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Social Meet and greets with NO Expectations!
August 09 2013
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subgal_gc
11 years ago
Thank you Indianasmith for seeing the absurdity of his comment based on a single word in my post. Seriously who expects that it is going to be an all out fuckfest in the bar of a hotel when the idea is simply a friendly meet and greet over drinks for like minded individuals. Thou i am surrenders that would have made for an interesting floor show for other patrons at the bar ;-). The debauchery bit was strictly tongue in cheek...thou seems some on here have no understanding of subtle humor. You guys are very welcome to attend the drinks night...thou i will understand if the distance is a little too far for one night...lol
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sweetgem
11 years ago
IndianaSmith, I think people (men and women) who think like the gentleman in subgal's thread are either too chicken to get out there and meet new people (because they got tricked into a bad experience once), or think too high of themselves that they think that everyone just can't resist them and want to drag them into bed!!! I too got the same crap ages ago when I posted a thread on here about organising a chocolate tour. A chicken man just had to PM me to say that it would take more than just a chocolate tour to get him into bed! Now I don't normally swear, but at that time I did go WTF in my head! This man had to PM me simply because I said "treat this kind of tour like a meet first play later type of activity". Seriously WTF!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ignore him. It's his defence mechanism and he should know better by now.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Thank You because that's exactly how it's gonna be.....sheesh!!! I don't think KG's Bar would appreeciate people wildly fornicating in thier establishment and I have my cheffy mate preparing platters for me and the last thing I want is someone's body juices among from dirty hands on my vol-au-vents!!! Classy, casual and fun that's all a girl could hope for when she throws a party .....oh and the opportunity to dress up :) Good luck with yours you pair and loved your profile!!! Indy
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
It makes me giggle too! Some ppl think - omg they are going to strip me naked, put me in a ring n all dance around me - type of this! Ffs it's meet n greet - then the option is yours if you wish to take it further....
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RHP User
11 years ago
a) "dirty hands on my vol-au-vents " made me grin b) aw man "indy" was OUR nickname :D c) thanks! Hope yours is a total blast, like ours will be...
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can mention names...... Yes Indiana I did make comment on yours re the same issue.... Yes sweetgem, I also sent you a message that indeedly said that.....and I have my reasons, but the comment was actually a mixture of tongue in cheek as well as a be careful statement. Indy....it's very interesting, that the OP stated it was a night of "drinks and debauchery"..... Then actually retracted that. My interpretation of debauchery is alcoholically fuelled seduction....am I right? I smell rats given the meet and greets that I HAVE actually attended, and I felt it pertinent to offer a reasoning/justification for why I wasn't attending, in fear of being seen to be too blunt or rude for saying simply no. I don't accept it to be a defence mechanism, but an expression of view. Something I'm sure doesn't have to be aligned with the majority?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'paintme' Ignore him. It's his defence mechanism and he should know better by now. B.I. NGO.. and bingo was his name O.Who thinks that just because someone uses a particular word, that implies its obligatory.... or even (acceptable!) to nude up and get frisky....... and in a public bar?!!!Only someone with chronic insecurities is going to overthink things THAT far. The guy aint all there.DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Thank You because that's exactly how it's gonna be.....sheesh!!! I don't think KG's Bar would appreeciate people wildly fornicating in thier establishment and I have my cheffy mate preparing platters for me and the last thing I want is someone's body juices among from dirty hands on my vol-au-vents!!! Classy, casual and fun that's all a girl could hope for when she throws a party .....oh and the opportunity to dress up :) Good luck with yours you pair and loved your profile!!! Indy I have to meet you one day , you cracked me up I spat out my morning culpa.I am sure the girls today at our girls coffee meeting would love a funny girl like you in the mixand no coffee does not mean..lets all rip our gear of and have each other over the table...I am sure the hotel would be a tad cross with that one as the five star ratings would slip to NILI think people get the wrong idea about RHP and the people that are on here. They assume that we bonk anything with our without a pulse. If only they knew, the most sexy thing I get around is my fluffy slippers and night gown and I drink wildly from my coco mug with the picture of winy the Poo on it.LadyT living the dream.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... Oh bingo! Now I get it DG, I think the poster concerned just got his butt spanked ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now now, nobody thinks that the nudie games are going to start in a public bar or place... It's what they think will happen afterwards and the expectation that everyone has to join in that once the greeting is done everyone has to go to a swingers club or something. Of course that is not right.... Truth is no one cares. If you say it's not your thing, fair enough nobody cares enough to comment on it one way or the other. At the meet and greets I have been too about half the people say, no it's not my thing. They want to attend a drinks night, meet some people and just have fun, they are not interested in any group sex activities. The other half may be up for some extra fun if it presents itself.. And there is no guarantee of that. Maybe it will happen, or maybe it won't. It's an adult event & people accept that everyone is different. It's sad that some people think people will try and force them into something.... Like the whole event is all about them. Some couples are like this too... Seriously people, no one gives a rats arse if you want to go or not.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wasn't trying to get at you (hence no name), more raising one eyebrow at invitees who send us a pm saying theyd be too nervous and couldnt go, would rather meet privately etc. We figured that public group things would be better, then you can have a choice in approaching someone... and you can move on if it turns out you dont click after all :) and you can introduce them to someone else who might fit...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't realize you had attend any meets and greets thru RHP? Anyway, people make the effort to organize things and then someone has to say something negative. I struggle to understand why.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Indy....it's very interesting, that the OP stated it was a night of "drinks and debauchery"..... Then actually retracted that. My interpretation of debauchery is alcoholically fuelled seduction....am I right? I smell rats given the meet and greets that I HAVE actually attended, and I felt it pertinent to offer a reasoning/justification for why I wasn't attending, in fear of being seen to be too blunt or rude for saying simply no. I don't accept it to be a defence mechanism, but an expression of view. Something I'm sure doesn't have to be aligned with the majority?? - Posted from rhpmobile Yes I agree to a point, seduction however is only as good as the seducer and debauchery to me does not equate to seduction. Debauchery is the excessive indulgence in sensual pleasures once the seduction has taken place...or not dependant on the form of pleasure since sensual pleasure can be in the shape of many things to many people. I am sorry you won't be attending, I was soooo looking forward to seeing Freya paddle your lily white arse!! I even planned on adding a few nails through the back of it to assist you in achieving the first virtue of four that perfect a man's ability to act well from within one's self : TEMPERANCE.And my darling co-hostess did not necessarily detract the statement but voiced the tongue in cheek component to allay the fears of any others who may have "misread" your gallant banter as we all did. (yup that's a reasonable assumption given how text can be misinterpreted) ok you're off my shitlist BUT old chinese proverb : "think it 3 times before you say it" Lady Tuscan, I don't think I'm funny much; just a bit loud!! (although I am often told I am amusing......sigh) And at the risk of being tacky "You're on the top of my 'to do' list" too maybe after Paintme and the crew bail me out of the Brisbane lockup for public indecency after I lose my bet? There is someone special in WA I'd like to meet besides yourself and I think he would enjoy an elegant and civilised cup of tea with a couple of feisty ladies. Indagine (always On_Safari)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was a great night bar the ultimatum.....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That I was speaking of public nudity, and other similar acts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
YOUR AWESOME!! and Sirlurk I think you have been soundly admonished. You are forgiven but I think Subby needs a special "I'm sorry".....we're just trying to keep the word out there about the drinks night so everyone who wants to know about it does and feels "welcome" to come along as did/do/does everyone who participates in the Sydney ones. Remember folks it's in the Events section.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good god, there are actually people out there that think a Meet & Greet is akin to a roman orgy - probably complete with a human sacrifice or two if the night gets dull.. Truth be told, most of the M&Gs (mainly AMM ones I admit) I have been to have been about as exciting as a church picnic - if any fun was to be had it was normally back in the hotel where everyone crashed later on. The worst I have seen is a little flashing (by women), some FF kissing and some innocent groping in the corners - nothing more that one would see at any bar or nightclub in any city. I remember the first AMM Sydney M&G - expectations for a great night to be had was high. It was held at a public place and naturally only about a 1/3 of those that said they were turning up actually turned up. The highlight was actually seeing some of the people in real life, oh how some reputations where shattered. No, not they way you are all thinking, the exact opposite, some were found out so to speak. A few who were always the life of the chat room and portrayed themselves as the ultimate sexual deviates etc turned out to be rather meek and mild, some would say pathetically shy!Seems all their bravado was wholly and solely keyboard generated.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I get that....but should that mean that I should only share my experiences if they're covered in sugar?? Meeka, I went to a meet and greet in Bathurst earlier this year....- Posted from rhpmobile
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we24fun
11 years ago
We attended a meet and greet organized by Indiansmith and had a great time! They are lovely, FUN and thoughtful hosts with good intentions. The meet and greet we attended was our very first and we met lots of nice couples with whom we flirted and laughed the night away with. Then hubby and I came home. We personally do read into wording on profiles, messages and events too but in the end you can only rock up with an open mind then leave (or stay) if you choose. If it isn't what you thought you simply decline unwanted attention or make the choice not to go at all. My advice is if you are in any doubt just messge the organizers and ask what is the plan for the night? Then GO HAVE FUN! After all aren't we RHP peeps all a little bit (oh ok a LOT) debaucherous? ;-) x Mrs we24fun- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Now now, nobody thinks that the nudie games are going to start in a public bar or place... It's what they think will happen afterwards and the expectation that everyone has to join in that once the greeting is done everyone has to go to a swingers club or something. I have received private messages asking about this before meet and greets. Some people seem to be afraid that everyone will go somewhere to have sex afterwards, and if they are not up for this kind of thing they won't be one of the "cool kids" Really sad. I left by myself after the last meet and greet, and that's my preference.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems like I'm not the only one that has concerns about feeling pressured into debauchery eh?? *points to MissM's* post. I don't dislike the meeting, greeting component. Infact it's a good excuse to step out of the truck. However I have experienced this feeling of being pressured to engage. Which if, my experience was a typical example of an Rhp meet and greet with no pressure, then I'm surprised anyone even bothers at all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I personally haven't experienced any pressure to join in, in any of the four meet and greets I have attended. But I can understand that others might feel that way. The OP was about the meet and greet itself though, and yes, the fact that some people confuse "social" with "orgy" makes me shake my head.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having now been to a couple of meet ups arranged by IndianaSmith all I can say is thanks to them for taking the time to set up some great, fun, relaxed settings for people to meet and chat and drink... It was exactly what the GF and I were wanting, no pressure, no expectations, just meeting and socialising with great like minded people, a chance to relaqx and chat as you would at any pub catch up except with people you know who are open enough you dont have to mind and watch what you say... who arent going to be freaked out about some conversations!Of course its also great fun when someone sits themself down at the group thinking it was their other meetup.com group they were there to meet and not realising it was a group of Swingers! Great job that day by Mr IndianaSmith to talk and ease what could have been a very messy situation, esp when she bought out her camera!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' I get that....but should that mean that I should only share my experiences if they're covered in sugar?? Meeka, I went to a meet and greet in Bathurst earlier this year....- Posted from rhpmobile only expectations existed in your head. Give it up. You are just being argumentative again for no real result. It's boring.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The meet n greet I attended in Perth was great!!! Non-threatening, sexy and fun. I accept that some people feel differently. It's not the end of the world lol. It pays to remember to take the forums with a pinch of salt / teaspoon of sugar... eh Sir?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes mummy - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
No dear not at all. My reference to being arrested has nothing to do with your earlier comment but was a humourous response to a bet I made with Paintme/Meeks if they showed in Brisbane. Candy coated or not some thought for the intended mood of the event should have been considered. I believe the Event posting and prior firum thread to this one adequately stated the easy going, no pressure, welcoming nature of the evening. I enjoy meeting, greeting snd networking with people, it's so ething I love doing because it pushes my severe shyness and lack of confidence to the background and forces me to grow and develop socially. Lol any event I host among family/friends/colleagues is meant to be a good, fun and happy time. As is this one. No one likes feeling pressured Sirlurk and one would have figured that this is a party among friends nothing more nothing less. Now what any of the grownups choose to do with any other consenting grownup(s) is entirely at thier discretion not anyone else's. Now enough on the topic and ket's focus on having fun and meeting some lovely people. Hostess with the Mostess and Co-Host with Class Indy and Subby. COME ONE COME ALL AND SAY G'DAY.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been to some in Perth and they were friendly and fun . . . .and damn, no-one got naked and if anyone went anywhere afterwards to do whatever, I didn't know about it! From my experience, social meet and greets have always been just that. Its obviously Bathurst and the cold climate . . .it changes expectations
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RHP User
11 years ago
All are welcome, nothing is expected except good food ,drinks and company.Just because this si a sex site , it dose NOT mean people can act rude or think someone owes something to someone else.The only thing anyone owes me at drinks night is.......A Drink ,your round
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well if you show up to ours, I'll definitely buy you a drink :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
im planning on attending this one of yours finally Indiana! :)and to those concerned about pressures... i have been to maybe 5 meet and greets over the last 18months or so. i am not exactly a social butterfly. But, of those, maybe twice was the opportunity (made clear to me anyway) to go back to a more private party... sure, plenty of people went off in small groups as well, but never made a big thing about it!sure, i may have got my tits out a few times, and sure there was some friendly groping and kissing, but only between people who already knew each other and there was no pressure for anyone else to participate at all (although the invitation was there, lol).All nights except one i went home all on my lonesome and there was absolutely nothing said to me that made me feel awkward about that fact at all!Looking forward to meeting you finally Indiana, and any others planning on attending later this month :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you will like my RHP meet and greet drinks night meme entry SirLurk. You will find it on the REdHotPie Facebook page. Hehe
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hooray! Looking forward to meeting you :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol very clever.....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol....could you picture it ??- Posted from rhpmobile
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