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So where is the middle ground?
November 02 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
This will get heated on here! Personally it's a life conundrum surely the situation can change Most I presume want a companion of some sort,sexual,share life's highs and lows! Why can't you have both?Sexual selection on here can be very critical,some have been bitten or trust issues! When you truly invest in someone it's a matter of give and take! That said some just want to have sex and keep there freedom (no crime) Everyone has an agenda it's clear some on here want a happy medium (cake and eat it too) In summary all options are here ,it's how u treat people that shines thru xxx
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6exxy
10 years ago
All the above is possible here. It is a dating sex site ! Some people are confused but all should be welcomed no matter what their preference at that point in time. If loves arrow hits you in the ass so be it, or dirks dicks gets there first as long as you are happy 😘
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have thought about this issue myself. I completely agree that those on here who are adamant about RHP being a site for sex only are usually coming at it from their own purpose for using the site. And I've also thought that considering that, then they will be interacting with similarly-minded people so it just reinforces their view (also called confirmation bias in scientific jargon). From the female perspective, yes I'm sure there are many guys on here who for various reasons would never dream of entering into a relationship with a woman they met on here (with most of those reasons being bullshit ones, may I add). But I also know that some relationships have developed on here, and that there are men who would be willing to entertain the idea should they meet the right woman. After all as I've said before most relationships start from some sort of common ground and I don't see why sex can't be that ground, assuming there are sufficient other non-sexual aspects that draw them together. In saying all that I am also realistic and even if I was currently open to a relationship, it's not like I would be actively expecting one to come from my being on here. But then again, considering that much as you describe in your OP my desired type of relationship isn't necessarily the traditional monogamous one, it's not like I'm going to meet a lot of potential partners in 'real life' either given that most people still want (or think they want) the traditional thing. I figure then, that if you're looking for something non-traditional your 'hunting grounds' so to speak are a lot more limited anyway so you might as well try non-traditional methods in your search. So basically, yes I think there can be a middle ground on here but you need to be aware and accept that it's a much narrower strip... but hey if you want something different in a partner that's pretty much the case no matter where you're looking.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe it is possible to meet people who want more than just sex. Well actually I know some do as I have been lucky to meet a couple of them. To me RHP is way more than just a sex site. As Nostrings said I am one of those people who want my cake and to eat it too. As long as the people I meet are honest with me I'm happy. I believe to each their own and I hope they find what they are looking for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know couples who have met on RHP and now live together and are fully committed to each other, I also know people who use RHP to find others to meet up in a park for a random root... No names need even be exchanged. I find lots of women have actually made lots friends via RHP, although seems that most men do not. So it's how you use RHP. It's the people that say it's just for sex who are pretty narrow minded I think. Would be hilarious to go and fill out one of those eharmony forms/interviews... Would love to see their face as they say sorry. I don't think this is the place for you. lol.
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
Let's face it peoples needs and ideas change, and where do you draw the line. This is a sex site, but that doesn't preclude relationships. As long as people are up front about there preferences, and don't mislead others who cares.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sometimes men tell me they sent me a wink or a kiss. I always want to say "oh, so I take it the vanilla sites didn't work out for you?".
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it's a sex site mostly but at the same time I also admit I look for a partner who shares my ideas about sex, who is not paranoid about exclusivity and wants to have an entire relationship permeated with sexuality. As said... It's a hard conversation in a vanilla environment so this site might be more likely to assist me to cross paths with a person like that. It's hard to meet people regardless :) I have made some amazing friends from here, or rather in the scene in general at parties etc. you never know which party you will meet mr(s) right! - Posted from rhpmobile
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passion8_l
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Would be hilarious to go and fill out one of those eharmony forms/interviews... Would love to see their face as they say sorry. I don't think this is the place for you. lol. Considering they won't even let you register if you are separated but not yet divorced it would be interesting indeed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some people on the forums are very vocal in their opinion that RHP is a sex site only and that looking for a relationship on here is futile. I don't necessarily agree with that, but I understand that people's opinions are coloured by their own experience. It is a sex site, look at the pics, conversations in forums etc. Doesnt mean its a brothel If you're looking only for sex because you're married or desperately wish to remain single, then you are going to only spend time with people who are looking for the same thing. Therefore you have created your own reality and your experience confirms your opinions ad infinatum..... Now we're at the brothel, and yes if they have success and meet like minded people it will confirm their opinions. But wouldn't they be wasting their time looking for something/someone else (if that's what they want)? Then there are those people who are not looking for casual sex, they like strings, they don't do one night stands and they are in a position to look for more than just a quick fuck between consenting adults. They are told this isn't the place for them, that men here won't want them for a relationship, because if they're on an adult dating site they must be a slut and who would want to introduce them to mother? Don't know who tells them that , but they are fools if they say that So.... what is one to do then? Sure you could head over to RSVP or eHarmony and try your luck there, but where in your profile after talking about how you like pina coladas and getting caught in the rain do you also mention that you don't believe in sexual monogamy, you never want to move in with them, you're bisexual, you like to be tied up and flogged and being fucked by three guys at the same time is your ultimate fantasy?? Stay here. It remove the dance that is pina coladas, or those looking for potential gym/squash/volleyball partners What is a person to do if they want a relationship, but their version of a relationship is so far away from the social norms that there's nowhere else to look?You're at the right website..........Its in the way that you use
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RHP User
10 years ago
The same people are here as are on those so called vanilla sites...after I put my current profile up the first four men to contact me,were men I had already met on another site years ago.......I don't necessarily think that you will find what you are looking for here but it is an option ....I have made some good friends here, in particular like minded women .Rhp is more than a sex site...it is a social networking site as well.... attending events ,meet and greets are a good place to start...give you the opportunity to meet people in a way that most other sites don't provide...if you are a member you can be proactive in your search here and perhaps you might just find who you are looking for....eyes wide open is a good mantra though.xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
For raising this question so eloquently. I believe the middle road is to completely ignore what others say about this and other sites, and go your own way. If you're clear about what YOU are here for, people with similar goals will find you and vice versa. Sure, some might just tell you what you want to hear to get into your pants (hardly that different from the average pub, really), but if you listen to them carefully, ask good questions and trust your instincts about this, you'll soon know to pass these people by (assuming you want to) and you'll be left with great connections with like-minded people. For a 'sex site' (what a lot of rubbish), my profile is pretty unwelcoming. It basically says I don't do casual sex and I like commitment. And yet, I get new messages every day from men saying they loved reading the profile and are intrigued. We chat, many are not for me, some become great online friends, some I meet in real life. Not that different from those people who treat RHP as 'just a sex site' I suspect ;) Interestingly, of those men I talk to for a while, MOST are open to a relationship. Also interesting (to me at least) - I've been around the site for years and over time have used it in different ways. Initially to indulge my exhibitionist and voyeuristic tendencies in hot chat, at times for casual hook ups, group trips to swingers clubs and so on. I've made friends with couples, women, and men - just friends, no sex. And now I'm mainly on the site for the forums. So in my experience, it's foolish to pigeon-hole this site and the people on it. There's no single answer for how to approach the site because there's as many ways as there are people on it. I'm pleased to say that being clear about why I'm here and being discerning about who I talk to and meet, means the quality of men I connect with is pretty high. I'm more than happy going my own way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Said it before.... if the sex is good... you want to repeat it... that itself is a string. This can lead to more for those who are open to the opportunity (IE, not married/attached/ or dedicated to the single life). So its about attitude. Every second profile in here seems to claim to be "open minded" and open to "more"..... but are they really?! Or are they just talking the talk, to de-fuse that mental trigger that says "he's only thinking of his next root". I guess..... thats only something conversation and body language deciphering can discover. My view is.... its all middle ground..... for me.... because I am the one making the decisions FOR ME. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
RSVP, Pof, eharmony, etc.... The thing to remember is not to rely on online dating services to be your ONLY way of meeting people..... That way you're never disappointed :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Is to find what you would like. It may take some time but I don't understand why people wouldn't find someone from RHP for a long term relationship. Im not single or trying to be smug, but where is the right place to find what you are looking for? Hubby and I met on a red rattler ( train), certainly not normal or your typical place to meet. It took me over 20 years to say ' I need something more from our sexual relationship' , I like that I can express what I like sexually and I would not want be associated with anyone who thought RHP was 'beneath them' as a place to meet a long term partner. To me that would mean they had double standards - that it's ok to be on here to find someone who can 'fuck your brains out' but not worthy in other respects. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I definitely agree that you get out of RHP what you make of it. I've only been on here for just over 3 months and from the start I've said that I'm looking for ongoing FWB type relationships. I seem to be pretty good at filtering out bullshitters and my overall experience has been very positive. I'm still seeing 3 guys that I met right at the beginning of my time here and I would say I'm having a relationship with them. No they're not white picket fence, meet the family type relationships, but I am fond of them and they of me and we enjoy each other's company. I guess you could say that I've found exactly what I was looking for. I started this thread because I see this "it's only a sex site" comment so often and it's the opposite of my experience. I guess I was curious where we unconventional types were supposed to fit in if it's not here.
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goldcoastcple69
10 years ago
im pretty sure atleast 90% of peeps on here are here for the sex..The other 10% are on the forums lol
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Might be an idea for a new site ??? As things stand at present, as you say there is no place which effectively reaches that area of life. Sites like this, and presumably like AdultMatchMaker and so on (sorry mods), probably are the better 'hunting' grounds for people looking in this area. As most have already mentioned, you tend to read into this site, what you are looking for. For some it is outright sex, for others something more. The relationship side has been discussed here not too long ago, and I believe that the men here generally would not be too worried about forming a relationship with a lady from here, because both parties would be more relaxed about any form of sexual relationship issues from the beginning. As some have mentioned, a few people here know of couples that have formed from meeting here, myself included. So as to answer your question, I think that currently you only have the choice to list onto 'adult' meeting sites, and just be very clear in your profiles, exactly what you are seeking, and what possibilities you may be open to. If you are pretty clear about that, you should stand a good chance of finding what you seek. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
I came here for a different reason to most. To find models for my art exhibition. I came here because the advertising for this site, was slanted more to sexual. The naked pictures the open exhibitionism, the overt nature of this site. My assumption was that people would be more relaxed in taking of their clothes, and I was right in that regard. I guess its like where do you go shopping for a car that suits your needs, or shoes for dancing. If you look at the pictures, most of you women have your body up there, naked some clothed but most in a provoctive way. when a man comes on here, it is different to E harmony or other so called realtionship sites, is it not? And may women and men on here are on both sites, why do you think that is? Becausde of perceptions, the social mores of the culture we live in. Sure you might like to find a man that shares you kink in the bedroom but I would think I would rather find out other things about the person I want so share my family, my life and friend with. I would rather find out if he chews with his mouth open before I find out the size of his cock. So I would not go to a advertised sex site and show my pink bits and then wonder why its not working for me. Yes , some people do find others for relationships on here , bit like in a shoe shop you might find something thats not a shoe but the chances of that are slim. The thing I have noticed the most is that people that do hook up are not often on this site long. they do not sit here year in year out, looking for that someone special. Your new and if your smart and things do not work out like you hoped the I would think you would leave and go look else where for what you need. My issue is with people that sit in here year in year out and moan that , men lie, women lie, husbands that play up are unfaithtful pricks, and the band keeps playing the same old tune. some people like the fourums and are not looking for anything else, so their needs are being met here.some just like to cyber play so their needs are being met hereI am here for sex, so my needs are being met here, plus I have also made a bunch of great friends offline especially women. but in the end, you pay your money, so you do as you please. But if you think the internet is going to give you more than just add water and your pink bits and a guy will come along, then I just do not believe in that. Yet I have seen it happen a few times, so there is always hope, and one should not stomp on another persons hope, so good for you for still trying any way to find what is suitable for you. its all about the marketing of yourself and what this site markets itself to be. Like any shopping experience in life, you get out if it what you put into it, but sitting in front of the computer day in day out looking for that big foot may not get the results. there is always a middle ground, but the forum is about debate , without debate then there are no new ideas and we might as well all sit around nodding and drinking tea
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RHP User
10 years ago
when I was on this site I didnt see relationships mentioned in many male profiles. After a years absence there seems to have been a shift in some attitudes. Many more male profiles now start off with NSA but add they are open to things developing further. I guess those that have been on here a long time are missing more of a connection and find that FB or random sex isn't as fulfilling as it used to be when they first joined RHP. Peoples agendas change over time. I believe that if you have common ground and a mental and physical connection with someone you meet here then it is up to you both to take it where you want. Just an observation. LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
than a space when you can be and say exactly who and what you are…..All in the open, not social decor needed …You can express your explicit likes and dislikes and hopefully find partners that will match your criteria. I don’t see any limitations in a potential long term relationship developing from a site such as this.I, personally, celebrate and cherish experience and a person that knows what she wants and it is clear and open to her sexuality.I have no time for prudes this days
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you saying RHP is just a sex site, or that it's different things to different people? I couldn't tell. And where are the women moaning that the site isn't working for them? I've been reading the forums for years and the main people that moan in such a way are men, or couples looking for single women. As per the posts on this thread, lots of people are treating the site in the way that suits THEM - for sex, for friendship, for relationships, for forums, for whatever - and are having great experiences. Just because they don't view the site the way you do, and aren't looking for what you're looking for, doesn't mean they're not getting high value from being on the site. I get frustrated by other people on here sometimes, but I would have left a long time ago if I wasn't getting value for my time. I'm curious about who these people are sitting behind computers all day looking for big foot? Is it possible you're making assumptions about other people here who you actually know nothing about? Perhaps some people work all day on their computers and, like me, enjoy the diversion that RHP offers. Perhaps perhaps perhaps. So many possibilities for what's going on in other people's minds, hearts and lives. Your post seems incredibly patronizing to me. You seem to be suggesting that anyone who doesn't face YOUR reality of the site is kidding themselves. Maybe you simply don't understand THEIR reality. I have provocative pics on my profile but I'm not interested in meeting for sex. Plenty of men I chat to have no trouble making sense of both of those things. They get that I like sex, like to talk freely about sex here, and like to express my sexuality here, and am looking for that kind of sexual openness with any man I spend time with - but that doesn't mean I want to jump into bed with them or anyone else just because I'm here. They understand it. They respect it. And they keep in contact with me anyway, because they enjoy getting to know me. And me them. The suggestion that having provocative pics automatically means you're available for sex is narrow-minded in my view. I think people are on this site and other more vanilla sites because people are people and they want sex/love/intimacy/connection/commitment or whatever they want, wherever they're lucky enough to stumble across it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
It's whatever I want it to be....... RHP, my first internet dating/sex site ever, stumbled across it 12months ago, not on any other vanilla sites, but I'm on other kinky one.....Do I use it as a sex site? NO.....Do I use it as a dating site? NO....But I do use it as a meeting tool, learning tool, information tool, social networking tool and a you just never know what is going to happen tool. It works however you want it to work for you. I've stayed here for the forums, the wonderful friends I've made, the people I'm yet to meet and because I can.... Yes I'm looking for more than a ONS, a quick fuck, a random root, but that doesn't mean that if I met someone that appealed to me that I wouldn't do these things and I have done them in the past. But ultimately I'm looking for someone that wants to spend more than one night with me, someone who's as naughty as me, someone that is open to experiences and experimenting. I don't really give a shit if someone thinks I shouldn't be here because I'm not after random hook ups, that I want to get to know someone before I do met, because I'm the one that pays my membership not them. My profile is honest about what I want, looking for and that's usually enough to scare a majority of men away, the others don't or can't read my profile and then the rest are genuine gays, who want to get to know me or they have/offering me something that they think I can't say no too..... Whatever RHP is, you can make it work however you want it to work for you......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' Are you saying RHP is just a sex site, or that it's different things to different people? I couldn't tell. try reading without moving your lips, it might help And where are the women moaning that the site isn't working for them? I've been reading the forums for years and the main people that moan in such a way are men, or couples looking for single women. I am sure you have been on the forum for years, congratulations but I would not know that as I do not have some magic ball that when I look into it I can keep up with the ten thousand names or profile changes of people. I think a lot of posts are moans, I know I do it myself at times. The women , where are they well they are like you and me sitting at home with to much time on their hands. I work for myself so and if i worked full time for some one else would not have time nor inclination to be here on work time. I think the facts are there is you go back and read peoples posts who are the mona of the group. The proof is in the archives. As per the posts on this thread, lots of people are treating the site in the way that suits THEM - for sex, for friendship, for relationships, for forums, for whatever - and are having great experiences. Just because they don't view the site the way you do, and aren't looking for what you're looking for, doesn't mean they're not getting high value from being on the site. Never said that at all, I said what every floats a boat. Its pretty clear really, I said its sex for me and its a bunch of things for others. Perhaps you could read my post a few times for it to sink in. I get frustrated by other people on here sometimes, but I would have left a long time ago if I wasn't getting value for my time. I'm curious about who these people are sitting behind computers all day looking for big foot? Is it possible you're making assumptions about other people here who you actually know nothing about? Perhaps some people work all day on their computers and, like me, enjoy the diversion that RHP offers. Perhaps perhaps perhaps. So many possibilities for what's going on in other people's minds, hearts and lives. Every one makes assuptions, including you , I know this as you jump all over every post I write. Please feel free to ignore my posts. Perhaps your still smarting from the little spats we had in your previous incarnations and our disagreement regarding fake pictures on profiles. I suggest you build a bridge or again, ignore my posts its not rocket science. Your post seems incredibly patronizing to me. You seem to be suggesting that anyone who doesn't face YOUR reality of the site is kidding themselves. Maybe you simply don't understand THEIR reality. Yes my posts are , patornising, arrogant and sometimes a tad funny.I am that kind of woman, a patronizing arse hole of a woman.But then that's just because I am super smart and sexy and men worship me and woman want to be me. What can I say, it is hard being a rock star but someone has to do it. those that know me off line, stop laughing Plus am fucking old and we tend to get that way when we become grumpy old women. I have provocative pics on my profile but I'm not interested in meeting for sex. Plenty of men I chat to have no trouble making sense of both of those things. They get that I like sex, like to talk freely about sex here, and like to express my sexuality here, and am looking for that kind of sexual openness with any man I spend time with - but that doesn't mean I want to jump into bed with them or anyone else just because I'm here. They understand it. They respect it. And they keep in contact with me anyway, because they enjoy getting to know me. And me them. I tell my daughters this, and it has served them well. DO not advertise unless you are going to deliver the goods. Sending mixed messages to anyone about your sexual availablity to me is not something I advocate. This does not mean of course if you do put it up that your available to every one that wants to wank over your pictures. i see a lot of women on here who are only here for the forums that put up not so sexual pictures or a grey ghost so avoid that kind of attention. But again, its your choice what you do here, as I have explained before. My choices are mine, I do not expect people to be a clone of my values. The suggestion that having provocative pics automatically means you're available for sex is narrow-minded in my view. So any view that is not the same as yours is narrow minded...bit of pot and kettle here. I think people are on this site and other more vanilla sites because people are people and they want sex/love/intimacy/connection/commitment or whatever they want, wherever they're lucky enough to stumble across it. ohh and who are these people you speak off, where are they? apply that to the same question you just ask me. - Posted from rhpmobile Burning love, really try not posting to my comments, its a big zzzzz for everyone I would think. If i said men have cocks you would jump all over that and disagree. Now we all know you will disagree with what every I post, so now that's settled there is nothing more to post is there? the scroll button is to the right of your screen, please use it
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RHP User
10 years ago
What we're all looking for in intimate socialising and feeling about it waxes & wanes and goes in different, sometimes erratic, directions. Emotional, sexual and psychological seasons. RHP gives more room to go with it. I've changed what I'm here for many times. I've even come and gone from here twice (no cum jokes please). I think this site has more scope for the intricacies of a relationship. By being more open and upfront about sex, at least it pats & asks the name of the pet elephant clad in bondage in the room. If that's all we're after at that stage, and match desires, then so be it. If more develops, wonderful. There's no "NO DEEP RELATIONSHIPS ALLOWED" signage here. "Sex site" is limiting though. Sex is a big deep dark wonderful mine with many precious stones and terrors, and RHP eases the awkwardness of asking whether a potential lover prefers MFM. MMF, FFM, FMF, MMMF, FFFM, MFMF, FMFM, F-->M, TV/TSMF, TV/TSFM, FTV/TS-->M etc. not to mention watersports. How would one broach bukkake on a date?
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RHP User
10 years ago
for me...I joined up mainly for the sex side (which I think most do) but have also struck up friendships online with people where there is no sex involved. I think that RHP is a big enough 'ecosystem' for everyone's needs to be met in some fashion. The level of activity on here suggests that there's a demand for a 'place' where people who like sex can be open about it without worrying about being judged by 'normal' standards. So maybe it's the non-judgemental part that is most in common? Whether you're looking for an anonymous fuck or a budding relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
its up to you to filter out the ones who done suit what you are looking for babe.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree when I agree. And I disagree when I disagree. I do both publicly, openly, honestly, without holding grudges or having an agenda. I don't need people to agree with me or like what I say. I don't take or make ANYTHING on here personally. My responses are to what's written, not to who has written it as I don't know the writer and prefer not to assume anything about the type of person they are. If you're taking it personally or assuming I'm targeting your posts I'm afraid you're mistaken. I respond to your posts often because I happen to disagree with them often. When I agree, I usually say that too, though I acknowledge it's not common. If people don't want to read my posts, no-one is holding a gun to their head. I often don't bother reading posts when I think the content is going to irritate me. I'm pretty OK with how I roll on here, but once again, thanks for the invitation to do things differently. I'll decline.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Burning..... youre entitled to your opinion.... as long as its the same as.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Many years ago I joined RHP because I was after NSA sex. Way over that now, so now I am just on here to whittle away the occasional spare half hour reading and maybe contributing to the forums. Though I have not met anyone from this site for sex for over a year, I am still very sexually orientated and other social networking sites are just dull in comparison. At least on this site you don't have to pretend or hide your sexuality.And who knows, maybe meet that someone special that will make my heart go pitta pat if I ever get my shit together.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
What I like about this post is the absolutely genuine tone, heart felt and very well articulated. I too am on this site looking for FBW's and I've found some. Some live a long way away which is rather inconvenient, its not the distance that makes me feel inconvenienced either its the connection I know those people and I have. You know who you are. So yes it is a sex site, its also a friendship site. And I think it may just well be a fetish site too - yippeeee.
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lovman8
10 years ago
I think rhp can be anything you want it to be........ the only difference to the "vanilla" sites being that people here a more interested in, and more open about matters sexual. No further expectations should be held, so use it as a dating site or a source of no name no strings fucks or for anything else you choose.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualAries' What I like about this post is the absolutely genuine tone, heart felt and very well articulated. I too am on this site looking for FBW's and I've found some. Some live a long way away which is rather inconvenient, its not the distance that makes me feel inconvenienced either its the ** unfulfilled connection I know those people and I have. You know who you are. So yes it is a sex site, its also a friendship site. And I think it may just well be a fetish site too - yippeeee. ** unfulfilled connection
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the only people saying that this is purely a sex site are the ones that arent getting any. As they go with the idea that all women or men for that matter are ready to meet and excuse me fuck straight off the bat with someone they have never met. Not saying it doesnt happen but for most I think there has to be a little more to it no matter what your seeking.
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Enjoylifealways
10 years ago
I am poly and enjoy swinging but I would love a relationship with a woman or another couple to come out of meeting people on redhot. Though sex is good too. How would I go on eharmony when I am married ha ha . Wife speaking :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great topic OP. I'm a pretty rational, scientific guy....but I think if you are open to to possibilities, and you give of good energy, then great things can happen. I have had/do have some wonderful relationships that have come from RHP. No 2.4 kids, picket fence stuff.....but close intimate friends that I would do anything for, they would do anything for me, and we have great hot times together. One of these relationships has been over 2 years now, and still going strong. It's a bit ironic, that sometimes the married folk here are open to warm intimate relationships....and the singles just want simple, one off sex (that is a gross simplification I know....just a curious observation)...I guess part of the attraction of this site, is that you can meet someone tall, short, busty, petite, English, Filipino, Italian, who are into lights off vanilla, swinging from the chandeliers bondage and discipline and everywhere in between.....and it all be cool...because variety is the spice of life....seems kind of stupid, to close yourself off to any possibility to me....including developing some feelings/having a 'relationship' It's just a label...with a very ambiguous definition anyway!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been here for two years,during that time my needs have changed,and changed again.For months I was hiding in my virtual cave and my profile reflected that.....now at least I am sitting outside the doorway,enjoying the sunshine again xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've only been on RHP for a little while, but I've been on some other sites, and while I think it may still take a while, from the profiles I've read and the posts I've seen in the forum I think I am more likely to find friends here who can relate to what I am looking for. For me that's something more than a random hook ups, but less than wife #3! My experience on other sites is that most(but not all) are looking to be closer to #3, and less likely to be interested in non-traditional relationships.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am pleased to see so many people express an openness to whatever life hands them rather than being closed off to possibilities. Interesting that the only person to express the 'why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free' attitude is actually a woman - the men seem far more open and relaxed about the idea of meeting someone for a relationship on here. Although I do recognise that the forum is a slightly biased sampling of the RHP community. I also think it's an interesting perspective about married or attached people being more open to creating relationships as per Stufu1969 and enjoylifealways's comments, that's been my experience as well. Perhaps because the groundwork of what the expectations are is already done when seeing a married man or woman, you're not going to ever expect them to move in with you or be exclusive for example. Maybe that's why I like them ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Burning..... youre entitled to your opinion.... as long as its the same as.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
OP, think of it less as a sex site and more of a site for sexy people. How you choose to interact is your call, so don't put to much stock in what others think, you have as much right to use it for your wants and needs as anybody. Carry on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My dream is to find that someone who I click with mentally as well as physically We play and we continue to play as we get more and more committed to each other. Always keeping a trusting solid relationship with excellent communication and dedication to each other. You can try your luck for that on other sites, but there is probably a better chance here?
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RHP User
10 years ago
... is what you make of it. Like life. It is up to the individual to decide what they want from it, how they approach it etc.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but be realistic I have been here less than a month and i have not met anyone in person yet. But i have been on and off normal dating sites for awhile. And I have recognized guys on here that were on the normal sites. I reckon some of the girls that have been chatting to those guys on normal sites would be horrified that they are also on here. But some (not all ) of the singles use this site as a fill in until someone decent for a relationship comes along. I have a male friend that did exactly that and he is now engaged to a girl that he initially met just for a hook up. so never say never............
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RHP User
10 years ago
As far as I feel about it, I believe that the site is open for all, to seek whatever they are after. I don't really care if they are after one night stands, or to meet their soul mate, the more the merrier and diversity is the spice of life.As long as people are clear in their profile as to what they are after, and particularly, what they do not want...Be they straight, Bi, Gay, into particular fetishes or simple seeking love.We are all here to connect in our own way, and honest profiling allows us to eliminate those that we mismatch with to save time and potential awkward moments for all involved.
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kangawallofox
10 years ago
This site has a different use for all of us.. Some want secret sex Some want to try something new Some just want any sex they can get But I see this site as a social platform where we can meet likeminded people, where their are no rules on who can and can't join.. And where no matter what it is that you seek keep looking you just might find it.. For me this site is about having some fun with a few new friends.. I'm currently in a chaotic time in my life with work study and kids that I am just looking for someone who wants a casual relationship with sex. But not only sex.. I am yet to meet anyone on here who doesn't just want sex.. But I'm hopeful.. Xx good luck all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yrs ago i was on adult match maker. My mind set at the time was for casual, no strings, no relationship physical encounters. And that was written in my profile.I attracted like minded people, and had fun.I met with a guy who had similar needs and expectations as mine. We instantly clicked and were in a very commited loving relationship for 8 yrs. so the moral is.. You might not be looking for love, but if it finds you,it can hit you at any time and at any place.
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abcplus1
10 years ago
To us anyway. We can't go on RSVP or eHarmony and advertise for what we are looking for. Sick of the attitude that RHP is for sex only, we have turned down more than a few dates with women because that was their attitude. And yes we know the irony of a couple turning down a single woman. Worst we had was one lady ask us for an address so she could come and have sex, no names, no meeting first, no nothing. A close second is one who had sex with someone else on her way to a dinner date with us..........................
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RHP User
10 years ago
The 'problem' here is the difference in opinion of what words mean in peoples profiles/minds. 'Looking for NSA' in one persons profile could mean.. message me, arrange to meet and do it in an alley somewhere.. ..while in anothers 'Looking for NSA' could mean, I don't want a partner but someone who can come and go over a period of time when we both need some sexual release; but I want to chat and get to know you a little before I jump in the sack with you. So I think the way to sum up the OP is that everyone is here with different expectations, and yes they will seek out those that confirm or align with their own; sometimes to their own detriment. I don't believe there is a 'middle ground' as such; this site, as all 'dating sites' are what you make them.. you will only find what you are open for.. On a side note to the OP.. I am here for chat, social meets, kinky stuff and everything and anything in between..
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Hawt1
10 years ago
I think this is one of the rare places where people can truly be them selves... no need for middle ground..!If your looking for a relationship in here, chances are your an opened minded person and are likely to find a suitable partner.This place can cater to all sorts. Its what you make of it But what an advantage picking up your life partner in RHP whilst discussing how your bi, like to be tied up, flogged and fucked by three men simultaneously... imagine broaching that subject having come into the relationship the traditional vanilla way... buwahahaha! Just stick to your guns on what you want.
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RHP User
10 years ago
to the op that is such a complex comment/questions, myself i look for connection, and being a previous member i have met all different types of people, but the one true constant was the connection, either short term or long term, norms or not. each to their own depends on how open a person/couple can be.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great topic from keepitsimple72. RHP is a more open forum for people to share their fantasies with others. Something that doesn't seem to happen in a lot of relationships. Maybe that's why the divorce rate is so high. Some people just can't open up their most intimate fantasies and passions to their partners when it should be a natural thing to do At least the people on here feel more comfortable doing that with complete strangers by putting it out there on their profile. Long term meaningful relationships can happen at any time if you do that but there is still room for those who just want NSA sex or one night stands. Be comfortable with what you do and share your fantasies freely with your partner. Having erotic fantasies doesn't mean you want to act on them but be careful if you do. There are consequences Have fun everyone
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RHP User
10 years ago
Although I won't say no to casual what male does :) I'm more hoping to find a partner to enjoy exploring together.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think anything can happen if open to it. Just be honest about what you want on your profile. I've been single for a long time (my ex I actually met on a similar site to this ). Being single for so long, I'm a bit set in my "single" ways atm, so I don't want to jump into a relationship. But not into one nighters either. Personally I would like an FWB. Definition of which being, finding someone, a new friend, to hang out with, watch a movie, whatever, and also have some fun with. And if anything develops from that, great. You just never know what or who is around the corner/flirt/message away.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some are indeed vocal about RHP being a sex site, and appear to be closed to the idea of anything more than a good boinkage session, perhaps living for the moment. Others are open to something more lasting, with perhaps a deeper involvement. Everyone here has their own version of the perfect RHP experience, many find it while others don't....compromise between what one wants and what one ultimately gets is where the middle ground is. The thing is to be accepting that not everybody seeks the same thing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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