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Speed Dating
March 13 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
A couple of my "coffee" dates could be considered speed dating, since they only lasted 60 seconds before I wanted to run away ! As for the question, no I haven't, maybe if they were held in a dark room I could impress with my wit and really goodly use of the English language but with the lights on, hell I am screwed lol Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I have been. Some friends dragged me along a few years ago to 4 or 5 speed dating events. All the men in my age group (40's) asked questions like do I like to cook, am I looking to settle down. They were looking for wife no 2 to look after them. I was just looking for fun, so didn't really work out. Then I went to cougar speed dating! LMAO. Pretty young men who still live at home who want women like their Mum who cook and clean for them. A traditional woman. To Indian men who could not keep their eyes off my tits. Didn't go back for round two. Hehe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I have been. Some friends dragged me along a few years ago to 4 or 5 speed dating events. All the men in my age group (40's) asked questions like do I like to cook, am I looking to settle down. They were looking for wife no 2 to look after them. I was just looking for fun, so didn't really work out. Then I went to cougar speed dating! LMAO. Pretty young men who still live at home who want women like their Mum who cook and clean for them. A traditional woman. To Indian men who could not keep their eyes off my tits. Didn't go back for round two. Hehe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
if you get the drift, if you don't well you don't
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka yeah nice to hear ladies perspective... keen to give it a go in Sydney without a agenda.... just a chat say hi introduce myself...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not just the Indians that have that problem. I've gone once, had some fun. If I was looking for a girlfriend I'd go again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am sure... that was just my experience this one particular time, that's all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Although my eyes spent alot of time looking below your chin, thank god we were both sitting down otherwise my neck would never recover, I challenge most men not to talk to your breasts. xxxx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I have a friend who is rather shy in most social circumstances, and he asked and paid for me to go along twice. Aftewr that, the event organiser called me to go for free three times. (long story). They CAN be fun, depending on the crowd, but, being aware of a few things in advance will make the experience much better for you: - (and perhaps Im giving away some insider info here... but... for the betterment of mankind...) * dont go on a friday night. Anyone of any merit will be out with a group of friends on a friday night, not speed dating. * Suit up. Yes, you... that guy in the jeans and t shirt. When you turn up, you'll look much better than the other guys in the jeans and t shirt. And shave. And smell good....... women DO notice. * Realise that women rarely go to such things alone. They take a friend... so be mindful of what you say to one woman, as her friend will find out, and probably observe you with her. * You have a 5 minute window.... and trust me when I say she really doesnt care where you work, what you drive, where you holiday, how expensive your shoes are..... she only cares that you're engaging, fun, and the banter flows freely without awkwardness. So keep it light, friendly, and just a little bit cheeky. * Make the effort to learn where she lives. Theres nothing worse that matching with a woman and finding out she lives in Penrith, and you live in Bondi. * some people are socially awkward. It happens. You may be sitting there, wishing that bell to ring early. Refer back to point #3. The friends. * dont ask someone if they've been to these things before. It just creates an awkward vibe, and gives you nowhere to go. Be prepared for the same question to you. These two... are what Id consider the biggest points to note... and this rings true in speed dating, or at a bar/street/shop. **** Realise also, that most people.... ask the same questions in that brief encounter. So DONT be most people. Be awesome instead. ALWAYS. & **** Dont ask question after question..... she will feel like she is being interviewed. Instead.... observe something about her, or the event and "suggest".... IE....."you look like youre a corporate girl" She will fill the void with what she does for work, then, you can expand on the answer..... she looks like (she comes from corporate.... or... she enjoyes an active lifestyle.... etc) Also...* dont be in a rush to leave... you have time to mingle before and after the event... so if you liked a girl.. TALK to her. You could lead her out on a mini date right after the event, if you stir attraction with a big spoon. Theres much more I could say, but that'll do. On with the fun! D.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I couldn't think of anything worse than attending a speed dating event, but if I ever did, your advice is brilliant. Thanks :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Although my eyes spent alot of time looking below your chin, thank god we were both sitting down otherwise my neck would never recover, I challenge most men not to talk to your breasts. xxxx I saw that!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Strallberrie' Meeka yeah nice to hear ladies perspective... keen to give it a go in Sydney without a agenda.... just a chat say hi introduce myself... Huh? Speed dating is for people looking for a partner usually..... there is always an agenda Amigo.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' * Realise that women rarely go to such things alone. They take a friend... so be mindful of what you say to one woman, as her friend will find out, and probably observe you with her. That also applies to RHP.... be nice boys because we usually hear about it when you are not!
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RHP User
11 years ago
great tips,,, will give it a go.. more the merrier
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'I have a friend who is rather shy in most social circumstances, and he asked and paid for me to go along twice. Aftewr that, the event organiser called me to go for free three times. (long story). They CAN be fun, depending on the crowd, but, being aware of a few things in advance will make the experience much better for you: - (and perhaps Im giving away some insider info here... but... for the betterment of mankind...) * dont go on a friday night. Anyone of any merit will be out with a group of friends on a friday night, not speed dating. * Suit up. Yes, you... that guy in the jeans and t shirt. When you turn up, you'll look much better than the other guys in the jeans and t shirt. And shave. And smell good....... women DO notice. * Realise that women rarely go to such things alone. They take a friend... so be mindful of what you say to one woman, as her friend will find out, and probably observe you with her. * You have a 5 minute window.... and trust me when I say she really doesnt care where you work, what you drive, where you holiday, how expensive your shoes are..... she only cares that you're engaging, fun, and the banter flows freely without awkwardness. So keep it light, friendly, and just a little bit cheeky. * Make the effort to learn where she lives. Theres nothing worse that matching with a woman and finding out she lives in Penrith, and you live in Bondi. * some people are socially awkward. It happens. You may be sitting there, wishing that bell to ring early. Refer back to point #3. The friends. * dont ask someone if they've been to these things before. It just creates an awkward vibe, and gives you nowhere to go. Be prepared for the same question to you. These two... are what Id consider the biggest points to note... and this rings true in speed dating, or at a bar/street/shop. **** Realise also, that most people.... ask the same questions in that brief encounter. So DONT be most people. Be awesome instead. ALWAYS. & **** Dont ask question after question..... she will feel like she is being interviewed. Instead.... observe something about her, or the event and "suggest".... IE....."you look like youre a corporate girl" She will fill the void with what she does for work, then, you can expand on the answer..... she looks like (she comes from corporate.... or... she enjoyes an active lifestyle.... etc) Also... * dont be in a rush to leave... you have time to mingle before and after the event... so if you liked a girl.. TALK to her. You could lead her out on a mini date right after the event, if you stir attraction with a big spoon. Theres much more I could say, but that'll do. On with the fun! D. I wanna see you fingering Scooby in your next pic. Challenge on when hot pics come out. :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tried it about 2 years back with a girlfriend it was fun , but not that successful I might do it again
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RHP User
11 years ago
That Mischevious Lad is actually single...there must be one hell of a in the flesh flaw with that guy! Anyway, back on topic Relax, breathe and don't try to impress, women see through it. And definately don't ask the standard questions, you never make an impression when you're just the same as everyone else. Talk to a woman as though you've already met, that way conversation takes place and it's not an inquisition. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Im flattered. & @ miss Bliss..... you really shuldnt think about animals like that LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Im flattered. & @ miss Bliss..... you really shuldnt think about animals like that LOL Whatever do you mean :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've tried a few speed dating events, some have a mixer phase built in beforehand and they are much better, and after the event drinks amongst the group aren't uncommon either. Best advice I can offer is have some good open questions in mind for any where you feel some mutual chemistry ( like what would you like to do on our next date) and take notes in between the speed dates to ensure you remember everything when you call, it may sound a bit uncool, but there's so much to take in and it all moves very quickly so notes can save you. Also, call within a day or two of getting contact details.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When you go to speed dating events, what are you hoping to get out of the experience?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only thing I would know about a man after only five minutes would be if he totally turned me off or gave me the creeps. I usually take all night before I know whether I want to see a guy again/have sex with him. I agree with some things you say, DG, but you say she won't be interested in your job, then suggest you ask her about hers? I'd avoid the topic on purpose and ask what they do for fun when not working. Actually, I would probably ask questions that were a bit more original. Like which super power they would choose or their favourite South Park episode. I the guy responded with "What?", I'd know immediately we wouldn't work out in the long run. Be specific! Who would you remember, the woman who asked you what your hobbies are, or the one that wanted to know which type of M&M's you prefer and why? And suits are not my thing. Jeans are. Horses for courses.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' The only thing I would know about a man after only five minutes would be if he totally turned me off or gave me the creeps. I usually take all night before I know whether I want to see a guy again/have sex with him. I agree with some things you say, DG, but you say she won't be interested in your job, then suggest you ask her about hers? I'd avoid the topic on purpose and ask what they do for fun when not working. Actually, I would probably ask questions that were a bit more original. Like which super power they would choose or their favourite South Park episode. I the guy responded with "What?", I'd know immediately we wouldn't work out in the long run. Be specific! Who would you remember, the woman who asked you what your hobbies are, or the one that wanted to know which type of M&M's you prefer and why? And suits are not my thing. Jeans are. Horses for courses. I'd be rubbish in a speed dating situation Meander, but if I could channel you I think I might just give it a go :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I usually take all night before I know whether I want to see a guy again/have sex with him. Yes but speed dating is just to meet a number of men or women face to face all in one place. The purpose is that you chat for minutes and then you asses whether you are interested in meeting up later for a first date. You don't go from a 5 minute conversation straight to bonking. I think most people going to speed dating are looking for relationships or to date people in the more traditional sense. They don't go looking for sex per se.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just chatting to a friend about this last night, what if I went to that harmonious dating company and filled out their forms about my likes, dislikes, etc. I wonder if they would tell me that I wasn't right for them? lol. Yes I am preferably looking for a bi-sexual man who wants to go swinging with me, and he must be a little kinky at least. I suppose I could say that at a speed dating event as well. So............ do you like sucking cock as much as I do?
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RHP User
11 years ago
You get to meet people you wouldn't ordinarily meet and also speak to people that you probably wouldn't speak too if you saw them out and about. I suppose we all have preconceived ideas about what a person is like from their appearance but that can be blown out of the water when you actually speak to them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I found the benefits of speed dating include seeing the person in person, communicating in person, experiencing their body language, smile, facial expressions, their tone of voice, their laughter, how they handle stress and anxiety. All the things you aim to find out at a meeting following copious back and forth messages via most online dating sites. But like Online dating it is hit and miss, and one must persist. With questions, I agree stay away from work, it tends to imply "we've run out of things to talk about" but can be brought up in an indirect manner if it is important to you to know. I like Meander's line of questioning, a good one is "If someone was to make a movie of your life, who would you suggest to play you? and why?"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' The purpose is that you chat for minutes and then you asses whether you are interested in meeting up later for a first date. You don't go from a 5 minute conversation straight to bonking. Duh! What I meant was that a speed date would be totally wasted on me. The only thing I would know after five minutes was if they were a psychopath or not. (I'm pretty good with that.) I'd rather just go on a "proper" first date.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But Mea....... why waste time on going on lots of proper first dates when you get to meet everyone at once for a short time, and get to assess who you go on a first date with. It's just a different way of choosing blokes.. on RHP it is via exchanging emails except you don't have the benefit of looking them in the face.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fess up! If there was a bi-sexual male speed dating event, you would so go!
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