Soft vs hard bondage and discipline

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  There is a thread her titled "Bondage, the misunderstood discipline" I've pasted a small section of text posted by MistressT   "Hard versus Soft? My experience is that soft bondage involves minimum pain if any (think hot wax or light spanking), rope play, sensation play, orgasm denial and erotic torture such as using a vibrator to make someone orgasm over and over. It is more for sexual stimulation, is based on sensation and has less mental stimulation. When the play is soft you don't really leave your comfort zone. Hard bondage often involves full restraints such as cuffs chains, mummification and straight jackets. It can, but not always, involve pain either as punishment or for stimulation. I put humiliation in the hard category even though there is not always pain involved because the mental involvement far outweighs the physical. At the harder end of the scale you get things like fisting, caning, blood play, needles, extreme cock and ball torture and electroplay. The submissive is taken well out of his or her comfort zone." look for the thread for more information ;)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  That explains it nicely :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Hi amarella, what are you up to tonight? I'm keen for some kinky fun if you are. I'm athletic build and considered good looking. If your keen I'll flick you my email and I can send some photos

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  P.s. I'm in south Perth

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  twowithnolimits

  12 years ago

  @amarella PM us if you want to discuss this further...P&n

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  blkcapricornday

  12 years ago

  Yeah, pretty much. Soft bdsm is all about flirting with danger. No pain, all in good fun, but no barriers pushed.Hard bdsm is about delving deep into the darkest of fantasies. The dom gets to become a bad motherfucker, master of the experience but responsible for finding balance between how much she wants and how much she can take. The sub plays out the role of the helpless recipient, powerless other than to enjoy the pleasure, pain and anticipation of the ride.Important part though, is that its all consensual, ie - one safe-word and it's all over :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  The dom needs to understand the sub's needs, whether for disciplline or reward. The true dom knows the difference between wants and needs. Few people realise how psychological the relationship really is and just see it as extra kinky play. Soft B+D is more about wants, Hard B+D is more about needs. Quoting 'blkcapricornday' The dom gets to become a bad motherfucker, master of the experience but responsible for finding balance between how much she wants and how much she can take. The sub plays out the role of the helpless recipient, powerless other than to enjoy the pleasure, pain and anticipation of the ride.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  so for me i use examples- soft- fuffy handcuffs that break almost as soon as you buy them hard- cutting a guys balls out of his ballsack   Im somewhere in betwwe but lean more towards the 'hard' type

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  mmmm cutting

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  Playful2looking

  12 years ago

  Ok.. Devious Bassman36 I get the drift about hard B&D. could be fun But Always once cutting ball sacks; oh I Think that is SM.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Takes time and understanding between those involved. I won't try anything to painful or issue punishments, task and the such to someone unless I know them and have had the opportunity to establish some sort of trust between us. Hard bondage for the sub can be, in many cases, a time for them to place themselves into someone else's care, to do exactly as they are told. I have had one partner say that being a sub required more self control than anything else. The temptation not to flinch during a flogging, or the ability to not cum, even under intense circumstances is exceptional, but the satisfaction of completing a directive can be far more rewarding. As a dom, it is you responsibility to ensure you partner is safe. Know their limits, but at the same time, help them explore. You should never set you sub up for failure, rather, encourage them and makes sure that when's directive is achieved that you reward them well. I love watching a sub orgasm after they have accomplished a task or directive. The release and satisfaction they get is tremendous. Any

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