Some rules for Cpl Cpl fun times

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  Hottie1

  10 years ago

  Hi guys welcome. As a couple, we have met other couples at parties rather than one on one (it just wasn't happening for us that way). Our only rule is safe sex always. Hubby and I don't have to play together, same room etc, we start at our own pace. We have had couples stipulate many rules and whilst I understand it and respect it, too many rules limits the play for me. Take a look at a couples profile carefully and look at what their interests etc are, this will give you a guide. Each couple is different in what they want to get out of this experience and what they are prepared to put in as well. Discuss your own boundaries, what are your limitations. I would suggest you attend a swingers party before you swing privately with a couple. At a party you can observe others, see what works for you guys, see the sorts of things people do and how they initiate play. Learn as much as you can about yourselves in this scene and then bring others into your play.m I can say the investment in people is worth it, we have met some incredibly sexy couples 😉😉 Mary xx

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  do what ever you guys feel comfortable with doing, some couples have rules where the women wont play with the other man etc so just make sure you let the other couple know this and your boundaries otherwise it could get awkward doing something mid play you/they dont like.

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  DynamicCouple36

  10 years ago

  It is very important to have a good chat, before playing, so that any rules, likes, dislikes and boundaries can be discussed and established. This is important if one wants things to unfold in a pleasant manner and that all concerned continue to enjoy the experience and be happy with the outcome. We generally dont make the first move, nor do we approach another couple - we are mindful of their space. Instead we sit back and wait for them to approach us and or make the first move. We dislike pushy people and so always ensure that the other couple knows what our boundaries are. Of course these boundaries often shift and change, depending on the couple. No always means NO and if we find that a situation is becoming unpleasant, we have a signal that lets one another know that its time to stop. You are going to encounter some pushy people, mainly the guy of a couple, and you need to not back down. Important to communicate to one another, how you are feeling.

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  QLDtwo4fun

  10 years ago

  When we started out we had lost of rules, now as we have become more secure in ourselves many of the rules have fallen away. But we are still particular about safe sex, and no one takes one for the team.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I played with couples in the past (looking for nice new couple now) and found the best rule for them was a simple one :) respect others respect there wishes but above all respect your own understanding and expectations to you as a loving but open minded couple stick with that and everything else is natural

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  With so many rules and regulations it's a wonder anyone would be in the mood for anything ? I can't imagine more of a mood killer than swapping the do's and don't' before getting into it ? If the rules were the same for everyone and you skip ' the talk '. surely that would be more appealing. ? Before anyone gets their knickers in a knot, no ' I've never stepped foot inside a swingers club so i can only comment after reading what those who have, have to say. Not saying I will never go . Once I meet a woman with the same curiosity , I will.. til then , I can only go on what others have to say...

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  When we started on this journey we had 1 major rule. We don't swap partners for sexual intercourse ,we have never had the urge or desire to have inter course with others. In the last 5 years this hasn't changed realistically it never will for us . - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Pandora_couple

  10 years ago

  We talked openly and honestly about jealousy just as much as fantasy. Initially Mrs P was not confident she could see me with a woman but curious to be with a woman herself. I was the most comfortable of us in regard to coping with jealousy. So her wants and comforts first. MFM. We found a man she was interested in. I was not threatened by and he was experienced with couples/party scene. This was important as it gave us confidence. I also felt less concerned of trying to nudge his way into our relationship. When he first put his hand on her leg while we chatted I almost freaked out. I felt the wave of jealousy hit me. But I reminded myself to be confident in what we had talked about. Confident in her and us. He was very good. Progressively touched her more but watching for both our reactions. I went up and whispered in her ear checking she was okay several times. Eventually I whispered to her are you ready for more. She said yes. She asked me. I said yes. I stood and simply said lets move it to the bedroom. We got into the room. When they kissed it caused me to pause. But I started kissing her too. Soon the hands were going. We were undressing her. She said to him to finger her. I whispered to her to then suck him. The rest of the night was amazing. Absolutely amazing. That first experience went so well. Mrs P squealed and screamed for almost three hours. We talked before. We talked during. Then most important we talked and talked after. That was the most important part. What worked for us. started with just one based on who was most comfortable. used our own home. We were confident and comfortable there. picked someone very experienced and not threaterning to either of us in terms of the relationship. (Be honest if you are not buff and your girl wants a guy who is. Yes in time. But might be confronting.first time) Talk be honest. It is sex not love. Yet strangly that night seeing the pleasure on her face (and bed) I felt a great love for her. We were sharing a great gift in our marriage. - Posted from rhpmobile

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