M73 F60
Society is so silly sometimes
November 01 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
...but I expect we'll get around to it sooner or later. There are always people who will pass judgement on everything you do. Judge 'em back. It works for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't get hit on or groped by men at nightclubs :-( but hey I can pick up a woman in one at the drop of a hat.....I need to go to different nightclubs damn it!!!! Roxxy
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
But I truly believe 50 years from now 'everyone will be doing it' or rather there will be a greater mainstream acceptance of alternative sexual lifestyle choices. We've chosen to 'come out' to our very closest friends so that they can have two positive sexually positive role models in their lives.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ive only just started well 3 months now. Im not ashamed of what and where I get up to things. most aare facinated by it all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Kinda sounds like a safe injecting house...but funner :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
Number 1 it ain't anybody's business and quiet frankly people just don't get it. When I tell friends that going to a normal pub/nightclub is a thousands times more sleazy... they just don't get it. I have a good friend who I regularly talk too about this stuff. She often will say that in her youth she had lots of sex with guys and one night stands and other alcohol/drug related stuff and sometimes feels it is a wonder she is still alive to tell the tale. Yet when I tell her I am going to a sex club she is super worried about me and wants me to text her when I get home. She just can't get her head around the fact that it is consensual adults and that No means no and that you are safe there. M
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes hardtruckin safe sex clubs. I would say there are loads of people picking up in nightclubs and pubs and probably not even using condoms who never even get tested regularly.
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
You know me Leesa im always promoting the club and my family and friends know what i do... im a up front no bullshit person ... just as most that go to the club are
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RHP User
12 years ago
enjoy the frisson of what society deems the forbidden,some people are very private and some people are very open about their sexuality and lifestyle.Although it was a yawn, 50 Shades put a different view of sexuality into the public domain, Fifty years ago homosexuality was against the law,now gay marriage is on the agenda of social change.Fifty years ago that would have been unthinkable.Fifty years from now who people choose to express their sexuality with,how they choose to do this,and where will just be the norm IMO.xR
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inspirit
12 years ago
majority of my friends and colleagues know what I get up to. They are intrigued and I feel by telling them, it just may open their door a little wider to peak in and realise what life is really all about.I also like the shock factor on their face when I let slip to much - priceless
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RHP User
12 years ago
To vanilla people it's not widely accepted that you want to have sex outside of your relationship (as well as within it with other people). There seems to be a common misconception that you must be unhappy with some facet of your life ie. partner/relationship/sexlife. It is not accepted that perhaps you (and your partner) would like to expand your horizons and share the love with select others. When you add kids to the mix as well, boy that really takes the cake for being irresponsible/selfish etc. I also think that if we told some of our friends ( There are a couple of very old, very trusted friends who I have told) they would think we were easy and they'd have to watch their husbands/wives around us. Would just make it uncomfortable for us I think.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are there even any clubs in Adelaide?
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RHP User
12 years ago
But you make sound points. Preconceived ideas and generalizations are a bunch of crap.. I hope sex clubs don't become the new boat people..Most of my friends raise eyebrows at me having a Bakery account. They generalize in a similar way. So I secretly sneak into their rooms and put Dencorub on their wives toys..
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
i generally tell my friends about my sat night out if i went to a swingers club.. they do judge me , but thats becuase people have double standards .. its just how society is and always has been.. christians had no problem slaughtering and torturing women and children but anything to do with sex was punishable by death in those days... so i guess today , alot of sex related activities are still considered taboo but violence is fine ,noone has a problem with violencel... i know men and women that go out every weekend ,get drunk take drugs get into fights and fuck a bunch of people they meet in clubs bars pubs . most of the time they dont know who there fucking ,there too out of it to know ...yet if you tell them you went to a swingers club ,they will judge you and consider you a sexual pervert.go figure..
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RHP User
12 years ago
My point exactly goldcoastcple... It is so sad that people think that. In fact a lot of people go to swingers clubs not to play but to just enjoy the relaxed atmosphere of a very strictly guided by rules club. My comment is about the clubs...we are not all about sex, you can just attend clubs to feel safe and secure in an environment, it doesn't mean just because you attend a club that you are a swinger. That is the misconception that I work so hard to let people know about. Thanks everyone for your comments it is exactly as I thought it was out there in the real world...everyone thinks we are devious yet those that do the same if not more in main stream society are thought to be simply having a fun time.. Go figure. Leesa xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have heard of them, just never visited or been brave enough really.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We Blame the safe sex message and grim weeper type adverts associated with safe sex. During 1960 to 1990 experimental sex with others was the in thing and more accepted. Nudist clubs, free beaches, nudie resorts etc were established and expanding. Now we are seeing all them slowly close down not even a legal open beach in queensland it only comes down to demand. I have thought for a while, all the talk and advertising about safe sex has the side effect with a lot couples thinking...."Sex with others is just not worth the risk, even with condoms we are still exposed to heaps and oral with dams and condoms...nah cant be bothered give the whole idea away". Or we only play with a small select group on 1-2 couples in our own homes. Put it down to progress, of course its a different story for singles. Being a couple we demand comfortable sex like in a nice bed, forget public toilets ...yuck
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why are you even worried about what people think? Everyone has their views on things, which is what makes the world go round. Just live your life and as long as you are happy and not hurting anyone, who cares?!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would actually be very open about being in the lifestyle, but the Mrs. is a little wary. The funny thing is that she's actually told many more people that we're in an open marriage because they see her do some heavy flirting with some guy while out of town (work events) and is afraid they'll think she's cheating. Plus she tells the guys she wants to have sex with, of course. I've only told a handful of people, but if it were up to me I wouldn't hide it. As it is, all our profiles include face pictures as our main photo, so perhaps we're not hiding it at all. Anyone who went looking would find us.On the other hand, last night I was with a female psychologist who owns her own practice, and she's less upfront about her hobby. She works with kids and married couples and feels it could hurt her business. I generally don't by the whole, "I can't show my face because of my job" thing because I think it's a generally a cop out, but I do think she has more to lose than most. Who am I to judge?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great topic leesa, I am yet to visit your club but plan on doing so before the year is out. From what i have read it sounds like a fantastic place, the fact its BYO and people who attend are there of like minds makes it all the better. Its great you provide a safe environment, to play with new friends, i really could not think of a better way to meet new and interesting people and the fact that its totally up to the individuals as to how or who they partake in the naughty activities with and not feel pressured is all the more benefit to everyone involved. As for telling friends, i would have no hesitation in telling certain friends but like, in everyone's lives, i am sure there are those that have nothing better to do then gossip and judge us, that are confident and comfortable enough with ourselves to enjoy fantastic venues like this.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' Are there even any clubs in Adelaide? Check out the events page... they will have clubs, parties and social events for Adelaide I am sure.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We are proud to say that we have had a lot of relationships started here between single males and single ladies, and there have been many marriages and a few babies too after that. You see the club life isn't about sex, but about meeting others in a safe environment, for those that continually talk about the sex aspect, I don't think they have been to a club. I am enjoying all the feedback it is awesome and thanks I will take it all on board to make the lifestyle a better one at our club at least. Leesa xxx
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Hanna_ybbn
12 years ago
C - the only club I've ever been to where I felt like I was at a great friends personal and private party.The only club I've ever been to where I've not seen a 'Glassing' occurThe only club I've been to where I've not been leered at and grabbed by random drunk assholesThe only club I've been to where the owners mingle and actually form 'friendships' with their patronsCI - the only club I will go to.And that is EXACTLY what I say if ever the topic up As for judgmental society......where are they all??? Usually these forums are FULL of them lmaoHanna xxx
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