Society is to Blame For Far More Men than Women on the Site?

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  The_Antichrist

  6 years ago

  Women don’t put as much importance in getting dick as men seem to in giving it..... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  Because sex sells, and due to testosterone & genetic programming, males are programmed to generally want sex more often and or copulate at any given opportunity, than their female counterparts. Spreading the gene pool far & wide. Why are they are attracted, in large numbers, to this site. The promise of sex ? Why do mostly males seek out prostitutes ? Why is the porn industry geared mostly towards males? Why do males generally have to pay more to go to a swingers club / party ? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  nightingale8

  6 years ago

  Though may be more fruitful to ask why rather than what. And separating the proximal from distal influences (gosh get me started on power structures, puritanism, psychology 😆) One short answer - there are three "love" systems in the brain- purely sexual/lust, romantic, companionship/care. More men are driven by the first, whereas more women are driven by more romantic as well as sexual drives for their sexual fulfilment. RHP doesn't promote the romantic side of sex so women aren't going to choose it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Rlee552

  6 years ago

  It’s a great question and one I have pondered. Do you have any feeling for what the proportion is when you take out those people who are only collecting pictures? If it is more even at that point, that may indicate something (perhaps a greater level of maturity for women). That being said and done, at sex clubs if you opened them up fully to single men they would still far outweigh the men. Is it because men may be more interested in the pure physical act while women may be more interested in also having a connection - so men are spray and pray and women are discerning. I suspect with all good questions the answer is complex and multi-layered, particularly as I think women are just as interested in this lifestyle as men. There is also a risk in applying generalities as there will be always someone who say that is not me. I look forward to any insight that may come from the answers. Whether it is a different mindset or way of approaching the problem.

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  nightingale8

  6 years ago

  A site that promotes dates where you expect to meet people who respect you, value you, make you feel safe and listen to your needs without the pressure of sex afterwards. Oh wait that's regular dating sites where the gender ratio is even 😄 Women don't necessarily want sex less. We want more than just sex and have more to lose if things go wrong. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Quoting 'nightingale8'We want more than just sex and have more to lose if things go wrong. I don't think women have more to lose if things go wrong. Men get hurt too. Pusscat xxx

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  noeleena

  6 years ago

  Hi. depends if you include rape so who lose,s, we do big time if your a male you walk away and we carry the burden , try being the female and see how youd cope .Mentally and Emotionally , Quess males don't understand that part, or even wont to. ...noeleena...

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  Mischeviouslad

  6 years ago

  If the (misguided) lure of sex was the only reason.... you’d expect that sites like Eharmony would have more women than men But they don’t It’s simply because the psychological effect of the “shadow” as Jung called it.... lowers female participation - Posted from rhpmobile

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  nightingale8

  6 years ago

  Woman on date with Louis CK: "Hi where are we going?" Louis: "To your death, statistically." From the guy accused of sexual misconduct. I still find his jokes hilarious. So many men I know are pussycats inside. That's why I love them x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Lol Anti, that could very well be it in a nutshell. I have the refrain, "Girls Can Get It" running through my mind, lol. Funny I suppose to consider men put themselves in this position. Thanks DynamicCouple, genetic programming makes some sense to me, as does societal programming. Is it the woman, the man, or both of you who say this? Just curious. Thanks Nightingale, interesting perspectives. I wouldn't know about dating site ratios though, is that really a thing? Ok, I had a google for my own curiousity and one thing that sprang out at me from the Quora answer I found is that it can depend on the efforts a site puts into attracting different types of customers which ties in with what toy said. That would make a lot of sense. Gender balance by age is mentioned too with a surplus of younger men and older women. Hm. And then I found a Dating Site Gender Ratio Chart. Pity RHP isn't on there! Thanks Rlee! It's been a while since I played with my name last. And I love LMFAO! Good point about picture collectors and similar who aren't here for the physical side. That would exclude a lot of profiles who are only here for the forum too which I think would be mainly female at a rough guess. I agree there's a whole pile of ways to look a it, I'm loving the extreme views taken from so many perspectives already. Mischievious, I don't know about Jung and the shadow. Would you expand or shall I go-a-googling, lol? It's significant going by the chart I came across that different sites do have very different ratios. Pusscat, Noeleena, thanks for the thoughts on physical safety and emotional aspects, there's a whole lot to consider there too. I don't think men's emotions are given enough credit (and there is a physical danger I imagine a lot don't consider) but I can see how women would and should be extremely wary of dangerous physical risks, and accidental risks including pregnancy. Thanks for your posts, Peachy, you've given me good thoughts to ponder and gone some way to answering a difficult question.

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  AnnieWhichway

  6 years ago

  Men wanting to spread their seed. Men wanting a quick fuck. NSA. Not society Peachy. Peachy, mans best saviour

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You must agree with that as someone whose genetics don't fall in the expected category and I not mean to be making fun, so I apologise in advance just in case. There is no right and wrong to the questions I've raised... I see the sense in a lot of what has already been said on the thread. Peachy me, No 1 in my life...

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  AnnieWhichway

  6 years ago

  Its one of those situations l can get both perspectives of genders, maybe influenced by physical genetics against mental genetics. Disagreed by my Male half of course but there is so much l dislike of male behaviour. Kinda embarrassing to have a dick at times. But l accept it having bit of both, not that l have a choice. Justify it by thinking l have the best of both worlds. I'll go with that.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It is apparent in public forums of all sorts that men are notoriously more desperate than ladies when it comes to sex. DynamicCouple36 has also provided excellent examples of that. In dating sites, almost 100% of ladies explicitly state in their profile that they're not interested in ONS, and I have female friends constantly showing me the unsolicited messages they get almost on a daily basis. Yes, generally speaking, the males are a bunch of unapoligetically sex driven individuals compulsively trying to contact ladies in the hope of getting easy sex. Online sites make this easier. ...and for those males who are also interested in a connection, we tend to be run over by the herd above harrasing the proportionally small amount of ladies available in the site. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  It was I , Mr D who wrote that. We are away in Beechworth atm and I have some free time to comment. There was a book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” written by John Gray , that delves deeper into the issue .

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Annie, thanks for the reply and insights. I thought I'd explain that I've long questioned the boxes we're stuck in, (like that women don't enjoy sex and the shock from an ex when I wanted another one, hehe, good sex was factored in before I married!) . This is typical for me to dig into and want to pull apart to get to the bottom of the many factors that contribute. A better way to keep my mind occupied than some. I used to ignore the spam Curious1975, well, I gave it the same reply as everything else that didn't go further and wasted no more time there, it worked. It's been a long time since I had an uninvited message but I do get lots of fun flirts from the Hot or What? profile, picture feature on the amateur pics page. It might sound clinical but I am seeing a clash of expectations for the treatment of each other onsite. It is a site predominately aimed at men who have very different expectations from women, as the women have diff' expectations of men... which really is no different from society. Thanks for the reply, I remember that book coming out Mr. D, a big bug bear of mine, I've held my beliefs for a long time, lol. I wikied that one and found several criticisms that match my thoughts. Peachy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Further thoughts I have. I was a rare woman visitor at the lingerie shows we used to have in Perth back in the 80's, that's where the t-shirt (I won) came from in a couple of my profile shots. I was also a see-thru barmaid before they were banned and skimpy's became a thing. Nipples and areola for women for banned, and thus... "Gi's us a look at your tits" became a thing... ugh. Who else has been paid to be the only woman to play pool in less than you'd wear at the beach with a bunch of blokes who treated you like gold? I don't think the idea attracted the crowd they hoped for, lol. It was fun and paid well for me. I was treated the same way in the pub, comp team that I was part of when I met Mr Peachy. We got to have jokes about my love of little boys (baby franks offered at so many 'after comp meals supplied by the pub) and I was protected from any chance of harassment! A memory that makes me LMAO is the time I went to a "Man's" show where I replaced someone who'd paid for her ticket but couldn't attend. It was the funniest thing watching the man moving through the women (whose entire focus was his schlong) to give a kiss to the birthday woman... I'm staring at his face when he catches my eyes in the crowd, I give a lil wink to laugh at the situation... And he stopped on the way back to pop a quick peck on my lips! Good memories, I wonder if I should start a bio sometimes. Peachy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  if we can pin the blame on the donkey...

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You'd have to be less quixotic. Who is the donkey in your scenario? Don Qui-xote? Peachy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  For the simplest approach, I'm hot for the idea that simple advertising accounts for a lot judging by the scale from different sites I looked at. Genetics has to play some part, obviously. The idea of social conditioning that put us on opposite sides of of the fence is a big part for me. Women and men have been forced and/or encouraged into their places. The Men as the beasts seeking desperately to sow their seed in my 'simplistic' imagination... and too many would have it that their way is the only which I'm not going any deeper into for the sake of us all. The Women as Princesses, tender enough to feel a pea at the bottom of a tower of mattresses. Never the t'wain shall pass any need to gasp* want sex. Lol, the basis of vibrators is that they were used by Dr's to give orgasms to hysterical women. The lack of info on our sexual anatomy, the actual direct deletion of those details various times over the centuries. Snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails, That's what little boys are made of. Sugar and spice and all things nice, That's what little girls are made of. The man has less emotional feeling and is not as capable of showing tenderness. Don't cry if you fall over... The woman has maternal feelings, wants to get married and make babies. They are far more likely to be picked up and fussed over if they fall over. He has to go to work, come home be the boss, punish the children for their behaviour through the day. She has to stay home, cook, care for the children, and have sex whether she likes it or not because it is her duty. Please don't blow this part out of proportion, it is an overall look at society lessons and part of the big picture I'm trying to paint. He has to be a gentleman. She has to be a lady. He doesn't wear skirt or dress like clothes you're Scottish, a monk, a native, a judge or such but certainly not everyday wear. She has to wear skirts/dresses otherwise the implication is that she wears the pants in the house. He's the hunter. She's cook and carer. I see the obvious physical points which makes me wonder why women choose to be on this site at all then, insisting it is a 'social/dating' site. Which leads to my question on the flip side... Considering the obvious bent towards attracting men, why are women here at all, and expect a different result to what they get? Peachy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  For the simplest approach, I'm hot for the idea that simple advertising accounts for a lot judging by the scale from different sites I looked at. Genetics has to play some part, obviously. The idea of social conditioning that put us on opposite sides of of the fence is a big part for me. Women and men have been forced and/or encouraged into their places. Thoughts from my imagination that I encourage adding to because there is so much more, and debate over without personal attacks or slurs if you're up for it. Snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails, That's what little boys are made of. Sugar and spice and all things nice, That's what little girls are made of. Men are beasts seeking desperately to sow their seed in my 'simplistic' imagination... and too many would have it that their way is the only which I'm not going any deeper into for the sake of us all.Women are Princesses, tender enough to feel a pea at the bottom of a tower of mattresses. Never the t'wain shall pass any need to gasp* want sex. Lol, the basis of vibrators is that they were used by Dr's to give orgasms to hysterical women. The lack of info on our sexual anatomy, the actual direct deletion of those details various times over the centuries. The man has less emotional feeling and is not as capable of showing tenderness. Don't cry if you fall over...The woman has maternal feelings, wants to get married and make babies. They are far more likely to be picked up and fussed over if they fall over. He has to go to work, come home be the boss, punish the children for their behaviour through the day. She has to stay home, cook, care for the children, and have sex whether she likes it or not because it is her duty. Please don't blow this part out of proportion, it is an overall look at society lessons and part of the big picture I'm trying to paint.He has to be a gentleman.She has to be a lady.He doesn't wear skirt or dress like clothes you're Scottish, a monk, a native, a judge or such but certainly not everyday wear.She has to wear skirts/dresses otherwise the implication is that she wears the pants in the house.He's the hunter.She's cook and carer. I see the obvious physical points which makes me wonder why women choose to be on this site at all then, insisting it is a 'social/dating' site. Which leads to my question on the flip side... Considering the obvious bent towards attracting men, why are women here at all, and expect a different result to what they get? Peachy

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