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Something to keep for yourselves
August 23 2016
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
The special things , that some couples may reserve for themselves could be : 1. Unprotected sex 2. Kissing 3. His orgasm/ejaculation .ie he only comes in her 4. Oral sex Let others add to the list as they feel fit - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
So I suppose depending it's what side of the fence your on whether it's a rule or just saving something for your special person ,if your the extras, it's a rule and if your the couple it's saving something for yourselves to have as super special to have and no one may have , - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Damn this no edit forum,grrrrr And with responses, can I get a yes or no on whether unprotected sex and cumming inside, is considered yes or no ,I say it is as big a special privileges ,as it gets Ps we are chatting ,and sorting things out to be clear for the future ,that's all ,no need for grey areas , mays well donut while we can't do anything else ,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
But don't play together so slightly different in that we don't see each other with other partners. But we only have one rule - protection for intercourse. And that's because for me/us (and it's only a personal opinion) my body is mine and I can do what I like with it and vice versa. Our time together will always be special because of the relationship we have.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We are a long term married couple in a monogamous relationship. As such we don't use condoms when we have sex with one another and MrD naturally ejaculates inside MrsD. Should we play with others, then safe sex is our most important rule. And one aspect of safe sex is condoms to be worn at all times with regards penetrative intercourse. Ejaculate is one of the vectors of STI / STD transmission - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We are a long term married couple in a monogamous relationship. As such we don't use condoms when we have sex with one another and MrD naturally ejaculates inside MrsD. Should we play with others, then safe sex is our most important rule. And one aspect of safe sex is condoms to be worn at all times with regards penetrative intercourse. Ejaculate is one of the vectors of STI / STD transmission - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
with whatever rule you have you have to take into account the others that you are adding to your play. For me no kissing would mean I wouldn't play with someone - for others it may be whatever other rule you choose to have. I'm not saying don't have rules but just consider the other person's pleasure too. A friend of mine is in an open relationship and they have the rule that he is not allowed to penetrate other women and the wife ahd him only play together. I personally, think that's way too much taken off the table and for that reason would never play with them but you have to do what's right for you guys. Most of the rules i encounter having played with people who are in open r'ships are no sleep overs, sometimes no cuddles, must use protection and sometimes there are limits around how often they can see you - I've also encountered the rule of no anal much luck with whatever you decide
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Ok obviously my English language to texting is total crap ,lol ,judging by the comments let's try again , What is something special and reserved just for us ,that won't take away from others ,ourselves or the enjoyment of the moment ,that we can have or do for ourselves ,and no one else ,we agree with the comments above about rules ,that wasn't the point of the question ,sheesh ,lol Or maybe someone gets what I mean and can translate it better without offering a suggestion Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I think that the connection I share with my partner is something that I wouldn't ever share with someone else, no matter how good a friend or lover they may be. In my interactions with others apart from him, nothing's off the table ... As long as I'm comfortable with it, he's happy for me to indulge, explore and play however I want. I feel the same about him and whoever else he sees. For me personally, if I felt like I needed to have rules in place about what we could/ couldn't share with other lovers, we'd have bigger problems than just who kissed who/inserted what where. It's not a specific sexual act that makes our relationship special and sacred - it's the connection of our souls. Having said that, I've been in a relationship before where certain things were kept just for the primary relationship. It worked, somewhat. You need to figure out what's comfortable for you. My suggestion, though, is that if there are intimate acts that you or your partner aren't comfortable with sharing with others, it's worth thinking about why that is, and dealing with that before moving on.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
In short , in Mrs Bs wording tonight ,she is wanting 1 thing that remains sacrosanct to our marriage ,and that's the thing I'm looking for , not a big deal just thought forumites might have suggestions ,or been there done that ,so we could chew it over - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's exactly how we see things. You put it much more eloquently than I did 😘
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SexyDeviants
8 years ago
Anal (Mr D giving, Ms D receiving) Unprotected sex(obvious) That's about it, everything else is ok if all are consenting
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RHP User
8 years ago
For us it's just no kissing as I see that as something for hubby and I
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Are you looking for that special thing, that you, and only you (as a couple) can do together (and share with no one else) when you are being intimate & close? And you don't know what it is? One of our special things, is to snuggle and "spoon", legs intertwined, all night long. This is how we have been going to sleep at night , with one another, for almost 20 years now. It's a bond and closeness that only we share with one another and no one else. Everyone will have a different , special thing that they reserve for one another. What might work for them, and be very special for them, might not be special for you. It is a very intimate moment . Some couple may reserve kissing just for one another (within the swinging scene). There is absolutely nothing wrong with this and it is important that people are allowed to have their preferences in this regard. It does not mean they will not enjoy the encounter / swinging session at all, nor that they are users or emotionally juvenile, as some of the more selfish hard-core, all or nothing pushy male swingers believe. If one is going to share ones body, sexually, with others in a swinger context, one has absolutely every right to reserve something special for one selves, even if it takes the form of a rule of sorts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
looks like it's what I thought,unprotected sex is it ,was hoping for 1 other thing just as obvious that was smacking me in the face ,but nope ,doesn't appear so ,lol Thanks , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
That's perfect d c ,exactly the sort of answer ,I was looking for, THANKYOU - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
You are married, you love each other. That is what is one thing that you keep for yourselves. Along with the important realisation that you make love to and with each other, but not with others. Oh okay, you probably have some crazy monkey sex as well thrown in there as well....but you get the point I hope. What is sacrosanct is your love for each other. Having a play with others is just about a physical act (hopefully with a bit of mental connection thrown in!), taking physical and sense pleasure with others (note I deliberately did not use the word sensual). Having one thing which you do not do with others is not ever going to change the fact you arrive together, you leave together, you go home together, and unpack and relive the experience together. Thats sacrosanct.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Thankyou, ms jonesy ,those are helpful words indeed ,and also exactly what I was searching for ,I know what's in my head and how we feel about each other with what's only ever going to remain ours ,but failed terribly at putting into words ,,I'm So much better at being a smartassed clown ,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Exactly !! You have hit the proverbial "nail" on the head. Well written - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Is to only orgasm with Mrs D. He likes to be physically and mentally connected to her when he ejaculates, and to be able to kiss her and look deeply into her eyes when he does so. This is something he specially reserves for both of us. It's our connection. For this reason, he has never orgasmed with another , in a swinging context (MFMF, FMF ). Our 20 year connection to one another transcends the physical. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Seems like I should have started a thread ,what's your one special thing reserved for your partner only ,to avoid confusion ,DOH!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...that one extra-special sensational kiss that you can share together. You know the one... your toes curl, you start mumbling incoherently, your brain goes numb and all you can think of are those three words... ''I love you''.
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RHP User
8 years ago
And I have two wonderful men in my life! I'd like to give them 'all of me' just because that's how I actually am as a person, you get the best me possible, every time! My relationships are at different stages and there are things that are unique to each of them! This has happened naturally as the relationships have evolved (and continue to). Yes there are some boundaries ATM but that's so we can navigate through this new phase of our lives! Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
...yet being a bit of a literary myself this won't confuse you. "Oh! What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive" refers to how complicated life becomes when people start moving outside of the circle of more simple truths. It originally referred to a love triangle in the play “Marmion” by Sir Walter Scott. That said times were simple then and I personally believe we can not only love one but several. Best....... MC
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RHP User
8 years ago
This a is a weird question. You don't know what you would like to keep to yourselves? 😳 Usually there are things that you don't feel right doing with someone else or you only really want to do with your partner. If you don't actually feel this way - than why have a "boundary"?? Intimacy and being in love is what you have together although some others on this thread have mentioned that they like to have this with other lovers too, but for me. I want to go home every night to my boyfriends bed so we sleep together. I think that's nice.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are in love with two men? :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am just being nosy. Lol
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donnamick
8 years ago
Surely the one thing that will always be yours as a couple will be intimacy. Its not the act or various things you do or don't do, it is the connection you have with each other that you alone as a couple share.Our only rule is condoms for penetration.Too many rules, makes for play situations that don't flow and feel like a clinical exercise rather than an enjoyable event. That's our take on it.I know you guys are new to this and in general, what you do or don't do now will change over time. Too many rules can make it so you miss out on a very unique experience. This lifestyle is all about trust and communication. You are already communicating which is the most important thing.So, your connection is the one thing that is yours alone.Mr Mick
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RHP User
8 years ago
I love words ;) and the sheer poetry of Sir Walter's works :) Thankyou for your well wishes. Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
With an ex after I orgasmed he Would cup his hand over my breast covering my nipple before cuddling in That was our special thing and to this day I've not ever done that with anyone else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
No unprotected intercourse and female half does not kiss men. (nor does hubby lol) She find kissing intimate and has no desire to be intimate with men, they are purely for sex.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
I said I would not kiss men ,got the crosses arms, no deal ,lol, - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Not Looking for a rule, didn't know what it was in words but do in the heart and found something, thanks to a couple of answers here ,now if we could find the time and planets could line up button that would be nice also - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are being nosey, lol! Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
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RHP User
8 years ago
From the urban dictionary.... Cuddling is simply touching and caressing without any contact whatsoever with either partner's sexual organs. Women actually prefer cuddling to sex. Smart men love cuddling because it is single best route to sexual intercourse and to the elusive FEMALE ORGASM. Such men are treasured.
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codsworth
8 years ago
Don't forget pet names The extra can use the standards Babe, honey, darling, stud, champ, bro, etc But there is that one name you have with each other, it's for you and you alone Many people have a thing with this It's the history and emotional connection behind the name The extras are not aloud to use it It's such a tiny little thing But it's just one of the many things that you keep for just the two of you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Everything is on the table with us with the right person/people and over time. We don't have random one off encounters with people though... I wonder if building a relationship with play friends makes it easier for us to trust them and do whatever we fantasise about? The bond my husband and I have would be no stronger nor weaker if we had rules or restrictions. Mrs J xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That pic is making me tingle... Very sexy there gorgeous. Mary xx
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
@ summer ,and I tried so hard to word it correctly ,for that to not happen ,oh well, you are talking to the man who caught his nut sack, in a brand new Epilator , OWCHHHHH ,lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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itsjustsex13
8 years ago
We tried to keep kissing out but it's so hard when it's such an exciting and nessesery thing for some . Anal on the other hand is a lot easier one to keep and its something we keep just for us - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Extra WINNERS - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
your welcome glad its helped someone else other than just us ,some great answers in there ,
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
yep ,agree with you on anal ,you have to build trust and that isn't going to happen in a heartbeat with a random ,not like kissing where no ones going to get physically hurt from rushing in ,we talked about that ,and came up with levels of where it could go and anal was defiantly on a higher level ,
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
i will admit my typing skills are awful ,and even worse on an iPhone ,but honestly, its this stupid forum platform ,where you cant go in and edit ,after itchy fingers hit send cos your hot and sweaty and your brain doesn't keep up with your fingers ,lol, wow, cant wait for the shit kart to roll in ,when i ask ,what do some women do for sexy fun ,when they have the curse and have to leave the knickers on ,lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
It did used to be firsts. We were involved in each other's first time for ......(insert new sexual thing)...... Sometimes things happen though, that's hard to control. Hubbies first and last night off are ours for the family. That's been challenged a lot and was adhered to. I like that. I can offer some more that we don't do but I think are valid: •Keeping your marital bed sacred. •Only seeing people together, keeping 1:1 for you two. •only sleeping next to each other. -longest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I really need to invest in instant posting. This is ridiculous. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you xx Longest....we live in hope ;)
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madotara69
8 years ago
Quoting 'boobs_or_bust' @ summer ,and I tried so hard to word it correctly ,for that to not happen ,oh well, you are talking to the man who caught his nut sack, in a brand new Epilator , OWCHHHHH ,lmao - Posted from rhpmobile I went straight in with Tara's Epilator, the tweezers grabbed hold and drove the machine deeper into the forest until it stalled with the drum full and wound tight, a truly terrifying moment. After that, it was more quick jabs in around the edges, the most painful painless thing ever, whoever designed the thing, the devil would fear for his job, pretty little package, ergonomic masterpiece, psychosexual development in psychoanalytic theory, phallic painless hair removal device specifically marketed to women and sold, selling millions of them in the name of pleasure. Save getting beat up every time he came out from hiding under his bed, trying that poop in the mens sections as painless hair removal, the cunny funt put them in Bunnings as hedge trimmers and garden ploughs with a free pair of gloves and a picture of a blond bombshell with big tits and the camel toe look centre photo, with her hedge trimmed, that fucks us blokes up, so millions of them hanging in every shed.
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Lmao at mado ,yup that bastard of a thing almost refused to let go of my sack ,evil fucker just hung on like a pit bull ,saying you want a hairless area ,your gunna pay for it ,with blood ,I forgot trim first ,then go in with the evil monster ,damn fair coloured hairs and grey ones or id be up for laser in a heartbeat - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'boobs_or_bust' yep ,agree with you on anal ,you have to build trust and that isn't going to happen in a heartbeat with a random ,not like kissing where no ones going to get physically hurt from rushing in ,we talked about that ,and came up with levels of where it could go and anal was defiantly on a higher level , Well that comment you agreed with disappeared due to unforseen moderation, so maybe RHP would like us to keep our opinions to ourselves.
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