Spicing it up help please

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  EarthQueen

  4 years ago

  I'm not sure getting around it is the right approach. Have you had a straight up honest from the heart conversation with her about how the way your sex life has changed has made you feel? I know many of my long term married friends have this problem and its seems like its the continual elephant in the room. They do anything to avoid the intimacy and vulnerability of having this conversation with their partner. It seems like the longer it's avoided the harder it is to broach. Seeking counselling may be a good idea if this feels too hard to do by yourself. If you have a good relationship in every other way opening up about what you feel without any reference to her and what she does and doesn't do might be a good start. If you do it, have a really good think about how the sex makes you feel when you feel very connected to her and try to put that into words. When a woman libido drops they often feel bad about it too and don't know how to fix it. When this is broached it can make them feel threatened because probably in their hearts they wish it was different as well, but they don't know how to make it better. Good luck.

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  Anthony As Earth Queen said it’s often just as difficult for the woman as it is for you guys . Seeing a Counsellor is often a good way to move forward from the stagnant place you seem to be in . Someone that specialises in this area can give you both the right tools to move forward. As has been discussed in previous forums there can be a multitude of reasons for your wife’s lack of interest . Ranging from menopause , self image issues , real life issues -as in stress about family , health,work etc . All are real and need to be navigated with patience , understanding and honesty . Nothing can be gained from finger pointing as to who is at fault from being in this position. Wishing you good luck moving forward and reigniting the flame that you once had . A x

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  Kokoflamingo

  4 years ago

  Perhaps she has found out you are advertising yourself online. This isnt the place to try and smooth issues out with your partner.

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  FeistyFatty

  4 years ago

  Very easily. If it were a priority for her in her life right now, she would be all over you like a rash (a good one). She's either just not that into it/you/the scenarios you present at the moment. Many things factor into one's libido and it's not just attraction. Best of luck to you both.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Unless you can find someone her can perform a personality transplants its not looking good for yah.

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