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Some Advice?

April 17 2012

Hey, fairly new to the site, only join a couple weeks ago. Just figured I'd ask for some help on my profile and general approach to the site.Have sent out a few messages and flirts etc, with not a great deal of responses - before you hit the reply button and flame me for complaining - this is not a complaint, I'm just here asking for some advice on what I can do to attract some responses.As for my messages, they are more than 1-line 'YO WANA FUK!1!!1 LOL', and provide a simple intro, and just an attempt to introduce myself and start a conversation...If you check my pics, I not rocking a ripped washboard, which I get might be an issue, but I'm not interested in spending the 4 hours a day maintaining one; however with an average build and regular exercise, I'm not exactly a couch potato either.Does anyone have any pointers on what more I could do? Would love to hear from some of the more experienced out there, who have heard all the complaints etc. As for what I'm looking for, I'm a busy professional, and just don't have time for anything serious and full-on, just looking for some fun, casual sort of experiences for the time being - though open to possibilities should something particularly good pop up... is this unrealistic?I've had a solid amount of experience with women, and as such I think my expectations with relative appearance are not unrealistic, but I could be wrong: any sort of opinions - harsh or otherwise - would be appreciated on this also.Thanks for any feedback and help with my approach to the site!

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    i think your profile is fine   tells me what you want   your pics are funny...are they meant to be??   Hugs

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hi and welcome Unfortunately your forum topic has been done to death. The best advice I can give you is research back thru previous forum threads and take on some of the advice from the wise and regular posters here and also realise that as a bloke you have a lot of competition out there !!! Good luck

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Most regular posters are suffering from profile advice fatigue at the moment,so as slk says look at some older threads,it's pretty much covered. I did look at your pics...sort of cute but not very sexy....depends who you are going for I think....and there is lots of competition here....dont suppose you own a pair of tightie whities do you?.....just askin'

  • wannabyummymummy

    wannabyummymummy

    13 years ago

    Your profile reads fine, though i would put a response to the smoking question "ask me" tends to imply you don't want to say which probably means you are a smoker (which is what non smokers will assume) and that is a no no for some. If you are trying to quit or only smoke socially then maybe select the closest option in the answer and elaborate in the in your own words part. People can be picky (me included) and any "ask me" responses will often mean they move on past you. Other than that it is short and sweet and i really wouldn't change much, you have a clear face pic and a body shot so that covers the important things.As for messages, well it sounds like you are doing the right thing, maybe try to mention something that was in the ladies profile that took your interest to show you actually read it.Sadly the reply rate for messages around here can be quite low, the ladies do tend to get a lot of them (again this is a forum topic that has been done to death so i wont share my views on this again here) so hard as it is (pardon the pun ) you just have to not take it personally and move on to the next one and eventually you will get a response.Keep hanging out in the forums it is great for a laugh at times, often has some good advice and it is a way to see people's personalities and for them to see yours (of course you have to post for that lol)If you want to actually meet people then keep an eye on the events section for meet and greet/drinks nights they can be a lot of fun and a great way to meet a bunch of people at once. Or if you are really game you could try a local swingers club.Either way, best of luck

  • joosedup

    joosedup

    13 years ago

    your profile is on track, I would advise going back and having a look at it - and reviewing it - in a few weeks when you have 1; read a few others2; have talked to s few people3; refined your own thoughts and impressions re-RHPYes you are going to be told about previous threads...and that this conversation has been done to death but ignore all that.... its sometimes forgotten by others that we were all new once and that this is a forum for all - the other thing that could be done is ask where you might find the answer to a question and others with time might guide you to the right place. well I'd like to think so anyway.But... sure go back and have a look - that's if you can find it within a timely manner, or the title reflects the content - or if any of the 10 pages is relevant to you....I would like to say welcome to the forum...there will be lots of helpful advice, and some not so - sort the wheat from the chaff and you will have fun.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...I don't look at single guy profiles but I liked the way you phrased your post so thought, why not give it a quick squiz?Not having much to compare it to (given I don't look at single guy profiles) what I liked was that you had face and body shots and that you were clear about looking for casual encounters.I thought you could improve on the detail in your blurb, especially in terms of the kind of ladies you are looking for...your current sentence is quite broad and reads to me "if you have a vagina and are willing to let me see it, I'm keen". Your OP doesn't read that way at all and is honest and information. There's definitely room for improvement there in your profile.And perhaps choose less comedic pics, something that shows you at your best (ask a gal pal, I'm sure she'd oblige). Oooh, and for me personally, beards have a yuk factor and would have me moving on quicker than I could take my knickers off to Will Smith, but no doubt many ladies like them (don't actually know of any in my demographic, but they must be somewhere).Remove as much ambiguity in your profile as possible. Avoid sending flirts - they send a message that you're too lazy to go to the trouble to write a message that will be meaningful to the lady.That's all I got!! Good luck.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Well, with me posting now, and WantedBabyDaddy posting above, that's at least two women who love the beard! Although, personally, living where I do, I think you have to love to the beard, there's so many around! Anyway, your profile is good, not too wordy but showing enough spark, and you have a smiley face pic. Smiley face pic is important and is what I always advise to anyone who asks.Good luck!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    hey, thanks so much for the responses - theyve been really helpful. I'll get on those suggestions ASAP. As for photo's I photograph really poorly (which is typically code for 'im not particularly attractive'), but honestly, I get all the time - oh you look really different to your photos. Not sure what I can do to fix that - will see what i can do.Either way, your input is much appreciated, and I apologise to those members who have seen this exact post ONE BILLION TIMES before! I kinda figured that would be an issue as I was writing, but I sorta wanted some more specific advice, if I could possibly get it.Thanks again, and best of luck to all of you!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...everyone else is taken. I think you'll find that you'll connect with people similar to who you are...and the rest comes naturally. I've got a very well groomed beard too...probably more high maintenance than shaving and some have even said it tickles in a very good way as it is unusually soft. That said, there are pictures on my private galleries of either...it grows back to the manscaped length in about a week or so anyway. | If you connect...the razor's edge can be exciting foreplay.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    13 years ago

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    wow, i really didnt expect to get this many responses, and helpful ones at that!thanks again!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    My Advise .. Read the book before you watch the Movie

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    But OP , you've done a pretty good job of it all on your lonesome :) nice to see some thoughtful effort put in for a change....good on you!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' .. I've got a very well groomed beard too...probably more high maintenance than shaving and some have even said it tickles in a very good way as it is unusually soft. Love the new profile pic..you have an entirely cute bum; I reckon I could forgive the beard...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'InAdditionTo' Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' .. I've got a very well groomed beard too...probably more high maintenance than shaving and some have even said it tickles in a very good way as it is unusually soft. Love the new profile pic..you have an entirely cute bum; I reckon I could forgive the beard... There one minute gone the next...did I imagine that???

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    13 years ago

    Just keep a grasp on things on here. I do hope you took my "RUN" comment as tongue in cheek. RHP can and is a trap for many people including myself therefore the comment was made in jest to "RUN" from rhp while u have a chance. yeah i got my ass slapped for it big timenow for the payback

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ..that's way easier and a lot safer than letting even a beautiful woman get near my neck with a razor. | Quoting 'InAdditionTo' There one minute gone the next...did I imagine that??? | Just a bit of prestidigitation....which has nothing to do with your toes, although they are kind of cute. | I like your pictures too...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm new 2 this seen there appears 2 be more writers & analytical people in this verry tight group

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    There's an idea, "My profile pictures are really shit so I'm looking for a creative chicky to take some new ones..."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    that's freakin genius!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Naked_and_Inked' There's an idea, "My profile pictures are really shit so I'm looking for a creative chicky to take some new ones..."     yeah... and tell the chicky you'll pay them with sex.