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MsJonesy

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Soft swap

November 13 2016

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Urban Dictionary - to share spouses/partners with another to the point of digital and/or oral copulation only. I am very curious about this aspect of swinging, and would love for those who play this way to share with us. Lets start at the beginning; how did you decide to play this way, and what were the deciding factors? Why not full swap? Was this the way to begin your swinging journey, until you decided you were comfortable enough to progress to full swap? Are you planning on moving to full swap at any point? How is your preference received both here on the site and when out at clubs? Who do you seek - a couple, a single female, a single male? How successful have you been in achieving your aims? Let me share with you right from the outset that my beautiful friends prefer soft swap when playing with couples, and I have other soft swap friends who I also play with. I acknowledge their right to make choices which suit them - not anyone else!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Thought this was gonna be about swapping the soft toys on my bed around....my bad ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    When we first started out a few years ago, we went through a number of boundary transitions over the first couple of months. Soft swap was one of these. We wanted to make sure that we were both comfortable with each stage before moving on to the next (not that there has to be a progression for everyone). Looking back now from the green grass of the other side, we may have been too careful and methodical in how we extended our boundaries, but that was just who we were at the time and the swinging scene was a fairly big shift for us. Whether another couple is soft swap or full swap is not really a consideration for us now when we are going through the "dance" of profiles, contact, meet and play date set up with others. Everyone's boundaries must be respected and a soft swap night is still an incredibly awesome night. Other couples are looking for full swap dates only and that's OK as well.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We are new to this. None of us were looking for a relationship so are enjoying being together. I have no desire to have another mans dick in me. My partner is more than happy with me right now. But we like watching and being watched, and some other aspects of sexual play. Going by our searches on here there are other couples who are willing to meet and play but not do the full swap. When we go to clubs we do our own thing and like to have a bit of fun in the dungeon or swing room. Will we eventually do full swap? Honestly have no idea. My man is all I need right now. We are adventurous to the point that other people couldnt make our sex life any better. Before the inevitable barrage of " insecurities and jealousy" start Ill just say one more thing. Its our choice. We talked about this in depth. We love each other and are happy being sexually exclusive. Every couple has their own agenda on here and we are no different. I just feel lucky that Ive met my match albeit very unexpectedly.

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    Don't have anything against it , as I have found myself teamed up with a lady and 1 couple who's preference was exactly that. I found the experience with the lady quite enjoyable.. lots of touching etc ..in fact most things except penetration. The couple were a similar experience and as much as I felt they stuck to their guns , there was a moment where I felt Mrs could have gone a little further , but we all stayed true to the script and all ended well.. No expectation to perform.. In fact relaxing... BTW.. I'm a straight male and my role was strictly to help entertain the lady...

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  • langton11

    langton11

    8 years ago

    We'll be following this with interest

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Swapping one soft dick for another

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  • Andremmo

    Andremmo

    8 years ago

    I would have thought that a Soft Swap required at least two couples and that the point of it was to have (safer) sex with your own partner with another couple in the room providing an exhibitionist & voyeur service. We've done it at parties where there was no-one we were interested in playing with but its not our preferred option for play.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Would enjoy to be involved in "soft swapping" But i would need a partner...lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We started soft swapping because it was a good way to ease into it and find out what we enjoyed. I think that's the case for a good number of people. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Stirry' Thought this was gonna be about swapping the soft toys on my bed around....my bad ;) - Posted from rhpmobile probably better than trying to swap around a soft penis... Tall

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    8 years ago

    It was a Good way to ease into it and see how we felt about it , we never felt pressured by anyone to push it further ,than we wanted, I think most were just happy to play and enjoy what was on offer , ,and that we made clear from the start ,which by the way was all things up to, Mrs b giving a head job or her being penatrated,or me penetrating someone else other than her ,just to keep it fair and on a level playing field ,which allowed us to gain confidence and excitement , then moved on to head jobs,and me sticking it in to another lady ,and of course more discuss ,discuss how did we feel about that and now happily looking for extra peeps we feel comfy and hot with and its all good ,if we just jumped in without the soft swap part ,I don't think it would have allowed us enough time to work out what was ok and what wasn't ,and adjust 17 years of noooo you can't do that ,and in return ended badly for everyone , Ps what we a looking at fun wise now ,is totally different to what we thought we looking for when we started out , those who read our earlier profiles through the updated changes ,would have easily picked it up .lol. Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    8 years ago

    From my personal experience, absolutely not! I have played with soft swap couples, as the extra chick in the mix. Voyeurism and exhibitionists are still in play when there are three.

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  • Andremmo

    Andremmo

    8 years ago

    I can't get my head around the swap part of a 'soft swap' when there are only three participants. I would have classified your extra chick scenario as either 'menage a trois' or 'threesome' or a 'unicorn's day out'. You can absolutely play with a couple who have limits but I just wouldn't call it a swap.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We discussed soft swap before our first official couple experience....(unofficial was spontaneous mff with a gorgeous girl that mrs hit on and then surprised me by sneaking her into hotel room and I returned from balcony to find her being pleasured by hot chick. Was awesome until we found unicorns husband had also snuck in and was standing in dark corner and suffering audible mental anguish at the sight of her orgasming with my cock thrusting and Mrs sitting on her face. That wasn't our cup of tea because of circumstances but lead us to playing with couples) We agreed on our soft boundaries but as soon as things heated up we shared an understanding look at each other and we threw the rule book out the window. He was rimming her from behind and fingering at same time. Too much for her to not indulge so as we both looked at each other she grabbed him and reversed herself into him ......and up until then I had never considered watching someone else's cock penetrating my wife but oh boy !!! What a rush of sexual emotions and excitement. Not felt anything like it since. Funny thing was as she was being fucked by someone else I felt closer to her and loved her more than ever and it was an addictive rush of adoration. Anyone else feel that? Only thing that came remotely close was when we soft played with a friend of ours and finally got to the moment where she could choose which cock she wanted in which way......(took 4 months of foreplay to get as far as a spit roast but he couldn't finish as he told us later he had anxiety over his size and performance compared to me!!) I've never been harder in my life when I heard my wife tell him to get behind her and fill her arse and then guide me beneath her!! Logistics dictated that his 5" got the arse and my 9" got her pussy ...lol Point is soft swap showed us how critical and relevant the entire body was to sexual satisfaction versus foreplay that is used as a precursor to full sex. If you take the penetration out of the equation you can acheive same or better orgasms and it intensifies the pleasures you get from soft touches or kisses etc in ways you never knew you could.... Sorry for the essay! First time posting😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    8 years ago

    Thanks for sharing your experiences, and for your first post! I like what you have to say about soft swap helping you understand the whole body experience, that wasn't something I had thought about in relation to soft swap. Hopefully that has expanded your experiences and is something which continues. 😊

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