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So what do you like?
November 19 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I sometimes look at their fetish list. If they have something on their list that I won't do I will mention it if things get to that stage. I haven't chatted to anyone whose list has been a turn off. I also don't have everything on mine as I do want to keep some things as a surprise There are still a few "activities" on the list that confuse me
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's starts with the reading of the profile. Is this person someone I would like to know? Have they something that entices me, compells me to make contact? Yes! A message sent, a reply given.....and so begins the discovery. Tell me about yourself. Make me laugh, make me feel I want to know you better. Let's talk, let's hear each other's voices...and things progress. I don't want to already know everything about you, I want to discover. I want to explore the person that is you, and have you explore me! *That* is the experience! For everyone who insists on knowing my endowment, my kinks, my likes, before we even speak.....you can dowload my operator's handbook. Available in pdf only. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I always read your profile, it gives an indication to your likes, dislikes and wish list..but having said that, nothing beats the spoken word, its so erotic, sensual and intimate..and in that moment is totally owned by you and I....knots
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm like you, OP. Some things I just really like, some I will only do with certain people and others really aren't for me. Yes, I've dismissed men once or twice (partially) based on their sexual/fetish interests (I don't remember for sure, but doubt it would have been the only reason.) As for my own interests: I've left out a couple on purpose as I will only engage in them with a select few, and wouldn't want to be accused of false advertising.
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
and I have told them why. Sometimes they seem surprised as they dont remember ticking all those boxes, or they say it is more a wish list than a fetish list. I dont have any listed on my profile, prefer to indulge in mutual exploration and discover what works for us when a level of trust has been reached
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I had my lists filled out, I didn't have them filled out, I'm back to having a few things in my lists at the moment, not sure for how long though. But I'm finding that I'm changing, my wants are changing, something's appeal to me now that I never thought would, things that once appealed to me, no longer do.... I do look at peoples lists, would it be enough to turn me off someone? No, I don't think so, but I'd defiantly asked questions if there was something that I wasn't comfortable with..... We are all different, we all like what we like and geez like I can say anything about someone's list, I like lot of different. naughty, kinky and strange things....😈
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RHP User
10 years ago
I definitely pass in profiles with sexual interests that I'm not currently interested in. My first assumption is that they'll want the fetish/kink met, moreso than they'll simply want to be with me. My second assumption is that even if my first assumption is wrong, I'll be too vanilla for them. I've found the better the chemistry with someone and the greater the connection and trust, the more likely I am to explore and be adventurous. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I prefer to discover and explore and I am pretty over the 'so what do you like' question. I am bored with repeating myself and I think it is like when someone gives you a present but you already know what it is. It is like groundhog day with almost every new contact and they don't even care what I like, they only want to know what they can get out of me. It is hard to explore and discover when you only get round 1 then they are out for the count.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I thought maybe I was being prudish or not up front enough by not wanting to answer 'what do u like' my thoughts have been I may want something different from different partners.... Thanks for making me feel ok about my decision - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If it only says: one on one sex, oral-receiving, anal-giving then that's enough to put me off... and yes, I have seen that. Why would you advertise that you're a selfish prick in bed?! I do like to get an idea of whether someone is a little kinky from their profile, I want to figure out the details for myself, but it does help to know if we're on the same page sexually before we get started...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great post! ......and definitely something that I have thought about from time to time. It really gets to the crux of why (many) people choose non monogamous sex lives. If it was exactly the same with everyone....there really would not be any point in doing it with more than one person. I have found that different relationships/liaisons have evolved in natural, but very different directions...more hard core with some, more Disney, dimmed lights with others :-). If I can be so cheeky, as to expand (without totally high jacking) the scope of the original post?....:-). Im totally fascinated that the 'look' of someone you may meet, can modify the sex you engage in together? I'm certainly guilty of making these assumptions from time to time... And yet some sweet innocent looking, 'take home to meet mother' looking girls, MUST be into hard core, full on aggressive/dirty/nasty etc sex, WHILE other 'dirty' looking girls, MUST be into real vanilla variety sex....but do our stereo typical assumptions in the beginning lead us a certain way??? If someone 'looks' conservative, do we behave differently sexually? If so, is that the same for women too??
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm here for one reason. I have a specific fetish. I'll give you a hint - it's not masturbation (Especially this week, I've been given a weeks Orgasm denial as punishment, but that's another story) The first thing I do is look at someone's fetish list. Hard Bondage? Woooo! FTW!! Soft Bondage? Ehhh, ok? I'm curious, define your version of soft...... OH! Its the pair of fluffy handcuffs you got given on your hens night? *puts cane back on rack* Righteo...well this is awkward.....haha. NEXT! Maybe shallow, and perhaps I miss out on meeting some great people, who think that the 'lists' are a waste of time - but the way I figure it - the people I'm looking for are a little less common, and they'll have realised that and ticked that little box too A Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
certain criteria or its a definite no. A few other certain activities will send him to the top of the maybe list. It's the second thing I check after the photos and critical in getting a pass mark. There should be a blow and go option because I'm pretty sure that would be selected on a lot of their profiles.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey ralf... It's not what we can get "out" of you... 😋 For me, those lists are indicators... as KIT says above, if they only list "1 on 1 sex" then I'm probably not too inspired, but at the same time if they've ticked every sexual interest and fetish box I do find that a bit of a turn off. A lot to be said for learning and exploring together... Who wants to go exploring this weekend...? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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inspirit
10 years ago
They're just lists, most of them WISH lists. Same as profiles....rarely they reflect the true person. In the earlier days I had boxes tick but found the email box got too full. Now I have none. Yes, I will only explore with people, who I feel are on the same page as me. This is where genuine comes in for me, as most are not and just want to tick it off their list. Sex is important to me and it has to fullfil not only my body aches but also my mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I add a liberal shake of salt to all the preset multi choice parts of profiles, thought that was not always the case. I was about to use the metaphor that I was actively hunting worthy prey. That I had to sniff out those that I wanted, but now that I think about it, that's not true at all. I was a scavenger, with all its inherently negative connotations, and used the profiles options to determine an easy meal. Oh and i had some regrettable meals, ill spare the details. I like to think I am a hunter now, though I am content living off of my dwindling accumulated fat reserves, I still keep my nose in the air. Now a days I never look at the sexual interest part of a profile, or for that matter anything above the mid line. I am straight down to the good bits. Their own words, and I must say there are some very yummy people on RHP.. grrr
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RHP User
10 years ago
dismiss profiles with long lists, but now I barely look at them. Its a "wish" list. Its all about a connection, and through chatting and a meet for coffee/drinks I make my mind up because of the person and leave his indulgences to the back for the meantime.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
What people write about them self and what you get can be 2 totally different things. Writing in fantasy mode can be quite different to the real world. Rarely do I read anyone's fetish list because with the right person Im sure there's things you do , you never thought you would. I never meet anyone with great expectations. Meeting face to face and getting a feel for each other is the starting point. I could easily have a sexy time with a woman and not be aware she has all these unfulfilled fetishes unless she tells me. Providing its not perverse or sick, and I liked the person who's asking, Id be happy to oblige.. It just wont happen with someone I dont have a feel for...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Stufu1969' Great post! ......and definitely something that I have thought about from time to time. It really gets to the crux of why (many) people choose non monogamous sex lives. If it was exactly the same with everyone....there really would not be any point in doing it with more than one person. I have found that different relationships/liaisons have evolved in natural, but very different directions...more hard core with some, more Disney, dimmed lights with others :-). If I can be so cheeky, as to expand (without totally high jacking) the scope of the original post?....:-). Im totally fascinated that the 'look' of someone you may meet, can modify the sex you engage in together? I'm certainly guilty of making these assumptions from time to time... And yet some sweet innocent looking, 'take home to meet mother' looking girls, MUST be into hard core, full on aggressive/dirty/nasty etc sex, WHILE other 'dirty' looking girls, MUST be into real vanilla variety sex....but do our stereo typical assumptions in the beginning lead us a certain way??? If someone 'looks' conservative, do we behave differently sexually? If so, is that the same for women too?? the drab , housewife that I am I think if you looked at me you would think, shit does she sleep in rollers and its only missionary for that one.
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nattyocean
10 years ago
Personally I read all parts of people's profiles and their lists and i will make a decision regarding the information provided ie not alot of detail or empty/scant lists, no photos (no need for face but some indication is appreciated ☺️) as well as the other end of the spectrum with everything (mainly all fetishes) selected I tend to not proceed, as I feel a little intimated. However if there is something they have written in their profile or message that catches me then I may not be so hasty either - not a one size fits all for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
I'm loving the variety of responses and they way we all use the site's features for different uses. Another question which is worth posing..... What about if you kink/fetish doesn't appear on the interests lists; would you like an opportunity to add your own?
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I like the lists in both areas and will check them to see what they are into. I have mine completed, some I have done some are items on my fuckit list but I don't rule people out because of their lists. My areas of interest are growing and things I am curious about changes all the time as my knowledge of the kink world expands. I like kinky fuckery and look for those that are open to new experiences. you don't find these people through reading a profile and a list on a screen however. I find more is discovered by conversing with people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
a few fairly vanilla looking profiles that have 'Breath Play' selected and I feel like messaging them and saying "I don't think that means what you think it means..."
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' a few fairly vanilla looking profiles that have 'Breath Play' selected and I feel like messaging them and saying "I don't think that means what you think it means..." Only very few know what that's about. Can be very dangerous, came very close to disaster about 4 years ago, my partner lost consciousness and started convulsing. Holy shit we where being very careful, I immediately started resuscitation thinking where is my blood phone, I need to call an ambulance, but second breath and all returned to normal. My partner had absolutely no memory of what happen and did not understand why I was so exacerbated. All good in the end but never played that game again and have zero interest. With so many people that have that on their profile you just have to assume they don't know, or play very softly. There is a vast chasm between what I have experienced and done and what the vast majority of profiles consider kinky, or fetish. I do wonder how deep the rabbit hole can go sometimes.
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twowithnolimits
10 years ago
@keep it simple LOL Go teach them girl! @blindman Really after one bad experience you totally reject something? How did you get all that experience you talk about then?? @Missb72 "kinky fuckery" What a great phrase :-) Hope you don;t mind if we use that! @KissK if someone is willing to dismiss a profile on the basis of something they don't like in the list then they are way too narrow minded and/or judgmental to hang with us!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' @keep it simple LOL Go teach them girl! @blindman Really after one bad experience you totally reject something? How did you get all that experience you talk about then?? @Missb72 "kinky fuckery" What a great phrase :-) Hope you don;t mind if we use that! @KissK if someone is willing to dismiss a profile on the basis of something they don't like in the list then they are way too narrow minded and/or judgmental to hang with us!! When I started out on RHP and similar sites I was as green as winters new grass. Half the stuff on the lists I had never heard about. I came out of, for want of a better adjudicative, an ordinary sex life, we added spice to sex but alternating between lights on and off, though my imagination was there, unknown to me there was a physical incompatibility, she was just 5'2" and if I forgot my self in the heat of the moment, it would be very painfully for her. So I lunched into the wild abandonment of contemporary free love, with an open bucket policy to what I would try. I was introduced to breath play (For those that still don't know breath play is auto-erotic asphyxiation. also know for killing Michael Hutchence from INXS) I started slow, but with all things it seems that I have to see where the tunnel ends, never content with just sitting in the entrance. I have a reasonable intelligence and developed my own techniques and with a willing and consenting partner we stepped it up. What surprised me was that it took less than 10 seconds to lose consciousnesses, that it was so subtle my partner was not even aware that I had started. May be I am over reacting as there are many way to achieve the desired effect, but I nearly killed someone I loved very much, or worse it could have cause permeate massive brain damage. I fell of the bike and now I am too chicken to get back on, so what there are many other ways to get around.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with virgin queen, when its far from the truth!
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Missb4u
10 years ago
twowithnolimits - a few have liked that term lately 😀 sure you can use it... kinky fuckery.... We like that here 😜MissB
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think when someone asks me that question it's the sexual equivalent of the weather.I am not convinced it is really of any great interest they just don't know what else to say in a message....so I say,I like to talk about almost anything except V8s,fishing,and every which way I like to fuck...That soon sorts out that...Oh and I ignore their lists....I am more interested in other boxes that I need to have ticked.xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I experienced something that almost killed someone I loved, bloody right I wouldnt go there again. Taking your kink to that level is dangerous, even knowing the risk involved and being careful, and if the worst nearly happened, going there again is questionable. Theres being outrageously kinky, and theres being just downright foolish. Blindman, go with what your comfortable with, its your choice.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I honestly believed that the "Sexual Interest" List and the "Fetish"List meant that the RHP Member had performed all those activities listed !!! Some of the "listed" activities, intimidated and frightened me !!! So what I did was to ask each male RHP Member I met, if my assumption was correct !!! I'm relieved to say that all the men I spoke with, assured me that my assumption was wrong !!! That the lists are only "Wish Lists" and not an indication of their "true" selves. Most of the men did not perform all the activities listed. It was to indicate to other RHP Members that they were "comfortable" with such activities, should they (the other Members) be "into" it. So now I ignore these lists when viewing a male Member's Profile and concentrate on meeting the man !!! Amy
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