, of us are here for the same reason.. to fck!!! Whether it’s a regular thing or a one night stand... so let’s just all get the fck along and have some nasty fun together. Be slut. Be a prude. Be a sub. Be a dom. Be whatever the hell you want!!! Just don’t be a judgemental douche bag That’s my 2 cents anyway... hope you’re all well - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'm constantly surprised that grown men on adult sites in 2018 looking for the exact same thing still feel the need to refer to us as sluts. Jut because a lot of women find it easier to get action more than they do. I'm very open about this and get called names all the time. By guys that, surprise surprise have just hit me up for sex. And funnily enough it's the ones I reject that call me that. So how does that even make sense.😂 And it's sad that's it's still not ok for women to be open about enjoy sex but totally ok for men to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RickynMisty01
6 years ago
A person of any gender who has the courage to lead their life according to the radical proposition that sex us nice and pleasure is good for you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
and to answer the actual topic...shaming bad...word slut too historically associated with abusive behaviours to be anything other than pejorative.
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LookTouchTaste
6 years ago
All the hot sluts that need consoling please PM me immediately :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
This is what happens when one makes assumptions. It makes an Ass out of U and ME. Pipsqueak I think your profile is rather classy, a defined request in what and who you are and what you're looking for. Don't sweat the small stuff in life !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I find this behaviour reprehensible. I have been knocked back herein, and I often just reply "Okay. No problem. thanks for getting back to me." Every proper message deserves a courteous reply, in my opinion. This is just regular decency, and to let them know that I do appreciate them taking the time to read my message (often rather lengthy as I generally make an effort), and letting me know that I'm not their type, versus just saying nothing, which is usually the case. Replies are free, as are manners. What is wrong with people that get abusive? Quite a few things actually. For one, given the intent and purpose of this site, I doubt they are calling you a slut because of your sexual predilections or the (totally unknown) frequency of the sex you have. Going to hazard a guess that it’s all about them. People who feel the need to abuse and shame others use it as a way to protect their over-inflated egos. Their sense of self is often fragile and rather than see their own short comings or accept that not everyone sees whatever bullshit magnificence they think they possess, they find it easier to criticise others for their perceived lack of understanding. Particularly true for men when they are sexually rejected. A similar thing happens when they are ignored, which conveys to fragile egos they are too inadequate to even provoke a response. It’s kind of the “Sour Grapes” scenario from that Aesop fable: If they can’t have you, then it suits them to think there is something wrong with you. And sexually, that plays out as the woman being a “slut” or a “prude” or even “crazy”. But it’s not just a misogynistic trait. It’s disturbing how often women use it to denigrate other women. It’s usually younger woman I have noticed, and it’s usually jealously; over a man, or the attention from men, or even a superior dress sense, or anything that makes them feel suddenly less than they thought they were. Again, this is a fragile mind that, when confronted with a reality that doesn’t comport with their perceived sense of self, lashes out with insults and lies to attempt to right the imbalance. (Trump, anyone?) In both cases, the behaviour seems more common when the rejection and/or jealously is publicly apparent. Someone in this thread brought up the interesting question of whether it would have been the man or the woman in the couple that respond with the slut shaming. It’s almost impossible to tell. (Though, the use of the phrase “in fact” - if that was an exact transcription - would imply a decisive decision and a sense of hurt, more than it implies jealousy … so more likely the man? Kind of guessing there. But there seems to have been a sudden reversal. “I wanted the Grapes but, in fact, they are obviously Sour”.) Anyway, people need to get over this shit. There really is no thing as a slut. Everybody is in charge of their own body and makes their own decisions. Who are we to judge them? And if we do, bear in mind we risk being judged ourselves. It’s a viscous circle. And I for one sure as fuck don’t want to be judged on my behaviour …
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RHP User
6 years ago
I love being called a dirty slut leading up to and during sex! Does that make me weird? Haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chippy2010
6 years ago
I would say the definition of a slut is a person male or female that has slept with more the 30 people is well on there way to earning the title. If you’ve had triple digits we what do you want me to say.... but if the shoe fits.... just because you work at an escort agency as a hostess does not make you a slut. If your one of the working girls be it you may have made some poor choices in your line of work but Does not make you a slut your doing what you need to to earn a living. But if your out giving it away free to the same numbers you would fall in to the realm of a slut, the funny thing I here more women calling other women sluts then I hear men saying it most of the men I know don’t think your a slut if your easy.
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RHP User
6 years ago
No such thing as a slut in my books. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
SLUT What a great term... It means S ensual L uscious U ninhibited T antalising And there is nothing wrong with that... Be yourself enjoy sex fun and life...be a SLUT embrace your sexuality... None of us are getting out alive and those who judge are going to end up in the same place as us all... There is no heaven there is no hell we all end up in the ground... But some of us just had more fun getting there... - Posted from rhpmobile
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long_male_syd
6 years ago
I love sex in all shapes and forms, would make a proactive effort to have sex and would like to think that id have sex anywhere, anytime at the drop of a dime. Sounds like im a slut? And f**king proud of it at that! Oh and by the way, I get so turned on by women who like me to call them dirty sluts. And id love it if they want to call me one. Hi realsexyangel71 ;) It shouldnt be a derogatory term. Maybe just calloquialism for nympho? - Posted from rhpmobile
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ladylover
6 years ago
...really turns me on!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Opinions Every one is entitled to their opinion I think this site should do something about some of this people that just think they can just text shit to people IF THEY THINK YOU ARE A SLUT, THOSE THAT MEAN THEN BEING ON DIS SITE MAKES US ALL ONE? I think that's silly and women should be alowed to be comfortable in their sexuality After all it's your body and you can do whatever you want with it. People should just learn to ZIP IT most times I don't BEN think you should even be bothered about this just do WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
There's no such thing as a slut theres just some people who lov to fuck that's all
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think it’s slowly changing but not fast enough. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey. If I catch anyone in my vicinity slut shaming... Fkn run. I'll start swinging. And any guys reading this better start instituting this... Stamp. It. Out. Sex is the one thing that we have right now. Don't fuck it up with your garbage prejudice. OK? Capitalism deprives us of a lot of things... Pleasure is one of them. Alienation is one thing it gives... We must have unity and agency over our pleasure.... OK? Fuck sake.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Can I girl crush anymore ?
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sultry_moore01
6 years ago
I am a slut and proud of it SLUT. A person who parade their sensuality because they like the attention and enjoy anything sexual. The slut will dress to attract attention. The slut will walk in a way to draw onlooker. Dlut will tease, flirt and gain enjoyment pleasured. And if you have the chance to be in the company of a slut, its guaranty to be an exciting dirty, fun time you'll have. slut love to please and be pleased. With a slut, you will be guaranteed a great time. Slut do what they do because of they want too Not for money or any other things. know this because I AM A SLUT, MOST OF MY FRIEND IS TOO AND WE LOVE IT. WE HAVE SO MUCH FUN BEING A SLUT!!!! SLUT doing it because they want too. Yo a slut its like playing a sport WHORE do ing it for drug money PROSTITUTE doing it for money for day to day need. Wife doing it because🤔 Anyway, this is just a matter of an opinion and everyone free to have one. ❤ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
One of those words that thankfully I almost only hear as an endearing term... Like calling your best mate a dickhead or your dog an idiot. In the negative way, it's more telling of the person saying it I think... jealous, hurt, loathing, insecurity, etc. Mr. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
My ex-husband says it and it’s derogatory and humiliating. My new partner calls me a slut affectionately and it makes me wet every time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
After reading your posts, yes! An insult which has been thrown for eons. 🤔
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tcm70
6 years ago
A slut, then I’m a slut and we can go out slutting together!! Almost a song in that 🤔 In this day and age I thought that word is redundant, can’t recall having heard it in a very long time. The worst thing really is that someone had to take a shot at you regardless of the insult used, what’s the point of it and why is nastiness needed? Seemingly unprovoked to. I doubt that whoever the couple were that sent that to you, will write their thought process on this thread about their need to use the word slut. Keyboard warriors, safely at home in their slut free zone.
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RHP User
6 years ago
In regards to your comment on sarah hanson young. She stated in the senate that all men are rapists. Thats the only reason david leyenholm said to her to stop shaging men then... Senator young should be careful what she says in future. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
What an interesting word to use toward someone they barely know. If they had read your posts properly (I read a lot of threads but rarely comment and yours I find most interesting) I think they would find the word slut, as they are choosing to use it, does not at all accurately reflect you. I mean does it even accurately reflect anyone? Especially anyone on rhp? They (she?) have shamed you for being who you are, doing your job and even investing wisely in it. Those things are nothing to be ashamed about. They are things to be proud of! What is shameful is that, in 2018, we still have people calling someone who they barely know hurtful names, to the point that you feel the need to write about it pubicly. What is a slut? Who is a slut? Well, when you think about it, who isnt? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I recently met a woman online and after some naughty banter agread to meet and get down for some fun. Before we met she sent me a message and asked me if I thought she was a slut, I responded and said I certainly hope so. I was kidding of course. It made me think though, and as a result I told her this. It is empowering whem you know what you want and go about getting it, being a slut is such a childish thing to say, if someone is confident enough and willing enough to explore who they are and push some boundaries, good on them, they are the people I want to meet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Maria63
6 years ago
I need a girl. 😝😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
I also get called a lesbian.Not only by guys I turn down but also by women who cannot bear to do things for themselves.You know the gossiping princesses.They also dont like me near their husbands. Makes so much sense. Sure if a woman doesnt want you shes a lesbian. If a woman can do things for herself and not succumb to the societal pressures to submit and believe that if they are still single they are unlovable so therefore they need to desperately seek out a partner she must be a lesbian.. I guess if they knew the truth I would be getting called a slut by those same people too. I think we all know whenever someone says something like this they are saying something about themselves.They are also a little too concerned with the sex lives of others.I mean a little too concerned Lesbians sound pretty cool ..I wear my slut badge with pride.
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OkeyDoke45
6 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Slut is Swedish for 'final' or 'the end'. Watch a Swedish movie and see it appear on your screen! This could be really awesome - those of us that get a bit passionate in our posts could sign off with ''slut rant''.
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
Ummm what? Is 30 the magical number?? If l have it my way that'll just be this week 😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Quoting 'Santouche' Hey. If I catch anyone in my vicinity slut shaming... Fkn run. So.... you're advocating..... violence and a short temper?!!! hmmmmmm
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