M48
So how do you open the door??
April 23 2017
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Advertising drive I've seen for a week or so. Well done OP......
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Come have a seat next to me, mind the swishy tail, this unicorn is a tad tetchy. So you want to find a unicorn so you can go to all these cool events. Missing out on all the fun right? And those pesky couples are manhandling the unicorns, you single blokes can't get a look in. Poor bloke. Not. You can't find one because of your attitude. Single females want to be approached with a level of respect....for them as individuals. Not as an entry pass to the sexual equivalent of Qld theme park. She may.....or may not.....want to attend swingers parties, and will make her own decision regarding that, and will resist all pressure from a man who appears to have ulterior motives. She may....or may not.....invite you to attend with her, that is her choice. Whilst there, she can also choose not to play with anyone, or play without you....her choice. Men, seriously, please do not make this mistake; do not assume that a woman will automatically want to go to clubs with you, will automatically share her other friends with you, will help you 'hook up' with others. Playing with others takes a level of respect, comfort and togetherness.....all which take time to develop. If you like a woman, see her because you like her. Not because she is an entry pass to some of your fantasies.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
You are looking for a single woman so that you can get into swingers clubs & parties as a couple, and that once you get your foot through the door, you become a single male again, and can then go on the hunt whilst your female companion sits at the bar fending off the awful couples ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very heavy on the assumptions MsJonesy.... I have nothing but respect for women and never did I expect anything... Merely asking couples really for their stories on how they have met and gotten into the lifestyle...tips etc.. Think you've missed the point and gone to basic respect and gender equality issues... Lighten up a little hmmm.. It really is different on this side of the fence and not all single guys are selfish and have the attitude you seem to think they do...remember you already have the invite... We as single guys have the door locked...unfortunately you actually wouldn't understand it seems... I actually think it would be nice to see more events where guys are screened/maybe recommended or suggested by couples....seriously there are great guys out there who only want to increase the fun...stereotypes are just that... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
👍 perfectly put
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have heard that the secret to bagging a unicorn is fairy bread...
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy' Come have a seat next to me, mind the swishy tail, this unicorn is a tad tetchy. Love your writing style and you're post is spot on.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy' Come have a seat next to me, mind the swishy tail, this unicorn is a tad tetchy. Love your writing style and your post is spot on.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Sorry for double post.
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Rocket55
8 years ago
Mate, find someone you want to be with, not cause you want to get into partys! Mutual respect between you and your partner will get you a lot further in the future than looking for this elusive party unicorn your seeking now.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well lucky i had a awsome mum who taught me to open a door or pull out a chair for a ladyl. You might be suprised how far you get if your not thinking with your little head all the time. 😇 Worked for me. 😉😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Unicorns are out there ,but surprise surprise,they cut off their horn ,to blend in with all the horses around them everywhere they go , so they don't stand out ,because of your thought or lack of thought processes ,what women wants to be used to gain access to others ,they want the action themselves for when they want it WITH YOU or some lucky bugger that gains their attention,not to used like a gold pass to events so you can bugger off thinking with your dick annoying everyone else and leaving them wondering wtf ,When they can go to any event by themselves anyway if they want to . Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Bagging a unicorn or anyone, just so you can go to all the events, your ticket to heaven, but not very enticing for her. She is an individual and needs to be treated as such. Kind of struck a chord with me because cougars face the same 'tick that box' mentality 😉
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Haleakala
8 years ago
That's for attracting the yummy mummy isn't it? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Galloping away in the opposite direction buddy, sorry. Desperation stinks!
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
self advertising I have ever seen. Mr Hatter hopes he won't lose a bet in thinking you are a virgin. Please, let us know if you are or not. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy' Single females want to be approached with a level of respect....for them as individuals. Not as an entry pass to the sexual equivalent of Qld theme park. well said MsJonesy - I stopped mentioning, to those I don't know well when I am attending events - or if i am attending events after having a few guys use me as an entry pass. Besides , correct me if ism wrong isn't a unicorn an unattached (normally bi )female who likes to play with couples? not a single woman?
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RHP User
8 years ago
To add m8 there are alot of meet and greet functions within the pie where you can meet like minded people or a unicorn. I'd try there first. Certainly agree you shouldn't use an individual to gain access to couples.Not cool Become a couple first, then change your profile stating it or just become another seedy male trying to score a quick fuck any chance you get.lol 😉😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hawt1
8 years ago
I dont see a problem in seeking someone who will have similar interests as yourself. Without having actively sought one out myself I would suggest... Do your research mate. Read profiles, straight or bisexual, see who attends those events as a single woman. Even pay the entry fee as a single male and meet people on the inside. Read the forums, make contact with people from the lifestyle. I also had a blast years ago in chat room, the gold pass stuff was the byproduct of becoming friends with some awesome hilarious fun people. You will grow as a person by such associations, I certainly have.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Reread your own statements. That is what I based my post on. I did not make any assumptions; my opinions were in response to your queries on "how to meet the elusive other half" to attend events and weekends such as Port Douglas. That is what your post says. It doesn't talk about meeting women in general, you are quite specific. The fact (not opinion) is that many unicorns...or single women (yes PoisonIvy you are correct!), are approached by single men as a way to get into swingers events. Hell, I have been quite literally approached at the entry of swingers clubs by men wanting to get in via me (and a curse on the head of any woman who says yes to these men!) Yes I do have a level of understanding as to what men go through; my current fwb has said similar, and other men have said the same. He gets to come with me sometimes (which is related to where we are, not me being picky about attending with him), because it is something we occasionally like to do together. But it is by no means the norm, and is because we enjoy being together with others.....it is not the basis of our arrangement. Your topic has been interpreted by me, and the majority of other posters, as a man who is wanting a woman to facilitate his entry to swingers events. That's the basis of our replies, but if that is not what you meant then you may wish to have another crack at explaining yourself.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Luv it. 😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well this unicorn read your post just as MsJonesy and a number of others took it. See I really feel for genuine single men who would like to attend a club - not just for the prospect of being with another couple, but also a single female. And I get that the cost of attending these clubs and events as a single male borders on the ridiculous at times. And yes I've had single male friends who have missed out on events because of their status. Your attitude is crystal clear. It's about clubs and events, getting a foot in the door, end of. You know that single women can and will help select single men get into these clubs don't you? Problem is the clubs in your area (Logan and down the coast) are all pretty strict when it comes to monitoring who is with who. If you're not not "with" the single lady you're at a decent risk of being kicked out and so is she. It happens. Friday nights are usually a go for singles. As a single woman (attending as one) I might not pay the high prices to get into a club - but the disadvantage of not having single men there works for me also. If I don't want to play with a couple, my choices are limited because of restrictions. Go to social meets and meet people face to face. Go to the nights that single men are able to attend. There's a reason they limit you and charge you a fortune. It's pretty obvious when you think about the dynamics and comfort of a club and the people attending. There's so much more out there than clubs and official events.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Perhaps there is a dating site for swingers who would like to meet other swingers. It's a wonder nobody has thought of it... oh wait. Isn't that supposed to be RHP. Hmmm. Hey Mr Naughty, catching a unicorn takes patience and time by the sound of it. As you can see from the responses above women are sensitive to being used to get into events. But I understand where you are coming from, you are after single swingers. Keep looking, they are out there. Perhaps go to a speed dating event. Imagine the looks you would get when asking if they are into threesomes and going down on other women. It would be fab!! Hahaha
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'naughtywhennaked' Very heavy on the assumptions MsJonesy.... I have nothing but respect for women and never did I expect anything... Merely asking couples really for their stories on how they have met and gotten into the lifestyle...tips etc.. Think you've missed the point and gone to basic respect and gender equality issues... Lighten up a little hmmm.. It really is different on this side of the fence and not all single guys are selfish and have the attitude you seem to think they do...remember you already have the invite... We as single guys have the door locked...unfortunately you actually wouldn't understand it seems... I actually think it would be nice to see more events where guys are screened/maybe recommended or suggested by couples....seriously there are great guys out there who only want to increase the fun...stereotypes are just that... - Posted from rhpmobile I have nothing but respect for womenReally?? You said "i want to catch a fun, sexy unicorn" SO much respect in that statement... because women are something to be 'caught' Think you've missed the point and gone to basic respect and gender equality issues... Lighten up a little hmmm.. Says the white male *insert eyerolls*Yeah, nah... think she got the point - you made it quite clearly I'm going to stop there, simply because I don't think you're worth my energy... AND you made me agree with CruisingLife
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RHP User
8 years ago
Disclaimer: I'm not man bashing, this is my experience :) When I was a unicorn and playing more actively, my experiences were really not very positive. I have yet to meet a man who wanted to find a 'single' female or the elusive unicorn, who didn't want it for his own selfish needs ... saves money and gave him access to so many events. One I went to a club with, he was a guy we knew, planned a meet and play with another couple. When I said no, I spent the whole night fighting the husband off and then dealing with his wife's attitude because my refusal to play meant the husband pulled the pin on the wife playing. I have had a few gentlemen I've decided to give a chance to and all let me down. I won't ever do it again, even if I start actively playing again. Yes, my openness to taking him along meant he got access to more play than he was used to and more situations to play in but it did not offer me anything, I'd still be going to these events, I just had another person to think of and be considerate to. It's a pity none of the men I went with thought the same :( Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
that the OP worded his post the wrong way. As I am here to explore my boundaries I can see where he is coming from. But for me I would like to find an on going intimate friend that would like to attend one of these clubs in their own time and only if we have fully discussed it as respect and trust are of the utmost importance. Whether she plays or not I don't mind. Not there for me anyway, there for the woman I escorted. In saying that as it interests me and I would like to have a look, it works well. I have never and will never understand the mentality of a guy who uses any means to see if the grass is greener or to abuse someones generosity for my own gain. So OP I hope this is more what you are like and not the player type trying to get a grubby foot in the door. Cheers
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RHP User
8 years ago
Shock Horror we actually agree on something ?? 😉 Lucky I'm sitting down having a late lunch giggling in my sandwich 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not a unicorn but I've been approached many times to go to clubs, by guys I've never met. The answer is no, every time 😇
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noeleena
8 years ago
Hi, Oh dear me And I thought Guys don't need us, unless we can be used for what ever, I attend our swingers meet ups here in NZ Ch Ch and not had one guy ask if I may like to go to a meetup = party . I go by my self and drive for 3 1/2 hours to get there. and while there still don't get a guy ask if I would like to be with him for playtime, I find and do so more this time this week end just gone ,it revolves around couples I was talking to one couple and a guy and lady came over and asked them if they wonted to spend time with them so off they went , later again I was talking to two people and they get asked, I thought okay what am I missing, oh of cause I,m single and it hit me. So my thoughts are I,m not sexy enough and not desirable. We had some 43 people there 5 of us are single females 3 men are single the rest are married or partnered up, I doubt I,ll have a partner or friend who would like to go with me. Maybe I have a lot to learn and I do I know that., both from a sexual side of things and is my age going to be a turn off most are on avg 34 to 38, 4 couples are 53 to 58 and very few aged 35 or less, and I,m coming up ya I know 70. though most don't belive I am and say wow more like 58 to 62 or less some think. Now some I am getting to know and can have lovely talks with them, , sexually I know this will be my... fail... point. So I have this delemer of how do I address this as I have no experance with men and I,m more comfortable with only one women , was, yet would like a male friend. So there you are , life at the coal face. from a womans perspective. ...noeleena...
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fun2wannaplay
8 years ago
Well articulated and replied Ms. Jonesy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well it's always amazing how people interpret written words.. I was looking at advice from fun couples on how they met and people I guess jumped over the last tongue-in-cheek couple of lines referring to unicorns.. Oh well I've always preferred talking In the real world with people for this exact reason...i don't believe any woman is a "ticket" to anything...wow..assuming and then running with it guys! Thinking like this is actually the stereotyping I'm talking about..someone even mentioned ditching a woman once in the scene.. Wow seriously!!... Some of us are actually men who like having and giving fun and are caught up in this anti single man culture that exists...do you think I would NOT want to be with a fun woman regularly.. Damn aye. .seriously I am curious to know how relationships have formed and people have found there way here because that's how you get into the fun stuff it seems...because as I said single guys ain't getting in... Guess we walk our own paths hmm and can only comment on where we are at and what we have experienced...seems alot of people jump to men being users and not worth it..guess it's why single men aren't allowed in hey...all good it is what it is - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry for references to catching unicorns... Etc... Etc... Mating calls etc... It's all a joke to me the whole unicorn culture...because there are no unicorns. Only individual women looking for different things..remember unicorns are a myth ladies.... I guess if you own the title with pride you will be sensitive when it's approached in a joking manner :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I really don't think you're sorry, as the purpose for the second post was to correct a typo in the first one... 😉
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
There are many swinger clubs that allow single guys in. Why don't you try those ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't start out as saying sorry then to go on to have a go at people offering. help Op. Your word's could of been better! Yes there are Unicorns out there and they're called that as a term of reference as they're not easy find. (Single bi women) I've been in your situation Op as a single male and I've also been lucky to meet a real unicorn. Funny thing is m8 I'm really not into the club scene and happy to just go and met likeminded people. I don't need to go and have sex with lot's of random people in a club, She has friends within the scene who are just that. Friend's. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
well that's great, but we are not asking what your life style is. If that is what you are into that is just great but don't see how it is relevant to the question. Just because you are happy with being on the sidelines doesn't mean others want the same. Don't get your attitude to be honest
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hey, I know Mary's story and comment may seem a little harsh but I have definitely seen that a number of times as well. It is not that uncommon. I am not sure whether it is a lack of communication, different expectations or plain rudeness and it goes both ways as well. It brings to mind another example. I was at a swingers club with a really hot couple - they were friends of mine and not lovers and we got to talking to this other couple. He was older and had been in the scene for a while and he had brought along a woman who was very curious about swingers clubs but had never participated in any group sex or been to a swingers club. She was a complete newbie. Anyway, we went to the orgy room and my couple friends invited this women to have sex and this woman decided to go for it. She completed left her date out of it, didn't ask if he was okay if she went off with the couple... she just ran off and left him there. I felt sorry for him so I sat with him while we watched his date with the couple. IT was really hot as well, she was lying back while the wife was going to town between her legs and fingering her like a piston and the husband was up the other end basically face fucking her. She was clearly totally loving it. Her date sat next to me and he didn't look too pleased to be left out. I got the feeling he had told her he would look out for her so he felt compelled to hang around. I also assumed they had not been lovers prior to going to the club so he didn't feel like he could step in and join them either. She clearly was not that into him and just wanted someone to escort her to the club and have a back up if she freaked out. He was not happy. It can be lots of fun going to parties and clubs and observing group dynamics. :))
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RHP User
8 years ago
Even think someone back there mentioned I could be a virgin...cmon guys...some fun and adult conversation much more appreciated.. and seems a few thought I just wanted to USE women to get into events..i actually said you needed to have one to get in which is actually the truth..wether that's sweet sounding or not..single women on the other hand.. Lets not go there..its the truth but it's like single guys cant actually talk about it.. thanks to the dodgy selfish guys aye..shame it really isn't all of us.. I have actually learnt a lot of lessons in life thinking all women were good people and realising that's not the case so I approach this from the other end.. . All good.. It's just typical forum banter.. People take things way too serious and turn in to the standard keyboard warriors..help isn't knocking someone mentioning how its not the best playing field from where they stand..but as someone did mention..naturally in a sarcastic have a stab tone..this is a swingers site which is 100% true so yes it is actually meant for couples really so some humble pie has been served...apologies to ANYONE who really felt I was out to use people...good luck have fun - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Definitely worded the original thread incorrectly...proofs in the pudding and lesson learnt...enjoy Anzac day guys.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...and make a small investment to become at least a premium member. The ladies here are so overwhelmed they are not going to pursue you. Road test this theory by walking into your fav hot nightclub on a weekend and yell out... ''Here I am ladies, ready or not''. Tip the bouncer $5 and you won't land on your head.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'naughtywhennaked' I have actually learnt a lot of lessons in life thinking all women were good people and realising that's not the case so I approach this from the other end.. . I'm not sure what it has to do with your topic. Or why you would ever have assumed that all women are good people, which is a whole other topic in itself but anyway... IMO you're not really doing yourself any favours with your follow up replies. Yes you got some harsh comments but considering that just about everyone who commented had interpreted your topic the same way, that should tell you that there was an issue with how you expressed yourself. Which you have acknowledged, in a kind of petulant, very defensive way. Just remember, we don't know you from a bar of soap so you can tell us until you're blue in the face how you're not like those 'other' guys and you do totally respect women etc, but all we can go on is your profile and what you're posting here.
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
intelligent human being I can tell you an intelligent woman considers her integrity to be a serous matter, and she believes in honesty. She expect the same from an intelligent man. The way you worded your post would only be acceptable if you were a virgin, someone who learned about life mysteries by watching porn... or someone I tried to describe earlier in the thread about narcissism.(Ms)
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
or you are someone I tried to describe earlier in the thread about narcissism. I guess I have won the bet. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow. How's your form. How rude of you. 👎🏻👎🏻 I don't know the OP so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe ask some questions rather than jumping to conclusions like some of you have. And what's the issue with having a swingers buddy in any event?!? It's not a hanging offense you know. I used to a few swingers buddies I would attend events with. As for all the rules swingers clubs have and couples have to stay together, etc etc is what makes them a bit dull and boring at times. It's sex, so loosen up. That's my 2cents
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's sometimes easy to forget that it's a game between the sexes, not a war. It's a sad fact for most men that there are other players who start with better cards, who roll higher numbers and who have a better knowledge of the rules. And in this game, women make the rules, not the men. Confusingly, the rules can change at any time. Society rightly penalises, punishes and segregates men who can't or won't play by the rules. This site is a microcosm of the wider society, only slightly different. Here, women can ignore unwanted advances with less fear of violence, intimidation or ongoing harassment. Here, the numbers are stacked in favour of women, well-presented (typically younger) men and the physically well-endowed. And here, what you see is rarely what you get. There are other sites that that might suit you better. Try them. I have, and I've found that my strike rate is much higher than it is on RHP. It's all about the match..and the statistics. The further you are from the average - whether that be in looks, personality, or whatever - the more difficult it is to find a match. That is a fact of life. It's no different in the animal kingdom. So, why am I here? I'm a bloke, too, but I'm not here for random hook-ups. I'm here because I enjoy the banter and the window into the thoughts of other like-minded unconventional people, especially women, who I find fascinating. When I meet one of those people, then that is a bonus.
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RHP User
8 years ago
How do I move it? 😱
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I'd posted it under 'Ok fella's, join me on the war against "non reply"!'
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RHP User
8 years ago
The only way I know how to do it is to report your own post/s. They will then remove them 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pretty fucked up when we have to report ourselves 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for the tip. x - Posted from rhpmobile
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bedger1000
8 years ago
The venom created by what appears just a light hearted request for advice on swinging. This is a swinging site guys or did you forget that? Another ironic example of the intolerance that perceived intolerance breeds: 'bat to the back of the head' etc. Swinging involves personal dynamics that don't always work without frictions and disappointments just like every other relationship people. No need to take your personal disappointments out on the OP immediately assuming he is guilty of the very same crimes you may have suffered - CrusiingLife you are getting a bit transparently smarmy in your condemnation (sure it earned you some Browny points though). Of course some men (and women) are guilty of being selfish and using people for their own sexual satisfaction and gratification - its a bloody swinging site for crying out loud. Grow up and show some tolerance yourself. Did it occur to many of you (couples and women) how men en masse are so commonly demonized on this site despite their best intentions? This ironically one of the few social situations where single white males are unequivocally disadvantaged - they are irrefutably banned from many clubs (FACT vs opinion/experience Mrs Jones). Perhaps see the OP's query as a naïve enquiry from a guy new to the scene, witnessing all the immense sexy fun everyone else seems to be having, that he is often barred from given his 'single guy' mantle. When you get tired of all the thousands of labourious messages from men in your inbox (and I appreciate many of them must be offensive, ill thought etc) perhaps give a thought to those decent guys amongst them who send so many well intentioned and written messages but get nowhere and remain frustratingly, per the OP, on the outside looking in at all the apparent fun you are having. Personally I find clubs and the group scene a bit tacky myself and prefer more intimate affairs, but I too am guilty of the OP's crime. I would like to meet a compatible single woman to then explore mutually desirable fun with other people in a swinging context - surely in some part the very essence of the purpose of an adult dating site? To find a compatible woman in this environment is far more difficult than in the vanilla situation...hence the OP's frustrations.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Someone can be a narcissist / have narcissistic traits without having any mental illness (NPD is the extreme case, most wouldn't qualify for such a diagnosis). I do agree, though, that I wouldn't ascribe such traits to the OP purely on his posts here.
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Shane_Claire
8 years ago
MsJonesy.....perfect answer - Posted from rhpmobile
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
and all what he has written after, and I fail to agree with you Candy. In my opinion words reflect the person behind them. He wrote what he meant. Every word. He obviously is used to be with men company only, and with such men who see women as objects. Trump comes to mind (... grabbing talk ). I do not feel sorry for men like that, but that attitude would be excusable only if he is a virgin or never had any intimate experience with women. In the narcissism thread I also talked about people who we consider narcissist not necessarily those with the illness only. Thank you all. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just a question. Do you guys even swing? Seems as if a lot of your comments are based on what you think will happen rather than from experience. CD
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Don't fall into the trap of saying it is a swingers site; to quote the login page....."Australia's hottest casual dating & social networking". Yes there is a contingent of swingers on this site, but I hazard a guess that the absolute majority of members on the site use it for casual dating. They don't swap partners, they have sex in a strict ratio of 1:1 and would eat termites for breakfast before they would consider going to a swingers club. And according to some....you can't be a swinger if you are single 😛 And yes, your FACT of men being "irrefutably banned from many clubs" is for all intents correct. Why has this ban been put in place by many clubs? Because of the poor behaviour of some single men, who treat women (irrespective of their relationship status) who attend swingers clubs with little respect. To illustrate from my own experience, the following has happened to me (multiple times), all single men as the perpetrator, allowed entry on specific open nights at the club I regularly attend: - Boobs grabbed and squeezed - roughly enough they bruise - Pussy groped from the rear as I stood chatting to other people - Bum variously mauled by pinches, smacks, whacks, as I walked past - Herded into a room by two men I did not know - A finger up my arse by someone I didn't know in a group play situation...and guess what, no one else knew him, he just decided to do it as a way of entering (lol) the group - stalked all night, as in relentlessly followed throughout the venue - men entering playrooms uninvited and wanking right next to my face (I presume they are hoping my mouth will magically swallow it) - followed into toilets I think you get the picture. I did not know any of the men, they had not had conversations with me, they had not engaged in any social niceties such as asking for name....let alone asking if they could lay a hand on me. Of course, NOT ALL men are the same, many have a great deal more respect towards women and have been appalled by the behaviours women have encountered. So while I do have sympathy for the respectful single men who are denied entry, if it keeps women safe then so be it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
over 25 years I've been invited to clubs and to private parties. Sometimes it became quite clear the ladies who'd invited me were motivated solely by a desire for someone they knew and trusted to act as personal security (as Candy Delicious described earlier, and it does make sense in context/light of drink spiking, stalking, risk of abduction and rape etc, but...) The behaviour described above by MsJonesy is nothing short of boorish and repulsive (even for other guys to witness), and there is no excuse for it. As is usually the case, the actions of a select few d@ckheads set a precedent that counts against all others into the future. I hold no ambition to attend such venues or bear witness to such behaviour. I neither expect, nor desire any further invitations to such a bloody debacle. That's fine by me. I'll not miss it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
God, that's horrible. I had a man touch/play with my pussy while in a group thing, uninvited, he and others were watching. I couldn't speak to stop him because I was close to orgasm. I heard him ask if he could, but continued without an answer, and shouldn't have been asking at that point anyway. It was opportunistic, disgusting, creepy, and I felt violated, more so when I got home, it made me feel sick. I can well imagine how they follow you around in clubs, they do it to me at the beach, creeps me out. Although I've been very outspoken about only wanting to attend swingers clubs with singles, clubs aren't for me, more so after reading your post. I would much prefer to host my own parties, at least that way I can weed out the creeps. Shit, that is shocking that they do that 👎
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bedger1000
8 years ago
Absolutely MS Jonesy, Perhaps my experiences are determined by my preferences, but I have met a good few couples from here and its rival that enjoy swinging and have spoken to vast numbers of couples who enjoy MFMF. Again, that's why I avoid clubs. My interactions have been enjoyable, intimate encounters which are never 1:1. Nonetheless I entirely agree with you.No shortage of assholes on here and in clubs (which is partly why I don't do them). Nice to see you acknowledge both sides of the coin. I suspect our OP is the shinier side and was just a little misguided in his naïve enthusiasm and wording....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are you joking? Married men behave the same way at times too. Although I guess you are saying that wives keep a check on their husbands because clearly men can't be trusted. Unfortunately not all wives get it either and let their husbands squeeze a woman's tits when she isn't even talking to him and even when I told him no, his wife didn't stop him when he did it again. Personally I think it's more to do with numbers. Having too many single men is overwhelming but still better than just couples and single women imo.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That is why the rule that couple need to stick together, because the wife keeps hubby in check. Poor men. Lol
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