Spirituality and Sex

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  Rising_Phoenix

  2 years ago

  To me spirituality is a big part of the difference between having sex and making love, sometimes I want to make love and sometimes I want to have sex but it’s really hard to find someone who’s capable of both. Someone who isn’t frightened off by the words “love making” but also understands my desire to remain independent and is capable of performing in a more primal manner when desired. Trust and understanding are required to develop such relationships though and online dating is not the place for that I feel, you’ll cause yourself more frustration than it’s worth trying to vet thousands of strangers. I come here in search of good sex and when I find someone along the way who’s also good at lovemaking and is available for ongoing adventures that’s just a bonus, I never expect it.

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  nightingale8

  2 years ago

  Along the same line as Phoenix, I haven’t seen many looking for that here and doubt you’ll have luck (who knows, worth a shot). Even if they are looking for that, declaring that side would likely have a repellant effect. Maybe I just speak for myself. Spirituality in my life is and has been an individual process of growth from when I first learned about Buddhist philosophy at 18. It was new to me then and only now have I begun to understand the breadth of it in practise, feeling and seeing interconnectedness and flow of everything. And how lovely you have put that - a foundation of love toward yourself and that which arises. I tend to actively avoid potential partners whose identity rests on being “spiritual” as I’ve found those to be the most neurotic and least balanced 🤣 (not implying that’s you lol). The other side is that I don’t need someone else to embrace spirituality to connect with them and am far more driven by base attraction and chemistry. I’m still finding my ‘balance’ with that side of me - when turned on I often have no filter and am actually a bit of an arsehole. Not perfect, need to reign that in.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 years ago

  IMO Spiritualities comes in many forms and can change. The trick is finding those with common interests to have meaningful relations. It can be short term or long term. Deep spiritual experiences are a beautiful thing. The more time you spend with a person, the more feelings grow and so does the soul. It doesn't have to be in prayer form, going to church, etc . By golly I've said a few hail Mary's in my time and cursed "Jesus Christ" during sex. You'll find what you are looking for OP. Just be yourself and treat others how you want to be treated. The rest will follow. Ms Foxy

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  Obi1kenietzsche

  2 years ago

  A really great topic.👍 Personally I have always found it hard to reconcile “spirituality” with “desire”, as (to me at least) they seem the enmity of each other. Growing up in Mullumbimby NSW, I have always views “spirituality” as being more of an internal and therefore more private state of mind. To me, it seemed a more inwardly-directed energetic connection. One that involves ones own highly personal anchoring, truths and grounding experiences. Perhaps I just never had enough drugs, nor the time to sit still enough to entertain spirituality, but I was always more attracted to the outward and earthy measurable energetics of desire instead. How could the transcendent calmness and ethereal truths of spirituality sit amicably alongside notions such as lust, imagination, novelty, danger, surprise, naughtiness and adventure? For me (and I’m really sorry Deepak), it just could not. Xx Obi1

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  Parzival

  2 years ago

  I see a few people saying that it's hard to integrate sexuality and spirituality. I wonder if that's because, despite anyone's personal beleifs, the dominant culture we live in, sadly, is one rooted in sexual shame. In Abrahamic religions (though not uniquely) purity and chastity bring you closer to God, while lust is a sin. I would say this is the Australian cultural backdrop, regardless of your own beleifs. My perception is that most people find it hard to unite the sexual and the spiritual because of so much cultural conditioning. Every movie, every song etc reinforces ideas of sex being unpure. Getting down and dirty, being naughty, being nasty etc. These ideas don't integrate easily with spirituality. I'm definitely not saying that they can't or shouldn't... I don't feel that the dominant cultural attitudes towards sex are healthy at all. Personally, I'm fascinated by this concept of sexuality within spirituality Some pointed out that there can be two sides to sex and that RHP is more concerned with the earthly pleasure and lust side of it. I think it's not that the people here wouldn't be into that, but that people here aren't in a conducive headspace for building a foundation in which the sexual and spiritual can harmonise and flourish. At least not while on here, the site isn't really pitched like that. Another thing is that the way you meet someone (first impressions) strongly sway the direction of a relationship. If you meet someone here, that first impression may not make the most fertile ground for a sexually spiritual connection - or on the other hand, you write a post like this, write an appropriate bio and that's your first impression 🤷‍♂️ I'd love to hear how you go though OP!

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  Ex007

  2 years ago

  Spirituality usually entails copious amounts of navel gazing. Like a child has lost a smarty in their belly button. Sex on the other hand usually involves something way more stimulating.

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  santabanta554

  2 years ago

  Thank you for all these wonderful, insightful replies. It is great to hear how these terms and topic land differently with different people and different experiences. I guess I created (somewhat intentionally) a false dichotomy between 'spiritual' and 'sex'. 'Spirituality' in particular is a term that carries a ton of baggage and actually means very little. When the dichotomy is created, it is helpful to read that most here to enjoy the lustful/having sex part of the balance, and as RP mentioned, the other part is a bonus not to be expected. I like how NG also mentioned that sometimes the 'spiritual' identity masquerades as neurotic imbalance - I've often heard it called spiritual bypassing of actual personal challenges. Personally, my exploration here is with the motivation that there isn't really a dichotomy between what I have termed 'spiritual' and what I have termed 'lustful'. Or rather, I want to challenge this dichotomy within myself. I have built a foundation of connection within myself and I have found a powerful, potent, lustful side that I want to express and enjoy. This is both 'spiritual' and it is very much 'sexual'. Keen to see how this exploration turns out, stay tuned!

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  madotara69

  2 years ago

  I believe in eyes the window into soul and spirit, if lost in each other off in some other world for some hours the it’s been a spiritual experience shared with no control not a care in some place time stands still intense heightened sexual state intense sexual pleasure and exhausting the full book as good it gets and meant to be mysterious and outside all normal to be nothing alike never the same twice, can’t be told can only be shown, can’t be trying to be someone else, only one’s true self is where spiritual moments find each other. Believing in each other maybe the start Then a song Tara often sings out the chorus, ‘fuck me up the arse because I love Jesus’ apparently for the spiritual mandatory with remaining an virgin till married, technically is by being fucked in the arse a place god won’t or doesn’t look technically a loophole open to interpretation exploited and frowned upon by frowned and welcomed with joy by joyous virgins in the good book technically pure or true or for the love in Jesus anyhow. lol Mado Mado,Tara xx The song can be found by searching the catchy chorus anyhow…. Mado Mado Tara xx

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  Hawt1

  2 years ago

  Isn't this called the little death? Experienced something I'd describe like that with son no.2's mum. Died in your arms tonight... Only time I felt that.. was beautiful, being remade as my heart and soul touched is the only way I can describe it.

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